Catty lake chatting" remembering but getting safe to children disowned and medication and
any young mums 4955Jamie Clark Hmmm, for me that would have to have been phrased along the lines of "why didn't you get married once you decided to have the baby?" Or, if you buttume that...
You know, I pretty strongly disagree with agsf with many of his beliefs with regard to men and women, and I generally think he needs no one to stand up for him, but as I've read this thread, I felt like I really had to say SOMETHING.
You have accused him of things that he never claimed. For whatever reason, you've ignored one crucial word in his statements: IF.
He said (and I paraphrase) "IF I lived in a culture that considered 12-year-olds ready for marriage and motherhood, then I probably would consider ok."
any young mums 4958Cathy Weeks you an No kidding, Cathy. I was pretty unimpressed, and I'm not even the one who's being asked. they raise to Dh's aunt got pregnant at age 17, in high school, and...
He never suggested that he thought it was desirable that 12 year olds get pregnant, nor did he suggest that he was interested in 12-year-olds himself, nor did he suggest that he'd be ok with it if he had a daughter, and she got pregnant at 12. You put those words into his mouth. He only said that there are places in this world where 12 year old motherhood wasn't uncommon (and that is correct) and accepted. And he even suggest that if he lived in that culture, that he'd probably not have a problem with it. And honestly, and I don't think I am going out on much of a limb here- most people, IF (there's that important word, again) they had grown up in that culture, they wouldn't have a problem with it either.
any young mums 4957explained No. I insinuated nothing. I said it outright. Here's the deal. You made misleading, or unclear statements. She and...
And another thing, he is right - 12 year olds DO get pregnant, even in western culture, where it's frowned upon. I've known several that did (I was a teen in the 1980s). And one of my clbuttmates is the daughter of a woman who was only 13 when my clbuttmate was born (in the early 1970s). I remember in the 7th or 8th grade, a clbuttmate telling me that I was going to like love (and she was surprised that I hadn't had love yet - I was about 13 at the time)
When I was teaching at a local high school (in the mid 1990s) I heard HS freshmen talking about having love. That's not that much older than 12. So regardless of whether it's a good idea (and most of us agree that it's not) they do come to the internet to get information. It happens.
Cathy Weeks Mommy to Kivi Alexis 12-01 (and I'm hoping that she'll wait until after college to take on parenthood - that would be around the year 2023)
