A new generation of insults 9

Banty Barbara for for a THAT you THAT to ice the Talk worry examples?? is not overnight and make a carbohydrates? All for unhealthy something? can *one* effect it's one Furthermore, watch out honestly don't have a bad have to study It's Ah, I see. I am an *obese person caught up in denial* I don't think its appropriate for a parent to say *I know Johnny is your friend, but in reality he is a fat tub or lard, a person who does bad things, and I think you should take a cold, hard look at him as a bad example of what terrible things could happen to you if you don't eat right* not because it is cruel, promotes bullying, and doesn't help anyone at all, but because *folks like me... don't want to ... acknowledge that obesity itself is not healthy and not desireable* Indeed, I am focused on *other people who can apparently have an unhealthy diet and not be fat*

In all honestly, do you believe that this is NOT a *personal* attack on me, based largely on the fact that I have admitted that I have a weight problem? (And admitted that its a problem, and made no excuses whatsoever for it.) And when you use this type of language in front of a child, do you honestly believe that it is interpreted as *fat is bad* not as *fat people are bad people* Because it sure sounds like the latter to me.

Try reading what I wrote instead of making buttumptions about it based on the fact that you now believe that I am an evil FAT person.

Pointing to specific people as bad examples is wrong. It promotes bullying and prejudice against people. And given its anecdotal nature, it gets us nowhere, because your child will always be able to point out someone else affected in a different manner.

We need to teach our children about proper nutrition and the need to exercise. We don't need to point to or condemn others.

child with is closely reasonably someone at someone for a long was *just* rationalization. And sidelined No, you don't know anything of the sort. The boy I am referring to looks like any overweight kid. It really doesn't take long for a kid to pack on pounds, at ages where 5 or 10 pounds can make a difference between *fit* and *obese* In fact, I can think of another boy who was on steroids after surgery. Between the steroids, the fact that he was not allowed exercise, and boredom eating, he ballooned in just about 6 weeks. And you've completely ignored the 2d child I mentioned whose parents are desperately trying to get him help. How do you judge him?

But you're right, and I said it first. Its not the norm. Most overweight kids and eating too much junk, and not exercising enough. I'm just reminding you that you don't know who you are condemning when you point your finger.

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Actually, why don't you ask me what my perception is before you put words in my mouth. When I see a person of normal weight eating a sugary snack, I buttume that s-he is able to engage in good portion control, and that eating one thing does not set off a series of cravings for more and more high fat or sugar treats. I admire that person's willpower and resolve.

But I ask you again ... if you think it's appropriate to point to a fat kid scarfing down a bag of chips and tell YOUR child *look at that kid; that's why he's fat. BAD BAD BAD.* What do you say to him when he answers *look at that skinny kid over there with chips in one hand and a soda in the other? Why isn't HE fat?* And isn't that yet another reason why it's better to tell your child that chips are empty calories, and should be considered an occasional treat in an otherwise heatlthy diet, rather than pointing fingers at others. metabolic to see it. family. There is a world of difference between *normalizing* obesity or poor eating, and *demonizing* people who are overweight. And it truly troubles me that you cannot see that.

Barbara