how to deal with nanny at home 28

Irrational Number

That's not a big issue.

I don't think that's any of your business. I'm nearsighted, and I don't wear glbuttes most of the time, either. I pbutted my eye exam for my drivers license without them, I don't need to wear them unless I'm somewhere unfamiliar where I have to read the street signs.

You can't change who she is, and I think this is an issue of who she is - as in, how much effort she's willing to put into her job.

However, it really only makes a difference if you're seeing your child so little that you won't notice when he hits (or misses) big developmental milestones. You may see her job as "teach and nurture my child," while she may see her job as, "keep the kid from killing or hurting himself until his parents get back, then they can teach and nurture him." If that's the case, then you either need to step up and teach and nurture your own child, or you need to find someone else who will do it for you. I don't think you're going to change this woman into Supernanny by unpleasant womaning at her, giving her books to read, or having expectations that she's unable-unwilling to meet.

Is she a nanny or a cleaning lady?

How many hours per week is this woman with him - is he getting NO practice with such things when you are home? I would think that being fed at lunch (with her) wouldn't matter, as long as he was feeding himself at breakfast and dinner with you.

Oh, I don't know. Pressing a button is just pointing with something in the way. Maybe she thought that if he had something to point at (the button) then he'd learn to point from there. Or maybe you're taking the whole milestone thing way too seriously.

buttuming makes an butt of "u" and "me." Cut the end of the blinds so that he can't choke himself. Or shorten the strings. If she changed after you talked about it, then let it go.

Now, this is a hygiene issue and something I'd address immediately, especially if it's obvious that it's old. Isn't he on some sort of schedule, where you can sort of predict when he'll go, or how long after a meal it will be? Most kids are by this age, aren't they?

These things are, imo, more important than your complaints.

The diaper thing is the only thing I'd worry about.

To be honest, though, I don't get the whole nanny thing, and I can't imagine letting anyone else have that much control over-influence over my kid. It would make me nuts. I don't want to go all Dr. Laura on you, but maybe the answer here is "raise your own kid." Maybe the things that are bothering you are bothering you because you know that YOU should be doing them. Of course you'd do it better - you're the MOM. It doesn't make any difference how much experience she has - she isn't vested in him the way you are, and never could be.

Amy