how to deal with nanny at home 22

Leslie

Are these big issues?

(1) She does not squeeze the sponge dry when she's done washing, so it's a disgusting, wet, soppy mess. (2) She has slight nearsightedness, but she won't wear glbuttes. (3) She hates to read, so she won't do research on anything. Pillbug is getting therapy for developmental delays and whenever I tell her anything, it's stuff I think she should already know, but she doesn't. Like, I tell her the median age for walking is 13-14 months old and she says "I have no idea". So, I ask, out of all the kids she's taken care of, including her own, she must have SOME idea what they did at, oh, age 1 or age 2. I'm not saying she needs to know at 7.5 months what the milestones are, but ballpark, right? Nope, she says "I don't remember any of that and I hate to read, so I never read". Am I asking too much that she know something about child development? I think she considers herself a babysitter instead of a nanny, which I think of as more of an educator... (4) Along the same lines as above, she won't let him feed himself because it's messy. He's 22 months and his pincer grasp is still very elementary. Also, she thought at the last therapy session that Pillbug needed to be taught how to press a button, when the real problem is he does not know how to point. So, she misses big things like this. (5) You'd think a nanny would be up on child safety. Every time I pulled the shade, I'd hang the strings onto a nail on the side so Pillbug could not reach it. She would pull the string down because it's neater that way. I've since told her it's for safety and she does do it right now, but I just buttumed she would realize it's for child safety. (6) She has no sense of smell. This isn't something I'd have thought of asking in an interview, but she cannot smell a poopy diaper. She adjusts for that by checking a lot, but many times I've come home from work to smell an old, poopy diaper on Pillbug.

In her defense, though, I have to say that I hired her because she speaks Chinese, so it's not her fault her English is not good enough to understand the therapist. She's basically very neat and always punctual, does not watch TV or talk on the phone, very attentive.

I'm willing to accept that I need to change my behaviour. I just need to know that what she does that I don't like isn't a big deal...

Thanks all, Anita