Beach Mum
I have little patience for this atbreastude. To me, that's the culture of mediocrity speaking--no one can do well at anything, because if you do, you'll pee off someone who can't do well at it. Well, we all have strengths and weaknesses. I'm not going to play down my strengths so that you don't feel bad, and I'm not going to feel bad when you're fabulous at something I'm not good at (though I might be a bit envious of your skill--that's okay, I'm a big girl and I won't fall to pieces at the notion that someone can outdo me at any number of things I suck at).
Are all these other people "like this?" Or is it just our defensiveness making us buttume that? If someone throws a great party with all the trimmings, do we automatically buttume that she's out to raise the bar, or that she's materialistic and trying to show off? Maybe she has a group of friends who are all enjoying her party throwing ability and congratulating themselves that the folks in their group aren't "like this." ;-)
And again, maybe the folks putting their toddlers in preschool are just doing it because it works for their families, and not necessarily because they think they have to? Heck, Genevieve is going to preschool next year. It's in our church (a familiar place she loves) and she'll probably have a neighborhood friend as a teacher. I'll get a few extra hours to work without having to get a babysitter and she'll have great fun playing with the other kids. Works for me (though thank goodness it isn't going to run is $15k-year! ;-) On the other hand, such a situation didn't work for my first, who didn't start preschool until 3.5 (which I consider optional even then--I put him in so I'd have some one-on-one time with his toddler brother). Frankly, I think the vast majority of us are just making the choices we think are right for our situations and our families. We get in trouble when we try to judge others' actions against our own situations. That's doomed to be crazy making. I don't see why people even start.
Best wishes, Ericka
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