Good week article 3977

my see up...

LOL. I've grown accustomed to your posting style. You usually don't upset me. I usually agree with you 100%. :o)

by are undo

There is not one person or persons giving me the pressure. I am talking about society and other mothers. I haven't give in to the pressure because I don't believe in a lot of what the superachiever mothers are doing. However, I hear it at school how so and so is in the gifted program and the best soccer player and so on. I do happen to go by my own rules and have gone against the tide, but it makes me uneasy, especially on these newsgroups.

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No one person says that I am a bad parent. I can feel it when I read newsgroups or listen to other mothers. But, I don't feel that I am a good parent. I am constantly raising the bar for myself and I do wonder who I am trying to please and I think that's what the article is all about.

pressure.

Well, you work right? Don't you ever hear that being a WOH mom is doing your children a disservice or having your kids in daycare is ruining them? Or how about SAHM, they are being martyrs and they revolve their life around their kids. It's in the media, in the newsgroups, magazines, papers. That's just one example. Others could be putting your kids in the best preschool. Another mom on another newsgroup is agonzing over which preschool to put her child in. Should it be a french immersion school, should it be a religous experience, should it be private. I didn't go to great lengths to find a preschool. I went with one that was affordable and close to home and that's it. One doesn't have to sucumb to the pressure, but it is there whether or not you believe that it is there.

have

Well me to. I pretty much just like to stay home with my family and do things with them.

comes capitalist far in

I agree with you. When I said that healthcare should be affordable, I don't mean we should be socialized because I don't think that is the answer either. I wouldn't want to worry that if I needed to see a doctor that I couldn't because the wait time is too long. I have to admit though, that my healthcare for my family is good and I consider myself lucky. But, I am not naive enough to know that there are other families struggling just to have some healthcare and for that something needs to be done to make sure that everyone has affordable health coverage.

handles

Yes, I agree. I really have not given into the pressures, but sometimes late at night when I can't sleep, I wonder if my kids would be better off if I put more pressure on them to suceed and be more active in sports and be better students.

-- Sue (mom to three girls)