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Neighbor Mom Rant I recently moved so I have all new neighbors. The mom with her 3 kids next door drives me crazy. I know that everyone has their own... Vaccine findings confirm fears. Some parents long suspected mercury levels were too high Vaccine findings confirm fears. Some parents long suspected mercury levels were too high. By Marisa Lagos Staff Writer Published: Thursday, February 10, 2005 10:05 AM PST... Senate Bill 3 Dear Parents and Guardians, Senate Bill 3 will be the largest gift the pharmaceutical companies have ever received.at the expense of the... VACCINATION, RUBELLA AND CONGENITAL RUBELLA SYNDROME VACCINATION, RUBELLA AND CONGENITAL RUBELLA SYNDROME Separating Fact From Fiction By RFD Columnist, F. Edward Yazbak, MD, FAAP. TL Autism Research Falmouth, Mbuttachusetts The health authorities have insisted that the... A new generation of insults 5 The problem is that saying that obesity is unhealthy is not the same as saying that anyone who is obese will have particular health problems... A new generation of insults 6 Banty "it is bad has a I'm still fumbling with this myself, too, and how to raise my own pre-teens, but my question for you... A new generation of insults 7 Banty shinypenny say family about about looks mothers who can't their 3rd you heard complain diet But it's... A new generation of insults 8 says... You're honestly saying that we shouldn't learn from or talk about bad examples?? Just to save folks like you the acknowledgement that obesity itself is not healthy and not desireable? When my son's friend... A new generation of insults 9 Banty Barbara for for a THAT you THAT to ice the Talk worry examples?? is not... A new generation of insults 10 says... Then why do you bring up a silly concept like, since person A can do something and get away with it (only apparently, and possibly only for... A new generation of insults 11 Banty Barbara bad itself or who but to kid. concept. something present), it's Banty, I have read your... A new generation of insults 12 says... Barbara, I think there are two main prolems in what you're saying that needs addressing. One is that... A new generation of insults 13 In an message Banty shinypenny say family about about looks Hm. I read it also as about appearance since for me it's easier to tell that someone is overweight versus to know... A new generation of insults 14 Banty shinypenny say family about about looks Well, when you wrote that you say "it's bad to let your body get LIKE... A new generation of insults 15 says... After I show him pictures of clogged arteries, is it OK with you that I then point to an obese person and say something... Ritalin and Liver cancer 16 Ok. I did a PubMed search for "hidden food intolerance" and came up with the following article of interest: Altern Med Rev. 1998 Apr;3(2):90-100. Related... Dairy & Allergies 17 Provides virtually nothing, huh. I wonder why Mark Probert is such a liar???????? WOW! J Investig Allergol Clin Immunol. 2000 Mar-Apr;10(2):59-65. Related Articles, Links Lethal or... Dairy & Allergies 18 Got news for you, you and Mark don't make the rules here and books are A OK. There were... Ritalin and Liver cancer 19 By "unbiased and proper" I presume that you mean that if they find that there is no such thing as hidden food allergies you will reject that, since the research was clearly not... Ritalin and Liver cancer 20 I can't figure out how you twist everything I say. I said that the food manufacturers STOPPED doing research... Ritalin and Liver cancer 21 BradChad Can you post a verifiable fact or anything that resembles the real world? There are limits to what conventional medicines knows. Just buttuming that they exist. It took centuries for scientist... Ritalin and Liver cancer 22 Mark, I rattled your cage, and it shows. I found out that the foods that people crave the most are often the sources of their Hidden Food Allergies. I realized that my constant... Ritalin and Liver cancer 23 It really irritates me when people don't pay attention to what is being said. If you were paying attention, I... Ritalin and Liver cancer 24 You are one of the biggest bastards to reply to this discussion, Jeff. You say that their is overwhelming evidence that smoking causes cancer. What makes you so sure that there isn't overwhelming evidence... Ritalin and Liver cancer 25 BradChad Brad, you finally did it. You made a suggestion worth following. I used Google... Ritalin and Liver cancer 26 Guys -- Can you please stop sniping? You have interesting things to say, but your message is being lost amidst the sniping and lost tempers. The truth is that yes, some people find chronic... Ritalin and Liver cancer 27 BradChad Nope. Wrong. Lind did the work a century before that: Quotes from Lind's Treatise... Ritalin and Liver cancer 28 The reason that I call Mark Probert a fool is this. His logic is very discouraging. He believes... Ritalin and Liver cancer 29 Rich From Hulda's latest book..The Cure for All Wealth (Except Mine): Round about the cauldron go; In the contagion'd entrails throw. Toad, that under cold stone Days... Jan's Illiteracy LadyLollipop Jan, please define "organized medicine" in a simple and coherent definition so we can figure out what... Jan Drew's Hypocrisy, Anger & Name Calling LadyLollipop the Accuser It just burns Jan up that I can post examples of her lies (with links to the oriuginal postings), but she can't find EVEN ONE... Ritalin and Liver cancer 32 BradChad Quotes from Lind's Treatise on the Scurvy (1753) On the 20th of May, 1747, I selected 12 patients in the scurvy, on board the... Dairy & Allergies 33 My bad atbreastude is caused by you. Remember, it is easy, inexpensive, and safe to look for your hidden food allergies... Dairy & Allergies 34 The problem is that soy is also a possible allergen, and it's rarely as simple as one allergen for one person. Most... Ritalin and Liver cancer 35 Just as I thought, instead of addressing the ideas in this article, you just dismissed it out of hand because it's from quackwatch. You didn't... Ritalin and Liver cancer 36 There is a lot you have to learn, Rich. Some food sensitivities trigger immediate reactions, and some trigger delayed reactions. The test that allergist do for food... Ritalin and Liver cancer 37 The evidence about how High Fructose Corn Syrup (HFCS) has affected people is on their waistline. Soda consumption has skyrocketed since HFCS came out. They started SUPERSIZING Sodas... When should one worry about kid's coughing 38 Sounds plausible. Bit dubious how much they help, but if you feel it's easing her, by all means go for it. No, and no... When should one worry about kid's coughing 39 Oh come on folks the kids probably just got a cold and everyone rushes to... When should one worry about kid's coughing 40 On Sat, 07 May 2005 19:42:17 GMT, "CWatters" Indeed. Environmental allergies develop at the earliest at around age 3 to 4 years, and are thus very unlikely in a 2-year-old... Toddler Lunch Foods Around the World take two Thanks to everyone who responded with meal plans for what foods toddlers eat outside the U.S. last time this message was posted... itchy, scratchy rash Hi, again -- I mentioned earlier that some people can live eczema-free if they eliminate allergens. I did NOT mean to... You bottlefed, right" was THE VACCINATION HOAX YOU BOTTLEFED, RIGHT?" What a great response! See below... John, Breastmilk has IMMUNIZATONS in it; so of course I liked this part: a. Natural immunisation downplayed. Some vaccines are... Baby torture Jeff P.Utz, MD thinks pediatrics is 'science' LOL! PostedAndMailed: yes BABY TORTURE... JEFF P.UTZ, MD THINKS PEDIATRICS IS "SCIENCE" - LOL! In America, the "science" of pediatrics condones obvious torture of babies. See... Pediatric crime PF Riley, MD is such a kidder LOL! PostedAndMailed: yes PF RILEY, MD IS SUCH A KIDDER - LOL! PF Riley, MD is a pseudonymous usenet pediatrician who understandably doesn't... THE VACCINATION HOAX Measles kills 72 children.." "Mumps is on the rise" "Britain in grip of mumps epidemic after missed jabs" "Whooping cough cases continue to rise" "Yemen polio... Obese Mothers May Overfeed Infants It depends. Some people do stop feeding when their kids signal "no more". Others continue... Mark's Probert's Continual Harbutting You tell so many, it's hard fro YOU to know when you are telling them. I have marked them **** Ilena "I'm crazy and I am too" Rose's hate... ABC Endorces Vaccines for Children, Many Still Containing Mercury PRESS RELEASE For Immediate Release: June 23, 2005 LAST NIGHT, ABC CRITICIZED HIGH-SUGAR CEREALS YET SUGGESTED... Rice drink tied to rare disease in 2 infants 50 Yeah, my daughter's had that on her cereal. But only someone illiterate or with poor grasp of English, or else a complete idiot, would use it as a replacement for breastmilk or formula. It's written... Rice drink tied to rare disease in 2 infants 51 Donna Well, I grew up in the pre-bike helmuts era, too, but I also believe in the "when you learn better, you do better" philosophy. There are far... Rice drink tied to rare disease in 2 infants 52 Your friend whose kids are picky eaters, and she's chosen not to make an issue of it... Rice drink tied to rare disease in 2 infants 53 Hillary Israeli * I thought the point was that it really isn't a great subsbreastute for milk, and I would imagine that in that case, it's probably better... Rice drink tied to rare disease in 2 infants 54 And the amount of fat may or may not be a problem for you, depending... Rice drink tied to rare disease in 2 infants 55 That's a good point, but do you think that after a visit or two, any reasonably intelligent person is going to get an... Rice drink tied to rare disease in 2 infants 56 Ah -- I think I am looking at a slightly different problem. My focus is that one may be as informed as the average person, but have missed one... Rice drink tied to rare disease in 2 infants 57 I simply can't comprehend the people who have posted "I don't mind being talked down to...". Sure, different strokes, but.... Do we now expect that when we... Rice drink tied to rare disease in 2 infants 58 Donna Oh, I agree that there is parental culpability there. I just think that even if it doesn't get as far as serious malnutrition, it's not a great thing... EXPLODING AUTISM EPIDEMIC TIED TO GREED OF PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANIES MOUNTAIN VIEWS: EXPLODING AUTISM EPIDEMIC TIED TO GREED OF PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANIES By John Hanchette OLEAN -- Here's an update on a topic featured in this space... Questions on 2 month old My baby is just 2 month old. She was born via c-sectionn and didnot... Questions on 2 month old On Thu, 10 Feb 2005 10:38:47 -0800, New Mommy There's your problem in a nutshell. I remember how extremely difficult it was for me to stay put... Good week article 62 Okay, so it's not like this thread needs any more fodder, but I noticed something relevant in the March issue of Parenting, which... Good week article 63 I had two boyfriends who said to me more or less the same thing - no wife of mine is ever going to work... Good week article 64 Interesting thread! What I noticed was that while the (gasp!) Call to Political Action took up a reasonable... Good week article 65 Sue Mothers just can't win for losing: very involved and you are smothering and obsessed, more laissez-fair and you are putting your kids at a disadvantage and limiting their futures. Sigh. I find... Good week article 66 Elle Elle, many of the things you mention (making choices that give my baby the best chance at future health possible, preparing for an unmedicated birth, breastfeeding, being... Good week article 67 traditional donkey fable deleted I like this version: An old man, a boy & a donkey were going to town. The boy rode on the donkey & the old man walked... Good week article 68 I really wonder why I always hear such stories only from a mother's perspective and never from a dad's. To me that implies that in spite... Good week article 69 On Wed, 16 Feb 2005 16:35:26 -0500, Sue Well, the article starts with the buttumption that we have reached a society in which men and women... Good week article 70 Irene one why they I don't know if legislation is the only answer. My girlfriends and I... Good week article 71 And, the rules we are making hurt children who are in care. I just started subbing in the elementary schools here... Good week article 72 Sue What a pessimistic view of motherhood!! I have no sympathy for women who sign their... Good week article 73 There was a book called The Mommy Myth a year or two back and while I didn't read the book, I heard the author discuss it on the... Good week article 74 Part of what bothers me about that article is that it describes parenting in a specific region and income bracket - she interviewed only mothers in New York and Washington DC for her... Good week article 75 Rivka W not certain of people Incidentally, you won't be turned away from a hospital - that's illegal. Hospitals are required to treat emergency cases. You'll just be paying for it for the rest... Good week article 76 I just want to mention (please don't flame me) that someone women (my SIL, for example) have a lovely time doing this. She just threw a fabulous 'Princess' party for her 3 yr. old... Good week article 77 Beach Mum I have little patience for this atbreastude. To me, that's the culture of... Good week article 78 Normally, I'd agree with you, particularly about this issue. However, about a year ago (when E was 9months old) I attended... Good week article 79 Beach Mum Well, that can be true just because of supply and demand issues ;-) A few years ago it was like that around here, because there were tons of kids in the next... Good week article 80 Around here, there are virtually NO sports available at school until high school. (There's a little in Jr. Hi, but... Good week article 81 Denise Anderson that's move Thank God! The way you phrased that I thought he was in jail! I was really worried... I... Good week article 82 Hmmm. My 7 year old has piano lessons (once a week), soccer (once a week), and cub scouts (once every other week). My 5 year old has ballet (once a week... Good week article 83 Until last night, I would have thought that your level of activity was what the article was discussing. However, a friend was here... Good week article 84 It's definitely not a pessimestic view. It's spot on. You don't have kids yet, so you will naturally say that... Good week article 85 On Wed, 16 Feb 2005 15:16:56 -0500, Sue No offense, but those things I have found to be very typical for US-born parents. Many of them seem to lack a good amount... Good week article 86 Sue kids things. is said reading I snipped the rest of your post, but the basic gist of it... Good week article 87 Yes, I agree. That kind of was my point. Lots of women have put the pressure on themselves to be the perfect mom, to have their kids in... Good week article 88 Sue needing and so my DD the this "No, Sweetie, your friends are spoiled and will grow up to be... Good week article 89 of see useless, The thing I've noticed is that some people with A Lot of Money are often just people who have A Lot of Money... Good week article 90 Caledonia I was just kidding, of course, but as someone with A Lot of Money, I agree. Our disposable income (especially now, still... Good week article 91 Cautionary statment... I am replying to your ideas. I feel a RANT of my own coming on. I sound like I am attacking you. I am not... Good week article 92 my see up... LOL. I've grown accustomed to your posting style. You usually don't upset me. I usually agree with you 100%. :o) by... Good week article 93 No. Who would say such a thing in RL? I mean, I have heard people talk garbage on usenet. But... Good week article 94 On Thu, 17 Feb 2005 05:53:47 GMT, "P. Tierney" Emily on mk-fl posted this url for a response I think is telling. The problem isn't a new one at all. And The... Good week article 95 stuff comes Where or very, capitalist I would argue that in Canada our standards of care... Good week article 96 Sue kids things. is said reading And it's not necessarily the "best school" by some external pressure - I couldn't care less about that. But I do feel... Good week article 97 Talk to me in about 8 years ;-) While I agree with you in theory, you'll be surprised how easy it is to get very, very busy with just... Good week article 98 I feel like I'm an exception here, after reading many of the posts. Starting in about grade 7 or so, I took ballet, piano lessons, skating and Hebrew... Good week article 99 Karen Hahaha! I know... talents (especially social I know this one family who has stuff every single night, and not just one thing, but three or... Good week article 100 Karen you'll be talents (especially social lessons, involves two segments week evenings per loves? towel on to... Good week article 101 While I agree with this, there is something to the fact that college applications look at... Good week article 102 This is a problem with older kids, though, not with the preschool-early elementary school set. I doubt my kids' college admissions board is going to give a rip whether... Good week article 103 Circe They won't. It matters if you think your kid is going to be compebreastive at certain things, but the admissions board isn't going to care if your kid is the next... Good week article 104 Irrational Number different Yes and no. I went to the top undergraduate university in Canada, and on scholarship. Incidentally, the... Good week article 105 The grbutt is always greener on the other side. Anyone want my career? Here is a question... Good week article 106 Irrational Number I got a hell of an education from the state university (Purdue), and I'm pretty sure that they didn't look at whether or not I took soccer in kindergarten. :) I also got... Good week article 107 While I agree with you in principle, it isn't always that easy to follow through on this. For it to work... Good week article 108 Ericka Kammerer So I take it sports and the Arts are not part of the US school curriculum? Kids here get to do all those things in school so... Good week article 109 Unadulterated Me It depends entirely upon where you live. In some areas, budget cuts or poor... Good week article 110 Unadulterated Me Well, as usual, it depends ;-) It used to be that elementary school kids (6-12 years or so) had recess (time to go outside and play... Good week article 111 Ericka Kammerer to Scouts or That's a good point. I figure that our kids will probably take music lessons, and we'll go to the gym (or... Good week article 112 Oh, absolutely. The rub comes in when you've got a kid who wants to play sports... Good week article 113 scheduling, We've found what works best is only scheduling activities on the weekends. I don't want to be running around on weekday evenings. We have piano Friday night... Good week article 114 Chotii In New Zealand income tax (known as PAYE..pay as you earn) is 33% then there is invisible GST added onto... Good week article 115 Unadulterated Me societies, what to be that way? then you I Various states have various levels of sales tax. Where I live it's 6%, but it doesn't apply to certain things (like... Good week article 116 Unadulterated Me Who can tell? ;-) Federal income tax brackets range from 10 to 35 percent, depending on your income, but if you're in the... Good week article 117 Well, I dunno. At least it could go both ways. Men DO have the choice to stay home, and... Good week article 118 Banty income. Which, salary true all idea that from the My dh was a SAHD for our oldest dd for the first 3 years of her life, and we both hated it. He did... Good week article 119 career jobs and otherwise household. Taking off a year or so would be best IMHO, but I do realize it is not always feasible as it... Good week article 120 I do wish you'd stop using the word "natural" to describe the traditional roles. It implies that those who choose other roles are somehow doing something unnatural. I... Good week article 121 dragonlady I guess I just think of it that way because the majority of baby mammals are cared... Good week article 122 I'm not so sure this is true. I know DH does not mulbreastask well, but that is not a hinderance in his work. Or, if it is... Good week article 123 Hello, disillusioned liberal. I don't think I'm disillusioned yet -- or maybe it's just not wanting to admit it! I think I'm just realizing how far we HAVEN'T come yet. On the other... Good week article 124 But you don't think this experience was pretty significant in shaping your perception of the issue? (And don't you... Good week article 125 toto Sure, there are lots of interesting things out there, including this work. I also don't dispute that men and women can tend... Good week article 126 Oh don't fool yourself. Women most certainly are incapable of doing such things. I know this for certain. You see, my sister once pursued a career in the sciences... Good week article 127 P. Tierney Poor thing! This is what comes of teaching girls sciences in school. A little literature, some fine art, music, good social skills, and of course the domestic arts (not sciences... Good week article 128 toto It depends on what you mean by that. Is it possible that men's and women's brains are wired differently to some degree? That's not only possible, it's virtually certain. What is questionable is... Good week article 129 People can ignore their instincts, like I did for 3 years while I worked rather than being... Good week article 130 But, for instance, how do you explain that when societal variables change, the number of women who choose... Good week article 131 Ericka Kammerer waited Deciding Plus, I don't really understand you question because I feel like I would just be repeating what was said above... Good week article 132 Well, you never get a perfect situation because everything is always changing to some degree ;-) But aside from pure... Good week article 133 Ericka Kammerer just very buttume am stimuli: In evolution there is natural variation in the individuals. Each individual animal is not exactly the same. Evolution occurs because each individual is different... Good week article 134 There's lots of individual variation in some things. But if you look at the above definition, it says an inborn pattern of behavior that is CHARACTERISTIC OF A SPECIES. That doesn't admit... Good week article 135 Actually, the Minnesota Study of Twins Reared Apart is pretty interesting, and HAS found a way to trace what traits likely have a strong... Good week article 136 I found this article interesting. „The mammalian female brain expresses a great deal of plasticity and creativity in service to, and in support of, reproduction,‰ says Kinsley. „In other words, mothers are made, not... Good week article 137 Indirectly only. Things like personality traits (introvert-extrovert, for example) as well as types of intelligence (good in music, good in math, good with... Good week article 138 Oh why am I coming back to do this more! I guess if someone thought they were dumb, this might offend them. I guess you are... Good week article 139 But do you still do that? I rather doubt it. Are you uncomfortable all the time because you're not doing that, struggling all the time against your instinct? Would you be... Good week article 140 She says that women have maternal instincts that make it painful for us to be away from our children, and... Good week article 141 dragonlady to us I said uncomfortable. Actually I never commented on whether men have this instinct or not. If in But don't most feel some discomfort when first leaving their... Good week article 142 well, actually hunting is and isn't more focused than housekeeping. while you need to keep your eye... Americans putting their feet up everywhere 143 ch phenomenon. May I ask why this is a problem? Was anyone being harmed? If no one is in the seat in front, then why is it... Americans putting their feet up everywhere 144 The answer to you question is complex, but I will attempt to give some reasons for what you observed. I once heard a student say that putting her feet up on a... Americans putting their feet up everywhere 145 In most cases those ancestors were a very long way from the bottom of the heap in their home countries. Crossing an ocean costs money, and there were rarely subsidies for the fare. So for... Americans putting their feet up everywhere 146 You must of been visiting a costal area of Australia, where it's common practice to walk around barefooted, but usually only during daylight hours (when going to or coming from the beach). Even in a... Americans putting their feet up everywhere 147 You can pick up bacteria - breathing or eating picks up bacteria - but I can think of only one illness that is ever transmitted that way; it's unknown... Americans putting their feet up everywhere 148 On Mon, 14 Mar 2005 10:00:32 +0000, Jack Campin - bogus address When I was a child in the US, I went everywhere, except to church, in bare feet all summer... Americans putting their feet up everywhere 149 Gregory Morrow" wrote... For some, it seems a rational or personally pleasant alternative to buggery or fellatio..... Another sound reason why folks have not leaped aboard the "equal privilege for the loveually misoriented" bandwagon... Americans putting their feet up everywhere 150 Bad news - we are way past our 'extinct by' date Robin McKie, science editor Sunday March 13, 2005 The Observer Some say the world will end in fire, some say... Americans putting their feet up everywhere 151 Honestly, I suspect that Gray Hound travelers now traveling by air are less likely to put their feet on... Americans putting their feet up everywhere 152 ch You must encounter a different clbutt of Americans than the rest of us do! (Traveling in the "deep South", perhaps?) Ever hear of "DVT" (Deep Vein Thrombosis)? Apparently it is a real hazard on... Americans putting their feet up everywhere 153 Donna Evleth Personally I find that fluids do help. I haven't noticed any real attention being paid to the seat belt signs on flights recently... Suspension shortened for school chimpout Cell-phone student back at school after suspension High school junior punished after talking to mom in Iraq (CNN) -- A Georgia student, suspended after violating... Recall: Playtex hip hammock Crossposted.... NEWS from CPSC U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission Office of Information and Public Affairs Washington... UK Paternaty Pay how generous is your employer 156 There seems to be an underlying implication in these messages that its OK to bias child caring related benifits... UK Paternaty Pay how generous is your employer 157 Actually, no; at least not in my posts. It is not OK. But it isn't OK either that it is the case that the... UK Paternaty Pay how generous is your employer Obscurity, linux David Bevan writes: I think you're right, it's best for men and women to have... UK Paternaty Pay how generous is your employer 159 So this is turning into a chicken-and-egg thing. So, before a maternity leave was insbreastuted, were the childcare responsibilities equally divided, such... UK Paternaty Pay how generous is your employer 160 I remember that my hs biology teacher told me that the female married teachers had to tell the school board by the 3rd month if they were pg and were not allowed to teach if... 20mth Toddler's teeth stained only started brushing them now Good that it's only a tiny amount, but if it's fluoride toothpaste and he swallows it, that may be causing the problem (fluorosis). Other ingredients... Scary experience giving meds to a toddler pharmacy mislabel My 3 year old is a little sick, and has a nasty cough. In the morning, I... 4 months old feeding question Hi - My 4 mo old is being very fussy in having her formula. She has been formula fed for a long time now and initially she used to even drink... 4 months old feeding question 164 She might not be totally well from her virus. Sometimes it does take a little while for the stomach to feel better. either and not Rice cereal is very constipating. And as far... 4 months old feeding question 165 Actually, this is the change. The previous recommendation in Australia was to introduce solids between 4 and 6 months (same as it was in the US and... Guilty Parenting was 4 months old feeding question No? I must be a REALLY bad Mum then! It's not that I spend a lot of time admiring myself for being such a great parent -- but... Guilty Parenting was 4 months old feeding question 167 Chookie bad mum. :) lovely sense great I mean keep up is that children in over and over DS, and one of manage have no dying of those result, I I'm with you, Chookie. There... Guilty Parenting was 4 months old feeding question 168 Stop right there and let that sink in. She will swear she wasn't because she likely wasn't. She was not super-perfect-uber-happy-utterly-patient-play-with... Solids 4 months old feeding question Donna Metler of constantly" and the If all you've given her is cereal, then probably not... 4 months old feeding question 170 Note to Tine -Two of the groups that she posted to don't have to do with... 4 months old feeding question 171 I eventually started DD on solids around 4 months. She had gone from a good 4 hours between feedings to a mere 1 hour, and she suddenly started waking up famished at night, while she... First shots 172 Why delay shots? Are they not given at certian ages for a reason? I dont know what your... First shots 173 Sarah, Some babies have reactions and some don't. I don't believe in medicating "just in case". Here is what I'd do -- I'd not give her anything before her first set of... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Rich, my observation is that many men do well with a schedule to follow (hey, no laughing, but my experience both as wife... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Rich I need know without I don't know, but I'm due in August - are you available from about July...? :) Ok, get yourself a bottle of Clorox Clean Up (LOVE IT!), a roll of... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean I had 2 full term babies, and I was out of commission from 7 months with #1 and 6 months with #2. I had irritable uterus. I was in almost constant pain unless I was... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean On Wed, 9 Feb 2005 19:58:09 -0500, "NotMyRealName" I think this was common back when I was a child. Note that the history of childbirth and pregnancy... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean On Wed, 09 Feb 2005 20:00:01 -0600, you My mom was in the hospital for a week with each of us. I don't know exactly how long she stayed... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean On Wed, 09 Feb 2005 20:00:01 -0600, you I did a lot of things during pregnancy that would not be allowed now, and there were some things that I did that were looked on askance... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean But this last time, I actually overheard people (who didn't : know me) saying "look at her! do you believe that!" and so on. You should... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean And the hospital really encouraged that atbreastude. According to my mother, when I was born (almost 53... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean I went out shopping with my MIL and Taylor when she was 5 days old. A woman stopped us in the store and asked... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean When I was pg with #2, dh was out at sea, and failed (although I sent him a stamped... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean pregnancy, I think I can top that. I was teaching a clbutt at my office on my due date... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Wow, another similarity between you and me. I wonder whether those types of problems are linked... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Catherine Woodgold had you to Last night I was bringing in two bags of groceries from the car. I slipped on the ice - my feet went in two different directions. In... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Yes, sounds like me. I have this great Pilates instructor who keeps telling us not to pamper ourselves. Well, she says if... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean With my first, dh and I went sailing in a little boat we had just bought a week after my due date. We were... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Oh, I know. But I was ribbing Larry because he was griping about the guy's mom* not teaching him to cook, while buttuming that it... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean There's no reason that they absolutely have to learn each other's tasks, but certainly there are reasons to learn each other's tasks. If one person becomes temporarily or permanently disabled, or dies or the two... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Yes, they learn when they have to. However, some people really DO manage to grow up without learning much of anything. And if they... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean P. Tierney Tierney It is almost unbelievable, but I've known people who either are, or pretend... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean I think it depends on what "average" means :). I apparently know quite a few people who have a maid or cleaning service to come in either once a week or once every two weeks to... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Yes, they are. If you want to get into a top college, you really don't have time... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean P. Tierney Good point. I've been following this thread and I keep thinking....I don't... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean I'm sure he would because he and I would both need the manual to FIND the dipstick... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean I should not confess this.... but here goes. I do not get my car serviced unless it is making aggregious noises. I used to be... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Penny Gaines The recommended interval for our VW is every 5,000 miles and for our... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean says... Oh, I agree - I've changed my own oil. Although I'm with Ericka in that now, it's a hbuttle to get rid of the oil, and I make a few... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Nikki Personally, I think everyone should be able to do most of that stuff as well--male or female. And yes, I can and... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Ericka Kammerer And yes, I can and have changed Well I tried to change my tire once with the instruction guide that was... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Nikki We had lawns when I was a child, but Grandpa always mowed the lawn, and he was pretty rigid about "his" chores. Since then, I've never had... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean I have been following this thread somewhat without much opinion. But this paragraph intrigues me. It seems sensible enough, but I am not 100% certain I agree with it. While habits which are... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Stephanie Stowe will afield, dragging that cook. this certain to cook me, it is ask a of cleaning iron, for was. I had the I'm... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Stephanie Stowe Personally, I think every adult (and as many kids as age-appropriate) should... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean Some people are just less willing to try new things - part of their personality and... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to Cook and Clean It varies, I suspect. I learned to do laundry when I was 11 and my mom had a baby. MIL sent DH off... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to 208 Yep. Take car washing. It doesn't seem to take a parent to teach a 16 year old boy how to wash and wax a car... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to 209 Stephanie Stowe I think it's both--anyone who really wanted to do it could find a way; however, anyone looking... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to 210 I think you're nuts... Just kidding. I'm just never going to agree with you on this one. In... Advice: Wife Very Pregnant, Don't Know What To Do: I Need to 211 Stephanie Stowe No problem--we can agree to disagree. Eh, my atbreastude is that my job as a parent is to ensure that my kids go... Beware of free self defense program SAVE International by Peter Letterese Notice to parents... A free self defense program called SAVE International is being offered around the United States. This program is owned and operated by a man named Peter Letterese who is... Beware of free self defense program SAVE International by Peter Letterese I found the full police report on Peter Letterese' child abuse charges. For more information on child abusers and child love offenders go to; For more information on Miami-Dade Sheriff criminal and love offenders... Advanced formula for toddlers Lipil ad in Parents' magazine 214 One site had this list of kids who are at risk of nutritional deficiencies, and would be candidates for their toddler formula: Born prematurely Fed cows' milk from an early... Advanced formula for toddlers Lipil ad in Parents' magazine 215 seen I saw an ad on tv while visiting a friend for a formula that was targeting toddlers specifically - the message was basically "you can fight with your toddler... charitable fund raiser at school My kids' school has many charitable drives during the school year. They collect gently used backpacks... charitable fund raiser at school 217 I didn't keep my kids from participating, but I didn't encourage it much, either. Since we... charitable fund raiser at school 218 bizby40 year, what else YES, this upsets me too. For us it was a magazine drive. My DD came home and said that if... charitable fund raiser at school 219 bizby40 Yes, it annoys me when it happens. I would speak to the PTA about it. Usually they're the ones involved with these monsters. I would be going to the meetings and talking to the... charitable fund raiser at school 220 Out of curiosity, how do children go about collecting these things? It seems to blur the line between fund raising for... charitable fund raiser at school 221 Hi -- Taking school time to discuss a charitable fundraiser is fine, but taking time to display the prizes is not. I'd talk with the principal about making sure... Odd behavior at preschool I'm asking this for my cousin who doesn't have internet access. My cousin's daughter (Bella) turned 4 in November 2004... Odd behavior at preschool 223 Several things about the post struck me. Why in the world would 4 year olds have academic clbuttes and be sitting in desks. Most preKs here have tables, but the kids... Odd behavior at preschool 224 Mike (9-noon, of You've gotten some great advice already. I just wanted to say that this is exactly how I was when I entered kindergarten, at... Odd behavior at preschool 225 well, it could just be getting used to being around other children... does Bella get upset when the vacuum cleaner or a... 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Its value has more than doubled in that time (even taking into account the hit on the... best bed size for kids twin or double 249 nice isn't Okay, if I may butt-insky to this conversation with my own personal jerking knee, I... best bed size for kids twin or double 250 thing This is generally true--the price of things relative to wages has definitely gone up to quite an... best bed size for kids twin or double 251 thing Well, this minivan isn't our only car, but our other car is a 1996 VW GTI with 139,000+ miles on it that has been paid off for a good 5 years... best bed size for kids twin or double 252 Most people that I know have car loans, so they aren't throwing around $20K. It is taken out monthly, piece by agonizing piece. Most people I know also do not own their own... best bed size for kids twin or double 253 new car in a month of Sundays! You're buttuming people with young families all have $15k to throw around, let alone $20k! 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A Not Birthday Party 278 Penny Gaines Sounds lovely. I bet she is really excited. I see you already have a good suggestion for this. Perhaps I am harsh, but... A Not Birthday Party 279 Is it important that this party be for your daughter? Could it just be a Valentine's Day party? Or a winter party? I... A Not Birthday Party 280 bizby40 Yes, it is important it is for this daughter. As you can note from my sig, I've got three kids. My 6yo knows that big brother and big sister have had birthday... A Not Birthday Party 281 P. Tierney Part of the problem is that the holidays are about six weeks long, so yes, proportionally more people are... A Not Birthday Party 282 I don't want to focus on the presents as if it's the biggest deal in the world, but it... A Not Birthday Party 283 bizby40 Um, the OP didn't mention birthday in connection with the party, IIR her original post correctly. She was trying to figure out how to... A Not Birthday Party 284 bizby40 I doubt that very much. When the ONLY party the vast majority of kids throw is their annual birthday party, if she'd said nothing... A Not Birthday Party 285 She mentioned she had spoken to the parents. I buttume she mentioned this. Second, my kid Well buttuming your child is of reasonable age you say "well you have a birthday party, she has a... A Not Birthday Party 286 Okay, buttume what you want. Funny that you would be so harsh on this point when the OP is worried that her... A Not Birthday Party 287 P. Tierney I don't think so. If the birthday is really inconvenient enough that it's a problem, not doing something at a... A Not Birthday Party 288 My dad's bday was Dec 23rd. He always felt a bit gypped because it was so close to Xmas that he never... A Not Birthday Party 289 P. Tierney Well, the schools don't do it. By this age, the kids aren't having parties where they invite all (or even most) of their clbuttmates, so they just want to do a little something... A Not Birthday Party 290 P. Tierney Nah, sorry, I wasn't clear. The only thing the school does is that the birthday kids are on tv in the morning (unless a particular teacher does something for birthday kids). Actually, it... Toddler keeps nursing at night cries with no control if denied nursing My son keeps nursing all night. he just turned 2. He basically wants to keep... Toddler keeps nursing at night cries with no control if denied nursing 292 Hello all- I took off yestrday, but wasnt much use at all. I spent lot of time telling him about no nursing and everybody... Toddler keeps nursing at night cries with no control if denied nursing 293 My dgs was a light sleeper, waking a lot at night. I finally had to bite the bullet and train him to sleep at night in his own crib (portacrib in our case). Try... Toddler keeps nursing at night cries with no control if denied nursing 294 tiredmom I think that at this point your first mission is to unlatch him after he is done nursing, but before he falls asleep. He is going to cry about that... Toddler keeps nursing at night cries with no control if denied nursing 295 tiredmom In the circumstances you describe, no I do not think so, especially at 2yo. If he pushes and hits you can do a couple things. 1) roll over and ignore it. 2) hold his... Toddler keeps nursing at night cries with no control if denied nursing tiredmom You cannot be held hostage to his cries. That is going to create all sorts of craziness. You have a right not to have him nursing... Toddler keeps nursing at night cries with no control if denied nursing 297 I agree with the other poster. You need to take care of yourself and get some sleep. What do you want the end result... Toddler keeps nursing at night cries with no control if denied nursing 298 Hi - You need to decide what you want as an end result, and then be the parent-in-charge and DO it. An easy statement, made complicated... Toddler keeps nursing at night cries with no control if denied nursing 299 Hello Beth, Thanks very much for the advice. I am taking off tomorrow from work to try this out. also i am so tired... Supernanny..have you seen it yet Hi all, I have watched 2 episodes of the Supernanny and have to tell you I have learned a lot. No, I do not have a screaming... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 301 Jim is that I'd add here that the structure doesn't have to be (really shouldn't be) rigid scheduling of everything. Ds and I get... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 302 P. Tierney I don't think that's the only, or even the primary, issue involved in people advocating a routine for children. I... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 303 P. Tierney Actually, I think that quite a few folks, especially newly minted SAHPs, often have little in the way of routines. It's very easy to fall into that... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 304 I can see that in the early months, I guess, when it's barely possible to have a routine. But I think that nearly every adult falls back into routines or, to... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 305 If I had a few weeks to kill, and were given a silly amount of money, I suspect that... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 306 P. Tierney But at some point, perhaps I think what happened in our case is that Hunter had a natural tendency to be very attached anyway and that mixed with such... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 307 P. Tierney I have actually been rather surprised by the number of folk I've met who are quite routine resistant-- including folks with kids. I am not the most routinized person you'll ever... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 308 Ericka Kammerer I agree with everything you've written about routines! As an adult, I am the type of person who is more laid back... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 309 As I wrote in another post, I don't believe that "no routine" is possible, despite what some might believe about themselves. It's a question... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 310 P. Tierney Sure, I think it's difficult to have utterly no routine. Most people sleep around once a day... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 311 Prepare for some choppy editing, to cut this down to size a bit. Well, it's sort of a cat's life at this stage: eat... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 312 P. Tierney Certainly, but as with many things in this world, the fact that poorly done X is bad doesn't mean that well done X isn't good ;-) True--I tend to evaluate... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 313 I agree. In all scenerios. When I wrote "task", I meant some sort of base job, like an around-the-house type thing. Washing the dishes X way instead... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 314 P. Tierney Oh, even with that I think it applies ;-) I don't give a rip how someone else washes the dishes, as long as they all... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 315 Unless your kids are unusually light sleepers, I think you're probably overestimating the likelihood of them waking one another up in... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 316 I can't speak for Nan, but the only bedroom door that is closed at night in our house is the one for my husband's and my bedroom, and there is no... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 317 True, but a less crime-ridden neighborhood is, by definition, ridden with less crime. Do most... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 318 On our interior door locks, you don't use a key. You push a button to lock the door from the inside. The outside handle... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 319 I spent a chunk of time sitting right outside the bedroom door and reading in the evening. When one of them came out of their room, I got up and put them back. It... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 320 I've always had an adverse reaction to the thought of bedroom doors being locked, either from... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 321 Yes; cribs because everyone has to sleep SOMEWHERE, co-sleeping didn't generally appeal to me, and cribs are safer than a bed. Unless you put the... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 322 I never really considered a "crib" to be a device primarily for the purpose of preventing the child from getting out. I admit, it's an added bonus under certain circumstances, but to me... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 323 tips and I liked the "going to bed" problem. I have read in many a book to stop the bedtime problem that way and I think, "that won't work, they... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 324 in and is certain make Glad you posted Jim!! I agree to with the consistency and the eye level discussions. What I realized for myself is that kids don't turn into undisciplined monsters overnight, its... Supernanny..have you seen it yet 325 jojo you I backtalking other and not eat gumbo.(his his level taking the bagel or around a take happening learn from The manner... Sbutty kids My kids have reached an embarrbutting and highly frustrating level of sbutty, mouthy, bossy behavior. I think Hunter is going through... Sbutty kids 327 I'm not sure exactly what you mean by sbutty, but if DS (almost 4, but... Sbutty kids 328 Nikki sbutty, I tried to send a post a minute ago, but think I hit the wrong button... Sbutty kids 329 shinypenny I know! It's great :-) This is a really good point. Thank you for reminding... Sbutty kids 330 Lots of good books help preschoolers with this. Some suggestions: Feelings by Aliki (This book has pictures of faces to label... Sbutty kids 331 Nikki sbutty, 5yo phase just has a champion of We've etc. This constantly need We're going through a bit of this with... Sbutty kids 332 toto about help Luke going. things worse. appropriate Usually it's dh who escalates things, actually. The problem especially comes... Sbutty kids 333 I usually preferrd, "I understand that you're angry with me right now. But you're stuck with me loving you anyway." (Thus both labeling the emotion for them, and rebutturing them that MY... Sbutty kids 334 I tend to take the child's hands and prevent him from hitting. I will then say, we use gentle hands... Sbutty kids 335 Nikki.....we were just talking about this with supernanny... time-out will work, and yes, you may have to spend... Sbutty kids 336 Nikki My oldest child is 4.5, so I have no experience beyond that age, but I have been working dilligently on speaking politely for a... Sbutty kids 337 Nikki is a is just they That sounds like a good place. I think time... Sbutty kids 338 shinypenny I had an opportunity to use it :-) With the 5yo, which sort of shocked me. I figured the 3yo would break it in... 3monthold doesn't like to be held 339 him. out Dh considers teaching ds to snuggle and be affectionate one of his greatest accomplishments to date! Ds hated* being... 3monthold doesn't like to be held 340 him. out DS was this way when he was an infant. If you tried to hold him facing you, he would behave as your son does, but he wasn't happy... 3monthold doesn't like to be held 341 My DD was a big cuddle monster, but DS was not. It was a little hurtful to me actually that he'd rather fall asleep... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 342 Extremely! It was an eye opener for me to read that a newborn, for example, should be put down for a nap after being awake for only two... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 343 Marty Billingsley This is really true - ensuring ds got enough sleep was critical, and knowing that 3-2-1 naps per day was normal and advisable was great. The book also gave some pointers on how... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 344 Actually, no. This was a pleasant surprise to me, as I'd somehow expected him to be. I'm so used to books on sleep... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 345 Sarah Vaughan You know, as with most things, I think the key is to keep tending towards where you want to go, however small the steps. I think it's important to be responsive to... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 346 This is pretty much the conclusion I'd reached of my own accord, so it's good to hear it from you as well, since you're one of... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 347 Sarah Vaughan Both of those are great examples of taking little steps toward where you... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 348 age hours I was one of those babies, although I basically slept in 15 minute increments adding up to a total of 4 hours in 24... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 349 Boy, I was hoping somebody would say this! Can you please also rebutture me that you weren't the sort of moody hyperactive monsters with no attention span that Weissbluth... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 350 On Tue, 8 Feb 2005 21:08:19 +0000, Sarah Vaughan I found it very helpful, even though we did not do the CIO... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 351 Yes. I think it's getting easier to diagnose, or more pediatricians are becoming aware of how common it is, or something. When my son was an infant... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 352 parent VERY poor may was I'm the poster to whom S was responding, but I totally... Healthy Sleep Habits', by Marc Weissbluth 353 Ok Steve here is a what do you do situation. Today Xavier has been relatively fussy.. hard to get to sleep but not hungry durring the fussy times. Normal things like rocking... Weight issues DD1 is a thin little thing. Dh has always worried about her, as she doesn't eat much, but will graze and snack so I tend to... 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You might want to consider a Britax Marathon, your child will be able... car seat 374 make LATCH compatibility doesn't affect a car seat's compatibility with a car not equipped with the LATCH... Almost3yrold sleep problems My daughter is almost three, and unfortunately she's not communicating very well yet. She's intelligent enough to know the ABCs as a group, pick out and say the letters individually, count to... Bath frequently for infants and toddlers 376 Well I called it a poll, so I'll tally the responses in another post. As for me, I... Bath frequently for infants and toddlers 377 P. Tierney The problem with soap in the bath is that toddlers aren't all that great at rinsing thoroughly. My kids get rashy and itchy if they... Bath frequently for infants and toddlers 378 P. Tierney P. ds gets a bath every night (with the very rare exception) as part of the bedtime ritual. I almost... Bath frequently for infants and toddlers 379 P. Tierney I'm sure we'll anchor the infrequent end of the spectrum ;-) When they were babies, they... Bath frequently for infants and toddlers 380 My mom was very strict about bathing us because she was critical of other children who went to school with... Moving and school age cutoffs Hi, I hope I'm not being repebreastive here, but I looked in the archives and didn't find anything like this. We just moved... Moving and school age cutoffs 382 Hi, I hope I'm not being repebreastive here, but I looked in the archives and didn't... Moving and school age cutoffs 383 HI -- The question is not whether he's being academically challenged, but whether he's with his social peers. If he IS with his social peers, with plenty of kids near him in age, then keep him... Moving and school age cutoffs 384 lrm583 and son but Personally, I don't see what the problem is, at least when it comes to age. So... Unruly teens Distribution: Random According to the Salt Lake Tribune, the State of Utah is finally getting interested in regulating the "Behavior Modification" industry. Better... 14 months and not walking Neil Rutman be we read not pull up. traditional way info appointment I have a daughter... Medical question for the group long This child has (another) doctor's appointment at 8:30 tomorrow, so don't worry, I realize that medical professionals have to be involved in this. I'm just... Medical question for the group long 388 Could well be. Asthma-RAD sometimes presents as coughing without much in the way of wheezing. My son had asthma (I say "had" because it's been years since... Medical question for the group long 389 Your description indeed sounds pretty clbuttic for asthma. Cough, worse at night, sometimes wheezing, personal history of eczema and family history of asthma are all pretty suggestive. Not all asthmatics... Medical question for the group long 390 I have read the posts here and some of them have good advice. I'm sorry my post is rather... Medical question for the group long 391 This sounds similar to what my DD is being treated for: Illness induced Asthma. She started with a... Medical question for the group long 392 Stephanie Stowe too even visible me. explain can we you are you like experience level, where I down. Is would want you. pay a scenario. You're probably right. I'm pretty frustrated on... Medical question for the group long Obscurity, linux Beth Kevles writes: But aren't coughs always worse at night? Serious question - it's certainly my experience that mine (which have always been caused by cold-type viruses... Medical question for the group long 394 We've tried to figure it out, but so far we've had trouble identifying a trigger. Sometimes it seems to be just the lying down; we've had... Food advice and kids Janet they which once. You're doing better than me. :-) suggestions It's not too long before the 14 and 11 year old are going to be out on their own making their... New Abuse Claim Against Bethel Girls Academy Distribution: Random New Abuse Claim Against Bethel Feb 15, 2005, 04:36 PM EST Email to a Friend Printer Friendly Version Another allegation of physical abuse at Bethel Girls... Review: Because of WinnDixie BECAUSE OF WINN-DIXIE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): BECAUSE OF WINN-DIXIE, a sometimes sweet film, produces a high fidget factor due... Sidewalks Rte 4 in NJ? I find the same thing here near me and Rte 17. When we moved into our house (we're... Odd catch in breathing: worry about asthma Obscurity, linux So just after in another thread I commented that my DS had had a cough for weeks and I wasn't worrying, I'm now worrying :-) For some time (a couple of weeks... Review: Constantine CONSTANTINE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): CONSTANTINE, yet another movie... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child Hello All! There was an interesting discussion today on National Public Radio about parenting trends in the US. A guest speaker, a researcher I believe, spoke about... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 402 Dingo non-working My personal situation...well, I was fortunate. I waited some years before the kids arrived. From about a... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 403 I was both, but mostly because that was how it worked out. I didn't set out to do it any... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 404 I heard the discussion on NPR (the Diane Rehm Show) and there was two sides to the discussion: Mary Eberstadt, research... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 405 Dingo I thought about this some more last night. I wanted to add a few things. First, if you strongly believe the above, then... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 406 Dingo She You are not choosing one over the other. Woman that work still have a family life and still raise their children. You have... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 407 And some mothers who work are lousy parents. Whether you stay home full time or work full time is irrelevant to the discussion... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 408 You are asking about personal experiences, so here goes. I have two daughters, ages 10 and 15. My experience is I could find high quality child care for the girls... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 409 Mothers are not choosing work over family life and raising children any more than fathers who work outside of the home are. Some have outside jobs, some earn money working from home, some stay... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 410 Dingo Public I "Home Alone and more which attention Ugh, what bias! What about fathers? Aren't they a part of this too? Don't they... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 411 This is one you have to decide on the basis of your self knowledge and your situation. I've had friends who decided that they "should" stay home because in theory it was the ideal (although... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 412 There is no easy answer, and what works best varies from family to family. All you can do is really look hard at the pros and cons for your particular situation... mother's dilemma: work vs staying home with a child 413 This is an extremely loaded question you just started. No one can make your decision for you, there are pros and cons to... Review: The Delicate Art of Parking 12 THE DELICATE ART OF PARKING A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): 1-2 In THE... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know Today I had a meeting with DD2's teachers about kindergarten placement next year. DD2 has an autism spectrum disorder and has... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know : 416 The real problem here isn't that you and your husband disagree about proper treatment, the problem is that you have a much more fundamental disagreement: you have accepted... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know : 417 dragonlady other fundamental here can attention his I've snipped most of this advice, although I found it to be excellent. Even before our children are born, we have wonderful... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know : 418 We got the dirty looks BIGTIME with our middle child (who has an autism spectrum problem). He's angellic... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know : 419 The one time I remember getting REALLY angry at someone, I was shopping with the 3 kids, the twins were about 2 and the older one about 5, and we needed groceries. One of... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know : 420 Denise Anderson have to go in Oops, I missed this part. So, he has talked to the teachers, but just doesn't want to hear what they have to say? Sounds like he's... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know : 421 Hang tough. My middle kid is now 11 and has an autism spectrum disorder. He doesn't quite make the Aspbergers "bin" but he's definitely on the... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know shinypenny Well, one doesn't have to act all peey even if one is peeed off ;-) I agree that his feelings deserve respect, and anything he says based on actual information deserves respect. However... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know : 423 Denise Anderson other You're in a tough situation. You really need your DH on the same page with you here. I'd hate to see this tear the family apart. That stress... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know : 424 Banty If guess. to eat it I think you meant "wouldn't" have to eat it, right? Yeah, there was an element of that. But I did... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know : 425 Denise Anderson Oh Denise :-( I'm sorry you are having to deal with another stressful situation!! This seems like such... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know : 426 that is not only cruel, it's likely to cause a huge setback in her behavior & development. if he's not home often & refuses... Special needs kids and family relationshipsVent, questions, I don't know : 427 First of all Denise, you have my emphathy. (((((Hugs))) I totally can understand the husband's... day care vs. livein babysitter 428 Based on the reviews I have read, it appears that Eberstadt equates ANY form of childcare other than care by the mother with abandoning the child. By her way of thinking, a... day care vs. livein babysitter 429 IMHO 'being exposed to' is not the same as being socialized. Dd#3 did not have her children in any kind of child care. When... day care vs. livein babysitter 430 On Mon, 21 Feb 2005 04:06:39 GMT, Rosalie B. I don't know. In the town where I raised my kids, it depended on the neighborhood and the number of kids. Some neighborhoods... 200.00 Cash Award 431 RECEIVE A POSSIBLE GIFT OF $200.00 OR MORE FOR YOUR SUPPORT MAKE JUST A TWO DOLLAR DONATION TO THE EPAC - MOTOR CITY SHOWCASE SPONSORS COMMITTEE; A NON-PROFIT BOOSTERS ORGANIZATION IN SUPPORT OF THE EPAC... 200.00 Cash Award 432 RECEIVE A POSSIBLE GIFT OF $200.00 OR MORE FOR YOUR SUPPORT MAKE A TWO DOLLAR DONATION TO... Lonely Daughter I can completely understand what she must be going through. I was just like her, unfortunately most of my teen years which I still... I don't like you 434 Irene We have twin boys. While my wife and I very consciously try to not have favorites, they have picked their favorites... I don't like you 435 Irene I sometimes have a hard time sometimes deciding It is a hard line to find. I let it go a little to far and now my 5yo can easily fall into a bad tone... I don't like you 436 I don't know; I kind of like it. I've done things like this, too, but not when the kids were three. On particularly bad days... I don't like you 437 I agree. It has to be safe for kids to state their true emotions to their parents and other care givers. Granted, at 3... How to go about hiring a nanny as no I "stole" mine from our health club babysitting service. I had been going there for months, and from my observation, she was one of the only sitters who got... Finger food frustration I'm kinda late responding to this thread, but I just went through the same thing with my ds. I... Foods for Picky Toddler sure he can :) welcome to toddlerhood. first, relax. no normal healthy kid will starve themself. toddlers tend to look like they live... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check Hi all, I have another question about my guy (for those who followed the earlier thread, we're still working on an... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 442 Hi :-) My neighbors kid was a maniac when he was on oral steroids. That woman had the patience of a saint :-) If this... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 443 Sometimes, it's really hard to find appropriate consequences! It has to be something you are willing to follow through on, and something the child cares about -- which will vary from child to... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 444 On Wed, 23 Feb 2005 19:09:49 GMT, dragonlady What she said! I think the key is different for every child, and I've needed to use different strategies for each of... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 445 Sometimes, it's hard to come up with a consequence, because we don't really want to do the consequence. That's... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 446 toypup mess, If the Oh, I'm totally fine with that. I'm not interested in punishing him per se, I just don't want him to get into... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 447 Well, one thing I can think of is: some people like the kid to put away whatever he's finished with before getting anything else out. Others are happy... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 448 But why do you want it not to be fun. If your atbreastude toward cleaning up after yourself is positive, then your son's will be... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 449 really, markers Let me rephrase. I think it's great to start the process, as young as... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 450 IMO at this age you are instilling a learned behavior, a habit or routine. A sense for the way things are done. Slowly that turns into 'expectation's and... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 451 Or counting whatever wants when I I but it Counting worked for my kids as well, and... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 452 Beth Kevles once) gets Possibly. So help me out here... For instance, yesterday he threw all his markers on the floor and wouldn't pick them up... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 453 can't thinking, was the No, I don't think you have to go there. Obviously, consequences and punishments just... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 454 Well, kind of . . . If you have an easy child, this may well work. However, at this age, children are natural solopsists: as far as they are concerned... Toddler Behavior HelpReality Check 455 dragonlady dissatisfying. because are they some statement, later. Sorry, I phrased myself poorly. I agree it would be unrealistic for me to expect him to be motivated at this point by empathy for... Gardening with kids old - seeds? seeds, embarrbutted. Are you going to use the same pad from last year? There are a couple of... Toddler loves Canned Fruits in Sugar Syrup Woodgold) Among the recommendations of the AAP report are that: * when you give your child juice, it should be 100% pasteurized fruit... choosing day care advice needed Hi! I am looking for a day care for my baby (she's now 3 mo, but she'll probably start at daycare... choosing day care advice needed Dingo My 6 month old is in daycare at my place of employment. It's also the same place... Need Advice Sleepless Baby We have a 6 month old baby girl who has been the perfect baby from the beginning. She began sleeping through the night almost... Need Advice Sleepless Baby was 1 Am one of her feeding times.... maybe she still needs a bottle around that time... Teenage daughter missing school bus Hi everyone, This post is for a friend with a 14YO daughter. Her daughter consistently misses the school bus. She's... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 463 My DS is only 7 mo :), but I used to teach in an expulsion program and have dealt with hundreds of... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 464 bizby40 consistently Her mom of bed, that the going, get away doesn't take her This is definitely... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 465 Ultimately, she got kicked out and sent to a continuation high school. This turned out to be good for her -- very small student-teacher ratios, teachers who were creative and cared a lot. (She'd been... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 466 There is no advice that will help if the parents won't follow through with it. My best suggestion is family therapy -- and, possibly... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 467 Banty" I don't agree that driving is a life requirement. It is an individual choice, and there are people that decide not to drive for very legitimate reasons. This particular person may be in... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 468 Well if the Mom could drive, she could just drive the daughter to school and would not have to involve the Dad and that... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 469 I read a story with this scenario in - I think Reader's Digest. The woman managed to get her husband (much bigger and heavier than she was) out of the house and into the car, and... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 470 In general.. I drive fine with DH in the car.. with the kids in the car.. with most anyone I have ever driven with actualy. They pull out a piece of paper and start taking... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 471 Tori, You've listed several excellent reasons why you really do need to go get your license. You can't get a job. You can't get your child to a playgroup. You can't get... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 472 LOL -- thanks for being so polite in pointing out my typo. I used the word again in another post and spelled it right that time! Yes, I agree. For example, someone at Sam's Club today... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 473 Wasn't you necessarily, 'twas Rosalie, in this particular post: Even if you live in an area with public transportation or where... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 474 Is it time for that quote from "Through the Looking Glbutt"? Yes it is! After my sig... Banty ------------------------------- From Lewis Carroll's "Through the Looking Glbutt", quote starting... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 475 Hmmmm -- I didn't use the word "duty", nor would I. That puts it on the level of a moral obligation, and it is not. Learning to clean a toilet... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 476 Well, I did use the word duty. I do think it is wrong to choose not to acquire a skill if by doing so you will... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 477 No one is talking about making a requirement as, in a law. But if, for example, one is living on a dairy... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 478 Banty" common ordinary options to this mom doesn't drive. getting this daughter to activities? She's a... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 479 Banty" not saying that she sure makes it harder. Daughter goes away.) Well, that's good to know, since it seemed that it may have been becoming... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 480 Banty" Of course being limited at the whim of a spouse is a problem. This is purely... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 481 Ruth Baltopoulos just fine. bit the I agree. There may be a very good reason she doesn't drive, and it's one she doesn't wish to share... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 482 toto Instead of making this about mom and her learned helplessness, what about approaching this from DD's helplessness? Maybe a good strategy would... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 483 I posted an entire post on Positive Discipline for teens, but no one answered it so I will repost it here. If she cannot... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 484 toto Interesting thread. I've no advice or experience so haven't been participating but this is interesting. With this issue maybe it varies by state. I... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 485 I know when I was growing up, I had a friend from Kansas and she could drive at 14. I think that is relatively common in the more... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 486 Even if you live in an area with public transportation or where you can bike places, I think everyone who is physically capable (i.e. not blind or something - never have understood... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 487 Rosalie B. (i.e. not Totally OT, I know, but I have a friend who's a taxi driver, and... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 488 On Sat, 26 Feb 2005 05:22:21 GMT, Rosalie B. I don't think it's necessary. Frankly, I wish I didn't have... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 489 Because maybe a car with a gearshift would be all that would be available. They... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 490 I won't quote anyone here, as it is too risky. I may either be accused of misrepresentation or including a quote that did not support my claim. (I would smile here, as I... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 491 I just don't see this happening. These kinds of clbuttes aren't offered all the time in some of the smaller cities like the... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 492 I doubt your friend will be able to do much on her own. I would suggest her church might have some parenting clbuttes that would help, but I don't think that the Fundamentalist... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 493 bizby40 I guess before the parents can do anything, they need to know what she's avoiding at school. Is someone bullying her? Is it because she's doing poorly, and being there... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 494 First of all: they haven't been in the habit of following through, so even if they are going to follow through on this... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 495 DD was home schooled until the 6th grade. She's a very bright girl and did well... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 496 bizby40 and did to up her. she's ever authority. rate. And been It may not be that she's never learned to respect adult authority, but rather, that she is a Keirsey NT rational type... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 497 Mbuttive disclaimer: I have little kids. I don't know 14 year olds! But my thought is that they need... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 498 But she doesn't drive...the hubby works nights... I took it as she's not getting to school. This is a family which just isn't working, even the simple mechanics of daily life. Of course there... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 499 Absent problems, a 14 yo shouldn't need her mom to get her off to school in the morning. That Dad is mad at MOM instead of the girl is... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 500 the get rules...you First of all, that's illegal. You can't kick a kid out of your house until they're 18 in the US. I don't know about Canada. There are a myriad... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 501 Karen Ray-Stewart Hee hee... my immediate thought was to suggest Bizby send her friend to Dr Phil!! Bizby, I think you've buttessed the situation perfectly. Your friend is not stepping up to the... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 502 Yes, I know. But I still think it can help her to hear about concrete options. For example, one book I read (dang it, can't remember what it was) suggested that if you have... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 503 bizby40 concrete it was) in very let go bus, homework or when that, be in the most safety pretty core but the that you're more don't That's basically my own parenting philosophy. :-) because of issue... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 504 Maybe she's just too worn out. When nothing you do seems to be working, when your teenager is willing to be verbally abusive to you, when you are unable... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 505 No apology is necessary. Yes, this is a hot button. Anything that buttumes a problem a... Teenage daughter missing school bus. 506 DD#3 started out as a CS major, but she didn't like the way the CS department handed out the programming buttignments - she liked doing the programming OK (she does like math... Sleeping saga Hi, our DD is a seven-weeks sweetest creature imaginable, she sleeps very well at night (wakes up once in the... Old Baby Stuff 508 eggs I saved it between #1 and #2 (24 mo gap) and then got rid of it all... Old Baby Stuff 509 I had my first two with a 25 month gap, and after the infant stage there were quite a few things that I could not pbutt down because #2... Old Baby Stuff 510 Fortunately, a close friend and her sister in law were having kids at the same time... Old Baby Stuff 511 My mom kept a bunch of stuff which I used for my kids. She smocked some dresses which one of my granddaughters is now wearing - 3rd generation. She... 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SIDS mattress fumes Hasn't anybody here reported the new info about SIDS rests being prevented by wrapping mattresses? Apparently, In... How do you handle Parents that BEAT their kids toto This happened to me once in Macy's. A mom was really losing it, swatting at her kids... THE ULTRA ADVANCED PSYCHOTRONIC MONEY MAGNET Life Technology Research International® www.lifetechnology.org The Psychotronic Money MagnetŽ Ultra Advanced Version 1.0 The Ultimate in Causal Engineering Technology www.lifetechnology.org-ultramoneymagnet.htm Through the aid of... Help! Toddler left in car question I was recently in Tucson with a friend of mine and we went to check on a rental property she owns. Her... Help! Toddler left in car question 522 the neighborhood has nothing to do with it, all neighborhoods are unsafe as soon as a bad person enters them. even if the weather was not a cause for concern, the kid... Help! Toddler left in car question 523 Nope, you're not to blame. You have no obligation to act, though my own personal expectation is that every adult in a child's life... Help! Toddler left in car question 524 P. Tierney in the outside, long." but you yourself. that's example. making loaf P. I have a flexible minute standard. If it's in my own driveway (where we live, inconspicuous carjarkers... Help! Toddler left in car question 525 I'm very conscious of the weather so if it is warm I don't leave mine in the car at all... Help! Toddler left in car question 526 Nikki it in the hour minutes. sleeping took he was way goes if Okay, I'm probably... Help! Toddler left in car question 527 That's pretty much how I see it. If your child is sitting at a picnic table at a park... Help! Toddler left in car question 528 Nikki I tried the "I care about you and your daughter" and I got NOWHERE... Help! Toddler left in car question 529 nimue Actually, your friend made a very good point. It sounds like your husband came with you on the trip and if it is true... Help! Toddler left in car question 530 Well, do you draw the line somewhere, or would this apply to her doing anything at all that had any risk at all of something bad happening... Help! Toddler left in car question 531 Frankly, if anyone (other than a VERY close relative or maybe a friend who actually lived with us) referred to my child as "our girl" -- I'd... Help! Toddler left in car question 532 Lindsay While I agree with you -- lord knows I agree with you! -- that my husband should wear a seatbelt, that was not my friend's concern. She was trying to draw an analogy between her... Help! Toddler left in car question 533 P. Tierney I guess I am pretty understanding. She certainly has NEVER screamed at me (or my answering... Help! Toddler left in car question 534 Carjackings seem to be fairly uncommon crimes, but as these articles show, they do occur at gas pumps as well as at other places. Of course, some of the... Help! Toddler left in car question 535 Right, which is why I was surprised that people did it for the "safety" of their kids. ;-) That said, I don't know the reason behind that rule, but I always buttumed it... Help! Toddler left in car question 536 bizby40 It is: Q: Engine Running Why is it dangerous to leave your car running... Help! Toddler left in car question 537 We hear about cars stolen from gas pumps and with kids in them fairly frequently... Help! Toddler left in car question 538 I have a tendency to make myself "rules" or what really amount to habits, so... Help! Toddler left in car question 539 nimue on a napping, and windows were windows worries me never house back friend that my She she children. I but don't forcefully and concerned about first... Help! Toddler left in car question 540 Its takes one minute for someone to take your child. (yup less then that even) It takes 9 months to create a brother or sister. (and does not replace the child stolen... Help! Toddler left in car question 541 I agree. You can't go back in time of course, but that's what I would... Help! Toddler left in car question 542 I was once on the opposite end of a similar situation. DD is 9. I mentioned to a friend that I... Help! Toddler left in car question 543 to friend. I'm going to go against the grain here and tell you that you should apologize... Help! Toddler left in car question 544 which get child windows toddler again tell men first the It seems Cathy that you... Help! Toddler left in car question 545 Catherine Woodgold What should I apologize for? For making my friend feel criticized? I didn't mean to. I mean -- I am pretty good at apologizing. I just fear that if I say, "I am... Help! Toddler left in car question 546 nimue Sure. I'm not sure exactly how she took it but you have probably figured it out with some time... Help! Toddler left in car question 547 Ah, now I see the situation better. The thing is, different families have different standards. For example, when it comes to swimming, I'm more careful than some other parents. I insist on watching the children... Help! Toddler left in car question 548 if (and You keep asking what we would do, would we leave a toddler in the... Help! Toddler left in car question 549 Cathy Kearns snip I wasn't sure. Furthermore, since my friend didn't seem to think it was, I thought she might know better. I didn't want to offend or embarrbutt her. Anyway, why are you... Help! Toddler left in car question 550 It doesn't seem so to me, when I read what Cathy K. wrote. She doesn't say it was your... Help! Toddler left in car question 551 You did NOT do your best to really protect the baby: your best would have been to stay with the car instead of going inside with Mom. Was it worse... Help! Toddler left in car question 552 dragonlady Yeah -- well, at the time I wasn't sure WHAT to do and you would rather focus on... Help! Toddler left in car question 553 Go back to the beginning. My first posts did NOT comment on your behavior, but only responded to the FIRST question you asked: would we have left a child in... Help! Toddler left in car question 554 toto You do NOT have to say she was wrong. I am not asking people to say she was wrong (and enough said she was to... Help! Toddler left in car question 555 toto MY husband. She and her husband are no longer together. Oh, charming. Not this again. My husband and... Help! Toddler left in car question 556 dragonlady I never knew that. I have buckled up practically all my life -- definitely since I was about 9 or 10 and we had a car accident we survived thanks to seatbelts... Help! Toddler left in car question 557 I found this for you. The law isn't the reason why I* use seatbelts. It makes sense... Help! Toddler left in car question 558 nimue" hand. I guess I providers shouldn't have been fired if in a so-so unacceptable (and it okay for a Child Care Providers must do many things that... Help! Toddler left in car question 559 Ruth Baltopoulos The car was unlocked, parked on a street, and the windows were completely down (Arizona). The mother didn't check on her at all for 15-20 minutes, couldn't... Help! Toddler left in car question 560 I think the point that Sue and Cathy are trying to make is that there are different points of view. I myself never left... Help! Toddler left in car question 561 baby in the car. Yep, I've left them in the car in that situation too. Except that the preschool clbutt was... Help! Toddler left in car question 562 Nan" parents. A them to the Yes, that is excellent! It brings to mind a story from years back, when I used to supply transportation to and from local preschools... Help! Toddler left in car question 563 On Wed, 2 Mar 2005 12:47:57 -0500, "Ruth Baltopoulos" Truth be told, the drop-off line was implemented because parents were dropping their kids off inside too... Help! Toddler left in car question 564 That is conveinent. The preschool situation didn't last but a couple of weeks, as the bus started up and then picked her up in... Help! Toddler left in car question 565 Sue So, you WOULDN'T leave a child unattended and unwatched in a car parked on the street for 20 minutes in a so... Help! Toddler left in car question 566 P. Tierney Oh, for the love of god. What kind of game are you playing here? My... Help! Toddler left in car question 567 I get the impression that you are very worried about your friendship with the child's mother. Whenever one criticizes a person about actions... Help! Toddler left in car question 568 This is the first time you've asked THIS question -- and the answer is no, I would NOT have done what you did. I would have stayed in the car with the baby, explaining that... Help! Toddler left in car question 569 dragonlady Well, then I was wrong in not staying in the car with the baby. I felt that it was wrong to leave the baby alone in... Help! Toddler left in car question 570 You are putting lots of words in my mouth. Nowhere have I compared YOUR behavior to your friend's behavior. Nor do I intend to. You asked what I would... Help! Toddler left in car question 571 I'm not implying anything: I'm saying flat out that I do not believe the approach you used was... Help! Toddler left in car question 572 dragonlady Well, that's extraordinarily helpful -- effective even -- especially after I admitted that myself! How kind of you to keep repeating... Help! Toddler left in car question 573 toto Oh, please. I wasn't sure what to do at the moment -- that happens! Caring for that baby is NOT my job and I... Help! Toddler left in car question 574 That was asked and answered WAYYYY up the thread. Lots of people said that they would mention something... Help! Toddler left in car question 575 So then, why did you respond to me as you did? And why have you kept on this thread of answering that question is the only thing of interest to you... Help! Toddler left in car question 576 Stephanie that perhaps some that no Yeah, I sense she's looking for more too, but not sure what. Maybe she wants her friend to concede... Help! Toddler left in car question 577 nimue newborn was in improperly I NEVER don't wouldn't have A lot of people know very little about proper car seat installation. That's why they have public education campaigns, similar to the campaigns designed to... Help! Toddler left in car question 578 nimue I mostly wouldn't do it because someone would call me in on it ;-) There are certainly situations that would make me feel it was unsafe or to risky to leave... Help! Toddler left in car question 579 dragonlady Two year olds... There was this occasion when we were at a gas station with our 2 and 4 year-olds. We drove to through... Help! Toddler left in car question 580 When I lived in an apartment complex in Tucson I had a neighbor who was a very young single mother. She... Help! Toddler left in car question 581 dragonlady Oh, my god! That happened to me. Once, I heard a faint scratch at my door -- I can't believe I even heard it... Help! Toddler left in car question 582 You are a nice lady. Offering to babysit a neighbor's children while she takes a nap. Not many people out there like that... Help! Toddler left in car question 583 nimue More I'm not trying to defend the practice of leaving kids unsupervised in a car. Since I brought the above issues up I did... Help! Toddler left in car question 584 dragonlady I really am not concerned about being right. I just want her daughter to be protected and I do not think she was... Help! Toddler left in car question 585 Tori M. This must be what she is hearing. When I say, "I am concerned about your leaving the baby unattended in the car" she hears "I am... Help! Toddler left in car question 586 Cathy Kearns No, not really. I do not think it is reasonable nor does anyone else... Help! Toddler left in car question 587 P. Tierney Because what she described as ok was not the situation I described. A lot of people are kind of dodging my original question by answering another one I didn't... Help! Toddler left in car question 588 Nimue, Are you really still honestly looking for the answer to this question? Are you trying to take a survey? Will you tabulate the results? I haven't kept track of... Help! Toddler left in car question 589 Sue Why are you trying to imply that I think I would be a perfect parent? I... Help! Toddler left in car question 590 nimue the alone to, oh, was she first unwatched protect that Just throwing this anecdote in here. Not cars, and not hot Tuscon weather, but sorta similar idea: We know a couple... Suggestions was Help! Toddler left in car question P. Tierney" I totally and completely 1000% agree. I think that this is what irks me; the implication that perhaps you are ignorant and unknowing, hence your... Help! Toddler left in car question 592 I wouldn't think 'shove it' but I might laugh. Because I think it would be kind of... Help! Toddler left in car question 593 nimue I think you are getting a little carried away. In most driveways of houses the only real safety issue is overheating or freezing to rest. The likelihood that someone is going to snatch... Help! Toddler left in car question 594 Good idea. Here's a further tip: When you're thinking of saying something you know is sensitive and might end the... Help! Toddler left in car question 595 In what way will walking away from the friendship further that end? You cannot change your friend's primary... Help! Toddler left in car question 596 dragonlady Oy vey! I don't WANT to do that! I never said I wanted to do that! I do feel kind of weird, though. Her message was so, well, mean -- really, really... Help! Toddler left in car question 597 shinypenny Wow -- that makes a whole lot of no sense at all. Are you suggesting that I am really angry just because she was mean to me? Hey -- I KNEW that was a... Help! Toddler left in car question 598 the I The She and I have weathered so much together -- her negligence once caused me some serious hurt, but I forgave her and since then have learned to... Help! Toddler left in car question 599 nimue while half bad bear OVER your own story A and people in the foothills, I of the was on this as their parked street information I... Help! Toddler left in car question 600 Tori M. Nothing has changed in my story. Nothing. Do not, please, insinuate that I am... Help! Toddler left in car question 601 toto Oh, lord. Yes -- that would have been a good thing to do. Indeed, I... Help! Toddler left in car question 602 See, it's this sort of defensive, rather unpleasant response to a mild post that is making... Help! Toddler left in car question 603 Of course it isn't her responsibility. She ASKED what I would do, or what she might have... Help! Toddler left in car question 604 I don't think the fact that you are a non-parent plays that big of a role. It's just that many, if not most... Help! Toddler left in car question 605 nimue cannot concerns street I might - but admittedly it would be a long shot with some extraneous circumstances. Such as, baby has not... Help! Toddler left in car question 606 Catherine Woodgold in the the or minutes. a And I wholeheartedly agree! But also realize we live in... Help! Toddler left in car question 607 So, if a friend said to you that leaving your baby in the car for... Help! Toddler left in car question 608 nimue minutes my do -- is We all makes I can see how she might react (overreact) defensively and insist what... Review: Up and Down UP AND DOWN A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): Jan Hrebejk's UP AND DOWN (HOREM PÁDEM), the Czech Republic's official submission for the Academy Award for Best Foreign... Contemplating major relocation Before I start in with my questions, let me to introduce myself. My appreciate all the knowledge sharing that happens everyday on this group. We have 2 little ankle biters: emma who... Contemplating major relocation Hi Trish! I second Dorothy about taking this question to alt.aus.parents. There has been a lot of posts on... Flying with a 3 month old and a breast pump I have a chance to go to an out of town workshop in a few weeks, which happens to be in a place that we have friends who haven't gotten to meet Alli yet, so... Flying with a 3 month old and a breast pump 613 JJ listening DD Wow, people are unbelievable. I would've been tempted to make something up - like, "Gosh, I know that people... Flying with a 3 month old and a breast pump 614 Wow, people are unbelievable. I would've been tempted to make something up - like, "Gosh, I know that people... Flying with a 3 month old and a breast pump 615 Donna, Most of your questions have been answered, but I will tell you that i have never had a problem with the pump through security... Flying with a 3 month old and a breast pump 616 Donna Metler I flew with Hunter at 3mos. I checked mine at the door of the plane and got it right as we landed. In hindsite I would have sent it with the luggage because... Flying with a 3 month old and a breast pump 617 At three months, I would recommend checking the carseat. Your baby will be happier on your lap, or in your arms, I would imagine. I never found strollers that useful, and I certainly wouldn't check... Flying with a 3 month old and a breast pump 618 Donna Metler We almost always buy a seat. First, its safer. Second, my girls both readily fall (fell) asleep in the car... Flying with a 3 month old and a breast pump 619 Donna Metler She the stop, look out snuggle I've done a lot of 1-hour flights with babies, I think it is tons easier to check the car seat, especially... Flying with a 3 month old and a breast pump 620 We've flown 3 times with Micah (he's 3 1-2 months) and it's been pretty easy. 1. We bring the carseat with us to the plane; if there are extra... ADHD Question 621 LadyCynthiaKay a are I think there's a group for ADHD and you might get better answers there. To my knowledge, you don't outgrow it, but that doesn't mean your child is... ADHD Question 622 shinypenny to Oops.. sorry for the self-reply, but I realized I mistyped: they said "likely... Raising children Being too soft to them My question is - If I am too soft to my child, will he became a weak person when he grows up. I think I am a... Raising children Being too soft to them 624 tiredmom way. Sounds to me as though your son is just sensitive like you and your dh - seems perfectly natural to me... FAO Melania was Raising children Being too soft to them 625 Sue was a and how brother. This Hi Sue! Okay, just got off the phone... FAO Melania was Raising children Being too soft to them 626 Sue that was. for a tune it front, He spanked work have never with was change... FAO Melania was Raising children Being too soft to them 627 Sue were that's a (more a was but music his too). mom him challenging loves when we more problems. give me That... Raising children Being too soft to them 628 tiredmom "You don't make someone strong by stamping on them, you just make dents in their soul". Probably... limits, discipline, preschooler 101 Here I am again with DS and discipline. DS has a problem with "listening." You say something, if he likes what you are saying, he responds. If not, he pretends not to have heard. Well... limits, discipline, preschooler 101 630 On Tue, 1 Mar 2005 10:53:29 -0500, "Stephanie Stowe" Yep, that was me. You have to stop talking and take action, but.... I would not use we have... limits, discipline, preschooler 101 631 Stephanie Stowe I've done a few different things depending on the age, kid, and situation. I'll share those to see if any fit for you and your son but... limits, discipline, preschooler 101 632 We discovered an answer to this by accident. It goes back to cats being irritating and asking to go out, then sitting there and considering whether they really wanted to or not when the... limits, discipline, preschooler 101 633 When we hit power struggles with our two year old, this is exactly what we do. Son, please pick up your coat. (me standing, him playing with... limits, discipline, preschooler 101 634 Hi Stephanie- I'm going to tell you what I do with my daughter, but please know that my toddler parenting... limits, discipline, preschooler 101 635 Mary Ann Tuli "listening." not, he he internalize runs to whatever he on. No on. and face I've started doing this with my 2yo... If the teacher is Miss Herfirstname . . . 636 I was always Mrs. DHsLastname when I was a teacher and swim coach. And when we were at practice, my kids... If the teacher is Miss Herfirstname . . . 637 Here's the thing: Up until 30 or 40 years ago, there were rules of ettiquite that dictated how you address whom. It was considered proper to address... If the teacher is Miss Herfirstname . . . 638 My mom told me that a woman only used her first name with the man's last name if she was divorced. Widows absolutely retain the right to be Mrs. DeceasedhusbandsFN DeceasedhusbandsLN... If the teacher is Miss Herfirstname . . . 639 toypup This varies a lot by region I think. I had a neighbor from the south and she taught her kids to call me Miss Nikki. She herself called me Nikki. That is... If the teacher is Miss Herfirstname . . . 640 toypup In my experience with teachers, one of two things happens: 1) We're really on a first name basis, but with the kids around I call the... If the teacher is Miss Herfirstname . . . 641 but which best my like I don't think that what the kids call the teacher should have any bearing on... If the teacher is Miss Herfirstname . . . 642 Different situation. Of course you don't want to be called by someone else's name. Yes. People here have shown an aversion to showing respect because it sets up an inequality. In some situations... If the teacher is Miss Herfirstname . . . 643 bizby40 Miss L** is called Miss prefer to be actually a someone told to it sets That's... If the teacher is Miss Herfirstname . . . 644 Stephanie Stowe even feel Myfirstname, Herfirstname, What is herself as I just with, so call calls... If the teacher is Miss Herfirstname . . . 645 Ericka Kammerer . . It is so much a cultural thing, isn't it? I think it's charming, but it would feel so awkward here, because it's not at all part... Review: The Jacket THE JACKET A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): "I was twenty-seven years old the first time I died," Jack Starks (Adrien... Review: Millions MILLIONS A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * Most kids can spout things like sports statistics but not Damian Cunningham (Alexander Nathan... Annie's Mailbox" followup On getting kids to eat Hey cool, that is pretty close to what we do. I try to balance various values: -- Don't waste food (done by not serving too much) -- Each person knows... Article that might be interesting Given the threads about the safety of certain things and comments from one parent to another on what is safe and what is not, I thought this article might be of interest. It... Article that might be interesting 650 toto Lol. That makes me a little nuts too. Our kids have helmets of course... Article that might be interesting 651 My dad has pbutted away, but my mom used to say that when we called and asked "Is Dad there?" that she knew it was something serious. My mom is... Article that might be interesting 652 depends on the state. 17 states have bicycle helmet laws, NY & MA exempt kids under one year, the rest require them at least until age 12, but most until 16... Article that might be interesting 653 Using THESE benchmarks, neither DH nor I were "adults" until we were 30. I was self supporting from the age of 19 (got an... Article that might be interesting 654 dragonlady 30. my a and 30. and PhD was I A few thoughts - I recently saw an article (I forget where, possibly the Utne Reader) about... Article that might be interesting 655 I had a job from 11 yo (paper route) to today. I wanted to make sure I understood what Banty meant before replying. In addition to... Article that might be interesting 656 As an aside apprenticeships often came with room and board, so yes there were 'monetary' rewards.) There are opportunities to do all sorts of things, but that's not quite what I mean by... Article that might be interesting 657 Stephanie age at numbers of purpose of was a was I aid the Well, there's a lot of... Google giving out addresses for phone numbers This has long been available from other sites less well known than google. reverse searches on phone number and both... Free Games Gamevilla.com offers a comprehensive directory of free online games from the web. We try to identify free games that are relevant to our... Review: The Pacifier * 12 THE PACIFIER A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 Why did they think Vin Diesel, a guy with the emotive power of a rock... groups for teens 661 I am sorry to hear that alt.teens has turned into a spam dump for love. I used... groups for teens 662 I emailed you and if you wish to vent or talk, I am open to that. I told you a little of my... telecommuting with kids at home 663 the working Yes, that can certainly be the case. IME, it depends on the company and situation. In my current situation, I report out to... telecommuting with kids at home 664 I never telecommuted with the kids at home, since my first full time job was teaching and the kids were already all in school. I did however... telecommuting with kids at home 665 the I think parents sometimes labor under the mistaken impression that they'll be able to get away without paying for childcare if they telecommute. And that did work for me when I was... telecommuting with kids at home 666 Circe they'll And week, nap. I to midnight I wanted to agree with Circe and others on this point. I... telecommuting with kids at home 667 Nikki because...well extended time. Well, unless you have a crockpot. :-) Crockpot saves me several times a week. in the office I think that probably is the biggest downside, especially when... telecommuting with kids at home 668 well One of the things my boss brought up to me as a concern when I was first hired was whether I could work by myself. His wife apparently... telecommuting with kids at home 669 Rosalie B. stressful to For me I find that because I don't have that hour drive when I work from home... telecommuting with kids at home 670 It's very common. Telecommuting partially for overtime or to cover school closings, etc. is very common where I work. Some people dont' do... telecommuting with kids at home 671 shinypenny Yes, in spades. I work part time, most of it from home. Because I average about... sharing affection 672 I took great pains to not only give each child individual attention but to also give them lots... sharing affection 673 Generally don't even bother with you shouldn't Just say, we always use gentle hands to touch people or animals and take her hand and show her how its done... Help! Toddler left in car question new Sorry about starting at the top. OE is giving me grief this far down the thread... after I... Weepy 5 yo My 5 yo son has reached the dreaded milestone of coughing his way out of going to school. I felt bad for him and bought into it. He ended up at... Weepy 5 yo 676 Kevin I agree with the other posters who said, "Let him quit," but I would wait until he starts using the avoidance behavior again. Then take him aside... Weepy 5 yo 677 Personally, I would not make my kid face whatever deamon is driving him to avoidance until such time as he could understand what... Weepy 5 yo 678 Tori M. place. together then to If this is a let's just get together and learn; it doesn't matter... Weepy 5 yo 679 Can I suggest that putting a five-year-old in the latter sort of team is really, really STUPID? And who are the idiots who offer them for that age group anyway? As... Weepy 5 yo 680 Then there's the issue of who really made the committment in the first place. Is this something the child ASKED to do? Something the... Weepy 5 yo 681 Can't say for sure about the OPs situation, but generally in America they do not keep score at T... Weepy 5 yo 682 Actually, now that I think about it, it ALWAYS came out even, because, while there were two "teams" scheduled to play, the two... Weepy 5 yo 683 Ah, now, that might have been a better way do do it. 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Mine is three and still likes me (or someone else) to play with her most... playing in the yard with a toddler 694 I would let them be in the front (but not the side) if I was mowing in the back, because we have a large 2... playing in the yard with a toddler 695 Rosalie B. in enough. My tolerance is even lower - I wouldn't have my kids in the yard AT ALL while using a regular or riding mower. To me, it's not just the debris issue, but... playing in the yard with a toddler 696 I'm still not buying it, but YMMV. I know kids who are only allowed to play outside in their back yard because their mom doesn't want them anywhere near the street... playing in the yard with a toddler 697 scribbled: My 5 year old is good about understanding and following rules as well. However, she does have a tendency to become engrossed in her... playing in the yard with a toddler 698 snip Well, there are undeniably risks with mowers, but there are also degrees of safety. buttuming that the children follow whatever rules are in... playing in the yard with a toddler 699 Depends on their ages. If they are young enough that they might just run off... Risk taking, was playing in the yard with a toddler First I was not in the debate about the safety or lack thereof of leaving a child sleeping in a car. The issue with safety in the car situation was... playing in the yard with a toddler 701 seem an I think that buttumption that small children will follow what ever rules are in place is... playing in the yard with a toddler 702 bizby40" outside', 'inside likely to get only allowed doesn't want them never had any danger-based rules stove-oven that being right in the kids -- if they pretty easily. kids have I... playing in the yard with a toddler 703 Banty used.. Well, since there's no labor involved (you just wheel it out to the yard, using the remote control, and turn it on), and it... GoogleSafe A New Kid Safe Search I have a disclaimer at the bottom of GoogleSafe with the same text as other sites, like GoogleGuide. The site is not endorsed by Google. However, Google... Review: Downfall DOWNFALL A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO *): * DOWNFALL (DER UNTERGANG) was... Review: Dust to Glory DUST TO GLORY A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * "Spectator hit by motorcycle at mile nine," the radio dispatcher relays to the paramedics and then... Review: Nobody Knows 12 NOBODY KNOWS A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): 1-2 In the beginning of NOBODY KNOWS... opinions DS just started preschool. This is a teaching preschool, so they tend to use the latest teaching concepts... opinions 709 toypup Yes, it would sound rude IMO. Teaching a young child to be loud and forceful in such a situation is inappropriate. I would think... opinions 710 verbally age, DS manner. I I agree that it's best for the OP to model more polite language... opinions 711 hobbes "STOP" I would save for really big issues, like children hurting each other, or a parent to a child when touching something hot. If you're... opinions 712 Well, DS is going through a phase of pushing and shoving to buttert himself. I agree with Jodi, here... What to do about september birthday if anything In order to start school here, my son has to be 5 by September 1st. His birthday... What to do about september birthday if anything 714 jojo asked. each day. day. tell me The way I look at it (and no, I'm not an educator, just a parent), kids this age develop at different rates... What to do about september birthday if anything 715 Socially kids are learning many ways to respond to the world. Socially Competent Preschoolers Picture the well-liked, friendly children in the preschool clbuttrooms of your experience. What do you notice... What to do about september birthday if anything 716 Jeanne Yang out the arbitrary and have kindergarten ... around here that is sort-of built into the system (as I understand it). Indiana has one of the earlier cut-off dates in... What to do about september birthday if anything 717 In order to start school here, my son has to be 5 by September 1st. His birthday is September 9th. Which will basically put him... What to do about september birthday if anything 718 My older daughter's birthday is 9-9, also. However, where we were living when she started school, the cutoff date was 10-1. (It was later moved... What to do about september birthday if anything 719 My older daughter's birthday is 9-9, also. However, where we were living when she started school, the cutoff date was 10-1. (It was later moved.) So she graduated from high school at 17... What to do about september birthday if anything 720 Now wait - there's nothing in what you said that doesn't apply in the other examples. Especially since fraudsters are ulikely to acknowledge... What to do about september birthday if anything 721 I disagree. Right, but it does* have an effect. The finances of the matter can be traced. In example given that upset you, trace it. Not using the unsupportable slippery-slope examples that... What to do about september birthday if anything 722 Of COURSE you do. "oooo -but really ,now, is it really enough so that everyone reaaaally can't kick in a little bit to help poor Mr. Fraudster? And the insurance companies are alll in it... What to do about september birthday if anything 723 Because it's illegal to make a copy of a birth certificate, they can't require parents to produce an extra notarized copy. They can only require the certificate itself. So I don't see how... What to do about september birthday if anything 724 I agree that it isn't in the same category as insurance fraud. You were in school the... What to do about september birthday if anything 725 israeli says... Well, careful about this. One would condone in severe times stealing a loaf of bread to feed one's... What to do about september birthday if anything 726 Well, careful about this. One would condone in severe times stealing a loaf of bread to feed one's children. The... What to do about september birthday if anything 727 And you don't restate your positions in threads? If not, my apologies for doing so here. I could trace the financial costs of fraud, and how they effect the consumers, to... What to do about september birthday if anything 728 That won't get them in earlier than allowed -- and, although I can't imagine that being important enough to me to... What to do about september birthday if anything 729 One acceptable answer would be a child who wants to move up because all their friends in church are one grade higher, AND who appears to... What to do about september birthday if anything 730 Stephanie It's all tied up in the high stakes testing game. Folks have voted for having "accountability" through testing. The... What to do about september birthday if anything 731 it right right Does what? Breaks rules? If that is a problem then I am guilty and proud of it. If you are talking about lying, then we are talking about another matter... What to do about september birthday if anything 732 There is no moral claim be dishonest on a birth certificate, sorry. It's fraud for convenience. Again, I didn't have the maturity to understand... What to do about september birthday if anything 733 it right right I did not say anything about following all the rules. I have... What to do about september birthday if anything 734 I was 17 when I graduated, too, having just turned in the March of that year. I most certainly wasn't one of the popular girls, either... What to do about september birthday if anything 735 Banty and no. skills, and yes was very IQ kids the kids are kids that needs, interests so are the I'm going to save this one and have my DF... What to do about september birthday if anything 736 I agree with this wholeheartedly. It used to be true that kids at least had many ages of cousins or friends they played with in neighborhoods. I think that is less and less true. School... What to do about september birthday if anything 737 Right. Even if he is a slower starter (and it don't sound like it), he's not a slower finisher probably. But children don't develop on... What to do about september birthday if anything 738 I used to be big on starting kids early. My daughter with an October birthday started Kinder at age 4. Good... What to do about september birthday if anything 739 As someone who did redshirt my son, I didn't find this to be the case at all. Of... What to do about september birthday if anything 740 Banty little done a Good and restless high school first grader through puberty case with because his them, they clbuttmates... What to do about september birthday if anything 741 Oh absolutely. But the push for a few years had been to hold kids, especially boys, back even if they'r ready academically. Rather than to accelerate them. But if you... What to do about september birthday if anything 742 asked. day. me He sounds advanced for a 2.5yo. My 3yo can do only a handful of these things (though he hasn't had any of the exposures that kids in daycare often get... What to do about september birthday if anything 743 be, academic old I don't have to imagine it; I live it. My second grader is a 97th+ percentile kid. He's one of... What to do about september birthday if anything 744 On Thu, 10 Mar 2005 12:14:01 -0500, "Stephanie" Asking my preschool mailring.. Most of the coloring, cutting and gluing in... What to do about september birthday if anything 745 shinypenny Oh I don't know. Hunter did only the bare minimum of coloring in pre-school and never did it at home. He was reluctant in the first half of kindergarten, doing only what... What to do about september birthday if anything 746 those and early as hee) Your son and my oldest are definitely cut from the same cloth: he hated coloring with a pbuttion. (Of course, now that he... What to do about september birthday if anything 747 does IME, not at all. (My oldest mastered the mouse at age 18 months or thereabouts. He loves computers and computer games and plays a lot of them. His fine motor skills... Review: In My Country * 12 IN MY COUNTRY A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 Filled with gut-wrenching stories told to South Africa's apartheid... Review: Be Cool * 12 BE COOL A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO... Review: Paper Clips 12 PAPER CLIPS A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): 1-2 Some things... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo My son is in daycare-preschool. I was talking to his teacher the other day. I was asking what skills were expected going into kindergarten after preschool. The teacher... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 752 DS has just turned four, is very similar intellectually to your little boy, and has good gross motor... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 753 day. My daughter had all of those down by the time she was 3.5, despite having a learning... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 754 Stephanie Just because the criteria for getting into grade X are somewhat limited doesn't mean that that's all they cover in... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 755 I'm pretty sure that I was reading or almost reading by the time I was in kindergarten. And I'm positive that my sister was reading then because... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 756 Stephanie I mean that I would let him take the lead in picking up academic stuff. I wouldn't be suggesting he work on academics. I wouldn't... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 757 I am not sure I understand the thinking here. I am inclined to buttume that my thinking is not clear, since you often make so much sense to me. But if he wants to learn... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 758 Stephanie I think you should only go there if he is demanding to do it. In other words, don't refuse if he wants to do something, but don't offer. He'll likely still take the lead... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 759 that if to are of with when he that I don't think that is true... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 760 Stephanie Aim so low?! I don't know about where you are, but I don't think the standards here are low. I actually think that creeping featurism has made them too... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 761 Acedemically I agree. I think what we should be aiming at is reaching of potential, not a... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 762 Stephanie You know, I think you have to take those studies with a huge grain of... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 763 compare You know, this is sort of a separate issue, but I really don't think American students compare nearly as poorly to other developed countries as people seem to believe. True, American... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 764 I've been watching this too, and I think its' a really dangerous line. I went... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 765 OK, I probably shoudln't have arrogated to speak for you and say "like Stephanie" :) Right - I'm not against wide exposure, encouraging a kid to stretch a bit, or anything like that... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 766 And I don't see quite so much reason to worry about it all. Should that athletic dad I brought up not show his athletic son his football skills... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 767 Banty I think that the athletic dad should play ball with his kid if the kid wants to play ball. I... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 768 Banty Depends. Are they doing it so much that the child is missing out on other important things? Is the child compromising his or her future as a result? If... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 769 that amended going something positive thing, bit, parent parent there's o of accepted Shalt sort you worrying (or That's usenet. I read me the way you read me. the school. walked had have the... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 770 Stephanie No, of course you should match your expectations to his abilities. As an example, both my sons are long in math. I could spend our spare time offering to... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 771 Banty I do agree that there's danger in this direction as well. I worry about it more from the parents' perspective than from the child's perspective. I don't see the value in forcing... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 772 me with She put a lot think of strengths, interest too It was we're not you're you're prodigies. being "too and acceptable and gone that I Why would you want to... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 773 good not atbreastude value athletics and compebreastion? I'm not saying you have to like sports for yourself, but if your child decides he likes playing soccer or basketball or football and... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 774 not for basketball value I certainly would value his excellence in it. I simply do not... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 775 you I think if you value academics more than you value athletics, you will value academic excellence more than athletic excellence... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 776 not* sports I value it Indeed. I do not think things need to be valued equally. If football were interferring with school work, we would... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 777 Right. But suppose, for a hypothetical moment, that you had a child who was exceptionally gifted at (say) football and only average in academics. Would you buttume that he was only average in... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 778 I think it depends on where the kid is in school. What would matter to me for elementary school is whether the kid could read and do math appropriately. If he-she didn't want to... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 779 That I would encourage all endeavors, and try to teach some prioritization. Like, he or she may need to... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 780 just as, on an preconceived I'll take this argument one step further, though, and say that in some cases, I... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 781 Sidheag McCormack Yeah, that one is definitely even squirrellier. For me, that one lies between the other two options. I wouldn't accept sacrificing as much academic achievement for a hobby as I would... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 782 I think that if the young person is really interested that it is too early to determine whether he or she really has talent or not. There are lots of roles one can fill... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 783 On Sat, 12 Mar 2005 21:34:21 GMT, Rosalie B. Speaking of ice skating, I see that we now have a recommendation... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 784 I feel backwards on the ice (but I was older than 6) and knocked myself out for... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 785 Stephanie I dunno...that definition seems to line up with Barbara's usage more than yours to me ;-) There are... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 786 Stephanie Well, I was using athletics as a shorthand for fitness and activity (it doesn't necessarily mean organized sports--it just means relating to physical activity). I think it's important that... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 787 not I must have misunderstood you. I thought you were saying that I should actively seek things I do not value to... question or maybe ramble about my 4yo 788 Stephanie No, just saying that you shouldn't automatically perpetuate your own disinterests, or allow your own pbuttions to drive your children's. I think it depends on the activity in question. 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Review: Steamboy * 12 STEAMBOY A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): 1-2 STEAMBOY, an action adventure anime from Japanese master Katsuhiro Ôtomo, has as... Making a family vacation during the school year educational I've been meaning to start this thread, now after seeing some comments on another thread, I worry I might be opening up a hornet's nest with this question, but here goes anyway. We are... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 802 shinypenny out the in for Since they are only missing 4 days of school, I wouldn't worry too much about homework. Most teachers I know would say "go and enjoy the experience." We lived in... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 803 Stephanie" important to do. If not sure why that things that trouble Well, there are opinions and there are buttertions... was once in a life probably would not couple of days and be... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 804 get-stuff do The things we think are really, really important tend to get our emotions up. Personally, I cannot engage in rational... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 805 Sue Obviously (to me, anyway), it is the students' and parents' responsibility to catch up without demanding extra time of the teacher (aside from having the teacher list the topics and... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 806 the Two things here: 1. In my experience, it's rare for a clbutt to cover so much ground in a particular subject in (say) a week that kids who miss that week would be... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 807 Yep, sure is. There you go. It just took a smidgen of thought about how your decision may impact others using the same school system or trying to teach in it, administer it, and make... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 808 Well, personally I have no sympathy with the last reason, although in general I don't have my child miss during testing. In general... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 809 toto parent-teacher conference yesterday, and told the teacher about our trip. She said it should be no problem, and... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 810 As you say, I don't think there should be a complete ban. I'm not sure what you mean by 'frivolous absence' but, yes, I think there... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 811 the moved absence, be what very extra workload, schools truly Like special The volume of absences has... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 812 Around here (Bay area, California) there ARE rules -- and they are harsh. The ONLY excused... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 813 says... You're in a school with a large military cohort - no? (I may be wrong, but that's what I recall.) I grew up in schools like that until... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 814 Otherwise Let me give some examples.. The Friday afternoon before the winter holiday my daughter's elementary school scheduled the elections for student body president, vp, etc. The teachers... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 815 Tracey It isn't. It's just that you increase the volume of such requests for teachers if skipping school for family vacations and... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 816 I tend to side with Banty and the "don't take your kids out of school" bunch. Especially in this day and age of testing testing... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 817 On Sat, 12 Mar 2005 10:52:42 -0500, "Bruce Bridgman and Jeanne Yang" I am on the complete other side. We live in Europe, my kids go... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 818 Two of my three children would have a hard time catching up. One child was in the hospital... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 819 Sue could they I hate traveling at Thanksgiving and Xmas. Those weeks are person times, because... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 820 Sue for there are there don't I think this is a valid point, and something parents should definetly consider. I'm not worried about DD12 - she is... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 821 No -- but having the kids home from school when it's miserable outside is just not a... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 822 Well, we do most of our travelling at spring break, but only because we are lucky enough to get a two-week school... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 823 Sorry, but it's just not the way I think. I'll take the two trips that cost $5,000... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 824 And my Wisconsin extended family plans around the late June dismissals in some parts of the country, the rather early mid-August starts in much of the midwest, and to avoid the EAA... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 825 You know, I've missed this thread in previous lives I guess, obviously some folks have issues. Bottom line is if my son ( or daughter) is progressing in school, is willing to make... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 826 some midwest, much our plans. couple keeping non-perfections and extended part of year-round 15? want of the cost Phooey on Schools here start very early... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 827 Look, as far as I'm concerned (and I know many who will disagree) parents have two responsibilities with respect to school: 1. Make sure that if your kids are enrolled in... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 828 There's a really simple reason those rules exist, though. To wit, the schools get their funding based on head counts... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 829 They irritate me to no end. We don;t have them here, but when we lived in Plano Texas briefly, they were extremely unbending. One of... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 830 Banty Yes. Between my kids and my nieces, we have only part of July when... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 831 OK - plan it for that part of July. I haven't seen a family reunion that perfectly... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 832 Banty That works for now, but how much longer? When the kids started school, we had 8 or 9 weeks... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 833 Depending on the vacation, then yes, I would certainly say that it is "equally" as important as school. If my family can only get to see my inlaws once every... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 834 Banty Oh, if only it were than convenient. Lots of those days "off" are just regular weekend days... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 835 think In our family, the biggest consideration of when to travel is based on when my DH can get time off of work. For many... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 836 Banty Ours was shorter this year. ...the holidays screw up lots of travel plans, especially... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 837 says... Spring had nonexistent, people November, and the My district has "Fair Day", which is a teacher workday-inservice day... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 838 I have been to a place in Western Maryland where the whole workforce is scheduled so that the guys can take off from November to... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 839 Banty You know, I think some of them really don't. They tend to be older folk (empty nesters not in... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 840 Uh-oh. I didn't realize my frustrations were so transparent. :) In theory, I'm a public school person - I went through... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 841 Banty Taking Kids one - - is Yes. My friends spend their entire summer here in the... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 842 shinypenny out P.s. any advice on traveling with 10 and 12 year olds also much appreciated... Making a family vacation during the school year educational 843 Aha. 10 and 12 year olds. 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Perspective 859 If you have a system, it's much better to keep using the system all the time, than to slip out... Perspective 860 Sue No, it is absolutely reasonable for you to expect them to take part in the work needed to keep the family going. Absolutely not. I... Perspective 861 Sue I don't know first hand about any of this stuff with mine being so little. My cousin has three girls...all a bit older now but they moved... Perspective 862 so quite It's good to know that my kids are not the only ones that are messy. My sister was messy growing up, but she is... Perspective 863 Despite their strewn that move. are do. own, have mention Their the up in My kids are younger, but we use 123Magic. We've come up with the following for toy mess: They clean up their... Perspective 864 Despite their strewn Love him or hate him, there was an interesting article from John Rosemond a... Perspective 865 a that I have tried that and basically they don't care if they have their... 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VENT Why do people make things difficult 909 Banty minutes with the weekend like the I can be chatty, but I have to be in the mood to chat on the phone, or forget it. I'd much prefer calling... VENT Why do people make things difficult 910 My ds is like that, and he doesn't answer the phone either. I have to call him at work to be sure to actually talk... VENT Why do people make things difficult 911 I've volunteered in Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts (just gave a set of seminars and activities for the Weather Badge for my troop), and you know what? This has gotten to be... VENT Why do people make things difficult 912 Banty That's usually my solution too, but it is a luxury to be able to use it as a solution ;-) As far as people being flakes, some are... VENT Why do people make things difficult 913 Well, $10 is a little much, I'm sure the parents involved did a little calculation in their head as to how many kids x 10 = a lot more than a picture frame. I know you... 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Question about preschool policy 920 Ericka Kammerer I'd define severe in two different ways. My global definition of severe would be... Question about preschool policy 921 Heck, my kids weren't even overly upset by biting. My older daughter got bit quite a number of times in... Question about preschool policy 922 Ericka Kammerer A large part of how I'd react would depend on how extreme this behavior was. My son (2 1-2) is in a full-day day care, and just from morning and evening... Question about preschool policy 923 One thing I'd also like to see-if a child has developmental issues, they are usually going to be eligible for services via the public school system... Question about preschool policy 924 If you don't mind, I'd appreciate some input on this issue. * * If you had a two year old in a preschool clbutt (2 half days a week... Question about preschool policy 925 Hillary Israeli * * * How would you define "safety"? Never being hit? Oh, not at all. I expect preschoolers to occasionally kick, hit, bite, push, shove, and generally engage in other... Question about preschool policy 926 Ericka Kammerer I think I'd go by my kid's reaction. If the child didn't consider it serious or a problem, I would pretty much not worry. If the child was upset, I would... Question about preschool policy 927 Ericka Kammerer zero I I'm completely in favor of teachingsocializing them out of it...if that's what the preschool is doing. What I would have a problem with is a child who is on... Question about preschool policy 928 Ruth Baltopoulos once aggression wrong find I think it would depend. There are programs that are perfectly acceptable, but don't work... Question about preschool policy 929 Most kids really do enjoy being around other kids once they get over the initial anxiety. I do think that persistence is a good thing so trying an activity... Question about preschool policy 930 toto a isn't Ye-es, I think all of that is true - when it's necessary. At the same time, I don't blame teachers for suggesting that... Question about preschool policy 931 Hmm...that could take months - in some cases I've seen, about 4-6 months. Let me say that the wailing (volume and time) does decrease with time but some sensitive children just cry... Question about preschool policy 932 Bruce Bridgman and Jeanne Yang While I'll agree that it isn't a problem per say I don't... Question about preschool policy 933 Penny Gaines I don't think it's been that sort of a situation. I don't think the teachers had been outright ignoring anything, but I think that because they didn't believe that the suggestions... Question about preschool policy 934 Ericka Kammerer That is really the same sort of thing. It is worse actually because now... Question about preschool policy 935 Nikki I agree. The one teacher has left (voluntarily, though unhappily). The new buttistant is on board. It remains to be seen if the lead teacher is... Question about preschool policy 936 I'm a good deal more lax about this. And possibly it has to do with something that happened with my oldest one. I... Question about preschool policy 937 Banty I suppose I'll come clean ;-) I sit on an oversight board for a preschool. We've recently lost an buttistant teacher... Question about preschool policy 938 Ericka- I have no experience with 2 yo's and hitting (yet:), but i wanted to speak to the teacher's situation, because... Question about preschool policy 939 Banty I would agree with this. My big concern in this area is that the problem is worse than it appears and that there's a communication problem of one sort of another that... Question about preschool policy 940 Wow, complicated situation. It sounds as though you have a special-needs child in a situation where the teachers don't... Question about preschool policy 941 Yes, basically. When the 2yo program merged with the 3-4yo program, the 3-4yo program was accustomed to dealing with special... Question about preschool policy 942 It's been a lot of factors working in both directions: - A nearby area of high growth has started to have more preschools (we used to have a lot of demand... Question about preschool policy 943 toto Yeah--we have a somewhat similar offering for next year, where there's an afternoon clbutt that kids can take either as a 3 day clbutt or a 4 day clbutt... Question about preschool policy 944 Beth Kevles That is an idea we've entertained. We would have to bring in additional staff for it, as our current staff haven't been interested-experienced in doing a special enrichment clbutt, but we've... Question about preschool policy 945 zero* Um, as I kind of mentioned in my other post, I don't think it's at all just 'kids with problems' who... Review: The Upside of Anger THE UPSIDE OF ANGER A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * In THE UPSIDE OF ANGER, Joan Allen and Kevin Costner deliver... Do you think my daughter is getting enough sleep 947 Renee I found with my youngest son that when I was strict about bedtime and a bedtime routine he started to go to bed at a more reasonable hour...without... Do you think my daughter is getting enough sleep 948 I would try to make a different buttociation for sleeping with her. She is probably getting enough sleep if she isn't being cranky, but you... Do you think my daughter is getting enough sleep 949 Renee Does I couldn't tell you if she's getting enough sleep or not, but I do know that my 2yo is usually asleep by 9 or 9:30. He might go down as early as... Do you think my daughter is getting enough sleep 950 Richard" two-year-old 2yos her enough frustrated, earlier. getting, waking insufficient possible. better toddlers Often the quick reaction is to have daycare... Do you think my daughter is getting enough sleep 951 Renee she will her She wants quality time with her parents. It's not unusual for infants and kids who spend the day in daycare to rearrange their sleep schedule so that they are wide awake... Question on 18 month old sleep habbits I would do my best to merge the naps into one early afternoon nap. By early, I mean as soon as lunch is done. It can be a little difficult to keep a child awake... Disc Golf Twins turn Seven Posting a day early, since for just the second time this year, I won't be going in to work on a Saturday. The other one... OT do you use your turn signal when no one is there to see 954 Yes, exactly!! Someone made this point well in another newsgroup years ago, and I've had the habit ever since of signalling even when... OT do you use your turn signal when no one is there to see 955 Banty The drivers - there SPACEY. Each time, it was two cars I second this -- I learned to... OT do you use your turn signal when no one is there to see 956 Dorothy, I think to a certain extent you are preaching to the choir. There's all... OT do you use your turn signal when no one is there to see 957 It's easier around here to use them when there's no one to notice. If you are on the Washington Beltway and use your turn signals people will automatically close up the gap... boy's clothes 958 enigma Gap clothes are ridiculously overpriced for the quality, but I've been relatively pleased with Old Navy. The... boy's clothes 959 i'm not worried about anyone stealing logo'd stuff. i just refuse to pay to advertise for a company. if they want me (or my kid... boy's clothes 960 I have three boys and never have had a problem outfitting them, despite the fact that they are all four years... boy's clothes 961 enigma I am the same way about logos, well mostly I think they're ugly, but DS (4 1-2yo) got a "GAP" shirt from a relative not so... Instant messaging Sue It makes me VERY nervous!! A few years ago, my girlfriend talked me into downloading yahoo IM so... Review: The Year of the Yao THE YEAR OF THE YAO A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * THE YEAR OF THE YAO is a good-spirited and entertaining look... AWESOME" BDAY PARTY IDEA Here is an easy and fun party idea. We just had one for our 8 year old son. 20 invites. What simply spray is, is a fabric spray paint, which dries soft and... AWESOME" BDAY PARTY IDEA Our birthday parties tend to be homemade versions of traditional games ... homemade cake, and the rest of the money spent on goodie bags. We tend to have about 20... Pushy parents 'harm child health' 966 We KNEW there was something wrong with our 2 day old son who couldn't hold down... Pushy parents 'harm child health' 967 I will sit firmly on both sides of this! Yes, there are people who continue to insist on... Review: Miss Congeniality 2: Armed and Fabulous MISS CONGENIALITY 2: ARMED AND FABULOUS A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): MISS CONGENIALITY 2: ARMED AND FABULOUS is silly, stupid and... Counting troubles A great idea from a Montessori book: Have lots of beads, and also lots of sets of 10 beads collected on wires to make straight rows of 10 that can each be manipulated, and... Too much TV hurts kids ability to read Make a family media plan. Schedule times and choices in advance when your kids can watch TV or other media No TV or computer in your child's bedroom Set media time limits... Too much TV hurts kids ability to read It isn't storytelling that has been lost. It is the tribal memory for history of the tribe that is lost. And I think printed books... Review: Guess Who GUESS WHO A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): GUESS WHO, a chemistry-free film, is a romantic comedy which is sort of... Review: The Ballad of Jack and Rose THE BALLAD OF JACK AND ROSE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): THE BALLAD OF JACK AND ROSE, an art house pretender, is nothing more... Any ideas from moms on what this teacher should do Any ideas to help her deal with this? From a director-teacher I know who is excellent at... Any ideas from moms on what this teacher should do 975 That's a tough one, and gee, Dorothy, if you're stumped, I don't know ... However, here are some thoughts. I'm thinking... Any ideas from moms on what this teacher should do 976 Wait! I know! Get him Montessori stuff. Lots of that stuff appeals to the senses. For example: sheets of paper each with one cursive letter of the alphabet traced in sand glued on. The... Review: Melinda and Melinda MELINDA AND MELINDA A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * In MELINDA AND MELINDA, two writers are arguing over dinner about... Review: The Wild Parrots of Telegraph Hill 12 THE WILD PARROTS OF TELEGRAPH HILL A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): 1-2 Judy... Cosleeping to own room the transition This is me thinking way ahead, as usual - as several people have probably noticed, I do like to... Cosleeping to own room the transition 980 OK. Clara first. She slept in our queen sized bed with us until between 7 and 8 months. At that time we set up a single (twin) bed right next to our... Cosleeping to own room the transition 981 We had YoungBloke in a carrycot by the bed from birth, and once I felt comfortable sleeping with... Cosleeping to own room the transition 982 Sarah Vaughan transitioned to I bad formula, At around 6 months the Bug would only sleep with or on me period -- naps were in my lap, and we... Cosleeping to own room the transition 983 DD1: Slept in a bbuttinet at the end of our bed until around 7 months. She was then transferred into her crib in her own... Cosleeping to own room the transition 984 Sarah Vaughan transitioned to I bad formula, My girls are now 10 and 12, so it is a bit hard for me to... Cosleeping to own room the transition Obscurity, linux 985 Sarah Vaughan writes: Me too :-) First a remark: when our DS was around your DS's age he was sleeping pretty well, maybe waking twice per night. This fell... Cosleeping to own room the transition Obscurity, linux 986 FUMOP: It may be worth saying that many things stayed the same between DS sleeping in our room and in his: he was in... Cosleeping to own room the transition 987 I'm actually not sure what it is you think I mean that you disagree with, so sorry if I'm being dense... Cosleeping to own room the transition 988 Ok - You asked for it :-) I had a novel written and mercifully snipped most of it ;-) It is still long! Hunter was my first and I think his situation was fairly unavoidable... Cosleeping to own room the transition 989 With my DS, I typically put him down at bedtime, after nursing him to sleep, and then brought him into... Cosleeping to own room the transition Obscurity, linux 990 Rosalie B writes: Which, night weaning leading to weaning, or night weaning not leading to better sleeping? I have the impression that the latter is really common; the former not so common, but... Cosleeping to own room the transition 991 Night weaning leading to weaning. Or rather giving up the feedings in the middle of the night AKA sleeping through leading to total weaning.. All... Cosleeping to own room the transition 992 Sarah Vaughan extended separate what I guess the only question I've got is: Why 15... Cosleeping to own room the transition 993 Sarah Vaughan Hi Sarah, Here is my experience: From birth to 3 months, my son slept between my husband and I in a snuggle nest. By morning he was usually right next... Cosleeping to own room the transition 994 Sarah Vaughan transitioned to I bad formula, We transition my younger daughter around 15 months. Before that she was sleeping in our bed. The main reason for the... Cosleeping to own room the transition 995 I'll give you another datapoint although I did not usually co-sleep. My kids usually started out... Cosleeping to own room the transition 996 We didn't really co-sleep in the formal sense - the kids always had their own space but they were kept close to us the first six months. In DD's case, she was in a bbuttinette... Cosleeping to own room the transition 997 transitioned to I bad formula, Hi Sarah, Here's what we did: Until ds was about 13 months old, he and I coslept and dh slept... Cosleeping to own room the transition 998 Sarah Vaughan My experience, and my suggestion, would be to transfer out of your room when he's down to waking... Cosleeping to own room the transition 999 So you want experiences, here goes! We seem to have been doing the opposite of you at this stage, DS was mostly sleeping in a moses basket starting the night in our room then... Cosleeping to own room the transition 1000 Sarah Vaughan Around 12 months, I was no longer enjoying cosleeping with DD1, so we started nursing her to... Review: The Mudge Boy THE MUDGE BOY A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0... Review: Beauty Shop BEAUTY SHOP A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): No matter how... This is unrealTeen IMPRISONED in Kentucky for writing zombie story further This is patently ridulous. So we shouldn't have theoretical discussions until we have all the facts, which are probably downright impossible to get? When people have discussions like... potty training transitioning to underpants Kivi seems ready to potty train. She's 3 years and 3 months old, and is pretty much training herself, as long as she's naked from the waist down... potty training transitioning to underpants 1005 Cathy Weeks Hunter was like that too. I'll refrain from telling you how long he was in that stage ;-) I'd have her start wearing some... potty training transitioning to underpants 1006 I think she's doing just fine. I hope you'll be understanding and give her lots of time... potty training transitioning to underpants 1007 Try having her wear easy to remove pants, like sweat pants without underwear, so she... Carseat Questions Canadian traveling with Tots in USA I have a Canadian carseat and plan on renting a car in the US. I have two questions about this: 1) Do Canadian carseats meet US FMVSS (they... Homework over spring break long 1009 Clisby Well, as I see it, there are 3 main issues to consider (there may be more): 1. One... Homework over spring break long 1010 Thanks for the link, Nan. I knew there had to be such a page, but don't know that I'd have... Homework over spring break long 1011 On Wed, 06 Apr 2005 16:04:22 GMT, dragonlady I bet all of these would be challenged at libraries in school. Daddy's Roommate and Heather Has... Homework over spring break long 1012 Welcome to underfunding. When I was in high school, we seldom read aloud. However, all three of my kids did much of their reading in clbutt, and much of... Homework over spring break long 1013 enigma No clue. I thought the whole thing was stupid anyway. The responsibility for making sure a kid is raised in a wholesome... Homework over spring break long 1014 having the have extent read! Well, I have no use for dogs either, these days (nor do I have any... Homework over spring break long 1015 Sue I do think there's an immediacy to TV-film that isn't there for a book. Not just... Homework over spring break long 1016 Barbara planterger Yeah, that's where I am. I don't get involved that much, other than to say things like, "I really liked the Anne of Green Gables books - you might, too", or "Your cousin Austin... Homework over spring break long 1017 This has become an interesting thread. Thanks. We live exactly between two primary schools so when... Issue with Neighbor Teen Need Advice A woman in the process of divorce from her second husband has moved in across the street from me with her two girls, one from each marriage. One is 7 and one is 15... Issue with Neighbor Teen Need Advice I think Nan has hit the nail on the head. I was going to say: invite the girl over... Kids playing in the streets 1020 Woodgold) Well thats just a bit difficult with a family especially if the children are younger. As someone who is fifty plus, we did have cars BUT....my parents threw four of us and dogs... Kids playing in the streets 1021 Caledonia by short doctor mom children. I grew up in India, a country where for various reasons, cars were in very short supply until the 1980s. They... Home activities in infanttoddler programs I'm looking at adding an infant-toddler and parent music-physical activity program at my school next year as an option for parents. This would be (hopefully) grant funded so... Home activities in infanttoddler programs 1023 Donna Metler We've got our older daughter (almost 4 years) in a musikgarten clbutt. It's got picture cards and a CD for home materials. We listen to the... Home activities in infanttoddler programs 1024 Donna Metler Honestly, my hunch is that it can be particularly challenging to do this with the kind of population you have. If you're talking about low... Team moms having a ball Team moms having a ball Parents must practice being good sports More info: Books -- - "101 Ways to be a Terrific Sports Parent: Making Athletics a Positive Experience... Review: The Staircase THE STAIRCASE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): ** If you liked CAPTURING THE FRIEDMANS or if you've ever been fascinated by real-life crime stories, be... Which booster seat dkhedmo From what I can tell the backless boosters are just fine if a) the... Are Florida schools really horrible I don't think being away from ghetto areas is relevent. I think what is relevent... How to talk to kids about Schiavo rest 1029 On 4 Apr 2005 10:28:29 -0700, "Cathy Weeks" If anyone was motivated by money, it was the Schindlers who declared bankruptcy in 1989 and expected... How to talk to kids about Schiavo rest 1030 Jitney, you're woefully misinformed. The decision to remove Terry Schaivo from life support was made by the court, which found clear and convincing evidence that... How to talk to kids about Schiavo rest 1031 You might go into the sacrament of the marriage ceremony and the idea that a husband and wife (you and... How to talk to kids about Schiavo rest 1032 We talked about it yesterday, when DD12 picked up this week's issue of Time and... How to talk to kids about Schiavo rest 1033 Not according to the medical records despite the media disagreements about this. NEW YORK - Beneath all of the controversy surrounding the Terri Schiavo case is an important detail about what brought on her condition... How to talk to kids about Schiavo rest 1034 On Sun, 3 Apr 2005 12:18:55 -0400, "Donna" Only what I read online. In November 1992, a jury in Clearwater returned a... How to talk to kids about Schiavo rest 1035 Donna Schaivo know Bulimics are really very clever about hiding their disorder from everyone. It is not unusual for... Teens: what do you do when their friends are troubling DD10 has been best friends with this girl since kindergarten. She has always been a sweet, wonderful kid, until... Teens: what do you do when their friends are troubling 1037 toto She is definetly playing that role with her friend. Their friendship didn't start out that way, but when her friend's parents initiated the divorce, it quickly developed... Teens: what do you do when their friends are troubling 1038 When my parents didn't like one of my friends, what they did was if I ever wanted to hang out with her outside of school they would bring... Teens: what do you do when their friends are troubling 1039 Ericka Kammerer has lately. behavior. any Yes, that's my thought, too. My best friend at that age was particularly racey and troublesome. This friend became an alcoholic... Kids & exposure to cursing This topic is being debated here in our house. The situation: at DD12's school, a web site URL... Kids & exposure to cursing shinypenny I don't know that it's so much a stage, as a stage implies that it will pbutt. I think... ClownFace fears 1042 Maybe the clown faces remind him of something scary that happened to him or something scary he saw on TV. I wonder... ClownFace fears 1043 P. Tierney It does sound like it is something they want to deal with. If they weren't making... ClownFace fears 1044 I had two children develop serious phobias when they were 2 or 3: one to bugs, the other to dogs. In both cases, it was disruptive -- going outside at all was a... Sleep Q 1045 What I've learned from the other posts is that: 1. He may not be ready for longer naps. 2. More consistently located naps may or may not even be needed 3. Or... Sleep Q 1046 P. Tierney more Sometimes babies aren't actually sleeping - they are shutting down against too much stimulation. I would consider that the 15 minute cat-naps... Sleep Q 1047 P. Tierney Ah, okay. That is probably something different then. Since the swing worked like a charm, it could be your baby likes motion and also being cradled in a seat with... Sleep Q 1048 P. Tierney It's a tough call, and you have to feel your way through to a solution that works for both... Sleep Q 1049 P. Tierney Personally, while I'm very much in favor of following the child's lead, I think I'd be proactive in this situation. I think it's partly an nth child issue. With the first child... St. Robert Bellarmine on 9104 Saint Robert Bellarmine says, "When a child is born, the child learns to respond to those who are taking care of the child. The... When your preteen says, "I hate my thighs..." 1051 This is a common problem. It's one of the reason our church's loveuality curriculum includes... When your preteen says, "I hate my thighs..." 1052 This is a very difficult problem nowadays. The messages girls (and boys) are getting from media and society are so harmful. You might want to use videos or books and discuss the problem of beauty... newborn question 1053 Look at the total number of wet and poopy diapers in a 24-hour period. If baby is producing plenty of output, then baby... newborn question 1054 Tom Costello have a 16 giving him just let question, which night At this age, no, I wouldn't wake him during the day to feed him, but I also wouldn't necessarily tip... newborn question 1055 Hi Tom! Congratulations on the birth of you baby! As for sleep.... hoo boy. I have two kids. The first one was up constantly, sleeping no... newborn question 1056 Tom Costello Well, there's pretty much nothing you can do that will guarantee you'll see six hours of contiguous sleep in the near future. Some... Help! trying to rebuild a relationship with my 14yearold I'm mom of 2 great kids, a 14-year-old boy and a 17-year-old girl. I'm... Help! trying to rebuild a relationship with my 14yearold 1058 Hello! Thank you all that replied to my post. Even those who were tough on me. After all, I asked for advice. For the truth, not for nice words. I really messed up and yes... Help! trying to rebuild a relationship with my 14yearold 1059 Hi Anne I'm also 14-year-old boy, turned 14 in February. I posted a message here 2 months... Help! trying to rebuild a relationship with my 14yearold 1060 Hi Anne I'm a 15-year-old boy, turned 15 some days ago, April 5. I posted a message here some months ago, asking for advice... Help! trying to rebuild a relationship with my 14yearold 1061 awe what a sweet son! Tori -- Bonnie 3-02 AKA "Goofy Gooferson" Xavier 10-04 AKA "Chunky Chunkerson" Goal 1- lose 20 lbs By May 1st (2... Help! trying to rebuild a relationship with my 14yearold 1062 Let's see... He WAS helping you, the best way he knew how -- and it turns out that he was right -- and the thanks he got for it was to get grounded. Do you really... Feeding a 1 yr. old My DD just got the ok from the doctor to start being weaned from the bottle. I have been giving her 2 bottles a day (down from 4) equalling 16... Feeding a 1 yr. old 1064 ChitaShines bottle. ounces. when food, along wis her. getting 3-1-2 they just The baby food companies want to sell you baby food, so of course they tell you... Feeding a 1 yr. old 1065 What I did with my DD who is now almost 2 years old. Is first I started her out on jar veggies then... The Story About the Toddler, Volume 24 The Story About the Toddler, Volume 24. by Jeff Vogel Our daughter Cordelia just turned three. I still call her a toddler, although she really isn't. She doesn't toddle. She runs... jogging stroller question 1067 Rob wrote in message: things didn't minimal will regular Best web site I found is epionions.com. We bought a... jogging stroller question 1068 Jogging Strollers - Baby Jogger, BOB, Bugaboo, Burley, Chariot, Dreamer Design, GOZO, InStep, Kelty, Maclaren, Mountain Buggy, Phil & Ted's, Schwinn, Tech Tech and more at JoggingStroller.com I have the In... Review: Turtles Can Fly * 12 TURTLES CAN FLY A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 TURTLES CAN FLY (LAKPOSHTHA HÂM... Review: Fever Pitch 12 FEVER PITCH A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): 1-2 FEVER... Review: Look at Me LOOK AT ME A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * LOOK AT ME (COMME UNE IMAGE) is a sweet, touching and naturally funny... Review: Sin City * 12 SIN CITY A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 Watching SIN CITY, along with my large... my friend's controlling son This is my first post...glad I found this group! My best friend and I spend quite a bit of time together, and both have kids who are exactly the same age... my friend's controlling son 1074 I hope you don't mind me suggesting that you could take an buttertiveness training course. "Effectiveness training" based on Thomas Gordon's material is very good. Or you could read a... my friend's controlling son 1075 Actually, you're supposed to take a deep breath, get in touch with your feelings, and use the word that most accurately describes how you're feeling... my friend's controlling son 1076 Newsgroups If an "Annette" said something like that to my child (I have a 4yo boy) under similar circumstances, or at all, I'd be quite miffed... my friend's controlling son 1077 Intervene and send him home from the playdate as soon as anything abusive is happenning. And, don't accept any playdates at his house unless... my friend's controlling son 1078 Excellent advice! ... and if you're feeling timid about doing this, you can also role-play replaying. That is... my friend's controlling son 1079 Newsgroups I'm someone who stands up easily for myself, so I'm afraid I cannot be very sympathetic about this... My first thought upon reading your post is: Are you... my friend's controlling son 1080 Hi there...you are right about many things, but I guess I wasn't clear in my first post about many other things. I'll try to explain more now: The first time this happened, I... my friend's controlling son 1081 Charlene it was she will I've had this kind of situation with my kids when they were growing up. Not so clear-cut; it was just that my... my friend's controlling son 1082 Actually, I don't think it's necessary to say to the mother that he's "a bit bossy" or anything like that. Instead, you can approach it as: "all children get into conflicts sometimes. Our kids really... my friend's controlling son 1083 Newsgroups It sounds like this is something you can't just let slide. This seems to be affecting your daughter, and you cannot allow your fear... RE: Your last Bizby, At the risk of sounding defensive (I do feel a bit that way right now, however) I must tell you that I, in no way... my friend's controlling son 1085 Excellent advice. At the same time, you would also be modelling the behaviour the boy's mother will need. She knows that her boy is controlling and violent, and she... my friend's controlling son 1086 Ericka Kammerer becoming comments keep at direction To the OP, I've been almost exactly in... Help. Need some advice...Please. 1087 Since you're making a big decision, I suggest doing some things to make sure you and your wife are communicating clearly. Especially with the sleep deprivation, it's easy to get into a... Help. Need some advice...Please. 1088 I don't know whether it's in the best interests of the kid or not. I tend to think it's usually best for a little... Help. Need some advice...Please. 1089 Yes, that may be it. Imagine when the kid is 8 years old and she's telling the kid, "Oh, yes, when you were 19 months old I sent you to daycare because I needed... Help. Need some advice...Please. 1090 This week is better for wife even though we haven't hire anyone yet. This might be somewhat controversial topic... Review: Sahara * 12 SAHARA A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 Is SAHARA, which plays like a really bad parody... black baseball pants = softball pants Hi everyone, I'm a bit annoyed at my son's baseball coach for many reasons which I might get into later if anyone is interested. But the one thing I wanted to ask about is... black baseball pants = softball pants 1093 Well, first of all, DD's pants are just plain old baseball pants gotten at privates's Sporting goods. They don't have "girls baseball pants" and "boys baseball pants... black baseball pants = softball pants 1094 There may be such a thing as "girls baseball pants" but I haven't seen them. These... 15 month screaming In my opinion, if you want to teach a little kid not to scream (or whine, or pull... Looking for Miracles Of Hope sponsors for nascar race car Hello; I am involved with Miracles Of Hope-Defence Foundation For Children, a child abuse advocacy organization founded by Denise Marhoefer, on the board... H the following mom, baby & toddler items fsot Hi all I have the following items fsot c-o's 1st Response early result pregnancy test $1-1... Was there a better way to handle this Toddler discipline Good morning! I've just returned from the playground. DD, 28 months, is allowed on the slides, but not in the tunnels, because she gets "stuck" and cries and needs to be... Was there a better way to handle this Toddler discipline 1099 Here are some ideas you might or might not want to try. Define where she is allowed to play in positive terms, rather than mentioning where she is not allowed to play. "We're going to... Was there a better way to handle this Toddler discipline 1100 Donna I would have done this: "No tunnels until you can get out. Do you want me to help you to learn how to do it?" Is it... Grandparents Discussing Age Inappropriate Topics 1101 What you've reported that you are doing is fine, but don't try to take too much of a load at once - I think 9 clbuttes (or did you... Grandparents Discussing Age Inappropriate Topics 1102 You need to choose between taking their "help" while you are in school, and being a parent to your daughter. Your mother isn't just... Grandparents Discussing Age Inappropriate Topics 1103 No they don't watch her for me. They havent' seen her without me since Christmas. They have been helping with her school (Montessori, and I can't afford and ex won't... Grandparents Discussing Age Inappropriate Topics 1104 carolehaws When you get right down to it, they've got you over a barrel. It's not nice, but that's the way it... Grandparents Discussing Age Inappropriate Topics 1105 Well you guys are great! This is what I am working on as we speak. I've decided that she is going to go to public school in the fall,and not... Grandparents Discussing Age Inappropriate Topics 1106 carolehaws understand friends. I books, on your b-c whatever again!!! I'm wondering if perhaps they want your daughter to know that it isn't okay... Grandparents Discussing Age Inappropriate Topics 1107 From what I see, you have two problems that seem linked, but aren't really. 1) Your parents are financially supporting you. 2... ADHD and school placement My 7 year old son has ADHD and is currently at a year round school and has a variance. He has been in detention 3 times for MINOR infractions. He has been... Sudden aggression G'day I don't post much on m.k, but I read on and off and really appreciate everyone's... Sudden aggression 1110 Excellent! You can talk to him about "self-control". You can explain what it is and show him what you look like when you're practicing self-control -- sort-of going "rrr!" and tensing up and... Sudden aggression 1111 DS had a similar problem at the same age, but his aggro was random and sudden. For example, I'd be drying him after a bath, having... Managing Transitions was Sudden aggression On Thu, 14 Apr 2005 00:13:00 +1000, Chookie You may find that transitions are easier to manage if you: Go over your daily schedule with him in the morning each day. This can give... Sudden aggression Ruth Shear Given what you said about him being strong willed, needing control, and not taking no... Sudden aggression 1114 On Mon, 11 Apr 2005 19:39:31 -0500, Ruth Shear Don't bother asking why. Children at 3 1-2 don't know why they hit or hurt... OT sort of investing for kids 1115 This post is on topic. Your family's finances are very important. My recommendation is that if they are mature enough, they make their own choices. They can read articles... OT sort of investing for kids 1116 P. Tierney The usual advice is to invest in more risky instruments (like stocks) when children are young. As a general rule, higher risk means... OT sort of investing for kids 1117 On Tue, 12 Apr 2005 07:41:29 -0400, "Bruce Bridgman and Jeanne Yang" IRAs for Children by Harmon and Jenny McKinney What a gift! Did you know you can set up an... OT sort of investing for kids 1118 You can find out about all kinds of mutual funds, including electronically traded funds (SPDR is one... OT sort of investing for kids 1119 P. Tierney I wouldn't fret too much about this. Any money is better than no money, right? I went recently to a college financial planning seminar, asked... OT sort of investing for kids 1120 Right. Or what if he is interested in, say, carpentry over college? Having monies available to pursue whatever the child... OT sort of investing for kids 1121 Banty Obviously, that is a liability of a 529. The money is good for many vocational and community schools as well as colleges, but if he doesn't pursue... OT sort of investing for kids 1122 P. Tierney Me too. The recommendation to us was to start spending down this fund, using it towards... OT sort of investing for kids 1123 P. Tierney aid? By financial aid, I'm really talking about loans here. I am in an income range that would not qualify for need-based grants, and yet, I'm... OT sort of investing for kids 1124 P. Tierney Well, there are tax advantages to things like 529s that may be beneficial to you for the money destined for college... OT sort of investing for kids 1125 Just a couple of things to add. An IRA is intended for use for retirement, not college. If this money is planned for college, go... Questions about language development 1126 ozox Here is a link to a site that has good guidelines for speech development. If you follow links there you'll get speech milestones by age. According to this site, by 17mo your child should... Questions about language development 1127 ozox Usually I'm laid back about language development because all three of my children were slow to talk and it's my... Questions about language development 1128 Barbara because as our say at and later refer I'd like to second what Barbara is saying here, and share my own experience with a child with delayed language... Questions about language development 1129 Barbara For anyone else reading (from the US)...if you take your child to a school district funded and are in the above position...don't hesitate to get a second... Questions about language development 1130 And the Homeland Security Advisory raises the Toddler Alert to level Orange. Yikes. My son regularly hangs out with three toddlers age 22 months. They were born within a two week span. I... help need to get 7 month old to take med 1131 Which one is it? My son (who's older) is usually really good about taking medications, but recently... help need to get 7 month old to take med 1132 On Wed, 13 Apr 2005 18:22:48 GMT, "tristyn" The child in question was 7 months, not four months. I don't know... help need to get 7 month old to take med 1133 Hi -- As I understand it, the biggest concern with dairy products is milk allergy. If the child is breastfed, then... 1 yr old tantrums My 1 yr old DD has recently been throwing what we think are tantrums. Not every night, but... 1 yr old tantrums 1135 Maybe she doesn't like being put in a crib or a playyard. Maybe she would prefer to be held, or to be allowed to crawl around. Her crying may be her... 1 yr old tantrums 1136 On Wed, 13 Apr 2005 13:24:57 GMT, "ChitaShines" I don't think this is a tantrum really. Some children need to let off steam before going to sleep especially if they are overtired. Also, she... Helpsilly putty stuck on brand new knit shirt he didn't! Because Silly Putty and-or Playdough is good for hand grip and building up muscles in the... Review: House of D HOUSE OF D A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): HOUSE OF D, written and... Imagination Series The Imagination Series Have you ever sat and watch a child struggle with a blank page? Have you ever wondered why some children just seem to detest... Review: The Amityville Horror THE AMITYVILLE HORROR A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): "There are no bad houses, just bad people," George Lutz (Ryan Reynolds) tells... Review: Winter Solstice * 12 WINTER SOLSTICE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): * 1-2 If WINTER SOLSTICE went... Disagreement about third child 1142 Scott Well, and that's likely what you'd do, eh? Most of us do a lot of coping with whatever curve balls life sends our way. That doesn't mean it's the best option, but you... Disagreement about third child 1143 We had our third when dd#1 was 7 and dd#2 was 5. I asked dd#2 recently, and she... Disagreement about third child 1144 We have three children, but we decided on three shortly after our first was born, so there's never been any real disagreement about our family size between us. At this point, to be honest... Disagreement about third child 1145 dragonlady says... I agree it's different in that way. But would you see a difference if it were a disagreement over a... Disagreement about third child 1146 No. Once there is a child involved -- one, two or ten, it doesn't matter -- I... Disagreement about third child 1147 You work it out with a therapist. There is no "right" answer, and if either feels they have "won", then they both lose in the long... Disagreement about third child 1148 Banty I'm in 100% agreement with Dragonlady. I'm surprised that so many people are identifying with the needs of the mother's longing for more children but so few people are concerned... Disagreement about third child 1149 Circe dog irrevocable But that destroys I've seen it happen, so I know it can. I'm on the side of those who think that breaking up a family w-child(ren) which is otherwise okay... Disagreement about third child 1150 I tend to agree. On the other hand, the unwillingness of one spouse to have more children when the other spouse deeply desires it is also... Disagreement about third child 1151 Kathy Cole But deciding not to have another child is also a lifetime commitment. It's not like there's some inherent virtue in the status... Disagreement about third child 1152 This was actually similar to a question (it wasn't about having children, but I asked what his reaction would be if I... Disagreement about third child 1153 You can't un-have the child. It's too important a decision to take without both partners being in agreement, for themselves, their existing children, and the child they're considering creating. Are you approaching... Disagreement about third child 1154 Kathy Cole And past a certain point, you can't realistically undo the decision not to have another either. If you have the child, the nayser doesn't get his or her... Disagreement about third child 1155 I posted this in response to another post from you, but I'll repeat it: my veto power over my body (or my capacity to refuse to do what I just don't want... Disagreement about third child 1156 Kathy Cole I did not say that the proponent has an automatic veto either. Saying that neither has an automatic veto means... Disagreement about third child 1157 It's the point I've been making, though apparently not very well. I agree that's also an unhealthy dynamic. But I read that... Disagreement about third child 1158 I do not see pros and cons as solely related to logistics, economics, whether we'd need to buy another car, whether my... Disagreement about third child 1159 But my needs and my husband's needs are still input to making the decision (each of them being pro to each of us, and then we negotiate where they differ). The decision isn't made because... Disagreement about third child 1160 Ericka Kammerer is example, I don't necessarily think that's true. I think I'm approaching this from the point of view that it's inherently 'better', if there's serious doubt about whether to have a... Disagreement about third child 1161 lifelong In the case of such persistent unhappiness, I would say that the best thing for all involved (including the children... Disagreement about third child 1162 Circe No, just because they don't budge doesn't mean they are right. They do, in a very real sense, get the final word but I don't think that... Disagreement about third child 1163 Banty this. shouldn't I'm Nyyyah!" conclusion "I love is.." Sooner partner puts Communication can, I think, do some good in a variety of ways. First... Disagreement about third child 1164 Ericka Kammerer shouldn't I'm after Nyyyah!" reflection view? But you didn't actually answer the question. If after much talking... Disagreement about third child 1165 I think that the decision gets made the same as any other decision--the partners keep talking until a decision gets made. No freebie... Disagreement about third child 1166 Yeah, it's hard for me to imagine this, too. But given that a lot of people who have any number of kids report that, if they had it to... Disagreement about third child 1167 It seem to me, that in 90% of the cases (and counselling, good counselling, would help in this - I'm afraid I dismissed dragonlady on that... Disagreement about third child 1168 Donna There's room for a little common sense, you know. There are lots of decisions in a marriage, and I'm not suggesting... Disagreement about third child 1169 I'm trying to frame a theoretical question. Perhaps that was a poor example. Three people have indicated that under no circumstances would they even fantasize about a partner... Disagreement about third child 1170 You know, I think this is where we have a fundamental disagreement about the nature of human beings. I think human beings are naturally monogamous--just serially monogamous. IOW, I don't... Disagreement about third child 1171 Ok, I can see your definition. It is a lot of work to do ethically and fairly, I would imagine. But "snacking" seems to be endemic... Disagreement about third child 1172 the culture awfully Well, I guess we'll first have to decide on what consbreastutes "awfully common". From the data I've seen, about 20% of men and women admit to having had... Disagreement about third child 1173 Donna biological I agree with Circe on the serial monogamy theory, but add into that "with occasional affairs on the side." Such affairs - never condoned and always sneaky - seem to... Disagreement about third child 1174 On Fri, 15 Apr 2005 11:33:16 GMT, "Donna" Well yes, then your question was kid of off the wall. Because even if I lived in an open marriage (and I did... Disagreement about third child 1175 Donna In theory or in practice? Maybe in theory, but I doubt in practice! ;-) I understand what you're saying, but I firmly disagree. Well... Disagreement about third child 1176 Donna Exactly. The nay-sayer will always trump in the end because you can't make someone do something they don't want to do. That... Disagreement about third child 1177 I've seen Dr. Phil's show maybe 3 times in my life. I'm a fan, but not a huge one, and... Disagreement about third child 1178 Banty wins. who okay children to have of children is more a third, existing less at I just don't see it as... Disagreement about third child 1179 Could you imagine her being so insistent on having the first or the second baby that she would have broken... Disagreement about third child 1180 Circe one good. sure. second The first maybe. Because we knew we wanted to have at least one. If I had changed my mind about that after we got married it would've been a... Disagreement about third child 1181 Well, you know, my husband and I went into having children thinking the same as you... Disagreement about third child 1182 Circe the If I been a the same initially. that two little that I or two rational got, as more two be just not fact that equation but additional child, even way is reached... Disagreement about third child 1183 lenny fackler While that's certainly a valid choice, I don't think flying with two is inherently impractical. We just flew with three (10, 7, 20 months) and it was... Disagreement about third child 1184 Ericka Kammerer camping. As far as the practicality of flying, the cost of an extra seat is a factor. Lugging all of the stuff is a factor. The quality... Disagreement about third child 1185 On Wed, 13 Apr 2005 18:33:17 -0400, "Sue" I dont mean to be arbumentative,and travel is not for everyone,and I dont know how old your kids... Disagreement about third child 1186 When we travel domestically, we can nearly always get a hotel room that's large enough for all of us. (Thank you, Embbutty Suites.) The primary issue when we've been in Italy and Greece... Disagreement about third child 1187 cook, generalization, not their cafe Hmmm, the only place I ever saw a full breakfast like you've described advertised on the "continent" was in a restaurant in Nerja, Spain, and that's one... Disagreement about third child 1188 English FWIW, I don't try to stay in hotels that cater to Americans--I just find ta he hotel that's near the place(s) we want to go, has... Disagreement about third child 1189 Okay well first, because we work here, we take a lot of short breaks. Been here three years and have yet to... Disagreement about third child 1190 Barbara planterger FWIW you can tell most Americans com on bus tours This is a great thread. My cousin married... Disagreement about third child 1191 I think I'm definitely somewhat limited in the hotels I'm able to look at because I really have only one language (I can sort of get by in Spanish and sometimes in... Disagreement about third child 1192 I've gotten much better at doing planes in recent years. I don't enjoy flying, mind you--I have a hard time fathoming anyone actually... Disagreement about third child 1193 On Fri, 15 Apr 2005 08:42:59 +0100, Penny Gaines Yep. in a hotel the general breakfast is piles of cold cuts, piles of meats and cheeses, soft boiled eggs, cereal, croissants, milk... Disagreement about third child 1194 taking I understand camping isn't for everyone. But, the way you have described it, is not our camping trips at all. The guys do most... Disagreement about third child 1195 it this I wasn't brave to do with the girls when they were really small. Our first camping trip was when Allison was 6, Jenny was... Disagreement about third child 1196 How do you suppose the pioneers managed? I just don't do the same amount of showering that I do at home and the kids didn't either. Wash their faces and hands, and let the... Disagreement about third child 1197 I agree with you here 100%. My husband doesn't understand why I don't like going to the beach. We go for a week, rent... Disagreement about third child 1198 My dh always did a lot of the supervising and some of the cooking. But I take your point. It just never... Disagreement about third child 1199 only-oldest child? used to getting his way a lot? i'd respectfully like to point out that if you aren't getting a 'vacation' because you're doing all the same housework in a different... Disagreement about third child 1200 To be fair, two years ago was the worst. Last year I laid out a list... Disagreement about third child 1201 Been there, done that. You see, I married a control freak. How I dated him for 5 years and never... Disagreement about third child 1202 If you will forgive me for saying so, your dh sounds a lot like your dd only grown up I found early in my marriage that if I read something out loud to... Disagreement about third child 1203 I've been following this side thread with interest because, while I appreciate why people are suggesting that bizby leave her husband alone with the kids... Disagreement about third child 1204 to did that Well, my husband is an architect and, let me tell you, that's nearly as much a state of being as it... Disagreement about third child 1205 you Well, yeah. But I think this one situation raised a broader discussion precisely because it's not an especially unusual situation. I don't think it's at all uncommon in families with one WOH... Disagreement about third child 1206 basic the I am using equal in the sense that I mean both partners should value each other's contribution equally. When... Disagreement about third child 1207 What seems to be in dispute is how to place value on the contributions of the non-wage... Disagreement about third child 1208 is But the danger of that sort of thinking is that a person who doesn't have a job with a corresponding hourly rate doesn't have any sort of yardstick for figuring out the... Disagreement about third child 1209 Yep. And, think of that lost opportunity cost of that by-hour person renting a video and sitting... Disagreement about third child 1210 It is also about one's individual definition of "work" #1 on dictionary.com: -------- 1 : activity in which one exerts strength or faculties to do or perform something... Disagreement about third child 1211 Barbara planterger But how are those things mutually incompatible? I do think I'm lucky that I don't have to work, and that the work I choose... Disagreement about third child 1212 Barbara planterger Which is essentially what we do. Well, those are pretty big things, no? Especially with little kids. It sucks when you've put in a full day and then, even though there's... Disagreement about third child 1213 I suppose. In my case my husband considered it the only time he got to spend with the... Disagreement about third child 1214 Circe I think you have to pick and choose how you do this carefully. First off, I should say that I think it works best... Disagreement about third child 1215 to did that In with there Honestly, in our case, we had a much more "even" division of childrearing labor when our first child was a baby because my husband's... Disagreement about third child 1216 On Sat, 23 Apr 2005 08:27:10 -0400, "Sue" Me and mine have discussed this. His take, and I agree, is the issue of control. Now first... Disagreement about third child 1217 On one hand, he should realize that, if he does the caretaking for a short time, he has... Disagreement about third child 1218 Banty I don't know that I see it that way. To me, there is a long list of things that my family has to accomplish to stay operational: childcare, home care, health care, feeding, clothing... Disagreement about third child 1219 Well no, but then again, If I have three kids under six in the home and I die, heck not even... Disagreement about third child 1220 says... So? None of what I say contradicts that. Every time I introduce this concept, people bowl... Disagreement about third child 1221 of because end. it's And I'd argue that the household is the basic economic unit. (As I already said elsewhere... Disagreement about third child 1222 Well, that's more or less what I'm saying. Economics is about family survival (and hopefully in good... Disagreement about third child 1223 Banty I think you're missing the point. As I said elsewhere, the economics issue is an independent... Disagreement about third child 1224 Actually to a large degree you aren't describing anything different from what I'm saying. The main difference is that, although I used to buy into the... Disagreement about third child 1225 Banty, That's an interesting argument. It sounds as though you're treating running a household and rearing... Disagreement about third child 1226 While I'm also partly agreed on your premise, I'm not sure that is a good analogy. Some people that foster would like to adopt (and maybe even to... Disagreement about third child 1227 You get it! Mostly :-) Until that last sentence. What I'm talking about it what work is... Disagreement about third child 1228 Exactly. Rupa, you've put into words what I've been sitting here trying to express, much less eloquently. :) I can't afford a daily cleaning staff, and I like a... Disagreement about third child 1229 Banty I agree that the typical thing you see in that regard is a bit ludicrous, but that doesn't mean there isn't a very significant... Disagreement about third child 1230 Dunno about that. First of all, there are things which must be done on schedule. I must have my children up, fed, dressed, ready for school, and on the bus... Disagreement about third child 1231 Sure--given that I do most of the cooking, the last thing I need is... Disagreement about third child 1232 home something. You know, my husband is tired at the end of the day when he's left for the... Disagreement about third child 1233 You don't really HAVE to do any of those things. That is you wouldn't be fired if you didn't do them. YOU have decided that you need... Disagreement about third child 1234 Rosalie B. That's splitting some major hairs there. Sure, she doesn't have to do those things, but then again, neither do many employees have to do the things they do... Disagreement about third child 1235 Should she? To my mind, the whole "job" thing has led to a "boss" thing which has her running out to... Disagreement about third child 1236 I think this is a hangup over a word. I think I mentioned before that DH was in a conversation with another father of twins who was complaining that now that his wife was home... Disagreement about third child 1237 Banty I don't buy it. To my way of thinking, of course Bizby has a job, and of course she should want to do it well (where "well" has to be... Disagreement about third child 1238 I've been following this thread with interest, between meeting my WOH client obligations, and potty training my toddler with indifferent... Disagreement about third child 1239 Donna Well, three things work for us: 1) Vacation away from the kids. Once breastfeeding was no longer an issue, we have been blessed with family who are happy and... Disagreement about third child 1240 The ideal is that a job for money involves people and situations that involve resepct etc. etc., but the fact is that people do and sometimes have... Disagreement about third child 1241 Banty Of course not, but one compromises on ideals in all sorts of arenas, not just in economic ones. I don't see... Disagreement about third child 1242 I still think you are manufacturing the distinction. He chose to work at his job. Once he chose it... Disagreement about third child 1243 One of the things that I asked my dh before we were married was whether he had any objection to my working. He... Disagreement about third child 1244 Autonomy means that you CAN set your own goals. The SAH person (which I was for 20 years BTW) HAS that. I could feel depressed and go to bed for a week and not... Disagreement about third child 1245 Rosalie B. I disagree. Even without extenuating circumstances, there can be a lot of stresses in... Disagreement about third child 1246 I think this is a recent and not very good development. There are all kinds of horrible things that... Disagreement about third child 1247 Rosalie B. Taking it to extremes may or may not be a recent development, but you... Disagreement about third child 1248 Yeah, in fact he said almost exactly that to me one time. I can't remember the situation exactly, but I know he was alone with the kids for a... Disagreement about third child 1249 This is the important thing, although I would not express even to myself that 'I made my bed...' thought... Disagreement about third child 1250 I didn't realize that my complaint about the beach was going to start a thread about whether or not being a SAH mom is really "work". It seems... Disagreement about third child 1251 Whaaaa...?? Whodathunk a disagreement about having a third kid would lead to all that beach stuff to begin with! :-D Depends on what you mean... Disagreement about third child 1252 Banty Absolutely--because the cost to replace those functions goes up. Of course, the opportunity cost (i.e., what could be earned by the SAHP... Disagreement about third child 1253 Well, the beach thing wasn't such a leap from the camping thing -- how did a disagreement about a third child get to be about camping again... Disagreement about third child 1254 That's USENET for ya! Well, OK if you stretch it, but then that means everyone with kids who also is employed has two careers. Simultaneously. Anyone unemployed and not even seeking... Disagreement about third child 1255 I've snipped the rest of the post because we agree about everything else. But about this... Disagreement about third child 1256 I know - this is exactly where I get into trouble! :-) The disagreement is in how... Disagreement about third child 1257 Normally you can still do the laundry in a washing machine - you don't have to wash it in the river. I never... Disagreement about third child 1258 people turn We absolutely MUST leave the house to have a real vacation. If we stay at home, both husband and I will ultimately feel the pull of all the "honey-do's" that must... Disagreement about third child 1259 Circe Really? Maybe I'm unusually lazy, but I can go a loooooooong time sitting around doing relatively little (reading, sbreastching, eating... Disagreement about third child 1260 Sue Oh no, you have less work to do on holiday! At home, there is always something more that you could do, whether it is a neccessity like defrosting the fridge, or... Disagreement about third child 1261 Sue Well, that's part of why I like going to The Homestead (or I'm sure there are similar... Disagreement about third child 1262 Hillary Israeli That is true of a lot of places. There are a lot more... Disagreement about third child 1263 Hillary Israeli * * That is true of a lot of places. There are a lot more hoops for them to jump through providing care for infants and toddlers... Disagreement about third child 1264 Hillary Israeli There definitely are things you can do at the Homestead that the whole family can do, and lots of things are family oriented. We haven't been in the summer, so the beach... Disagreement about third child 1265 Rosalie B. We've never been gone long enough or far enough away that laundry was a problem. I think it would be cool that far out though. I never minded sponge... Disagreement about third child 1266 I saw one that sounded like the perfect combo for me! It was a canoeing vacation. They took you upriver and... Disagreement about third child 1267 Before we cane over here, when the kids were younger, it occurred to us that basically, all our "vacations" were taken... Camping was Disagreement about third child My dad and mom took us camping throughout the west when we were 8 and 10. We had sleeping bags and a coleman stove but no tent... Disagreement about third child 1269 Well, I gather that many kids do their homework without much complaint; I just didn't happen to get those kids! Notwithstanding, homework is increasingly popular for very young children. Both of my school... Disagreement about third child 1270 Of course, you don't necessarily have to lug that much stuff. On our last trip, for a family of five for 13 days, we checked two... Disagreement about third child 1271 all I'd rather either do laundry myself or find a service to do it. Frankly, we don't have a choice to bring a lot more stuff, because we travel with a large enough group that... Disagreement about third child 1272 I'd love to get away with fewer carry-ons, but I dare not check the medicine (I have prescription stuff that I'd be in trouble without), I won't check... Disagreement about third child 1273 all When I book places for us to stay in Europe, I usually won't rent a place unless it comes with a washing machine. This last time, we considered taking... Disagreement about third child 1274 Sorry Barbara, but as someone who'se lived in Europe for over three years and traveled in alot fo countries, there are a bunch of generalisations here... Disagreement about third child 1275 That's fair. I'll admit, howecver, that when it comes to the lack of dryers, my generalizations may... Disagreement about third child 1276 Because the cost of electricity is much more than it is in the us (and gas... Disagreement about third child 1277 FWIW, our bill for electricity, gas, and water (we have a septic tank so we... Disagreement about third child 1278 hang use her Yeah, I'd forgotten about the HOA type situations. But, of course, in those situations, it's not really some individual telling you that you can't hang your clothes to dry as it... Disagreement about third child 1279 Circe" wrote course confess, a lot their prevalence The cost of electricity has a lot to do with it plus the fact that a lot of fabrics aren't... Traveling with children was Disagreement about third child You know, we didn't really even start doing any serious traveling by air until after the third child was born. We... Traveling with children was Disagreement about third child 1281 Circe travelling camping. air once with both I don't My kids Greece) fact, we We were in Sri Lanka for... Traveling with children was Disagreement about third child 1282 lenny fackler That was certainly our perspective. We had our first two in 1995 and 1997. We thought about a third off and on, but really didn't feel ready for it until... Traveling with children was Disagreement about third child 1283 I can certainly relate to that. The hardest flight by far for us was the flight back from Athens when Vernon was... Traveling with children was Disagreement about third child 1284 Mary Ann Tuli I hear what you're saying, but why are you interpreting fewer hotel rooms accommodating larger families as "rubbish"? Perhaps it's perfectly... Traveling with children was Disagreement about third child 1285 Circe I understand what you're saying: you can't find a hotel room where five people can sleep in... Traveling with children was Disagreement about third child 1286 that Well, it does because even though people sleep in separate rooms, it's just like at home, where all of the rooms share one contiguous space. You don't... Traveling with children was Disagreement about third child 1287 Okay, first of all, I agree, I shouldn't have said "anywhere". However, I've done a lot of theoretical planning of trips to many places in Europe in the past few years (although the only... Traveling with children was Disagreement about third child 1288 Barbara, I know that you are simnply observing what you see. But again, italy is not all of Europe... Traveling with children was Disagreement about third child 1289 straight. I've never tried a Mini or a Fiero, though I expect I'm average enough sized that neither would... Traveling with children was Disagreement about third child 1290 that Europe in when Gosh, I guess you missed the "may be" and "doesn't mean you'll never encounter a large SUV... Disagreement about third child 1291 fackler says... If a marriage were to break up over this, it would be a case of this issue embodying overall issues in the marriage. Like how the couple communicate, negotiate, and... OT sort of investing for kids 1292 P. Tierney It all boils down to the same thing. When they're considering buttets, they consider parental and child buttets separately. The buttumption is that child buttets are... OT sort of investing for kids 1293 Circe there's ways, I'd I have already laid out the situation for my kids, five years ahead of time. Being in Boston, we live near a lot of great universities and... OT sort of investing for kids 1294 Bruce Bridgman and Jeanne Yang in the But any US citizen can get a certain amount... OT sort of investing for kids 1295 Circe unethical Oh, he is on the hook for 50%. I have to come up with the other half. He also... OT sort of investing for kids 1296 I expected that dd#3 (the only one that we paid for all of her education) would buy books and pay for a phone if she... OT sort of investing for kids 1297 My dad worked his way totally through school (his father wanted him to stay home and work in the store, so when he went... OT sort of investing for kids 1298 Rosalie B. I think one has to apply common sense, and school has to take priority (or it's sort of a waste of money). Obviously, depending on the... Two year old refuses to sleep in his room We had to move our toddler's crib into our bedroom for 10 days when we had relatives staying over recently, and he would wake up... Two year old refuses to sleep in his room 1300 Many of the techniques mentioned by other posters are designed for "babies". Trying them on a 2-year-old may... Two year old refuses to sleep in his room 1301 I agree that this is cruel and possibly dangerous. It is also not how controlled crying is meant to be done (read the Ferber book mentioned by another poster for... Two year old refuses to sleep in his room 1302 Hmmm. I'm kind of surprise the above didn't work, actually. My suggestion is to try Ferber techniques. In short - you put... Dirtier Air, Dirtier Water, Courtesy of Joe Barton Another ProPollution Texas Politician Hey Joe, Where You Goin' With That Bill in Your Hand? Joe Barton leading GOP charge to push energy bill... Little Mermaid" nonDisney versions I posted this in rec.arts.movies.past-films, but they haven't responded, so I thought I'd try here, if you don't mind. Well, I searched in Amazon and found a few. Trouble is, the reviews aren't... Little Mermaid" nonDisney versions I don't know about 2 & 3, but I did see #1 in the theater when I was 7, back in 1977. So when the Disney version came out... More popular than "Calvin & Hobbes Just kidding, sort of. I wasn't sure how to breastle this for this newsgroup. It's "Mafalda & Friends." (Easily the world's best comic strip!) Check out the only two English-language volumes available that I know... Starting whole milk before I year old Hi -- Is your 11-month old eating a varied, healthy diet? You don't wean from the breast to whole milk; you wean from the breast... Niece getting picked on in school My niece just turned 16. I bought her a new car two months late for... Niece getting picked on in school 1309 I live in Georgia and am not trying to raise my niece. I do what I can to make sure she and my nephew are taken care of. They live about 45 miles... Niece getting picked on in school 1310 Sorry to piggyback -- lost the original post. I would love to hear your niece's version of this. Does she think they... Niece getting picked on in school 1311 Of course all ages get into accidents. But the issue with teens, especially ones that are still in... Niece getting picked on in school 1312 Hi, I am the Mom and the Dad was end 10 years ago so my brother has... Niece getting picked on in school 1313 Pam, Thanks for the new information. It certainly sounds like you are doing the right thing in trying to limit your daughter's contact with these girls... Niece getting picked on in school 1314 Barbara planterger Neither are quite accurate. From the IN BMV: Probationary License (IC9-24-11-3): A license issued to an individual less than eighteen (18) years of age is a probationary license. A... FAO Donna Metler 1315 Sue Sorry to be a purist, but here goes... An acoustic piano is as different from an electric piano as an acoustic bbutt is different from an electric bbutt. Yes, they read the... FAO Donna Metler 1316 Irrational Number Well, our piano teacher maintains her piano meticulously, but I'm here to tell you that at... FAO Donna Metler 1317 Sue Depends on the keyboard. Better keyboards have better feedback, better touch. Of course, a really good keyboard isn't going to run a lot less than a piano. I know some kids who've... FAO Donna Metler 1318 Well, I'm not a purist-I went to using a keyboard at school because the district wouldn't pay... FAO Donna Metler 1319 Can I pop in as a person who can't claim to be a qualified musician... FAO Donna Metler 1320 they The thing is, you won't know you're raising professional musicians until after the fact. Being a professional musician isn't my day... FAO Donna Metler 1321 Robyn Kozierok To me, there's no difference between a professional musician and one doing it just for fun in terms of the music... FAO Donna Metler Obscurity, linux Robyn Kozierok writes: I missed the beginning of the thread, but if you are contemplating buying a piano, and this... FAO Donna Metler 1323 We already own a baby grand, which was my mother's. We've been living in a house too small to hold... FAO Donna Metler 1324 and whether FWIW, I think it's true. The argument goes something like: wood cells are resonant, wood cells are flexible, running... Huffy portable basketball goal any good We're looking for a good but inexpensive basketball hoop-system for our two kids. They're mildly interested in basketball, though not particularly good, and would probably use the... Help. Advice Hello all- I have been wondering whether to post this or not since many months. Brushed up my English and finally decided to do it. I... The Story About the Toddler, Volume 25 The Story About the Toddler, Volume 25. by Jeff Vogel Or daughter Cordelia is now three years and two months old. Her mental improvement, as measured by... Need tips on how to deal with this I am hoping someone will tell me this is just a stage which 6.5yo DD will get over. The... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1329 Here are some ideas: -- Check her physical health. Make sure she gets plenty of vitamin C, essential fatty acids, other good nutrients, not too much sugar, plenty of sleep... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1330 I have a good book called "What Happy People Know", aimed at adult readers. It says that in order to be really happy, you have to... Being considerateCatherine Woodgold 1331 I am not sure if "being considerate" is used in a slightly different way here to the USA -- your idea sounds more broad, and very close to ordinary kindness. Here, I'd... Being considerateCatherine Woodgold 1332 On Sun, 24 Apr 2005 09:06:06 -0400, "Sue" 1. Teach by example. Preteens observe the way we handle emotions, and how we interact with people and solve... Being considerateCatherine Woodgold 1333 On Sun, 24 Apr 2005 09:06:06 -0400, "Sue" There are lots of books you can read and discuss that will promote empathy and you can take examples... Being considerateCatherine Woodgold 1334 I think it's good to use whatever specific examples come up in day-to-day life. "I wonder what I can do to be... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1335 Haven't got to this point with DS yet, but I think it's a fascinating problem! I think you've got a couple of things going on... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1336 When she complains, try to listen without judging. You can say things like I see* or Oh or Ok... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1337 I've been reading the responses in hopes for a clue as well. I don't think you're doing a lousy job - only because I've been dealing with the same lack of appreciation... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1338 Hi Lisa, I have three girls that are very close in age and I can tell you that it is probably a phase... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1339 With my whiney child, it seems that the harder I try to accommodate her, the more whiney she gets. For example, if I drag her to my son's base- ball practice, she might complain that... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1340 Maybe these children are just afraid that if they are happy it will all go away. I used to be afraid... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1341 bizby40 Some ideas for heading this off, especially when she is in a cycle of complaining more. I do these things with my almost-5-year-old and it... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1342 LisaBell Nah, you're not doing a horrible job or anything. I think it is partly a stage, but there are some things you can do: 1) Get them out of such... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1343 Our girls do spend a lot of time together and do share some interests and activities, but not... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1344 Obviously, while you* think there is no compebreastion, she thinks there is. She believes for whatever reason, that she has to... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1345 LisaBell I think this is part of what is natural. I think at this age, they... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1346 LisaBell I don't really see it as a punishment. I see it as much closer to natural consequences. In the Real World, if she is ungracious, people will not... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1347 I do cancel ice cream, pizza, or other small things if the girls are not behaving well. This always applies to both of them, since they are typically misbehaving together and I am... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1348 Hi -- I think Ericka's advice is right on the mark. Yes, it's good for your kids to express their feelings. But NO, it's not good to do that at the expense of the... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1349 We don't do opening of gifts at birthday parties here, so this hasn't come up, and she has never been rude to anyone in the family giving her gifts, though... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1350 Mine are almost 3 years apart and different lovees, but I still have this problem... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1351 Hi -- Does your DD1 watch much TV? Either at home or at friends' houses-daycare? If... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1352 My kids do watch TV, and probably too much of it despite our daily efforts to provide... Need tips on how to deal with this! 1353 LisaBell I don't think it's a problem to insist that she refrain from complaining that she's not getting enough, or getting... Looking for information from a past On Tue, 19 Apr 2005 06:14:05 GMT, "P. Tierney" Some articles Realize that play can be a coping mechanism. Children's play is not frivolous. Children use play as a way... toddler rash ideas Ds (27 mo) has a rash under his chin, extending from the chin to midway down the neck. It's more pronounced on his right side. It is completely colourless, just a rough... Teaching a 5 yo to read Pre-kindergarten taught my 5yo son the alphabet and a limited set of phonic skills (he learned the 'i' sound in pig but not in pike, for example). As he's... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1357 I suggest continuing to give him lots of practice on the short, simple words of the type he's able to read already: vat, cob, zip, dud, etc. A... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1358 I think Mem Fox's Reading magic is the book for you (if you can get it -- Mem is an Australian children's author). It addresses some of the questions you have below... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1359 I think everyone uses a mixture of phonics and memorization strategies to recognize words, but some use the phonics... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1360 Cathy, I have plainly hit a nerve here with my comments regarding teaching phonics. It's funny, because (a) I was almost certainly taught to read using phonics, (b) I think... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1361 Catherine Woodgold without having words like Your 'paths in the snow' explanation didn't really clarify for me why. I'm about 100% convinced that I'm using a non... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1362 Woodgold) We don't use phonics all the time if we are proficient readers. Of course fluent readers can identify many words on sight. However, when reading texts rather than word lists, proficient readers... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1363 I'm not sure what bad habits you want to avoid here. The way to being a good reader after you learn the basics is to read a lot and to read... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1364 I third it. It's an excellent book. You might decide for whatever reason not to use that particular program with your child, but reading the book carefully and thoughtfully yourself can show... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1365 I'll counter with a warning not to overestimate the importance of phonics. Its importance and effectiveness depends, IME, on the child and his-her learning style. My first taught himself to read before anyone got... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1366 Jeanne I only have a very basic entry level understanding of it all. I'm interested in it... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1367 Hi, Nikki. Nikki my learning majority but a it'. Much of the problem, in my opinion... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1368 Hi -- A lot of the problem may have to do with the fact that your child is only 5. Despite federal efforts to mandate standards... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1369 I believe this depends on the teaching method. If a method such as Engelman's is used, I believe those kids can learn to read at the age of 5 -- and probably at the age... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1370 Beth Kevles This is exactly what we are doing with Hunter (6 today!). I think he has learned a few site words from the word wall at... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1371 You may find this article helpful The LindamoodÒ method is based on the premise that many LD children (85%) have an inability to remember what... Teaching a 5 yo to read 1372 Hi -- The most important thing I've learned after teaching two kids to read is that it's very important that the kids enjoy the reading... Review: A Lot Like Love A LOT LIKE LOVE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * In A LOT LIKE LOVE, strangers Oliver and Emily... Anyone been abandoned by a child 1374 abandoned mom lost tears I know many mothers who loved their children unconditionally, but who were horrible mothers nonetheless. It is... Anyone been abandoned by a child 1375 I'm sorry about your loss as well. I do know someone in a similar situation... DS went off solids after a great start In my personal experience, what you're describing is not unusual. My first son started on solids fairly early (ca. 4mo) and was enthusiastic about eating them... My good DD and her wrong doings My DD, 12 years old, is a great lovely girl, but immature. About 2 months ago I got to know she sometimes (not always, fortunately) hang out with a... My good DD and her wrong doings 1378 Thank you all of you for your comments. All of you said I didn't act very well when I lfted my DD grounding. I agree it was not the best decision... My good DD and her wrong doings 1379 Imo, this is not a good idea. I will tell you why I believe this though it is not part... My good DD and her wrong doings 1380 Imo, this is not a good idea. I will tell you why I believe this though it is not part of the... School Safety Drills, by any other name We had a funny conversation at dinner with DS's 15, 12, and 7. I can't remember what started it, but DS7 mentioned having a "weather drill". I asked him what it was and he said... School Safety Drills, by any other name By chance my daughters were discussing these in the car last week. My high school... social skills kinda long We've been working really hard in the "please," "thank you," department and DS has caught... social skills kinda long 1384 My DS is like yours, except he's 4 now :-) It has been the same since he... social skills kinda long 1385 toypup OK, this is totally normal and I see it alot with my daughter's preschool-daycare. (DD is almost 4 and has been... social skills kinda long 1386 If you begin consistently not greeting him first, that may help -- he won't need to pre-empt you. After he starts conversing, you might tell him that it's not necessary to tell you any... for those of you puzzle buyers My three year old is an avid puzzle-doer. Our reaction to your criteria: Good to start with, but not much of a challenge anymore. Still, she'll do all of the wooden puzzles at... Heck! He IS reading At #1's preschool (2.5-nearly 5yrs) they do about 6-10 flashcards of things round the... Skinny spearchucker wanted in rape of 14yearold Tulsa Police Looking For A Rape Suspect Tulsa Police are investigating the loveual buttault of... Skinny spearchucker wanted in rape of 14yearold Lamentandosi come un bambino, il ritardo african american News Service ha scritto: Meanwhile.... Wesley Tate Pickard is... Suggestions for 3rd4th grade reading level Mystery books Hi All: My 4.25 yr old DS is reading at about a 3rd-4th grade level, and I'm looking for suggestions about new books for him. He LOVES mysteries... Suggestions for 3rd4th grade reading level Mystery books 1392 I'm buttuming you're talking about reading to him, not reading himself. I don't know what age 3-4 grade is either. Well my 4.5yr old loves the Enid Blyton series, famous five... Suggestions for 3rd4th grade reading level Mystery books 1393 No, actually, him reading to himself. He's carrying on a family tradition of reading very early, very fast. ;-) Here in the U.S., kids are usually about age 8 when... Suggestions for 3rd4th grade reading level Mystery books 1394 The issue with the loveism is that actually in the era they were set they were not loveist. In fact... Suggestions for 3rd4th grade reading level Mystery books 1395 Sounds like my DH. he still reads everything. Even instruction manuals!!!! Yes, those are them. I think the concepts (yes, I have read them to myself fairly recently... Suggestions for 3rd4th grade reading level Mystery books 1396 Try re-reading them as an adult. Nancy Drew.. each chapter ends with Nancy in another life-threatening position. She can (apparently) do the following. 1. Draw so... Suggestions for 3rd4th grade reading level Mystery books 1397 Hi -- With the Just So Stories, we read them aloud to our kids starting when they wre about 4 years old. The print was too small, the words too long, and some of the... Traveling to a big city with 2 12 year old and 5 mo. old There are kids in New York City. Some of them were even born there (I even know a few). Yesterday... OT Raw Milk Research Anything trustworthy Hi all, I've gotten interested in Raw Milk (got to taste some while in California a year ago, and found it tasted wonderful). However, the... OT Raw Milk Research Anything trustworthy 1400 Unfortunately, no. I DO have anecdotal information . . . 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The point of my query was to get... Join a Modern Moms Club and get a gift for Mother's Day Early last year, Modern Mom (www.modernmom.com) launched Modern Moms Clubs to provide all moms - those that work, stay at home or somewhere in between - an opportunity to meet other... Home nudity Hi all I'm looking for comments from all parents. Recently my wife and I have had many discussions regarding nudity in our home. We are not... Home nudity 1409 Curious2 dads My family is pretty clothing-optional at home. We don't flaunt it, or hang out in the nude, typically. But both my... Home nudity 1410 Curious2 cover our nudity-they of a I go don't dads I have absolutely no problems with casual nudity in my home. However... Review: The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy THE HITCHHIKER'S GUIDE TO THE GALAXY A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO... 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That's not at all necessary; what IS necessary is that she gets the... bad relationship between my 14yearold and his dad I have a 14-year-old boy and 12-year-old girl. My husband used to be strict and several times spanked the boy... cruel punishments Hello I'm a 15-year-old girl. I usually go to parent's chat rooms and sites about parenting, where parents post their experiences with their kids. I'm upset with... How are your previously speech delayed kids doing today 1425 My son is 5 1-2. He's been in speech through the public school for 2 years now. His diagnosis is moderate language delay with speech delay. His language skills have improved, but his articulation... How are your previously speech delayed kids doing today 1426 It all depends on the kid and the nature of the disorder. Speech and language concerns are the most commonly addressed... How are your previously speech delayed kids doing today 1427 But had DS didn't really start speaking until he was almost 3 years old... I didn't hear the word Mama until he was three! He always communicated well, via body language, etc, but no talking... How are your previously speech delayed kids doing today 1428 Not years ago. My older son was quite delayed at 3yo. He is 6yo now... Mobile Phone EMF safety concerns becomes an Insurance risk for telcos Mobile Phone EMF safety concerns becomes an Insurance risk for telcos" Our group is currently fighting a major telco that wants to place 6 mobile phone towers next door to... Chosing a school elementary 1430 Yes, there is a period of open enrollment, so I was hoping to look into the public schools first. I... Chosing a school elementary 1431 goofeegyrl I wouldn't underestimate the importance of the foundation years, though, especially for your older child... Chosing a school elementary 1432 For a start, you may want to look at www.greatschools.net and check out the schools in your area. For my state, it provides information about free-reduced lunch participation, ESL students and those dreaded test... Chosing a school elementary 1433 Find places where kids and parents congregate. This may include signing her up for swimming lessons where... Chosing a school elementary 1434 Hi -- Your first step should be to contact your local elementary school to arrange a tour. Many districts offer tours to incoming parents in the spring, especially for kindergarteners. Come prepared with a list of... Question for short parents any out there 1435 Jenna&Keri's mom but husband but I If she's been averaging 25th percentile for all well visits, and only dropped off the chart during a single visit, I wouldn't fret about it. What... Question for short parents any out there 1436 Hi -- First, check with your family and your husband's family. Find out the growth patterns of several family members, not just the short ones. Some kids start slow and then gain... Just saw Jamie's School Dinners 1437 I hadn't heard the second, but an not surprised. My brother was asthmatic with allergies to azodyes (e.g. E102 among others) Monosodium glutamate (sp?) was a factor too. It's in a lot... Just saw Jamie's School Dinners 1438 Yes, I can agree with that in principal, but some children will not drink plain water. Why not say pure fruit juice is allowed, or milk? I have a friend who's child comes... Just saw Jamie's School Dinners 1439 Chookie Interesting thread although I don't know what Jamie's School Dinners are since I'm in the US :-) My school had a kitchen and I think the lunches were probably OK... Just saw Jamie's School Dinners 1440 The series has just finished here in Oz. I only saw the last 2 programs, but I'm impressed at the result (and horrified at the muck the kids were eating before!). I wasn't surprised to... Review: November NOVEMBER A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): Greg Harrison's NOVEMBER is a sporadically fascinating failure of a film about a woman (Courteney Cox) whose boyfriend (James LeGros) was... Review: Yes YES A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): "Is this really true? Can cold objectivity be a point of view?" a woman known only as "She" (Joan Allen... Review: Kingdom of Heaven KINGDOM OF HEAVEN A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): So when you woke up this morning, did you think to yourself that you'd like to see a movie... Review: Crash CRASH A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * CRASH... Review: 3Iron 3-IRON A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO... Review: love: State of the Union * 12 love: STATE OF THE UNION A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 love: STATE OF THE UNION, directed by Lee Tamahori, is a mindless and exceedingly... mkfl server is down Well, just for what it's worth: 1) OE usually comes along for the ride when you install IE, so... Review: House of Wax * 12 HOUSE OF WAX A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 The HOUSE OF WAX is a by-the-numbers horror... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1449 I felt really embarbutted, so just wondering, what do kids call their parents friends or other adults? Back in my country, we refer to everyone as "Uncle" or "Aunty". My parents taught me... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1450 When I coached swimming, I was always Mrs. Beasley. When my kids wanted to get my attention at practice, they sometimes called me Mrs. Beasley. This was even though some of the (younger) male... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1451 Years ago, before children, I had some neighbor kids who called me "Sapphire's mom". (Sapphire was our cat.) I've been thinking about what my kids' friends call me. A few... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1452 tiredmom etc, himself saying We went round this quite a few times, since we lived in California when our kids were little. We came up with the... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1453 Mrs. with decide by get how I would suggest that my child address adults that... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1454 dragonlady It honors the fact that the adult is farther along the journey to maturity and wisdom and responsibility than the child is and should be serving as a mentor... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1455 When she was in her 90s, my mother once drove over to the street behind her house to find out where some smoke and noise... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1456 electroscopillan Why? I can think of lots of situations where you'd be on a first name basis with someone... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1457 Really? I generally do. Even with babies, I'll look at the baby and say, "Hi, I'm first name. And who are you?" The parents... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1458 dragonlady Which is lovely, but in my experience as a parent, that doesn't happen nearly... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1459 dragonlady Only through the rudeness of others, which is not, in my opinion, sufficient justification. Actually, I do use more formal address for children in certain types of... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1460 Alas, it is no longer true that we HAVE a consistent etiquette in the USA surrounding use of honorifics, last name, or first name with each other. I could wish... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1461 dragonlady I don't believe that. There has been a lot of change, primarily from a prescribed set of honorifics and address to a looser form that says that people should be called what they wish... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1462 Penny Gaines Right, which is the problem. There's an buttumption by many (generally younger folk) that no one would be so... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1463 In my profession, across the country, it's the norm. In my husband's profession, it's the norm -- but IMHO, MDs are a little too sloppy about using breastles and honoriffics reflexively (which is another... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1464 as electroscopillan wrote in message: have a liguistic respect Sorry I or Kids may pick up respectful atbreastudes if they're given respect as equals, but they may not be able... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1465 Everything? No, but if it is important to me, then I don't mind talking about it... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1466 P. Tierney But that is the logical conclusion of your reasoning. If etiquette rules only apply when you feel like it, then you will choose to ignore some subset that... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1467 That IS offensive, depending upon how it's done. It is always inappropriate to call someone a thing they've specifically said they don't care for. On the other hand, if she... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1468 dragonlady At this point, isn't pretty much anyone aware that if they prefer a more formal... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1469 Well, as a person who DOES invite the more informal address when someone introduces me by my breastle and last name, I can tell you that a handful of parents... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1470 P. Tierney o achieve consistency in use of breastles ;-) It baffles me that some are so insensitive to the notion that some folks would rather not have to go around justifying themselves... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1471 P. Tierney The job of etiquette mavens is to sense when there's a tipping point and to weigh the concerns of all involved. In a case like this, they're weighing things like: - When do we... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1472 So these rules were being broken for years before they officially changed. Who makes the... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1473 toto No, Miss Manners describes US etiquette. She does make exception for such situations, but only because of the cultural difference. In other words, it's okay in situations where another culture's etiquette prevails, but... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1474 My mom said that she came into the living room of my aunt and uncle's house where my dad and his brother... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1475 P. Tierney Pretty much all rules are broken frequently, some for good reason and some not. I see people chewing with their mouths open all the time, but I don't think that means there's any... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1476 P. Tierney I'm not sure what you're saying there. At the moment, I can only think of one rule I'd feel minded... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1477 P. Tierney Oh, yes it is. It is simply good manners to begin with the more formal address until the senior party in the relationship... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1478 P. Tierney True--I realized after I hit "send" that I had phrased that badly. What I meant to say was that this sort of thing is basic... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1479 I've been thinking about his office thing. When I was a teacher, I didn't call the principal by his first name, nor did anyone else... What do kids in America call adults in the neighbour houses 1480 The problem is that here in California, introducing people by honorific and last name is somehow considered uptight and stuffy; somehow suspect . . . it's a very frustrating thing to deal with! Is that... international travel with 8 month old So we are going to be flying from California to London at the end of this month, and DS will be around 8 months old. We... international travel with 8 month old Hi, I see you've already decided to buy a ticket. I do think that will make for... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch Is it just me, or does this seem like BS? I understand and agree with the reasoning behind not allowing cell phone use during school hours, but there are reasons to a) disregard the... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1484 says... Because there are any number of such decisions and incidents, every day, at schools and insbreastutions across the country. Most don't get picked up... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1485 But maybe. Has it been tried? (I mean, in a way that at least give a chance for success?) But how did "they" get to be this big... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1486 toto should cases I don't think kids should have their cellphones on in clbutt; but... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1487 Following up my own post to add some updated info on the situation. Kevinsaid he called the school... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1488 Hi -- If the student had the phone on at school, which is apparently against the rules, perhaps he... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1489 Banty Cathy Weeks aside officers because "ain't it awful" Issue a ticket, ambulance, which is... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1490 Donna Metler purposes seemed at the child mindset wrong. been I think it depends on the hospital. When I had an allergic reaction... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1491 Cathy Kearns home from broken. until minutes. I Sunday You know, this is so wierd. You... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1492 Banty as was a Quite so. And this call was during a break. No one suggested that he shoudl take a... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1493 The right to privacy of school students is limited. If the parents want more privacy, they should home-school them. This is from the Pittsburgh public schools' policy: SEARCH OF... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1494 Jeanne talking-texting adults I've never understood this (well, auditoriums aside, where people aren't talking) but other places - how does one person talking on a cell phone differ from one person talking to the person... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1495 That doesnt matter, and distraction can be a good thing? Are you teacher???? I am... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1496 On Fri, 06 May 2005 16:20:20 -0400, Jeanne All your arguement seems designed to complexify a simple case. The school knows which kids have parents... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1497 Is there any evidence that he took the call in front of anyone? Was he eating his lunch alone? Plus, he took the call OUTSIDE, so he wasn't... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1498 Is there a rule that phones have to be turned OFF during school hours? I didn't see that referenced anywhere. Some schools just require them off during clbutt hours -- or even... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1499 dragonlady says... The rule at my son's Jr. High is that they are turned OFF. OFF OFF OFF. If... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1500 Bucking up includes making the appropriate plans to talk with her family with military organizations and the school. Exactly, which... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1501 According to the story, the mother calls at unpredictable times of the day. So the calls could come anytime, like when he is walking... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1502 I think it probably paints the action of the teacher as being more aggressive than... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1503 Banty Cathy Weeks father's two the kid's How often did Mom have access to a... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1504 Banty Cathy Weeks thing? state? Actually, I think it's a kid with a parent in... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1505 says... Where do you draw the line? Especially for something as visible as this. How... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1506 Jeff clbuttes are operators appropriate Will you get off of clbuttes? No one said anything about a call during a clbutt! I fail to see how ANYONE'S life... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1507 P. Tierney in No, but you could ask him to go into an office or other place where a phone-call is not out of place. In all those situations hospitals, etc... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1508 Actually, cell phones will work on airplanes. (The pbuttengers on the plane that crashed on 9-11 in PA had... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1509 Sure. Or, instead of responding to the teacher as he did, he could have quickly said... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1510 ANd this is the key-I don't know of any teacher who wouldn't have allowed the call to continue had they been informed... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1511 On Sun, 08 May 2005 06:41:24 GMT, "P. Tierney" A bit more information here *********************** His mother, Sgt. 1st Clbutt Monique Bates, left in January for a one... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1512 Having him keep the phone is disruptive. When the phone rings, it is noisy. Even disrupting a cafeteria is inappropriate. And the mother had the choice to go stay out of the... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1513 Huh? The office can certainly track down any kid in the high school. Unless that kid is where he is not supposed to be. Most... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1514 I don't believe it is because the school is large or small. These schools (and there are many in the area with the same rules... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1515 schools students Schools students as to students They do have a cafeteria, with a seating capacity of 120. Needless to say... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1516 On Mon, 09 May 2005 21:47:16 GMT, "Cathy Kearns" This particular school was built with a cafeteria that would have held at least 1-4 of the student body at... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1517 Visit some of the campuses out here; the kids are outdoors during lunch, hanging out on the quad, NOT in a confined lunch room. And there are kids who... Kid gets 10day suspension for talking to Mom in Iraq at lunch 1518 On Fri, 06 May 2005 21:41:46 GMT, dragonlady I would tend to agree. It certainly seems that there is no big disruption during lunch. Clbutt breaks though would be a different story because... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway There have been a couple of threads recently that involved cell phones. If you've read the first one, you know that I am not a fan of cell phones. My kids may very well be... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1520 Rosalie B. council I have less experience - I worked at two high schools, observed at a third, and ah, attended a 4th. My mother used to sit in on school... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1521 says... Well, yes and no. Ideally, and if a problem exists contained in the school system itself, then fixing... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1522 On Tue, 10 May 2005 22:08:28 GMT, Rosalie B. Okay, I've been gone for a few days and have no idea how many messages... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1523 Some people just think they are enbreastled to not follow the rules - not just as parents at the schools... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1524 But the problem with this is that you're only looking at this from one POV... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1525 Banty one POV. wants? Of course you're right to some extent. But that's the point of parents...they advocate for their kid. Otherwise, we could just raise babies in batches. My responsibility is to make... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1526 Well, sure - you advocate for your kids. The thing is there are important things, that a parent... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1527 OK, but what do you mean concretely by "..if there were rules that worked against my child...."? I think... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1528 Banty with (or worked enough to take this that. that's a critical out for make visit Japan or for my lodge, a have to Schools don't tell parents... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1529 Banty make visit Japan or for my lodge, a But Banty, you are letting your own biases show here. Why... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1530 says... Well, of course! That hunting trip will Make The Man. And so will the babysitting of the siblings... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1531 Back to school nights here are NOT set up for individual parent conferences. Instead, the evening starts out in the gym, with... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1532 In the case where I had 4 different school nights on the same night (and dh was working in Washington DC and only... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1533 Banty An neck out parents for a year's practice (and school year - whole lot that went call from to... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1534 says... So screw them, huh? And this applies to each and every thing they do to keep the... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1535 Weeks keep Tom, Ms. some switch. least jr. pretty state-wide the some schools, that using this compebreastion band... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1536 they I definitely would mention this in advance-drums rate high on the "cool factor", especially in areas with big marching band programs, on the familiarity factor, and on the noise factor. They also have... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1537 and mallet Peripole Bergerault makes a nice line of chromatic mallet percussion instruments designed for use by middle school students. They're in between the full xylophones and marimbas used in secondary programs and... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1538 Donna Metler Good to know, thanks. We live in a fairly affluent area, so if the school doesn't already have... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1539 SNIP That's all well and good if you live in an area where Little Suzie and Johnny get a school bus to the local... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1540 Barbara I have no objections to children having cell phones in these sorts of situations. However, I think it perfectly reasonable for the school to make cellphones off limits during... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1541 When I was in school my mom always made sure I had 'mad money' which in those days started at 10 cents... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1542 Hi -- Our local schools appear to permit cell phones to be kept in kids' lockers for use before or after school... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1543 Well, I've seen two adult womenmen both taking cell calls during their lunch together. I'm definitely not a cellphone fan. From what I know... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1544 Well, I've seen two adult womenmen both taking cell calls during their lunch together. I (a) don't understand why anyone cares about this, and (b) get... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1545 Well, there ya go. You both annoy each other by taking calls during dinner. In addition, it is easily observable that people tend to... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1546 It seems odd to me that you'd be upset at his work-related interruptions and vice-versa. If the issue is that you'd hoped to be away... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1547 It seems odd to me that you'd be upset at his work-related interruptions Really? So, if you had hoped to have a day off with your family, and then your... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1548 There are exceptions, though I'd agree it's rude to carry on a LONG conversation without excusing yourself to go outside and away from others. Many years ago, when pagers were first available, there was... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1549 I'm with Cathy. I don't see why it is any ruder to people at adjacent tables for me to talk to someone on a cell phone or to make a call while I... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1550 I have difficulty not answering any phone, but I have no problem whatever about turning off my cell phone. I don't however suffer angst when someone... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1551 But Rosalie, I don't want restaurants to ban cell phones. For one thing, there are valid reasons to have a cell phone in a restaurant. For... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1552 In actual fact though, I don't have my phone on very much. And when I do, it is usually on the boat... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1553 That reminds me that I went to the bathroom in the Belize zoo, and my checkbook which I also kept paper money in fell out... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1554 I don't ever wear a belt. I don't wear trousers much and my dresses may not have pockets. As for the top of my trousers... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1555 dragonlady Well, I wear it with my work clothes, which are dressy, but I'm already laden with a... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1556 Donna Metler I think what's in evidence is that in many (most?) cases, it's NOT the same as a regular conversation--it is frequently much louder and... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1557 bizby40 What the heck??? I snipped the parts I wasn't responding to! I'm sorry you don't like that, but it's good nettiquette to reduce the bandwidth. If I left a long post in it's... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1558 says... Who said that? "Uptight"?? If you are relaxed and easy-going, woudlnt' that mean you wouldn't be so anxious about immediately answering anyone who calls? Why do you expect to... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1559 Banty Cathy Weeks telephone zero to even I and I'll try and go back and find the posts... a Should you wouldn't you expect companion had other person... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1560 says... Here's what you need to consider since you're willing to condemn people as "uptight". What it is, WHY is it, exactly, that each ring or buzz of the vibrator... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1561 Banty ironically that. little easy-going move in. So their from the than I So, when and how do you draw the line? If you are out with a... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1562 says... I had a first date where I did that. Taking a cell call in the middle of a first... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1563 My best friend had her second baby 12 days after I had my second baby. She went completely the other way -- she decided that with a toddler and a baby, it was... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1564 I don't care if two random (and to me, unknown) people choose to kunch with each other, but I do care if my lunch mate-date chooses to take... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1565 With family, folks make their own rules according to what works for them. And, Of course. But for some reason, people still snark about it... But, if I'm... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1566 Do you really think that people on the city street don't spit? I'd be happy just not to see piles of cigarette butts along the curb... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1567 I said I expect them not to. I'm totally grossed out when I come across a big glob of spit on the sidewalk. I can't stop... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1568 I'm buttuming that they were actually lunching with each other and not just acquaintances or strangers sharing a table. I don't think it is anyone's business but... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1569 But if your mother was on a trip all weekend, obviously she wouldn't answer her landline. Why do people expect people to pick up their cellphones, just because they have them? I'm not getting... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1570 For a long time (ever since 1973 when my dad died and we have been living within 100 miles of each other - she didn't do this... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1571 says... Others have coveredt the problem of volume, but I find that sometimes there's another problem - the vocal tone of the call because it's so (supposedly) urgent. When people go to eat in... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1572 Jeanne don't being - protection. So, form the is me, one 19th That's the point. There was a time, in the Victorian era apparently, when... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1573 I think that's the wrong question, actually. Regardless of whether you are a fan of cell phones or not, you should be asking: "Is anyone being harmed by these calls... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1574 Dayge children has news or neglect lives of of going on (and Those about. The him and to go him instead, Here's a different perspective: Cell phones on college campuses make 'letting go... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1575 You are not being responsive. Yes, cell phones can be abused; so can computers, and we don't ban them from school all together! The question is: is a young person using a cell phone... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1576 Because so far I haven't heard of a cell phone attacking anyone. Just because they "can," doesn't mean they will. And I think a cell phone... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1577 says... So....what. If it keeps it down, and allows students NOT involved in this stuff to have their lunch and not to have to hear it, it's very valuable to the school environment. That... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1578 On Sun, 08 May 2005 22:21:04 GMT, dragonlady The technology is problematic in schools though. school directors in the Peters Township School District are finding, it's hard to come up with the right wording to... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1579 dragonlady says... No, I don't think so. If it reduces the problem at the school, or otherwise makes the situation more manageable... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1580 dragonlady says... And if they allowed calls out and drug deals were going on - your daughter would find the phone tied up with this stuff, and... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1581 What I'm suggesting is that I don't think the draconian methods being used are effective -- they don't... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1582 On Wed, 11 May 2005 02:13:19 GMT, dragonlady Agreed it doesn't reduce drug use in general. OTOH, it does reduce the ability of kids who... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1583 dragonlady I'm surprised at the level of naivety some people are showing in this thread. (Not you.) From a practical point of view just how workable... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1584 Donna Metler I think they should be punished if caught doing something they shouldn't be doing. Cheating, invading privacy and disrupting clbutttime or other people's... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1585 toto I am somewhat amazed that the office closes up shop before after school activities are done! All the schools... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1586 My children's elementary school is over at 2:20. The office closes at 3:45. But there are numerous activities there after hours, including in the evenings. My son's Cub Scout meetings don't start... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1587 It has less to do with "lack of planning" and more to do with "independence" as well as the environment. I live in ARlington Virginia. Its an urban villiage kind of suburb with the following... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1588 So it sounds like a convenience -- not a necessity. Having listened to all the opinions in these threads, I've come to form my own opinion. I don't... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1589 Barbara planterger I think in a situation like yours it probably does create some independence. However, the bottom... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1590 It's a matter of scheduling. Office employees are clbuttified employees-that is, they are paid by the hour, not on salary... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1591 And so it's your job as a parent, to know or find out, or, if you can't know or find, not to allow them to use it. That's your call... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1592 Of course not. The only things humans really need are food and water. Every thing else falls into different levels of necessity determined by the individual. Some people... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1593 Dayge the random Why does With IM, that may not be true anymore. IM on a phone is akin to IM on the internet. The kid could be chatting... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1594 Dayge stolen leaving but messages man, the daughter like phone, no proper future. necessary (whatever involved Is... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1595 says... That's what I did when my father was deployed, that's what my cousins did... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1596 Banty struggling happen anytime. all other value those anything like all to be I read the first part of the book Seabiscuit (the book the movie was... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1597 says... Except for certain streets having been turned over to pedestrians (I mean the ones officially turned over) and... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1598 No it's not. It's the only reported case. And as I stated in the rest of my post, just because something worked for you, or for me, or for anyone... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1599 says... It's really, really unlikely that, at a school near a large military installation, that we'd be hearing of only one student if... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1600 On bigger campuses, they may actually be tracking down friends ON campus to talk to. My kids were known to call me during lunch, mostly to make quick arrangements... Who the heck are these kids talking to at lunch anyway 1601 well, the kid in question was talking to his momther half way across the world in a war zone... Putting niglets to good use in Swaziland Swaziland: Children 'Spin' Water Out The children at Lubilini primary school in eastern Swaziland have never had a real playground. Now they get to spin a merry-go-round... booster seat for large 2yo Advice, please My 28 mo is just over 38 inches tall and weighs 38 lbs. He's been gaining about... booster seat for large 2yo Advice, please! 1604 Five point harnessed seats are much safer than a booster seat using the three point lap-shoulderbelts. Compare these crash test videos and... booster seat for large 2yo Advice, please! 1605 Glad to help! Carseat issues can be so incredibly confusing, I found that out when my big girl outgrew her Alpha Omega at 2.5. I was shocked! Just so you know, using a... booster seat for large 2yo Advice, please! 1606 It might relieve you to know that my dd still has 9-12 months in the Airway, even though she looks cramped in it compared to the Husky. Her... booster seat for large 2yo Advice, please! 1607 Ericka Kammerer all to Wizard Booster lbs. Wow, Ericka, thanks! I'll look into all of these. I have anywhere from a few weeks to several months till I have... Supernanny LOL, who hasn't -- but it's when they involve your kid heading out the (perpetually unlocked... Even feral dogs have better parenting skills than african americans Witnesses: Dog cared for abandoned baby NAIROBI, Kenya (AP) -- A nursing dog foraging for food retrieved an abandoned baby girl... OT: back pain 1610 I agree with the poster who says to stay in pretty much an upright position while lifting; though I suggest you get advice from an expert. You could take your toddler to... OT: back pain 1611 I second the advice of other posters to do muscle-strengthening exercises. I suggest seeing a physiotherapist and asking what particular muscles it will help you to strengthen, and for strengthening and... OT: back pain 1612 the According to my physical therapist, it is quite common for women to lose muscle tone of the lower pelvic girdle muscles after childbirth, and this is often the cause... Bleach Smellchildren safetyrant We have a 4 month old infant living in the Home, My mother-in-law... Bleach Smellchildren safetyrant 1614 Some decent advice here, and I apperciate that, however let me tell you a little about... Bleach Smellchildren safetyrant 1615 Brenda you a she had boy (my and her, there them to her since because SNIP My random thoughts... Bleach Smellchildren safetyrant 1616 Can you get out for a walk? Are you out in the country so that you can't use a stroller? Perhaps a back... Bleach Smellchildren safetyrant 1617 But look at it from the MILs POV. SHE thinks she has raised a successful adult. Her DIL has not done so yet. And... Bleach Smellchildren safetyrant 1618 I have to agree with you Rosalie. A lot of what you say makes sense. I'll add my own experience to it just briefly. The OP's story sounds extremely familiar... Bleach Smellchildren safetyrant 1619 Nan obviously so adulthood and can Sometimes, little that pumps Maybe I'm missing some posts here, but I'm not seeing what you are. the... hearing in 5 year old Parent-deafness is common at this age. They know that you will repeat and repeat anything that is important so they tune it... same as "bad atbreastude", but different I am having a very similar problem, but with a much younger child. My DS is 2.5 He was very polite and well mannered until his best... same as "bad atbreastude", but different 1622 Do you mean "badly brought up"? Because that is what it sounds like. I had this problem at DS's last... same as "bad atbreastude", but different 1623 jojo DS is up to age with, boy, and the mean much has not the space stuff. any together, join I'm been very... same as "bad atbreastude", but different 1624 I would not think of any child this age as mean In general, children who act out are doing so because they have not... same as "bad atbreastude", but different 1625 On Wed, 11 May 2005 15:33:57 +1000, Chookie I would never use the bible as a source of contemporary definitions for words. Here the word mean is defined as not kind. It can... Using "baby talk" with infants was same as "bad atbreastude", but different On Fri, 13 May 2005 15:27:51 -0400, "Stephanie" Some articles about "baby talk.". Five-month-old Maxwell is smiling... Using "baby talk" with infants was same as "bad atbreastude", but different I think there are at least three different things being discussed here, without sufficient differentiation. Without that differentiation, the article isn't as meaningful as it could be. 1 - babbling, or using nonsense... same as "bad atbreastude", but different 1628 understands need her genocide people could think this is No, I think you did the right thing. I asked my mom... what you wish you knew about toilet training 1629 So she do For me, it was realizing early on that the conventional line about readiness (touted by none other than the diaper companies) didn't apply... what you wish you knew about toilet training 1630 Our son (now 2.5) was ready for potty training. Drug us kicking and screaming into it ;-) He would go on command, but... what you wish you knew about toilet training 1631 Yes, there's an alternative. It's called underwear! I have to admit that I'm envious of the fact that your daughter... what you wish you knew about toilet training 1632 panties on to My older daughter trained very quickly, but for about 2 weeks she wore cotton training pants -- thick underware. We just bought these at Target -- not hard to find. Worn... Potty Training Problem 1633 Hi, I'm new posting here, although I've been posting from time to time in misc.kids.pregnancy and misc.kids.breastfeeding. My daughter (2y4m) is in the process of toilet training, or so we thought. She had been... Potty Training Problem I don't like pull-ups myself, but I'm not sure they hinder training because the... could he be color blind My 2.5 year old DS has an issue.... He is bright, and functions at the level of 3-3.5 year olds in every level. He is also big for his age, so most... could he be color blind 1636 Color names and sorting are not usual for children his age. Many children don't get color names until they are between 4 and 5, though others do get... could he be color blind 1637 Jeff colors. I was under the impression that this was called red-green colour blindness. I've never heard of people not being able to see any colours, although I'm sure it... could he be color blind 1638 That is the same one. What's really confusing is that we won't be able to percieve the same thing he is perceiving. I think it could be either the no... could he be color blind 1639 He's much too young to be worrying about this yet, IMO. I seem to recall that the ability to name colors with reasonable accuracy is... Survey of FirstTime Parents Hello! I am a doctoral candidate in the Department of Counselor Education at the University of Florida. I would like to ask for your help in a study of couples who have recently become parents... Review: MonsterinLaw * 12 MONSTER-IN-LAW A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 MONSTER-IN-LAW, a fingers-across-the-blackboard sitcom... Yellow Submarine themed bday He might enjoy this book Here's a yellow submarine pinata if you think that might suitIt's only $10 plus shipping 50... URGENT First of all, please pray for my family. I need to get as many people... Re generates more sympathy when begging? Adult Respiratory Distress. In ARD there is respiratory failure of sudden (acute) onset due to the rapid accumulation of fluid in the lungs (pulmonary edema) following an abrupt... A case of the I don't knows 1645 Sometimes for #1 you have to ask more detailed questions to get an answer. If you ask "what did you do at preschool today?" she may well say "I... A case of the I don't knows 1646 Why are you asking him questions about something that you "know he knows"? He knows it... A case of the I don't knows 1647 I guess I wasn't clear in that he asked to "read" to us, and it turned into more of a "what is happening on this page?" type of exercise, since I was trained as a... A case of the I don't knows 1648 Maybe he needs time to think before giving the answer. I think it might help if you give a ritual response to his "I don't know", the same response every time. That will make it... Track your Teenagers Cellular Minutes What is CellMaster? ======================== Have you ever gone over you cell phone monthly minutes? It's time to take back control from your cellular provider. Well...here's how you can... Review: Kicking & Screaming KICKING & SCREAMING A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO... Review: Star Wars: Episode III Revenge of the Sith STAR WARS: EPISODE III - REVENGE OF THE SITH A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): Color me disappointed -- and I say this as a huge... Review: Layer Cake * 12 LAYER CAKE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): * 1-2 Daniel Craig plays an unnamed businessman, a hardworking and honorable guy who prides himself... Fear of using school toilets On the first issue, no I certainly don't have a diaper fetish. I have come to realise he isn't... On rules We have had a fair number of conversations where solutions about the issue at hand differs based on your view of rules and... On rules 1655 Heh. Such an invitation, and I'd had hardly any time when this thread ran its course. But just for one more post I'll put on my Gest... I... On rules 1656 Where on earth did I say THAT? I am merely trying to shift the focus from the... On rules 1657 This is a complex issue, and when I've talked with kids about it (my own or at church) it's interesting to see the rules THEY come up with: like, it's OK to do if you... On rules 1658 Stephanie I think what your discussion misses is that there is an additional component to "rule following" beyond just whether a... On rules 1659 That's not what harmoneous co-existence means? I would agree with all but #4. I DO value the wellbeing of my... On rules 1660 I did not say anything about negatively impacting others. The exact text of #4 was Not prioritizing value to you above value... On rules 1661 Stephanie Yes, but I think that's the direct consequence of violating #4. If you believe that the things that impact those... On rules 1662 Well what about if someone comes through a red light and knocks your family over and you're the only surviving one. And then they... On rules 1663 Sidheag McCormack accident like one of going others but I'm with you, Sidheag. I've had a number of friends who consider themselves good drivers and have never had an accident... On rules 1664 Stephanie seems it of general, routinely stroller increase extra the they is (legal was in lost was hidden My skid, no unnecessary can't aren't accidents. I or Sorry... On rules 1665 See what the heck could be wrong with jaywalking? Maybe this feeling of mine that following rules for its own sake is whooey comes from the great joy when I was a kid in being... On rules 1666 Both. The problem with your way of thinking Stephanie, is that you are buttuming you know the reasons behind every rule, and are therefore qualified to... Tamagotchi horror My fourth grade daughter blathers on and on about Tamagotchis. Seems like "everyone" (her words) in her clbutt has one, generally more than one, and anyone not having one is a social outcast... Tamagotchi horror 1668 I think I got my back up too much on this. First, the several suggestions about having daughter spend her... Tamagotchi horror 1669 Tai at when a (I was LOL! I have a theory about the tamagotchi. I think children like them... Tamagotchi horror 1670 shinypenny Sorry, Jen, I can't help you there! It was about the year before I became pregnant and DS14 was in grade 4 at... Tamagotchi horror 1671 The general thrust of the responses I've seen seems to be "kid wants toy, parent buys toy." Letting the tail wag the dog is not parenting. Our daughter has plenty... Tamagotchi horror 1672 charles No, that has not been the response. The response has been that if there is no intrinsic objection to the toy, nor an intrinsic objection to... Tamagotchi horror 1673 Okay. This is reasonable. But how about working with her on this whining? All toys are fads to a certain extent. The... Tamagotchi horror 1674 charles I wouldn't give in to whining either, but I'd certainly consider a politely phrased request. So will a... Plea for life saving treatment Please take a moment to read this. I realize that it may sound strange, but we are desparate in our efforts and are willing to try anything... Bad Atbreastude How old is your DS. Sounds like he's about 4? Showing him that you support his carers is a great start. Here are some suggestions which might work depending on the... Talking to toddlers about strangers 1677 Cherie I didn't talk to my toddlers about strangers or anything else of that nature. I didn't think they would understand... Talking to toddlers about strangers 1678 Cathy Weeks Nor I. I live in Australia. My children have all been shy and needed encouragement to talk to even people they... Talking to toddlers about strangers 1679 Cathy Weeks to who she'll phone she's I'm glad to see this - since this thread came... Talking to toddlers about strangers 1680 I would NOT emphasize strangers or touching under the diaper. Most molestation does not happen with strangers. I like Marilyn Hein's advice: The goal is children who... Talking to toddlers about strangers 1681 I talked to #1 at about 2.5 about never going with anyone (including people she knows) without telling mummy or daddy. At 3 I gave her a quick... Talking to toddlers about strangers 1682 Hi -- We told our kids about their "private parts" and that no one could touch those... Napping and Cosleeping 1683 Maybe you could do an experiment and stay down with the baby for a nap sometime on a weekend or something if you have a husband... Napping and Cosleeping 1684 P. Tierney I also wonder what other experiences were like, I co-slept with both of mine. Mostly just me as dh... Napping and Cosleeping 1685 hi in the UK there is some interesting developments on the risks of co-sleeping and cot-rests. I have copied below in case... Teacher fired after lowering grade of sleeping athlete Do you think this teacher should have been fired? Teacher fired after lowering grade of sleeping athlete The buttociated Press - ATLANTA A Gwinnett County teacher was fired early Friday after refusing to raise a... Teacher fired after lowering grade of sleeping athlete 1687 Jeff I don't think there was any good way to handle this situation, because I... Teacher fired after lowering grade of sleeping athlete 1688 I'm surprised that they could fire him. In the beginning (and just skimming through the posts) I was on the teacher's... Teacher fired after lowering grade of sleeping athlete 1689 On Wed, 18 May 2005 00:27:19 GMT, Rosalie B. It looks like as of 2000, Georgia doesn't have tenure at... Teacher fired after lowering grade of sleeping athlete 1690 Yes I just couldn't think of any examples except for a subsbreastute who was accused of Bill Clinton type behavior with one of the girl students... Teacher fired after lowering grade of sleeping athlete 1691 T Flynn district policy or can It studying You're not comparing apples and oranges here, you're comparing apples and submarines! Your husband's clbutt has a clbutt participation portion of the grade, which... Teacher fired after lowering grade of sleeping athlete 1692 clbutt which the However, to Why not? Your boss tells you that you may not do X. In... Teacher fired after lowering grade of sleeping athlete 1693 On Wed, 18 May 2005 14:37:09 GMT, "P. Tierney" Interesting when we talk about teacher firings. I just googled a few stories. This one is... Teacher fired after lowering grade of sleeping athlete 1694 Answered in mk-fl, but here is my take on this. Any teacher who goes against the district policy certainly is subject to sanctions (though I... Teaching Alphabet 1695 We just taught letter names the same way we taught the names of things like "dog" and "cat." Totally at random, depending on what letters were around, and yes, we did names, not... Teaching Alphabet 1696 If you mean the visual representation of the letters not the names which she already knows, then get some alphabet books to read to her. My dgd loves Chicka Chicka Boom Boom (a told b... Teaching Alphabet 1697 Hi -- Rather than focusing just on the alphabet, think about pre-reading skills in general. For alphabet recognition, point at letters when... Teaching Alphabet 1698 and teaching way When mine were little, we did the following: 1. Got a video... Teaching Alphabet 1699 On Mon, 16 May 2005 10:07:38 -0500, "Donna Metler" Using music for this helps. To Twinkle, Twinkle Little... ceremony Etiquette 1700 Stephanie Dads, it cousin had black They do still wear black, but it's not a... ceremony Etiquette 1701 This is one of those Your Family May Vary things. For some people, the presence of young and cute... ceremony Etiquette 1702 Am I the only one whose experience of ceremonys is primarily in ceremony homes and not in church? Is that a... ceremony Etiquette 1703 I think it's been about half and half for me. And for the Unitarian Universalist services, it is pretty common for the body... ceremony Etiquette 1704 On Wed, 18 May 2005 19:33:24 GMT, Rosalie B. I found this online about Catholic ceremony Services. It seems to be the way I remember things being... ceremony Etiquette 1705 toto I can't resist...a fun song from a favorite group: Da Vinci's Notebook - Another Irish Drinkin' Song Gather 'round ye lads and lbuttes, set ye for a while, and... ceremony Etiquette 1706 I looked it up in an on-line Catholic encyclopedia; it seemed to be a pretty decent site. It gave some of the history of where services were held. In the early church... ceremony Etiquette 1707 Rosalie B. people, the others, the children ceremony My uncle's recent memorial service was held in the school gym of his small town, which years before he'd saved... ceremony Etiquette 1708 Rosalie B. I don't know. My experience in Australia and New Zealand has been that there is usually some sort of... Not staying dry at night yet 1709 As everyone has said, no worries yet. I wet the bed until I was 13. I was beaten, threatened, offered... Not staying dry at night yet 1710 I was surprised at how well my son handled it all -- especially when he hit junior high and had to take Depends on camping... Not staying dry at night yet 1711 cloud nine Don't worry about it at this stage and just do what seems to involve... Not staying dry at night yet 1712 No, you shouldn't be concerned at this point - it isn't even defined as "enurisis" until a kid is 5... Not staying dry at night yet 1713 There are several things you can do to help your child stay dry at night aside from limiting drinks... Not staying dry at night yet 1714 We found pull-ups to hold all the fluid my DD produced at night. There may be no reason to... Not staying dry at night yet 1715 cloud nine Nope, unless there are other issues you don't mention. Maybe, but probably not. In my opinion, when a child is doing fine during the day and doesn't stay dry at night and... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 I want to thank everyone who expressed condolences and replied about the wardrobe issue. I did go get DS some shoes that were more... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1717 Mama2John My condolences. On the issue of kids-at-ceremonys, I think it's fine to bring kids, even young-potentially-disruptive ones. I brought my kids to my grandmother's ceremony recently. They are... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1718 I've kept quiet on this since my first post because I didn't want the OP to think I was hounding her. But as the... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1719 grandmothers, a grandmother-in-law, and a good friend who died way too young. But the ceremonys that I've... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1720 bizby40 2 My experience is even more limited as my family doesn't usually have ceremonys. I've been to one ceremony, 2 months ago, for... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1721 Not singling you out specifically, but wanted to comment on this idea about whether or not a child of 17 months or 22 months gets anything... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1722 Barbara planterger I think there is room for multiple opinions on this one. Some congregations feel that it's great for kids, even littles, to be in the service because they believe it's good for the... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1723 bizby40 First, let me clarify: although technically I'm a Catholic, I am no longer a regular church-goer and haven't been for awhile. These days, I only go... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1724 bizby40 Fair enough, and thank you for clarifying that. well-behaved "17 I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1725 Yup. For all the "the youth are our future" rhetoric, it is frustrating how hard it is to get NON... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1726 Most of the people on the rota are "Granny brigade". We have 2 services in the morning. 1st one (more formal) 2nd one (with children's groups). The first... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1727 bizby40 I was raised as an Anglican and although I've beeen an agnostic and then atheist since young... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1728 What I mean by fake is that in our church, it's pretty small so you like greet most people on... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1729 I've posted a bit in the other thread, and most of what I would say is probably covered by others, but... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1730 I used to go to a church like that, and couldn't stand it. Okay, now... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1731 Well, it's pretty safe to say that you've never been in a church like mine. We're Eastern Orthodox, and you can't get much... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1732 I'm sorry if I angered you deja -- it was never my intent. A congregation is a gathering of people, yes, but for what purpose? If what goes on up at the altar is not... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1733 I can see that I hit some nerves, but I was never trying to define what Church is. I was simply and... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1734 bizby40 even 12). the and immensely. OP would Because they're often family events. And as such very important in the life of a family. I honestly can't imagine... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1735 Hugs))) At my nephew's ceremony I said that I would come if my sister wanted me, but I would have to bring my younger child. (15 months at the time) There... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1736 The ceremony isn't for the baby, so whether they get anything out of it is mostly moot. If the baby is not harmed, and if the other people don't object or want them there... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1737 The children (my son was 18 months when he went to his great-grandmothers ceremony) get nothing out of it at this age. During the time before the ceremony, we all gathered in an... ceremony Etiquette, Take 2 1738 This was not the experience at the most recent ceremony of my father, or any of the ones I can remember. Upon arriving at the church, people were speaking in... After two years wife now wants second child I am in a situation I never dreamed would occur! My wife and I, whom have been married for 5 years and together for nearly 12, have one 31-2 year old son. For the... After two years wife now wants second child 1740 Marty U. It's possible you and your wife may have been saying the same thing for... After two years wife now wants second child 1741 Tai I see my post came after several of you replied. I thank each of you for... After two years wife now wants second child 1742 My dh had a vasectomy when I was pg with #4. We hadn't intended to... After two years wife now wants second child 1743 Marty U. I think that there is little difference whether you get a vasectomy now or in a few more... Backseat driver: Teen drivers at risk over summer season Back-seat driver: Teen drivers at risk over summer season By Tony Bizjak -- Bee Staff Writer Published 2:15 am PDT Monday, May 16... Teenager acts like a little baby I'm asking this here because I'm very concerned about my 16 year old male cousin. Over... Teenager acts like a little baby Do you mean that counselling can't happen between May and the end of this year? Or at least a good portion of it? You... loveual abuse of niglets rampant in Uganda Is Your Child Aware of Defilement? The Monitor (Kampala, Uganda) At 7pm, 13-year old, Nakku, in her dirty white... Review: Mad Hot Ballroom MAD HOT BALLROOM A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO *): * MAD HOT BALLROOM is an entertaining and precious look into a required program in the public... Commuting and childcare 1749 I opted for closer to work for the following reasons: - on site subsidised creche - I could BF during breaks - I felt more relaxed knowing... Commuting and childcare 1750 up I was in a somewhat similar situation years ago, except that DH was working in a different city. They were older, though, going to school by then. I usually... Commuting and childcare 1751 I think there are pros & cons to each. My partner and I work close to each other, but our home is an... Commuting and childcare 1752 For me a lot would hinge on what the best child care option I could find was. I'd... Commuting and childcare 1753 That's a tough one. I'd generally say closer to home, since that way if he has to leave day care... Nursing to sleep Jamie, as I have posted a few times before, has always been one of those babies who has a hard time getting to sleep. Currently, it generally takes a... Nursing to sleep 1755 My dd is 17 months old and while she goes to sleep at night with no problem, she still nurses to sleep at naptime. (I'm kind of relieved to see that other people notice... Nursing to sleep 1756 Well, I am still BFing DS to sleep at age 4 :-) DS gave up "sleeping through" at about 4mo and did not return to it... Nursing to sleep 1757 Sarah Vaughan out you he case, Sarah, I defied traditions and nursed my daughter to sleep every night, and every naptime until she was WAAAAAAYYY older than most people would expect. And did she outgrow... Nursing to sleep 1758 depressed We are not there yet, but I can tell you what it's like now as my DD is currently 15 months. My DD is still nursed to... Nursing to sleep 1759 YoungBloke is 19 months old. At 6mo he would only fall asleep while being fed - and then... Nursing to sleep 1760 Sarah Vaughan those which for Is it really a problem at all? I mean, do you feel he shouldn't need to nurse to sleep, or do you not... Nursing to sleep 1761 Ds was never only nursing to sleep - he would also fall asleep to motion (or while cuddled with a pacifier at daycare). But, normally he would nurse to sleep. It wasn't until about... Nursing to sleep 1762 Sarah Vaughan Those of you who've had a Both mine were like that. Hunter did not grow out of it. I weaned him at 20months but he still needed me... Nursing to sleep 1763 At 6 months DD had to be nursed right to sleep...a couple of time she's unlatch, turn over on her... Nursing to sleep 1764 My #1 needed to be nursed absolutely to sleep at 6 months. She slept well at night (12 hours from 8 weeks) but badly during the day. At about 7-8 months I... Nursing to sleep Obscurity, linux Sarah Vaughan writes: Sort of. Colin started to quite often come off on his own very sleepy or lightly asleep (who knows-cares?) at some point not much older than... Sun protection for babies emilymr We live in Hawaii and have 2 fair girls, and have taken them to... Grants For Starting A Daycare CenterA Primer There have been a lot of questions posted asking about grants for opening a daycare center. If you operate as... Potty Woes Please Help DS is almost 3 1-2 years old and is not potty trained. This is mainly my fault as this has been... Potty Woes Please Help 1769 Why not? Do you think that it would be a bad reflection on your parenting skills? Or mean that something is... Potty Woes Please Help 1770 Why not? Do you think that it would be a bad reflection on your parenting skills? Or mean that something is wrong with your... Potty Woes Please Help 1771 That's how I felt too, especially since my MIL kept harping on how her kids were potty trained by 9 months. I took DD's delay as completely reflective of me... A Summary of Toilet Training Options Hi -- There are several schools of thought on toilet training. ANY of them can work... Potty Woes Please Help 1773 Hi -- At 3 1-2, you've got to get your son's buy-in. Your best bets are: 1. Take him to... vaccine safety collusion and data destruction As someone on the autism spectrum myself, self diagnosed with Aspergers, and with a child who, at three years of age, was thought by her GI specialist to be possibly autistic (she's... Teenage niglet turns rapist whiggers baffled But we all know it's just TNB. -- NNS A fallen star Rashade Coleman had a homecoming crown in his hands and a sports career at his fingertips. Now, the teenager has been... poll at what age is this appropriate 1776 Tai school and kids It's very, very rare, which is a shame. There's a "no sidewalk" rule for bikes. But the... poll at what age is this appropriate 1777 Where such a place existed, mine walked by themselves from kindergarten (age 5) on. But the older ones were girls and the oldest was very responsible... Review: The Longest Yard THE LONGEST YARD A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): Nominally a remake of the 1974 film of the same name, starring Burt... Review: Madagascar MADAGASCAR A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): A random series of comedy sketches lost in search... 6 month check up, spitting up, reflux, etc... 1780 I am suspicious of the diagnosis of "reflux" here. From what I understand, true reflux is very painful and unpleasant; babies who have it are not happy and content and some of those who... 6 month check up, spitting up, reflux, etc... 1781 All babies spit up -- but there is a difference in babies diagnosed with gastro-esophogeal reflux. Maybe it shouldn't have been called that, but it is. In those babies, the valve-muscle between the... Screaming, ad nauseam.. 1782 Cheg First of all, check out 1-2-3 Magic by Thomas Phelan from the Library. It's a time-out method. It's a short book, and it's... Screaming, ad nauseam.. 1783 My 19 month does this. I don't think it's picked up particularly, as #2 doesn't... Screaming, ad nauseam.. 1784 My now 4.5 year old did this a lot, from age 2.5-4.25 (before 2.5, still many tantrums, but not that long). We once had mega 40-minute tantrum because... 2yr old "faking it" to get out of school I'm feeling at a loss on this one so wanted to post for some advice. DS, who is just 23mo. old was sick all weekend: fever... 2yr old "faking it" to get out of school Obscurity, linux I think being well enough to play at home is quite different from being well enough to play at daycare with other kids around. (Don't you have days at the... 2yr old "faking it" to get out of school 1787 I feel the opposite. Unless I'm really sick, I feel better if I make the effort to get out. My mom sent me... 2yr old "faking it" to get out of school 1788 PumpkinMama IMHO, no. If he's miserable he's miserable. I think crying when you leave can be an attempt at... I know they say an infant cant be spolied but...... 1789 Infants are developmentally in a stage where they are learning to trust. You cannot spoil them. An infant is helpless. He is... I know they say an infant cant be spolied but...... 1790 I can relate. My DD is 4 months now and she wanted constant attention for the first... I know they say an infant cant be spolied but...... 1791 newmama As a personal anecdote - not at all. My first was incredibly 'spoiled' in the... I know they say an infant cant be spolied but...... 1792 newmama It's all normal, including your feelings about it. And, no, your baby isn't spoiled he is just learning how to get what he wants from you by using his voice.That is, lots of... I know they say an infant cant be spolied but...... 1793 newmama Yes, it's perfectly normal for some children. It is totally not a result of him being spoiled. Being spoiled means that he is deliberately manipulating you in... 2yr grunting for food 1794 Oh yeah she talks up a storm but when it comes to saying bite for something on our plate or telling us she... 2yr grunting for food 1795 Hi -- When she huffs and grunts, say, "Are you hungry? Say "I'm hungry" (or whatever you want her to... lying preteen... help advice At 13, you should be able to talk to her about these things and have... My 1st grader was just suspended For hitting and kicking other children! He's been doing this for the past several months, but his teacher has had enough. Some background: He's the youngest of three boys. His brothers are... My 1st grader was just suspended It sounds like there are several things going on. Boredom contributes to this, but his teacher's fragility is not helping. That said, it is never ok to hit people in response to this... looking for slim boys shorts 1799 Banty, its the same here in Toronto. My slender middle kid (grade 5) will NOT... looking for slim boys shorts 1800 The only times I've seen jr. high boys with shirts tucked in are at concerts (if they're in the band or orchestra and the teacher is on top... looking for slim boys shorts 1801 I have the opposite problem. I am very short waisted. My legs are almost as long as dhs (which is good because we never have to change the car seats so I can reach... Review: Cinderella Man CINDERELLA MAN A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * CINDERELLA MAN is an uplifting biopic about a prize fighter who... Review: The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants THE SISTERHOOD OF THE TRAVELING PANTS A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * It would be easy to list the shortcomings of... Developmental checklist 1804 G'day Leigh Menconi DS, a "typical" kid, has attended a special-needs daycare for the past two years. Their entire buttessment-curriculum is based on the HELP programme, which was originally developed for special-needs... Developmental checklist 1805 I never did follow the developmental leads, so I guess I don't have an interest in choosing an area to focus... What was my mistake Thank you all for your comments. Yes, she was afraid she would disappoint us. But now shes sure we´ll always be there for her, even when she messes... Disneyworld questions We have a family reunion type event near Pensacola in mid-August, and since we will be travelling far to get there, we have decided... Disneyworld questions 1808 Hi there, cara You would want to stay at one of the various value resorts on Disney property. All... Disneyworld questions 1809 I spent two nights at the "Century Pop" resort just a couple of weeks ago. First, there are a ton of resorts. They're split into three price... Disneyworld questions 1810 We had a great time last year in mid-to-late August at WDW. We stayed in the cabins in the... Disneyworld questions 1811 Carol Hulls This sounds like a great idea. Next time we go, I am definately lobbying for staying at WDW. The ease of transportation to and... Disneyworld questions 1812 Five years ago, my mom had a reunion type meeting at Disney with 8 families (her children... Sleep problem in 34 year old I would try giving a clock. Get a digital one, and cover up all the numbers except the hour. Write down the number 6 (or 7 or 8). Put this over the clock... seperated lyvi-loo I am a strong believer in co-sleeping. Particularly in this case, where your daughter is almost certainly feeling insecure and concerned about parents disappearing, I think it could help... regular or organic milk 1815 dragonlady wrote in message ... ago. fewer We are also a family that uses rBST-free cow milk. Here's why: o rBST-free cow milk is more likely to... regular or organic milk 1816 So in laymen's terms, what did the study show? Cows getting the hormone had about 25% increased risk of symptomatic udder infections. There was insufficient... regular or organic milk 1817 Hot topic. I've heard all sorts of claims. Who knows what's true. Among the (sometimes tin foil conspiracy) theories: Hormones in milk have actually affected the menstrual onset age of girls. It's decreased in... letting go Well, yes, my kid is 23 and already out of the house for 2 years. The problem is that I was a single... letting go 1819 mariann I can't talk from a mom perspective as mine are still little. I can talk from the daughter perspective however. I was very close to my mom, like you... letting go 1820 mariann I see my mother pretty much every day. She lives next door. However, we both have an appropriate sense of boundaries. She doesn't try to run my life... letting go 1821 mariann Talking as a grown daughter, I would say that as she gets older (and she's... letting go 1822 mariann If you're referring to my reply - I think you've misconstrued my meaning. She should not have to tune out things you say. As a... letting go 1823 Jeanne I do think it's an important part of growing up (on both sides) for children to... letting go 1824 That is SO true. My mom will reprimand me for not showing 'respect' for her, and sometimes I haven't. I was on my cell phone... letting go 1825 I can only talk about this from a mom perspective a little: my oldest (age 22) has only been out of the house for a... letting go 1826 I didn't see the original of this - I guess because I'm not in alt.parenting, but I had to drive up the road for 2 dentist... 2yo milestones This is the 24 month questionnaire from the local health department. They don't tell you what percent of 2yos can do what, but I... Kid's IQ development & training 1828 Forget about training him and explore the world with him. Talk to him about everything. Name things for him. For communication, imitate his sounds and have conversations with him, but also talk to... Kid's IQ development & training 1829 Hi -- The book "What's Going On In There" by Lise Eliot is excellent reading on the topic of braind development. One of the chapters is devoted to intelligence. I must warn you... help My daughter is always wanting what she hasn't got and getting nasty with me because I can't or won't provide it. She gets hours of... help 1831 First, read "Parenting with Love and Logic" cover to cover, twice if you need to. I think they have one especially for parents of teens, but the general one will do... help 1832 Perhaps you need to go on strike in terms of any work that needs to be done for her. Her clothing and her room at 12 can be her responsibility at the... help 1833 She has a point regarding the house. There is no partner. It is just her and me and I'm not really a nice tidy house sort of person. I don't like housework and have enough... help 1834 Buzzard If this house is a lot different from her old that may be stressful... help 1835 me and area has has furniture fixing to the help Help! a: give her responsibilities...things that she must do each day as part... help 1836 There's a wonderful story about the family that goes to the local wise man because their house is... 9 months and running My DIL and ds's first child was on chemo and bruised easily, so his other grandparents insisted on a helmet for him because he was in bed so much that he didn't... Telephone Rules I'm just curious what sort of rules regarding telephone usage among elementary school age kids everyone enforces in their homes... It's crunch time 1839 Well, first of all, in my experience, when they're really ready, potty training doesn't take much time at all. In my oldest's case... It's crunch time 1840 Hi -- There's a great book called something like "Toilet training in a day" that has a very effective method. You may want... Review: Lords of Dogtown * 12 LORDS OF DOGTOWN A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 LORDS OF DOGTOWN, "inspired by the true story" from Stacy Peralta's documentary DOGTOWN AND Z-BOYS... The Story About the Toddler, Volume 26 The Story About the Toddler, Volume 26. by Jeff Vogel Our daughter Cordelia has reached three years, three months of age. She is still young... Hungry at 2 months old This means he is only gaining a half a pound a week, which is the typical expected gain. IOW, he's not gaining excessively even though he's eating a significant amount of... Daycare Problems Sorry to bother you guys again but I have another question concerning daycare. My son is almost... Daycare Problems 1845 I have worked in many daycares, and the one I recently worked at before I had the baby, was a little home daycare with 20... Daycare Problems 1846 Thanks for all the replies and great advice. It has been stressful but my son has never liked any daycare he... Daycare Problems 1847 On Mon, 06 Jun 2005 20:29:26 +0100, "Dave {Reply Address in.sig}" This is not a good answer... Daycare Problems 1848 I don't think they are doing everything possible if your son is getting bitten a lot. They should have some one watching him (both your son and the other kid) better. I... Daycare Problems 1849 The OP didn't say how often he's getting bitten, but remembering back to when my oldest was this... Daycare Problems 1850 I just want to add to other's comments. I took my older son (will be 4 in July)out of preschool for about a... Violent Teen What things (other than drugs-alcohol) would make a teenager become physically violent? Is it something that is learned or is... Question Cutting Up Foods AFAI can remember, I never gave the kids grapes - we just never had them on... Help with specific behavior issue 1853 You already got a lot of good responses about what to do in the moment. I just wanted to add that maybe there are things you can do... Help with specific behavior issue 1854 Does he like being in the car? Perhaps he feels a bit carsick? I am not sure what to... Help with specific behavior issue 1855 Often times when we are getting ready to go At 2 and 3yo mine liked to get... Help with specific behavior issue 1856 Hi -- In ou rhouse, anything a child did that actively scared mom, such as unbuckling a... Help with specific behavior issue 1857 Spanking is not a good idea. It contributes to a me-versus-you, controlling relationship. In the long term, spanking leads to increased misbehaviour, on average. The child might... Help with specific behavior issue 1858 Catherine Woodgold If that were the case, societies where spanking is still commonly accepted parental behaviour would have children who misbehave more. This I... Help with specific behavior issue 1859 I see it differently - it has nothing to do with the child's temperament and personality, and everything... Help with specific behavior issue 1860 shinypenny I think it very often is a parent's reaction as you describe. However, this doesn't necessarily mean that it isn't going to work. If a parent who is normally laid... Help with specific behavior issue 1861 The parent dealing with his own emotions is very important. Yes Anything that his habitual is going to basically be ignored. It will not convey the... Help with specific behavior issue 1862 Do you believe that frequent spanking causes increased misbehaviour but that rare spanking has an opposite effect? Why would the... Help with specific behavior issue 1863 Catherine Woodgold I am not Donna, but I am interested in this discussion. My son is 3 years... Help with specific behavior issue 1864 I think that some of the studies posted do suggest harm. Were the variables controlled? I don't know, but I can't buttume that they were not. I'm... Help with specific behavior issue 1865 P. Tierney Yes, they are the same studies that are trotted out every time the discussion comes up, with no mention of exactly what "rare" is, exactly... Help with specific behavior issue 1866 But doesn't this mean that pretty much any study regarding human behaviour, pretty much all of sociology, can be tossed? All studies seem to involve... Help with specific behavior issue 1867 P. Tierney I don't necessarily think all of sociology can-should be tossed, but I think it's important to distinguish between "the study of X... Help with specific behavior issue 1868 I'll withhold comment on this, since she stated that she would address her point of view at some point in the future... Help with specific behavior issue 1869 P. Tierney I don't know if the studies validly correlate that any spanking leads to antisocial behavior-poor parental relationship-lack of trust... Help with specific behavior issue 1870 P. Tierney P.Tierney: Betty Woolf: Well, given the age that many-most people take up smoking, the belief is indeed that it won't be harmful for... Help with specific behavior issue 1871 P. Tierney I think between "absolutely conclusive" and "junk science" there's a lot of middle ground. I consider most sociological studies indicative rather than conclusive, for exactly the... Help with specific behavior issue 1872 Catherine Woodgold I understand that the good studies ask about frequency of spanking, whether it is done in anger, other discipline methods, etc. They control for race, income level, SAHM-WOHM, amount and... Help with specific behavior issue 1873 When my DS got to the age where he didn't want to hold my hand just because he'd always done it, I eventually found a solution that worked -- I told him how... Help with specific behavior issue 1874 Good for you. You're modeling self-discipline. Another idea about the original seat belt issue: (for the OP or whoever is interested) The... Help with specific behavior issue 1875 Well, here's a thought. In the past, when people hit or spanked their children, if the children later (after growing up, perhaps... Help with specific behavior issue 1876 Maybe you jumped to the conclusion that I think you hit your kids often. I'm not sure whether that's what you mean... Help with specific behavior issue 1877 Before you posted, I responded to her "attempts at dismissal" a mbuttive two times. And each of those posts had specific questions addressed to me. If she doesn't want a response, then... Help with specific behavior issue 1878 I asked her why she considered the subject tedious and you answered that. I figured you might be able to cover the other parts of her post as well. Whether or not something is... eczema woes hydrocortizone question 1879 My 18mo. old had eczema since birth and we were given the hydrocortizone cream as well. Although it worked, it was only... eczema woes hydrocortizone question 1880 DS (now 2 years 4 mos) had eczema after birth until he was a year... Advice on a problem with dgs Some background. Dgs has always been a happy baby. He's been bottle fed and has never had a problem with eating since he has been getting babyfood. He does seem to have... scary weekend DD spiked a fever of 105.9 Saturday. I took her in right away. Of course, her temp got down to 102.3 when I finally got in... scary weekend Actually, my pediatrician says that he has never heard of a single case of a high fever due to a pathogenic source causing brain damage. High... Help with 3 year old 1884 As others have said, you have a typical 3 year old. He will grow out of this, but there are also some things you can do to make things... Help with 3 year old 1885 Welcome to my world. DS will be 4 yo very soon and his behavior is getting much better, so there's hope! One thing I did try doing is working on one behavior at... Help with 3 year old 1886 Some of this sounds like normal 3yo boy stuff and some sound like there is a little jealousy included. That sounds like a good idea. I had a very... Help with 3 year old 1887 Rachel This all sounds very normal to me. Preschoolers just go through these phases (and they they pretty much keep going through these phases as they get older, with some variation ;-) Getting through them and... Help with 3 year old 1888 Rachel The good news is this all sounds like normal 3yo stuff. The bad news is that even though you need to figure out how to deal with it, they mostly just have... Help with 3 year old 1889 it probably started to change about 6 months ago, so it is not all as a Welcome to the world of 3 year... Boring old question: 2 year old climbs out of crib There are lots of threads on usenet about toddlers climbing out of their crib. Haven't found an exact answer to my particular question. Right now we're in a little house, and... Safe night light for kids G'day Ericka Kammerer I installed a motion-sensitive night light when DS started to sleep without diapers, intended for when he got up at night to go to the bathroom. The night light has a... 13 yearoldboy having a hard time at school My 13 year old has always been a very good boy. He gets good grades, is kind and respectful. He was punished only a few times... 13 yearoldboy having a hard time at school If any of this bullying is going on somewhere where there are supposed to be responsible adults (teachers, coaches, scout leaders, etc.), it is... Cold sorestoddler how common in eyes Hi - I'm new here and have a question. My 14 month-old DD has a mark on her lip that looks... Cold sorestoddler how common in eyes Oral herpes typically appears first in early childhood. In fact, at least 70 percent of... 16 mo : no talking yet 1896 My 19mo old had 2 words at 15 months, "Go" and "uh oh." I had his hearing checked but he is normal. I still felt he should be saying momma and... 16 mo : no talking yet 1897 While the improvement in turtlechaser's son's language skills could certainly be the result of the "language explosion" that often happens in kids between 18 and... 16 mo : no talking yet 1898 I have to agree. With dgd, we had a child who stopped babbling and the pediatrician was not worried. It turned out that she had fluid in her ears... 16 mo : no talking yet 1899 One of the reason's I'll always kick myself as a parent is for not getting help... 16 mo : no talking yet 1900 FWIW, that sounds a lot like my oldest son. I believe he had the bare minimum... Toddlers & TV 1901 There isn't any research that I'm aware of that says anything about pre-24 month TV... Toddlers & TV 1902 IMHO, TV can be a good thing when used appropriately. In general, my DH watches little to no "regular" programming. I hold all personal... Toddlers & TV 1903 ChitaShines I think it's all a matter of balance. Personally, I don't think it's the end of the earth for toddlers to watch... Review: Mr. and Mrs. Smith MR. AND MRS. SMITH A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): MR. AND MRS. SMITH is a... etiquette question graduation party 1905 Clisby (if I didn't completely muck up the snipping!) Y'know, it's funny. A couple of years ago, I went to the first bat mitzvah since I... etiquette question graduation party 1906 yes...in many cases graduates are only allowed a limited of number of attendees, but... etiquette question graduation party 1907 The graduates generally get graduation announcements as part of the "graduation package" they buy as seniors. They also get... etiquette question graduation party 1908 jojo No, that is incorrect. There are certainly people who believe* that the receipt of an invitation necessistates a gift, and... etiquette question graduation party 1909 Jeff Just about any etiquette maven you'd care to check with (in the US). But other people's rude expectations are not my problem (or yours, or... Adult stuck at 14 years old This probably isn't the best place to ask this but I don't know where else I can ask. I guess I'm hoping that maybe someone has dealt with a similar situation and can offer advice... Adult stuck at 14 years old Some people got improvement from agoraphobia by taking flax oil, a source of omega-3 essential fatty acids (EFA). Most people in modern society have... Wedding shower etiquette question Since the question of gift etiquette has come up, I figure I'll ask this question here, too. I am giving a wedding shower for a friend's daughter... Wedding shower etiquette question 1913 I really think having read all the way through the thread to date, that the best thing to do is to leave well enough alone. Do NOT phone people... Wedding shower etiquette question 1914 that that was rude: instead, I'm just telling anyone who asks, and generally spreading the information. I'm not terribly concerned about that, but I am curious: has it become customary... Wedding shower etiquette question 1915 It's too late to unring the bell. Of course. Any suggestions about how to deal with this? Should those of us hosting the party (who are also not invited to... Wedding shower etiquette question 1916 dragonlady Well, not really, as it is considered quite rude for the guest of honor to ask anyone to throw her a shower... Wedding shower etiquette question 1917 One of my co-workers is getting married this fall, and since we work for a chain of gift stores, I'm currently immersed in wedding etiquette. In responding to the... Wedding shower etiquette question 1918 There's always a big question of how many people do you invite to the wedding. When I got married, I decided to invite everyone that might possibly... Wedding shower etiquette question 1919 dragonlady Yes, it's becoming more and more common in some circles, but it remains very rude. It's just one more example of greed run rampant. Not only... WAHMs need advice please Hi, I went back to work full-time out of the home when DS was 4 1-2 months old... WAHMs need advice please 1921 Hi there! I work from home, and I have two kids - 2.5 and 10 mos. It is very doable, if you have already dealt with the hard... WAHMs need advice please 1922 I think (but I'd have to check with my accountant to be sure) that yes... WAHMs need advice please 1923 I just discovered it about six months ago. I'm such a fan, now. For me, it's really one of my worst nightmares. I am so scarily obsessed with keeping... Hello I went to my great aunt and great uncle's 50th and I wore my great aunt's wedding dress for the occasion. (She was a bit shrunken and had trouble... Cod liver oil for baby infant excema As the mom of three kids with terrible excema....and a person who has had... Other People's Kids OK, so I am seeking input on how other parents would handle some situations I found myself in lately. I'm not sure I handled these right and am... Other People's Kids 1927 I would let it go and only react if my child were to be unable to handle the situation. By directly interfering, you are hindering... Other People's Kids 1928 Someday, your daughter is going to get caught by some other adult doing something wrong. That's pretty much guaranteed. How would you... Other People's Kids 1929 This is a fascinating thread. I didn't realize that "ignore" needs to be followed through all the... Other People's Kids 1930 One tactic that works is to agree with the tease. For example, a child who is teased because he has a big nose can say, yes... Other People's Kids 1931 Hi -- In the first case, at the fast food joint ... I always say that if it's not broke, don't fix it. Your daughter wasn't bothered by the teasing she... Other People's Kids 1932 Beth Kevles Whew... Ignoring is one of the hardest things to do, because, and I know this from personal experience - it usually does NOT work. I was picked on... Other People's Kids 1933 I know the usual prescription was to ignore teasing. That's what my mom told me. IMHO, this has a lot to do with the way the child feels about him or her self... Other People's Kids 1934 I agree. However, I would definitely not recommend climbing on the play structure. it is meant for kids, not adults (darn!). In addition, a mother or a father who is not... Other People's Kids 1935 Jeff In general, play structures are designed to hold adults just fine - they have to be for safety. You take a whole mess of kids - and it doesn't take very many of them... Baby still not sleeping through the night 1936 newmama ? I would venture to say that most* babies aren't sleeping through the night at 4... Baby still not sleeping through the night 1937 tiredmom I got that statistic from the book "No-cry Sleep Solution." I forget the name of the author. Yes, she did grow out of the nursing habit by herself. At... Baby still not sleeping through the night 1938 newmama Just want to agree with what others have already said: he's 4 months old, he's too young for solids, and if he's hungry, then feed him (his tummy is only... Baby still not sleeping through the night 1939 Well, probably because he's a normal 4 month old. :) I didn't get either of my... Baby still not sleeping through the night 1940 Well...this is going to be a bit catty...next time you need advice about what's best for the health of your baby, don't bother with a doctor...I'm sure... Baby still not sleeping through the night 1941 newmama You know, people say that, but my perception is that few things change willy nilly every few years. In most areas, there are long... Baby still not sleeping through the night 1942 It is a lot smaller when babies sleep on their backs, however. The risk of SIDS dropped from 1.45 in 1,000 to less than 0.9 in 1,000 when the recommendation changed from prone... Baby still not sleeping through the night 1943 Hi -- For the statistical baby, yes, it appears to be better to delay the introduction of solids until... Baby still not sleeping through the night 1944 Ah, right. Ok, what I did when I started introducing solids was to sort of work towards gradually increasing the amount of food my babies got, very slowly. Keeping in mind that at... Monday morning: Teens love MySpace.com but is their space safe Monday morning: Teens love MySpace.com but is their space safe? By Erika Chavez -- Bee Staff Writer Published 2:15 am PDT Monday, June 13, 2005 Sara Newman loves the Sacramento Kings. The winsome blonde is also... TV or no TV It's no longer a question: Most kids' rooms have an array Remote retreats TV or no TV? It's no longer a question: Most kids' rooms have an array of electronic entertainment By Alison apRoberts -- Bee Staff Writer... help: daycare problem long DS has been much better behaved lately in relation to DD. He takes an occasional jab at her, but overall, I see much less sibling rivalry than in previous... help: daycare problem long 1948 I will add to Catherine's suggestions. I don't think time outs work very well for this kind of behavior. They are... help: daycare problem long 1949 I tried making a rule that they have to take turns with any toys that are in the common area that they both want. Each child... help: daycare problem long 1950 It is the end for that toy. He knows he can't take it from her. At daycare, they were giving her... daycare problem long toypup Hunter went through a spell of hitting his baby brother. What finally worked was very close shadowing, intercepting any attempted hitting... help: daycare problem long 1952 Some ideas: (these are just suggestions) -- Tell him he's learning "self-discipline". Demonstrate what it looks like: tensing up because you're angry but holding back your own hands to stop yourself... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1953 I had a situation like this with my first child. The lady in question seemed great. She was happy and friendly and seemed to really like kids... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1954 bizby40 I would suggest a two week trial period with this untried daycare provider. And if for... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1955 1. About a month before I left my daughter with her sitter, we would visit every couple days just for an hour or so, I would stay as well. Then... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1956 Make sure and thoroughly check her out. Does Yes. I introduced mine with a short 30-60 minute meeting with me there the whole time and then I... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1957 I'd suggest you and your baby spend time together with the babysitter at first. That way, you can see how they interact and take it from there... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1958 I would check the babysitter out very carefully. I would definitely google her (both the web and news) and see what turns up. It probably makes sense to have police checks done on her... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1959 dragonlady says... My son's first sitter in Vermont did a lot of errands with her charges, and I didn't like it. Why? Mostly, safetly concerns. It's more time in a car... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1960 Perhaps you are right, and no reason need be given. However, when I'm working with other people on things... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1961 dragonlady says... But the question is - how to know what to be extremely clear about? When it comes to, what to me seem to be matters of common... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1962 Of the things you've listed, running errands is the only thing that is relatively common for DCPs to do. It didn't occur... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1963 I didn't know that until I had a DCP already! I mean, all this bother about state certifications about 0.5% bleach needing to be used x times a day... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1964 On the other hand... (isn't there always). A home provider, since that is what is on my mind, is often open 10+ hours per day. Even if... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1965 I would expect some chores getting done while the kids are there. After all, some things have to be done while the kids are there - at least... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1966 That's how I feel. There are certain things I expected for my child. The bare minimum of course, was they... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1967 You're so lucky. My daughter had one nightmarish DCP, then I transferred her to another DCP who seemed like a... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1968 She was my son's care provider for some years, from when he was 18 months old (when we moved here) until he was in Kinder. And the summer after Kinder. So a... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1969 On Wed, 15 Jun 2005 13:32:15 -0400, "Stephanie" I agree that it is well within the parent's perview not to want the child(ren) transported by car. And I agree that... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1970 I think I see a difference between someone who is running a day care opperation out of her home... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1971 dragonlady says... So I think you're seeing the one-kid (or, tellingly, more than one kid, but from the same family) situation as akin to a friend having... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1972 It was my mom who was providing the care, and yes, she was paid for... return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter 1973 snip You may want to back up a bit. Be sure you carefully check out... Review: March of the Penguins MARCH OF THE PENGUINS A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0... Review: Batman Begins * 12 BATMAN BEGINS A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): * 1-2 So you think you know all about the BATMAN movies and that they're nothing... overenthusiastic preschooler On Wed, 15 Jun 2005 23:10:26 -0700, Anonymama Lots and lots of little ones love to roughhouse. Make sure he has ample opportunities to roughhouse with dad or someone... Baby Signs Parent kit hello, I am a newly mum, my daughter is only 7 weeks old. I am very interested by the program offered by Baby Signs and I would love to... Baby Signs Parent kit There are many resources online about baby signs. Both my kids have used sign since the age of 6 months. I never purchased any programs myself although I have read online resources whenever... Suddenly afraid My 2.8 year old DS is suddenly afraid of a lot of things. I say suddenly, because he is normally fearless. This has... Suddenly afraid! 1980 jojo This is really normal. I saw it in my little brothers (who are 14 and 16 years younger than I am) and in... Suddenly afraid! 1981 It is absolutely typical for this age. Cognitively, he's developing the ability to imagine situations and what might happen if they were real. These are big changes, but they generally don't... ALS and my grandmother If you knew me, you'd know I'm the last person to ask for help or money... more thimerosal & autism news 1983 Kerry D I remain on the fence about the role of thimerosal in causing autism, but still believe that right now the prepoderance of the evidence is that there... more thimerosal & autism news 1984 Kerry D This article apparently arises out of a "Rolling Stone-Salon investigation," and appears to be reproduced without permission by the site provided by Kerry. Rolling Stone ... aren't they the... Daycare Blues Again Hello Everyone, I would appreciate more advice on this subject. I wrote earlier about my son not liking day care and you guys gave wonderful advice but now I guess I'm asking... Daycare Blues Again 1986 If I didn't believe it then it wouldn't bother me. Approximately you're saying that he says she's mean... Daycare Blues Again 1987 I had a kid go through Montessori, as did a relative of mine. We were both very pleased with the result. However, "Montessori" as used in a school... Daycare Blues Again 1988 You can get some answers here. I would visit the local school and see whether or not you like... Daycare Blues Again 1989 Manipulative" is a very loaded word, so I tend not to like that word. Kids his age are... Daycare Blues Again 1990 They may be trying too hard. Are they (you?) expecting a certain personality trait that he just may not have? I'm asking because people seem to be perturbed when a young child acts... Daycare Blues Again 1991 I'll comment further but maybe you should shop around to see what other daycares are available. I made a switch... Daycare Blues Again 1992 He's 4 years old and no* other kids in this daycare make up stories about any play animals? Something is wrong here - don't they have... Daycare Blues Again 1993 What makes everyone think he's not enjoying it? Maybe he looks sullen but inside, he's happy as can be. DS would never participate in his... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 1994 Mary What a fascinating thread. I'm surprised that there are only 1-2 that seemed bothered. I agree with you. I don't think the kind of attire you describe is appropriate... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 1995 wore low ride, cotton, white, mini skirts, with no slips (do people still wear slips?). One has a tongue stud. Both wore shirts with their belly buttons exposed. * It is... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 1996 Mary Hmm...I'm a little surprised by the responses. I sit on the board of a preschool. From my perspective, the tongue piercing is not an issue, as long as it's not being fiddled... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 1997 that "liberal teacher? It also depends on the subject. When I teach elementary (or, currently, preschool) music, I'm on and off the floor, dancing, and moving literally all day... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 1998 I agree. Despite the fact that preschoolers are not adolescents, they are influenced by the way they see people... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 1999 Jeanne As I've said elsewhere, I think there are two issues on the table. One is... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2000 I don't know if the place is A-C or not, or where it is located, but some undress is to be expected if it is hot (as it often is in the summer) I... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2001 But you said that my sister's underpants showing through a formal gown would be inappropriate and... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2002 The exchange was: Me you me you That was where I thought you rejected the idea that it would be lovey. ----------------- Mother of the Bride (or groom) dresses are a sore point with... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2003 Take out the "too much" in that sentence, and you have the scenario that I suggest. I think it is possible for someone such as me not to realize that some shadow of the... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2004 Grandma Rosalie wrote....And I don't think that we here can possible judge whether their attire was appropriate... Inappropriate Teacher's DressRevisited I am back from a weekend trip and truly amazed this thread is still going. The story continues, here is a... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2006 Rosalie B. Well, sure. If you believed you had information that would help someone you cared about have a more successful business, would you not say something? She mentioned it... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2007 She didn't let it drop, she came here and complained. And she said that the things she really objected to were the belly button showing and the tongue piercing. I... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2008 Rosalie B. That affects her relative...how? Thinking it's not appropriate for a preschool clbuttroom doesn't necessarily mean that she... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2009 planterger waist-high, to a have a the your other had no you In addition, I'd hope anyone who... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2010 Barbara planterger I'm just curious -- where do these teachers who wear low-riding skirts with tops that expose their stomachs teach? What type of school, what subjects and what grade? One does attend... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2011 I'm not talking about "this child has a mother who dresses slutty I'll grade him down". I'm talking about, say, a child having an academic or behavioral... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2012 L. I have to say, right off, I'm with Banty -- despite cringing at my former workplace attire guidelines stating, 'no toe cleavage' (I wonder if consulting firms still say things like that) -- how... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2013 Let me say first, that I disagree with Banty on this point. So many parents don't show up at all, that if I were a teacher, I think I'd buttume that anyone... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2014 L. No, its not. As others have pointed out, racial profiling involves judging people based on immutable charcteristics. Forming impressions based upon clothing involves an buttessment of... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2015 As -L. wrote in message: See, here's the thing. My skin color is more or less constant -- it's not that I get up in the morning and decide to sport the... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2016 As Donna wrote in message: Sure -- it's by Malcolm Gladwell, and addresses one's instant reactions (what he calls 'rapid cognition' -- of course, he's paid a lot more than me :) to situations. The premise is... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2017 L. SNIP No, it's reality. Clothes DO send a message. And, in most cases, the message being... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2018 Barbara Sure they do - but only to people who are so shallow as to judge people by what they wear. I don't care what other people wear. I might think something... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2019 L. Bully for you. But in the real world, people DO make judgments based on what others... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2020 And since when is a parent-teacher conference a dress-up occasion on the part of the parent? Yes, the teacher should... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2021 says... But that's exactly the sort of natural consequence that some who says "I don't care what people think... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2022 grade him The exact quote, from your message is: ... the natural consequence of your choice... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2023 I may make a decision like that. BECAUSE (not! that I disapprove therefore I'll punish this child), I'll direct my... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2024 I'll child middle-clbutt mom better I absolutely agree that making decisions based on atbreastude is appropriate. Let's flip this. What if it's a single working-clbutt mom... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2025 Cathy Kearns Doesn't this happen all the time? We frequently receive mixed messages in the messy, confusing, equivocal real world. When that happens, people... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2026 Perhaps Absolutely!!! That is exactly what I'm saying. Folks showing up anywhere in nothing more than a bikini is a... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2027 Cathy Kearns That is not true at all. Do you require a written notice that it's not okay to start spouting four... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2028 The only point I've really tried to make in this whole thread is that it is... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2029 Stephanie The thing is, you're asking for slack, but you're also explicitly acknowleging that you know there are standards and they can 'hang' for all you care. I'm not... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2030 Ok, I'll try one more time. For myself, I do not value propriety in particular... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2031 L. Do you think it'd be kind to show up at the ceremony service for a friend's father wearing a Hawaiian shirt and trunks? Or at an average... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2032 P. Tierney Well, again, I'm not Ericka, but just before I read this post I'd pre-emptively posted my doctrine of 'give slack as much... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2033 My point was that communication is made up of a speaker and a listener, and sender... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2034 I agree that people need to take responsibility for what they conclude and to try not to let bad buttumptions affect their work... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2035 Stephanie This I agree with. This I do not agree with. Sending is the more... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2036 I'm not sure what "International Male" shorts are, but buttuming it's something beyond the pale, it would go something like this. 1. Yes I would... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2037 Stephanie Okaaaaay, so you accept the notion that some clothing is inappropriate in some situations, and perhaps the argument is only about where to draw the line. Now... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2038 It's certainly true that in many cases the And that is the rub really. I'm buttuming Ms... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2039 Stephanie To my way of thinking, this is a very selfish way of thinking. It basically boils down to "Screw the rest of the... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2040 Cathy Kearns But don't you think that there are community standards for attire, that most of us follow without even thinking about it? That's why you don't usually see women in thong... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2041 P. Tierney I think you're starting from flawed buttumptions. First, you are starting from the presumption that this is about what is preferred in terms of dress. If it were about preferences, personal... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2042 P. Tierney No, I have never said that the receiver has no responsibility. In fact... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2043 Oh, I really disagree with that. After having three preschoolers of my own and volunteering many hours at school, I think preschoolers are very impressionable. You would not believe what some of the preschoolers think... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2044 Nan How? It's relevant if your goal is to judge the interns for their worth as human beings, obviously, but how is it relevant to whether their choice... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2045 Nan Oh, I will readily agree that there may not be intent. But since I am not privy... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2046 Stephanie Actually, I don't find it to be a problem at all. I have found it to be an buttet, and I don't have the slightest... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2047 Stephanie Sorry, but I just don't buy the idea that the way that we dress does not convey messages to others. I don't think that recognizing the fact... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2048 lifeguard, a cage dancer or an aerobics instructor, I would define appropriate, minimally, to be... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2049 enigma Never knew that; sorry. Actually, clothes tell me a bit less about men, perhaps because they have a... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2050 On Fri, 24 Jun 2005 11:51:16 GMT, "Donna" It's not a matter of thinking at all in the... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2051 toto I think that depends a lot on what you mean by "judgements." I agree that drawing sweeping general conclusions about someone's character based on their attire is inappropriate, just as it would... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2052 P. Tierney That's another red herring. Why are you equating manners (i.e., choosing appropriate clothing for appropriate contexts) with racism? If I were to think negative thoughts... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2053 P. Tierney It is not parallel, and the area in which it is not parallel is the most important bit. Racism is judging people for something that is not their choice... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2054 P. Tierney They don't necessarily choose the reaction, and it's always possible that there are folks... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2055 P. Tierney Well, I would argue that they aren't in my mind, or at least not in my mind alone. Of course there are communities where the community standards admit a broader... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2056 P. Tierney SNIP I'm trying to understand, since this is obviously quite foreign to me. Is what... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2057 I think there's certainly room for variation in what appears suggestive, and it certainly depends on the location-season and the exact nature of the item of clothing... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2058 Good point. I expect the lead teacher to dress professionally, and somewhat formally, modest skirt or pants and tops. No jeans. No shorts. No T... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2059 Rosalie B. Right--obviously that element is not really an issue for most primary or secondary teachers, except maybe PE... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2060 Ericka Kammerer I don't know, I definitely see things this way but it's kind of hard to put my finger on... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2061 P. Tierney I think it's a lot more than that. There is absolutely no avoiding the notion that... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2062 P. Tierney No, it doesn't. It depends on the recipient. Intent is irrelevant in the real world. You can have all the good intentions in the world, but if you consistently do things people... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2063 The above buttumes that all clothing has "intent", clear or otherwise -- aside from functionality, I buttume... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2064 P. Tierney I think it is naive to think that it is even possible for clothing not to function as communication (among other things... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2065 I don't buy that for a minute. I have seen many preschoolers who are already far too body conscious. When a four year old is already telling people she's too fat and needs to go... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2066 P. Tierney The fact that mores change over time does not mean that mores do not exist. No, but as... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2067 P. Tierney Why do you buttume that "by-the-book" folk are somehow in the dark? Sure. And yet there nevertheless came a time when pants were seen as acceptable--and that time came... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2068 I'm not sure -- but it's probably the same reason that you think that the OP's DCP is in the dark regarding her parent population. Probably not. The... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2069 P. Tierney Based on my experience (including being involved in the running of a preschool, so I actually have* significant contact with parents and the issues they... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2070 I would be surprised if a large percentage of your parents voiced specific about the what they think is appropriate teacher clothing. If... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2071 P. Tierney Yes, I am extrapolating to some degree, but I don't think I'm going very far out on a limb. We have several parents who sit on our preschool board... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2072 For me, I think that each person has 2 societal duties. The first is to... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2073 dragonlady No, not at all, and I wasn't speaking of the level of formality of the dress at all. I would expect a preschool teacher's attire to be more casual due to the... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2074 I think most of us would have a line that we wouldn't want our DCPs to cross. Would you object to someone with a violent t-shirt, or one of those shirts with snakes... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2075 Mary Yep. Several of my DD's full-time afterschool teachers dress like this. These are not interns, but college-educated women in their first full-time teaching position. My DD's all-time favorite... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2076 When someone is doing an internship, that is the MOST important time to have professional clothing... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2077 dragonlady You know, I consider myself as being fairly open minded about things like tattoos and body piercings. I even... Inappropriate Teacher's Dress 2078 Yes, you're being too melodramatic. It's a fashion statement. While it MAY (and I emphasize MAY) have had... Choosing a bike for a 4 year old We are planning to get ds a bike for his 4th birthday in a few weeks, and we just started looking. Dh and I went to a local bike store, since I... Choosing a bike for a 4 year old 2080 Irene SNIP I must say that I'm completely surprised by the suggestion that a child that size should be on a 20 inch... Choosing a bike for a 4 year old 2081 Barbara Well, since we wanted to look a little without ds there, we didn't actually have him sitting on... Martial Arts 2082 dejablues I am a certified Taekwondo instructor and have been participating in the sport for over 13 years. My oldest daughter (4 years) will be starting in the fall. There... Martial Arts 2083 participate Thanks for the responses. The child in question is 7.5, and I've signed him up for a summer... Article: "Why Don't Kids Do Chores Anymore" 2084 On Wed, 22 Jun 2005 15:16:17 -0400, "JennP" My kids had an allowance that was theirs from an early age. It had nothing to... Article: "Why Don't Kids Do Chores Anymore" 2085 Hi -- We tend to re-evaluate chores over the summer, so just did the re-evaluation this week. My boys are 7 and 9, btw. During the school year we don't push household... Article: "Why Don't Kids Do Chores Anymore" 2086 Beth Kevles You know, that's always been one of my pet peeves. I agree that it's important for everyone in the home to know that everyone else is working too--that we're all in it... Article: "Why Don't Kids Do Chores Anymore" 2087 It is tough, and I have the same struggles. My thoughts: 1) As beneficial as they are, and as much as it hurts the team (or group) to bail on them, those things... Article: "Why Don't Kids Do Chores Anymore" 2088 I can tell you that almost nothing made me more resentful than for my mom to say that I should be able to see and pitch in to what needed doing, and if I... Article: "Why Don't Kids Do Chores Anymore" 2089 On Thu, 23 Jun 2005 14:46:14 GMT, "Donna" My history is slightly similar to dorothy's only the allowance started earlier. It hink at perhaps four? In the earl years it was the amount of... Article: "Why Don't Kids Do Chores Anymore" 2090 Right, but my stepdaughter decided that there was nothing she wanted to buy that was worth doing chores. (It was a... Article: "Why Don't Kids Do Chores Anymore" 2091 Sure, but there is a connection that is subtler, more difficult to teach, and more important (imho) than work=money, and that connection is giving=getting... Article: "Why Don't Kids Do Chores Anymore" 2092 No, I just consider them suggestions (we had a similar chart from the local Children's Hospital). My youngest is 11, so I have conveniently forgotten what... Sippy cup problems Hi -- Keeping your daughter hydrated is FAR more important than getting her to understand the ins and outs of different sippy cups. If... Review: Bewitched 12 BEWITCHED A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): 1-2... Teaching fear of strangers dangerous 2095 Like others, I'm concentrating on telling ds not to go anywhere without telling me or dh. I haven't really emphasized not taking stuff from strangers - I haven't quite figured out how to explain... Teaching fear of strangers dangerous 2096 P. Tierney I agree. Most of the time, it seems like stuff like that is only going to turn out a fearful child. It also seems like it would push children... Teaching fear of strangers dangerous 2097 We had something happen that was even more extraordinary. We were in Belize driving back to Placencia where... Teaching fear of strangers dangerous 2098 L. I'd watch out with statements like this. I was talking a few years back with my FIL, who's a psychiatrist, and a number of nurses (medical and psychiatric), doctors, and RCMP (police... Teaching fear of strangers dangerous 2099 according to a report i read, his mom said he was a premature baby & is a little slow, but not... Teaching fear of strangers dangerous 2100 This sounds like what we've said. We've told them that under no circumstances would we ever send a stranger to pick them up from somewhere. If something... Teaching fear of strangers dangerous 2101 Yes, on the radio this morning one of the morning DJs said he didn't think the kid was 'quite right'. And I agree. He was acting more like a 4 yo. When... Teaching fear of strangers dangerous 2102 This child is now 35 years old, so it was in the mid 70s and no we didn't have cell phones. It was a very rural highway with no businesses - just farms well back... insomniac preschooler Two mornins (so far...) this week, my 2 1-2 year-old has gotten up at 2:30 in the morning. Not just for a sip of water, but to... insomniac preschooler Well, if you really want to keep him in his room (and he won't just scream and keep you awake all night if... Timid toddler My DS is 2 years 5 months, exhibits a very shy behaviour when is out with other kids-people. At home, is he very active... Timid toddler tiredmom My oldest son was very similar. I never pushed him and neither did the daycare. I switched daycares when he was 2y9m and it was... Book Discussion Here is just a bit of back story... So... i pick up this book a couple weeks ago called A Treasure's Trove by Michael Stadther--a friend suggested it. It turned out to be... kids birthday who should pay 2108 How I felt about it would probably depend on the parent, and how they phrased it. If it was along the lines of: "lovex is really... kids birthday who should pay 2109 Catherine Woodgold But do you not see that for your proposal to work (everyone just asks for whatever they want, regardless of the potential... kids birthday who should pay 2110 Stephanie Hmmm...I think it depends. If the party were at Chuck E. Cheese or the bowling alley, I don't even think you'd have... kids birthday who should pay 2111 Stephanie I'm sure some do, though mostly I was just trying to think of some sort of example of something where having your daughter around was almost certainly... kids birthday who should pay 2112 Yes it is. Its what we call "the little sister factor". In that, a parent says "I need to be there to help-watch my kid-too little time for... kids birthday who should pay 2113 Personally, I don't mind this and I don't consider it rude. I also think it's fine to answer "that... kids birthday who should pay 2114 The arrangement that may be preferred may be (for example) that six ten-year old boys make pizzas and play games, without having to account for the abilities and interests of a couple of... kids birthday who should pay 2115 Agree with everyone else. Can't send an invitation and ask people to pay. He's 9. Old enough to say that he has the... kids birthday who should pay 2116 When I see questions like this, I wonder where this stuff happens. I can't decide who... kids birthday who should pay 2117 When I was a kid, they got referred to as party favours - which waaaaay back then usually consisted of a paper hat... kids birthday who should pay 2118 That sounds fine to me. However, it is not fine if the people doing the inviting are... kids birthday who should pay 2119 Donna Hmmm, maybe I am misunderstanding the original poster... I THINK he-she was asking IF she... Is this normal in a 4 year old There are several items of concern with my 4 year old son. I will start by posting just one and I would like to know if this is just a "developmental step". A point ot... Is this normal in a 4 year old 2121 I never got into repeating it over and over, but would certainly "feed back" what they wanted -- and add the emotional component for them. "You want to go to Sam's Club, and wish it were... Is this normal in a 4 year old 2122 With my 4 1-2 yo son, there are any number of reasons he might say something "wrong." How does Mommy react? This is the less common. More often he has his wires slightly crossed about... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour Betty Wolf said: Life is complex and you never know what might happen. In a particular individual case, having one's leg accidentally broken could turn out to... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour 2124 No one has even found a correlation between spanking and any long-term benefit such as improved behaviour, as far... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour 2125 You are familiar with the null hypothesis? It didn't sound like it when you It's not a statistical test. Are you quite* sure you understand... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour 2126 Betty Woolf posted a perfectly adequate definition of "null hypothesis". Her definition referred to the concept of "hypothesis test", which is what I mean when I say... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour 2127 You've been told??? By whom? This is an outright FALSE! Random chance would fall under the third possibility... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour 2128 Catherine Woodgold Let's take a look at the abstract for the study I believe you are referring to: Arch Pediatr Adolesc Med. 1997 Aug;151(8):761-7. Spanking by... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour 2129 Could you be more specific? I think the statistics they report are important, but I don't agree with some of the opinions the authors express. Fewer fights would probably be a benefit (maybe not... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour 2130 Yes! That's the one! That's the Straus et al (1997) article I've been talking about. This study was... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour 2131 On Sat, 2 Jul 2005, Chookie Excellent point! I wonder what Lady Cathy would say about the non-cp alternatives if they showed the same CORRELATION... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour 2132 Certainly it may be the case that children who are more difficult to control tend to get spanked more. It seems very likely... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour 2133 Catherine Woodgold I'm going to snip liberally to keep this from getting too long, but if... Relationship between Spanking and Misbehaviour 2134 Catherine Woodgold Well, people usually do studies trying to prove something, at least in my experience. Spanking either has a positive effect, a negative effect, or no effect on a child's behavior. My... OT ceremony attire question I'm going to run these ideas past you guys, since I already buttured my mom that I would know how to dress appropriately for my grandmother's ceremony tomorrow - and then realized that... sorry for the new attire post header issues in OE WAAAAAAAY up the thread, you mentioned something about determing that a child care program that had what you considered scantily clad young ladies might not be the place... sorry for the new attire post header issues in OE 2137 Stephanie I am hijacking this for a minute...I think this example might be of some use. When someone is invited to an event there are two things to consider... sorry for the new attire post header issues in OE 2138 At one level, this makes a lot of sense (and I'm guessing that's the level at which you meant this example). At another level, however, I think you're making this harder than it needs to... sorry for the new attire post header issues in OE 2139 Ericka Kammerer I absolutely didn't mean to make it harder...if anything, I was trying to... sorry for the new attire post header issues in OE 2140 Stephanie I don't disagree with this on the face of it. Part of the reason we temper our clothing choices is to show respect for people or insbreastutions. Here, I have mixed... Olfactory defensiveness You may want to get some books about sensory integration disorder. The Out of Sync Child and The Out of Sync Child Has... Schools blocking MySpace Schools blocking MySpace Social Web sites a problem at parochial campuses. By Erika Chavez -- Bee Staff Writer Published 2:15 am PDT Monday, June 27, 2005 Schoolyard fights have moved off campus and... Interesting book on overindulgence Since the topic has come up several times in the past, I thought I'd mention Clarke, Dawson, and Bredehoft. Overindulgence is certainly an issue we struggle with, and I thought... Britax Marathon Car Seat or Others for Tall 2 year old I have a dilemma. My son is a very, very tall 23 month old. He is approx. 37... Britax Marathon Car Seat or Others for Tall 2 year old Here's what carseat.org says about seats for large toddlers (though they're fixing more on weight): "My child is over 40 pounds... kidspukinglaundryvent 2146 Waterproof mattress pads: Many many years ago when I had leaky kids I bought a waterproof terry cloth... kidspukinglaundryvent 2147 Yeah, I do that too... only the layers of towels OVER the sheet. My daughter had recently transitioned to her... potty training questions 2148 day" from the library. I could only browse through it but liked what I read. I liked the idea of the child doing A-Z all by herself. I'm training... potty training questions 2149 I wouldn't know. We used the typical plastic floor potty and at some point switched to... potty training questions 2150 I left diapers on for nap and bedtime. Many children can't control themselves while sleeping and most do not have a... Africans just can't stop enslaving each other TransAfrica: African Children Sold Into Slavery Used to Produce Cocoa The head of TransAfrica Forum said major manufacturers of... Jigaboo rapes 12yearold on Greyhound bus Child Allegedly Raped on Greyhound Bus; Pbuttengers Detained, Questioned A 12-year-old Longview girl traveling alone on a Greyhound... deck railing safety I have strong opinions on this one. When our youngest was 18 months old, we drove our oldest son (then 8) to his first day at summer camp. We were all sitting on built... Question on Johnsons baby soap 2154 KR Did I really misread this person's post? AS I read it, her kid is regular* -- poops every night. She gives him his bath after that. And I'm having real problems figuring... Question on Johnsons baby soap 2155 My 2 cents is ...none of the above. I have three kids and all three have sensitive skin. To tell you the truth, other than shampoo, I very rarely... Sunscreen poll and a question in Kozierok) The problem appears to be that most people don't take enough of a Vitamin D supplement to give them any benefits. And, it's an expensive way to get vitamin D when 20 minutes of... Sunscreen poll and a question in Ah, but that's just it--my kids don't burn unless they're in the sun for literally hours on end. When they were babies, I was pretty careful about sunscreen-covering up because... Sunscreen poll and a question in Sue I think the difference is that although we're all talking about the same sun, the sun is different depending on where you live. It's one of those, 'where you sit determines where... Sunscreen poll and a question in And sunscreen is only one option. When I got sunburnned as a kid, it was because we were at the beach or pool, all day, many... Sunscreen poll and a question in Penny Gaines SNIP SNIP Yes, but IIRC, the problem was limited to Charedi communities where girls wear dresses that cover them to the neck and thick stockings year... Sunscreen poll and a question in That's legit. And what I think the medical recommendations are aiming at. And truck driver's left arms (which I've heard is one... Sunscreen poll and a question in Banty exposure to the sun a day. But, alas, so many articles don't seem to understand the concept of moderation. I've probably read... Sunscreen poll and a question in Or possibly that if you spend a lot of time in the sun without taking precautions that you may get skin cancer when you are 65 or 70 - taking longer to... Sunscreen poll and a question in Water is VERY reflective, and so just being in the shade (if available) will not necessarily do it. Neither does it help if it is cloudy and doesn't feel so hot. We were pretty... Sunscreen poll and a question in My personal opinion is that sun exposure cannot possibly be as dangerous as it's currently cracked up to be. If it were, human beings would... Sunscreen poll and a question in I am unaware of any evidence that skin cancer was particularly common before sunscreen was available. It wasn't non... Sunscreen poll and a question in I am not familiar with the medical history of that period, but it seems quite possible to me that skin cancer was common but not diagnosed. People died... Sunscreen poll and a question in Robyn Kozierok I am fairly familiar with ancient history, though I can't say I know as much about medeival or pre-industrial history. Notwithstanding, the reasons people... Sunscreen poll and a question in Recent research suggests that human beings can metabolise about 5,000 IU per day, although the metabolic pathways have not yet been identified... Sunscreen poll and a question in Marie I question whether they got burned. Dh says he never burns. His arms are peeling right now. Your skin doesn't peel off if it was not burned! He gets... Sunscreen poll and a question in Exactly. My complaint is that I think there's a bit of an overreaction to sun exposure these days... Sunscreen poll Both of mine brown beautifully, and don't burn. Browning can be dangerous too according to recent research I saw. My rules are: Suncream on if going to be out in sun for... Somebody wanna fire up the PNL in Philly 15-Year-Old loveually buttaulted During Robbery PHILADELPHIA (KYW) Police are searching for two suspects who allegedly loveually buttaulted a young... Harry Potter and sharing books So, for those of you who have more than one kid who is a fan of Harry Potter, how do you handle taking turns with the book? Below is an article from the... Harry Potter and sharing books 2175 Cathy Weeks That would be ... me and my husband and our 9-year-old daughter? Well, it'll go something like this: Husband will loudly proclaim that because he... Harry Potter and sharing books 2176 We're older (two 19 yo's and two parents -- though the 22 yo who isn't living with us may want... Livein nanny responsibilities A question for those of you with live-in nanny experiences: As a very new and very inexperienced mom, my worst fear was that I am not going to find... Livein nanny responsibilities 2178 I never had a live-in nanny, per se, but I had two au pairs. It's not quite the same thing, but it's similar. As... Livein nanny responsibilities 2179 I don't know what a "typical" live-in nanny might be like, but I can share my own experience. Our nanny lived with us for a year. Prior to... Livein nanny responsibilities 2180 Sounds like a lot of miscommunication. Did you tell her what her hours would be? Nannies don't work around-the-clock. They work a schedule like you do at work, with vacations and everything... Livein nanny responsibilities 2181 An employee isn't usually like a member of the family, doing her share of the work (though some can be). That's more usual... DS#1 in trouble at school When I picked DS#1(who will be 4yo next month) up today from preschool his teacher... when ettiquette goes bonkers 2183 Yeah, but you can support the bride without going to the shower. I mean, there could be all kinds of reasons why you... when ettiquette goes bonkers 2184 bizby40 That's terrible!! I'd be livid too! When we got married, we were finishing undergrad and going on... when ettiquette goes bonkers 2185 bizby40 No problem; FWIW, I had actually been at great pains to say that we weren't* asking for money instead of gifts, but rather suggesting that IF people felt... when ettiquette goes bonkers 2186 Melania Registries tread a very thin line. Some etiquette mavens (including Miss Manners) don't really like them at all, but they've become rather insbreastutionalized... when ettiquette goes bonkers 2187 writes In the UK it does seem to be common practice to include registry cards with the... when ettiquette goes bonkers 2188 Welches It is still considered improper according to etiquette. You may elect to ignore that, but it is--and quite a few people find it very offputting. If you are grateful for something... Another wedding etiquette question OT All this etiquette stuff made me curious about something that happened several years ago, and I've... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2190 Now, that said - when I agreed to be a bridesmaid, did I sign up to host... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2191 Well, apparently expectations vary. I think a person should never be asked to pay an amount of money they had no say in. I think it was Dear Abby... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2192 Catherine Woodgold And somehow there's no value to decades and decades of clear expectations? Honestly, the responsibilities of a bridesmaid (which do not include being held up to pay for a shower one... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2193 Welches There are quite a few differences in wedding etiquette between the US and UK, as I understand it. In the US, "Chief... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2194 the When I got married - think small town wedding , around 70 guests (mostly family and neighbours), extremely low key - the minister... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2195 says... I think the point is that, there are dinners and there are Dinners! Naturally, depending on timing and who is in town, folks might get... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2196 Banty This may be regional or related to some other grouping, though. My impression from hearing from others (since I wasn't going... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2197 Banty Unfortunately, in some circles, yes. I personally think that every family should do a) what they can afford and b) cater, if possible, to the wants of the bride and groom. My... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2198 My niece had a Jewish wedding - that is a rabbi officiated in the traditional ceremony. They didn't... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2199 I thought I was quite calm and collected at my wedding, but in the receiving line, I looked right at the lady who gave me both a shower and the rehearsal dinner... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2200 Nonetheless it would be kind of you to back off your earlier statement that "There are some tragic people who have weddings that are so grandiose... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2201 Chookie I'm not sure what was involved in your wedding, but things that commonly come up as questions in rehearsals I've seen are: - what order will attendants... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2202 That is done AFTER the rehearsal dinner. We do that too usually - I've never heard of the speeches given at the rehearsal dinner. I can't remember that dd#1 had a... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2203 Chookie Actually, the vast majority of wedding that have rehearsals aren't particularly grandiose. My experience has been that weddings and the folks participating in them (at least in the US) vary... Another wedding etiquette question OT 2204 Banty I didn't think you did. Just making the point that one doesn't have to have an... 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Reducing AIDS risk by 70 Study Says Circumcision Reduces AIDS Risk by 70% Findings From South Africa May Offer Powerful Way To Cut HIV Transmission... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids Hi everyone, I know that one of the cardinal rules of parenting is that you never contradict your spouse in front of your kids. But what do you do when your spouse is... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2237 bizby40 I think your husband is unreasonable. I don't believe open contradiction in front of the kids is good since it confuses them. You need to... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2238 You could try the Thomas Gordon techniques. Don't push. "A man convinced against his will is of the same... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2239 Heh. Half my family (that's the male half :-)) have some of these issues in one form or another. Only my... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2240 OK.... Then don't try to acheive agreement, and don't bring in the bigger picture. To a "details man", the bigger picture can be very threatening :-). Instead, just state your case. In as... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2241 Well, I'm very glad it made sense to you, and I do hope it helps. And I've been reading all the other unusual things... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2242 My Dad was kind of that way. Overall a very good person. But sometime you had to spell out to him exacty what he was doing to screw things up... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2243 Yes, except that I wouldn't call his anger intense, that sounds very much like my husband. Any understanding you can impart would... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2244 Well, it helps me a lot just to know that even if my action or inaction was the immediate cause of my son's upset (oh no! I didn't put the apple... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2245 Reposting.... Sorry if it appears twice?) Well, it helps me a lot to know that even if my action or inaction was the... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2246 He doesn't see it as overly concerned of course. It seems like this would be a key point - if he is still kvetching about spilled popcorn 15... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2247 P. Tierney I think "defensive parenting" like that can work, though it's a bit hard not to be resentful when you're doing it. For instance, if you know that him getting home from work tends... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2248 I agree with Rosalie that parents don't always have to agree. In your case, I don't think... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2249 I am a firm believer in the fact that you cannot change anyone else, you can only change the way you react to the disagreement. This response is late, but hopefully helpful... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2250 I think Thomas Gordon's techniques would be very good here ("Parent Effectiveness Training", "Discipline that Works", "Leader... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2251 bizby40 I don't belittle (I'd step in with that too) but I have had to work hard at not yelling and lecturing inappropriately. I end up doing that when I'm overwhelmed about... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2252 Well, if that's the case, I don't see there's much you can do about it short of family counselling (and... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2253 Maybe he's right. You have not described on this newsgroup what he did that was inappropriate, I don't think. You said he was angry. Anger is a... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2254 bizby40 IMO Punishment and consequence are suppose to serve as way to teach children appropriate behavior. So in the bedwetting... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2255 bizby40 I don't think it's necessarily unreasonable to get angry at someone just because they had no ill intent. To give an example, this weekend we were rushing around getting ready... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2256 bizby40 True, but let me be more specific: he was annoyed at me for not being more careful. Well, sure. There's going... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2257 bizby40 Hmm...I don't think anger is the problem. It's what you do with the anger. He can be angry about the broken part. He can express his anger. The kids owe him an apology... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2258 The rockets are shared. More daddy's interest than theirs, though they enjoyed helping to make them, and DS especially liked setting them off. But, here... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2259 Ericka Kammerer Agreed. If DF walked in the door and pulled something like that, I would totally ignore the issue at hand, put my hand on my... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2260 shiny See that would just drive me crazy. I would never do it to dh and I'd be very resentful and angry if he did it with me. I must be... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2261 Nikki Heh. Well, Bizby did start the whole thread basically asking how to "handle" her DH next time. And maybe that's the issue here: if you need to "handle" someone - especially if it's on... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2262 Okay, are you objecting to the specific words or the example here. Because although I dont use that phrase, i do use the same method. In our case, ninety eight... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2263 Banty Nope, it works with us because I know my DF really well. I know how much he hates his job and how his boss harrbuttes him on... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2264 Jen, I just think it's neat to find similarities between you and me. Just the fact that you mention Prisoner's Dilemma is one. Years ago I wrote... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2265 Banty Absolutely he is. I wasn't giving her advice, only relating how it might go... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2266 I kind of agree with Jen, here. If DH walks in an jumps all over the kids, or me, I am going to say something, too... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2267 Oh, I can understand that the DH has a problem with anger and control and generally dealing with things well. Maybe the "hey that's enough" would be a good thing to try. Something to distract... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2268 Banty Hard for me to remember what was in my head when I wrote the post, but I am pretty sure that I meant to make an illustration that perhaps there is some reason that... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2269 I did used to get frustrated, even before we had kids, that when things were going wrong at... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2270 More than 'not being in touch with (his) feelings', this sounds like just plain narcisism and not taking responsibility for oneself. He is happy (he may actually be! happy or at least... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2271 Then maybe a gentle request is a better way to handle it than talking to him as if he ought to do something differently. You could phrase it as if... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2272 bizby40 The thing is, you say the kids were responsible and of course they shouldn't have done it, but you've also... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2273 That would make me angry, too, for dismissing my feelings. In what way and at what point did you make this clear to your DH? Perhaps if he knew... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2274 You could step in and say, "Gee, the rod is broken. That's really too bad. (pause) What are... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2275 I'll start out by saying I have never agreed with the idea that you should never fight in front of your kids... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2276 When my younger siblings were teens, they came and stayed with DH and I during a summer or two. (I'm 16 and... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2277 bizby40 I would send the kids away if I couldn't get him to step away. It's... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2278 bizby40 What I meant is that you have to have a discussion sometime when it's not related to... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2279 OK, I don't have the spousal issue (no spouse, for which I'm usually glad). But, in defense of... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2280 Okay, yes, he has a legitimate right to be upset that the rod is broken. I disagree that it was intentional... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2281 bizby40 I think it is OK for the kids to know there is a disagreement as long... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2282 This sort of problem-issue comes up fairly frequently in our household as well. My husband tends to see... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2283 Rosalie B. I agree with Rosalie. Bizby, I recommend the book "Sibling Rivalry" by Adele Faber. Get a copy and if you can get... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2284 No, he doesn't think he's being mean or unfair. He thinks he's being completely reasonable. I have talked to him at calmer times, and he... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2285 you are a generous wife and mother, your husband is a picky one. he should not spoil the fun, the kids are just playful and... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2286 Like I said before Banty -- you and I see eye to eye on so many things -- until we don't... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2287 He's never cleaned the interior of the car -- it's always me. As he does drive the car sometimes... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2288 Oh, I have. It's not that he's still angry over that incident. It's that he thinks it makes me look bad, and he thinks that is funny... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2289 I think this is a real problem. He is not showing you the respect you deserve. Maybe it would be a good idea to say "Can you believe he brought up that story again... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2290 bizby40 Y'know, although earlier I was sympathetic to his feelings that no one was taking him seriously when his stuff was broken, I also think that you may... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2291 Circe You know, I'm meaner than that ;-) If DH had the gall to lay down rules about how I was to manage the kids, I'd... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2292 Mmmm, well, I find my husband generally comes around to my point of view more easily when I just do... contradicting your spouse in front of your kids 2293 bizby40 There is room for compromise here, and you have to give as well as take in a negotiation. And it absolutely is* important for... Cars with 3 children 2294 BTW, for those in Europe (or just in the know), what do they use for kid-hauling? While I'm not... Cars with 3 children 2295 On Sat, 09 Jul 2005 03:18:04 GMT, "P. Tierney" I can tell you that most german companies do make... Cars with 3 children 2296 I had a Volvo wagon (760 series) for all the years my kids were young. I never had to deal with... Cars with 3 children 2297 Well, I prefer cars, too, but I'm a realist. If the minivan's the most practical vehicle for... Cars with 3 children 2298 P. Tierney Well, I'm sorry if I implied you were living in la-la land. I didn't intend to. It's just that I once thought I'd... Cars with 3 children 2299 I may be if I think that I can get by without one. We'll see. I'm... Cars with 3 children 2300 We live in Southern California, the land of long commutes and virtually non-existent workable public transportaion... Cars with 3 children 2301 We had a Taurus station wagon for more than a decade....and we had one of those rooftop clam carriers on the... booster seats No, a full back booster won't do the trick either--those still require a shoulder belt. I think the only thing that pbuttes muster safety... Neighbors complaining about kids 2303 toto Just goes to show that anything can be dangerous.. like eating, breathing or even walking. The key... Neighbors complaining about kids 2304 Reading through the thread, it seems that people have identified two potential sources of the neighbors' displeasure: (1) Noise, particularly shreiking children. Unless the suggestion is to move the trampoline to the other side... Neighbors complaining about kids 2305 Barbara I sure don't. This is a country where people will sue because they spill their own hot coffee on them, and win. Maybe Steve is not the sue-happy type, but how... Neighbors complaining about kids 2306 My kids can cause a ruckus in an otherwise quiet neighborhood. We are packed in pretty tight too so that makes it worse. Anyway, I've talked to the neighbors on either side, who are actually... Neighbors complaining about kids 2307 I have my own obnoxious neighbor story, and I thought I'd share. When I was 8 months pregnant with my daughter, my stepson, who was then 7... Neighbors complaining about kids 2308 Just because your neighbors are rude, doesn't mean you have to be. Here's what I would do: 1. Move the trampoline (even if it... Neighbors complaining about kids 2309 OK. That's good. But that shoots the reason given to have the trampoline right by their fence - you said it was to supervise by looking through a window. Well, that wasn't the best way for... Neighbors complaining about kids 2310 It's hard to know whether this is the generic noise of kids playing, or girls screaming for fun (I have two daughters, and they have a friend who's into Screaming For Fun... Neighbors complaining about kids 2311 It sounds like you have tried to compromise. I'd just set up some kind of schedule when the kids can use the trampoline, (no earlier or later), and let the neighbors know... Neighbors complaining about kids 2312 This isn't exactly a compromise either. I think I know how Steve feels. Homeowner's have rights not to cater to every other neighbor. Myself, I'm... Neighbors complaining about kids 2313 Brian Ack, that would drive me crazy too! Okay, since everyone's griping about neighbors: our neighbor complains about the sound our... Neighbors complaining about kids 2314 There are some neighbors who are just unreasonable, and really seem to not want to even know kids are around. I had a neighbor when I lived in... Neighbors complaining about kids 2315 dragonlady says... I know you're the kind of person who would accept a complaint fairly amicably... Neighbors complaining about kids 2316 I understand that -- but was still stuck with getting complaints that were so far in the past (as far as... Neighbors complaining about kids 2317 Banty Yes, when I was in college, I had to work early on Saturday morning. And the kids in the room above mine LOVED to party in their room on... Neighbors complaining about kids 2318 says... Yes, definitely talk to the person at least once. I know there's some people out... appropriate responsibilities for a 23 year old G'day DS (3.5 yr) usually loves to do things to help out. Here is what I can think of off the top of my head. Transferring washing to the... appropriate responsibilities for a 23 year old Obscurity, linux jojo writes: My 20mo loves to unload the dishwasher. Of course I remove knives first, and I do... anyone have a ford escape and two kids I was watching the other thread about a car for 3 kids, and i have a VW beetle right... anyone have a ford escape and two kids dontspamme Anyway, anyone have a Ford Escape and No but isn't a Ford Escape an SUV? I think that would work fine for two... Prayers for the UK Froggy May all families be safe. Part of that requires contemplation of who stood to gain... OT: pbuttiveaggressive people at work long There is a girl I work with who is outgoing and buttertive, so it is surprising to me to realize... pbuttiveaggressive people at work long 2325 toypup I've started and stopped responding to this several times because I have a bit of a different viewpoint. But your reference to her job responsibilities pushed me over the edge. As you read this... OT: pbuttiveaggressive people at work long 2326 toypup If someone is harrbutting you, you need to keep a diary of the incidents. In fact, start with the incidents you related to the newsgroups... OT: pbuttiveaggressive people at work long 2327 I don't really consider this much of a harrbuttment. I mean, it is harrbuttment, but it really isn't serious, yet. I find it quite... OT: pbuttiveaggressive people at work long 2328 Now doesn't that make the nicest work environment around? You know it kind of peees... OT: pbuttiveaggressive people at work long 2329 The petty stuff will escalate, however, if you don't deal with it. She's targeting her harrbuttment at a level that you can't complain about without looking foolish, as you note above, so you have... OT: pbuttiveaggressive people at work long 2330 Cathy Weeks My own tactic is along these lines - "kill them with kindness" - except I don't manipulate or act a role, but rather, respond with genuine kindness. I try to figure out the motivations... OT: pbuttiveaggressive people at work long 2331 Banty Sure, there was luck in the situation. My usual M.O. with people is to lead by giving the benefit of the doubt, and I'm also an obnoxious idealist and optimist at heart. I am... pbuttiveaggressive people at work long 2332 I typed in "Bullying at work" and got lots of hits. This was very interesting: What to do if you... dinosaurs rant only Having read this group for so long, you sort of get the impression that most moms out there are "in the know." That... dinosaurs rant only* 2334 It depends -- I could see myself responding like that if I'd caught a lot of poo from family and friends. I know there were things I did that others found problematic. For example... dinosaurs rant only 2335 Circe I went straight to condensed milk and Karo syrup, since breastfeeding (in the weird Must Schedule Feedings mindset... dinosaurs rant only 2336 I'm not saying that you should blindly follow whatever your doctor says, but if you really don't think they know what they're talking about in general, you should probably switch doctors... dinosaurs rant only 2337 I understand your POV. So this is my POV. My dad was a professor of anatomy... dinosaurs rant only 2338 bizby40 I can't speak to the baby cereal issue, since I breastfed my kids and have zero experience with any other method. But as for putting baby to... dinosaurs rant only 2339 Barbara Are there really all that many "lightning-fast" changes in terms of medical advice in pediatrics? People always say this, but it occurs to me that while recommendations do change, if you follow a... dinosaurs rant only 2340 Ericka Kammerer MEDICAL advice? Maybe not in recent years. (If you discount the recent debacle over a vaccine ... I forget which one ... that wound up being pulled IIRC. But how fast... dinosaurs rant only 2341 Barbara Well, any change in recommendations is pretty much "fast" in that sense, as the recommendation... dinosaurs rant only 2342 And only 30 years ago, solids were often begun at 6 weeks (My ds had cereal at that age). I don't think that is a... dinosaurs rant only 2343 But this kind of change sends a signal that is interpreted by a lot of people... dinosaurs rant only 2344 It depends how you see the boundary between lifestyle and health, and where medicine fits in. Certainly smoking is... dinosaurs rant only 2345 Banty Well, I have to say I don't have a lot of sympathy for that sort of argument. For one thing, it's pretty commonsensical. We all learn things over time and change what we... dinosaurs rant only 2346 I'm not saying I have sympathy for it either. Just that that's how a lot of folks see it. Many people don't follow these issues all... dinosaurs rant only 2347 I didn't think I was whining. I'm only pointing out that, indeed, some recommendations DO seem to change fairly quickly. So, read everything you can get your hands... dinosaurs rant only 2348 But it isn't a research based setting. We've told you that things like babies sleeping on their backs and no solids before 4-6 months HAVE changed and ARE new in relation to... dinosaurs rant only 2349 On Tue, 12 Jul 2005 01:54:33 GMT, Rosalie B. Yes, and both my children were breastfed although obviously not exclusively up to the point... dinosaurs rant only 2350 Rosalie B. Pediatrics isn't? I would think that pretty much all medical fields are. Would anyone take information on how to treat... dinosaurs rant only 2351 No PARENTHOOD isn't a research based setting. We are talking about parents and not pediatricians. Although some doctors aren't up to date. But basically the parents have to... dinosaurs rant only 2352 Rosalie B. I guess to my way of thinking, "fast" is relative to the issue at hand... Chores vs doing what needs to be done Obscurity, linux I'm just musing on this, partly because of the recent thread about chores for a 2-3yo, and partly because of various parenting books I've been reading, and wondered whether anyone with... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2354 When I was a kid, I always did the vacuuming and my sister always dusted. Ostensibly this... Chores vs doing what needs to be done Obscurity, linux Robyn Kozierok writes: Yup. That would be nice - but it's exactly the problem. I've been... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2356 Sidheag McCormack My children are 15, 13 and 4 years old and the elsdest two are well aware that there... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2357 Sidheag McCormack I think partly you're getting worried when you needn't. I don't think having chores leads to needing to be nagged to do things later... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2358 Sidheag McCormack Mine are smaller yet so I will say that in theory....my plan is for them to basically be... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2359 Nikki That's the basic policy in our house. My kids (ages 11 and 12) don't have regular chores... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2360 Sidheag McCormack When I was growing up, I had very few chores (in the sense of buttigned, regular... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2361 While certainly things may have to be done in a specific order, that doesn't mean their must be a rigid timeline, imo. For example... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2362 I tend to think that if one sets a "fairly" strict timeline, it is both easier to remember to do things, and easeir on... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2363 toto Well, if we want to get a load of washing through and on the line before we go out for the day then, no, collecting up the laundry does need to be be done... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2364 Almost nothing made me madder than for my mom to say that I should be able to see what needed... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2365 I am a believer in chores. buttigning chores is a first step, because kids haven't learned how a household functions... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2366 On Tue, 12 Jul 2005 12:21:00 +0100, Sidheag McCormack I think y ou make it an either or situation when it is not... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2367 Donna Well, I think a significant component of it is motivation, to be honest. I don't buy that some people "just don't see it." There's nothing wrong with their... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2368 I think there is some truth to the "don't see it" excuse, but also that it CAN be learned. Many moons ago, shortly after my partner and I moved in together, I got mad... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2369 That, of course, is a different issue: how clean is "clean enough" on a daily basis? I think most can agree what is "clean" if you're talking about the sort of cleaning that would... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2370 Perhaps, but then again, the experience you keep mentioning was working as a maid in a motel. Many people have more tolerance for their own... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2371 shinypenny Ugh - I wish I could get my family to cooperate with the no shoes in the house bit. I only get really gripey... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2372 Yeah, before lists my habits were formed by commissary shopping, too. That's where I learned to shop. In the commissary... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2373 Well, there's just me and my son, but generally we do. There are two different handwritings on the list by time I... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2374 Well, we also have a whiteboard that people can write things down on. But no one ever writes down milk, or bread or cheese -- it's always the more unusual stuff. We certainly... Chores vs doing what needs to be done 2375 I do that kind of thing with the paper list - whenever I notice something is running out, or once I use up the 'backup' item (stuff for which I always have one replacement), I... Popularity as a teen: An obstacle to success Popularity as a teen: An obstacle to success? By Gina Kim -- Bee Staff Writer Published... Popularity as a teen: An obstacle to success Ablang I think it all depends on why you are popular. If this sort of thing is... Gracious giftgetting We had a minor clash of wills with our three-year-old this morning, and I'm not sure I handled... Gracious giftgetting 2379 We also had a similar incident recently, and of course, an unexpected one. We were visiting relatives, and they decided to give... Gracious giftgetting 2380 I think you did reasonably well. It probably wasn't the place to go to the mat on something... Gracious giftgetting 2381 Hi -- In our house, we started opening gifts at birthday parties when the kids were 4 or 5 years old. In advance, we practiced how to say thank-you for ALL the gifts, even the... Gracious giftgetting 2382 Banty Yeah, I know. I just find it hard to know what to do about 'developmentally appropriate' behaviors that aren't signs of anything being wrong in a three year... Gracious giftgetting 2383 I think you're fine as long as you're obviously working on it. It's the parents... Gracious giftgetting 2384 I'm working through a similar thing with my daughter, (2y 9m) right now. Manners are kind of a big thing for me, so this is one... keeping cat out of crib A couple of ideas to try: A cheap screen door on the babies bedroom. A crib tent might work. I've never actually seen... shower ettiquette Well the wedding shower we threw was last Saturday. There was only one phone call indicating that someone was upset (or at least confused) about not getting an invitation to the... Family & Consumer Science Banty: Here are the "standards" but they do not give any real sense of what actually goes on in a clbuttroom. Family Life # Understand the... getting rid of too many toys i think Boo has an excessive number of toys (being an only with toy junkie parents). he's 5 next week, which... getting rid of too many toys 2389 We have three kids, now 14, 11 and 7. At least once a year, we haul ALL the toys down to the basement once a year - every last one... getting rid of too many toys 2390 On the flip side my boys are really very good about going through things and getting rid of toys but garage sale time is very hard. We don't sell a whole... getting rid of too many toys 2391 enigma Well, we have similar problems (three kids, but too many relatives and too little restraint in buying toys). We have started a... Rant locker room etiquette As my two year old son just started swimming lessons and it's a parented buttisted clbutt AND I'm the only swimmer in the family AND the clbutt meets at 4:55 PM and... Rant locker room etiquette 2394 At least for us, it wasn't so much getting INTO the suit -- we could do that at home... Rant locker room etiquette 2395 dragonlady I agree. We have family changing rooms - which also double as disabled changing rooms - at our local YMCA swimming centre. They were terrific when I had two wet pre... Rant locker room etiquette 2396 That does sound uncomfortable. It is (remotely) possible that the guy is just a clueless dweeb who doesn't realize he's making other... Rant locker room etiquette 2397 It's swimming lessons, including ones for really little beginners which need parent participation (like in the OP's case!) Fathers changing into and out... Rant locker room etiquette 2398 Those of you who are uncomfortable changing in a mixed locker room, please consider a serious question. What do you see as... Rant locker room etiquette 2399 Apparently, some folks do. There is a woman at my dh's work who gasps in Well, yes, I know that some folks... What is wrong with my boy Is this a 2 year old3 year old thing? Or is there something wrong with my son? It used to be: (last week) "Mommy, I want some Dinner" "Ok, sweetie, mommy will make dinner... Need for potty training because of an infection Hi -- There is NOTHING you can do about the night wetting. His body just isn't ready to stay dry at night. So try keeping... Another Update The season ended I wanted to give all you helpful people a final update. We finished the season doing better than I ever could... Help needed for coach trying to deal with parents I'm just surprised that they are adhering to all of these rules at this stage of the game. I don't honestly know a whole lot about soccer, but... Doctor Offers Advice to Severely Overweight Child 2404 My household (I admit it freely) is bad about junk food, and my son, at nearly three, is a little chunky, which means he's about 32 pounds. I'm overweight, so he's probably inherited... Doctor Offers Advice to Severely Overweight Child 2405 I have no weight concerns with either of my boys but I do think they need to eat a healthier diet. Dh is fast food-junk food king and... Doctor Offers Advice to Severely Overweight Child 2406 My around 40 lber. is around 40" tall. According to the percentiles calculator at about.com, at 3y3m, he's in the 95th... Doctor Offers Advice to Severely Overweight Child 2407 Circe Be patient and keep up the good work. You are doing all the right things, and it will pay off! We had... Doctor Offers Advice to Severely Overweight Child 2408 Well, is* it a weight issue? It could be his usual growth pattern, and the next growth spurt will bring him more 'in line'. (although I wouldn't say 95... Doctor Offers Advice to Severely Overweight Child 2409 Well, that's the little one who's 95% for weight and 86% for height--and I'm not sure those percentiles are completely correct as I don't have a totally accurate number for... Present for a FourYearOld Clisby We were at a bday party last night. The family has one and their three kids, ages 2, 5... DS has an ear infection Well for a 4 year old it's a case of explaining. "This will help you get better". It's... Perverts try to indoctrinate kids dragonlady He doesn't eat shellfish, pork, cloven-hoofed animals, or forbidden fish. The OT doesn't forbid eating meat and milk at the same meal - at... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2413 Levy says... Oh I don't mean to say schools are comparable to military defense in any but the broadest sense. My point is that nearly everyone accepts that some things have to be... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2414 The first 2 years of college are routinely used for remedial education these days. And that is exactly what people like Bob LeChevalier, Banty and Raqueteer want. Having lost... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2415 Rubin) According to the Fiske report, published on the US News web site, all of the Big Ten schools except for Northwestern, Michigan and Purdue reported offering remedial courses in mathematics, writing... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2416 Yep, I would clarify that to say that they have the right to define what education will be made available to all children will... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2417 wait... he says he has the only house on the street. doesn't he also live in Mbutt? there's a good possibility... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2418 No, I do not. We have an 18,000 gal swimming pool, we also have 4 high capacity lawn sprinkler heads installed on the roof and a seperate pump... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2419 That parchment under glbutt renders itself invalid in the first word, We. No one gets to speak for me. Do you expect to be a collectivist for the rest of your life, Bob? I have... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2420 Welp, there ya go. No wonder you have the atbreastude you do regarding public schooling. It... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2421 Yes, but the lawyers were not the clbuttroom teachers. Armistead actually provides teachers with training on teaching methods that are effective and I would bet they come from... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2422 They do not need know how to DO any of those; they need to know the SIMPLE concepts, so that they will know WHEN these... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2423 Rubin) This is, of course, your "But the teachers couldn't learn it" refrain so often repeated that you believe in it implicitly, but you later post... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2424 Rubin) You never let reality get in the way of your preconceptions, do you Herman? The same way that you've decided all the stuff you believe. And IF they believed it was worthwhile, and IF... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2425 Once more, the public schools with the largest budgets have the most dismal success rates. Google DC public schools. It has nothing to do with money. If each school received $1bil... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2426 I'm not so uninformed that I think my rent isn't affected by the property tax rate. Of COURSE... Do you support educational vouchers in schools 2427 You don't pay property tax, period. So stop lying about it. No, YOU said you don't pay property tax. You rent, and thats something completely different. If you... Antibullying policy P. Tierney I'm in complete agreement that it's inappropriate to paint everyone with the same brush (and heaven knows, the 'brush' of the popular press is oftentimes way too large and blots out all details... 3.5 year old: How would you respond when P. Tierney Coming in a bit late but I will add my two cents since I used... Child obesity a form of abuse Read again. The part that says "this is where swimming pools and upper-body strengthening come in" part. I don't follow ssfa, I'm here because you answered me only here... School bus rides was One More Hour in School Would go a Long Way But In Fairfax County, it is lots of stops and the economic necessity to design routes so as to fill every... School bus rides was One More Hour in School Would go a Long Way But economic necessity": this means that society places a value on the bus driver's time, but does not place any monetary value on the children's time, or even places a negative value on it... when do children bathe themselves 2433 toypup I'm certainly no authority, since I only have one child. But if they're still... when do children bathe themselves 2434 The main issue is danger of watering. People can water even in only a few inches of water -- either because after slipping into the water they can't figure out how to... FOAD Baby Boomers 2435 Oh yeah, it's horrible. Just this past week, I had to endure eating dinner with a black co-worker, TWICE, and we went to the same... FOAD Baby Boomers 2436 Legacy of Resentment by Edgar J. Steele August 21, 2004 Imagine that you are talented, Black and truly deserving... FOAD Bigots 2437 Way Back Jack actually, i juxtapose those "arguments" with the actual data, and then use the data to tear the arguments to... FOAD Bigots 2438 On the surface, it would seem that legalization is desirable: violence buttociated with it would be eliminated (although there would still be... FOAD Bigots 2439 I use the pharmaceutical equivalent of injection every day. injection is used in pain control in Canada and... FOAD Bigots 2440 I AM? My doctors don't seem to think so. Why? The case for legalizing injection is far stronger than for legalizing pot. In the formula y=mx... FOAD Bigots 2441 Lets say I am stupid. I have a severe neuromuscular disease. You can see it by looking at me... FOAD Bigots 2442 On 7-28-05 12:46 PM, in article How about milton Friedman, Two-time nobel prize for economics, and 500 other economists, as well as The Economist magazine... From Forbes.com (Malcolm "Steve" Forbes... FOAD Bigots 2443 DeLance LaCruz but studies aren't the only way to dig into the reality. consider, if you will, that 100% pure THC (sugar's principle psychoactive ingredient) is available as a "safe and approved" prescription medicine which... FOAD Bigots 2444 Yes, the motivation of reformers or scientists conducting research where the results do not confirm your prejudice has to be suspect. But then so does yours: Dated: September 12... FOAD Bigots 2445 Relatively few adverse clinical effects from the chronic use of sugar have been documented in... FOAD Bigots 2446 Lots of reasons, beginning with the belief among politicians that if they do anything besides support the war on drugs it will cost them their seat in whatever place they have been elected... FOAD Bigots 2447 Compared to Alcohol, Toronto Study Says sugar Induces Minimum Driving Impairment Compared to Alcohol, Toronto Study Says April 1, 1999 - Toronto, ON, Canada Drivers under the influence of... FOAD Baby Boomers 2448 On Mon, 01 Aug 2005 12:51:44 GMT, Delta Nine So you see nothing wrong with giving 20 extra points on a test, on the basis of skin shade. GRATZ... FOAD Baby Boomers 2449 How, precisely, would you measure that? High schools are not equal, so you can't just compare GPAs. And even if you JUST go for kids with 4.0's, (which the top colleges could do... FOAD Baby Boomers 2450 Have I said word one about white privilege? Please stop putting words in my mouth. Once again, you are attempting to change the subject. I said... FOAD Baby Boomers 2451 No; if you didn't want to learn the subject, nothing would have made a difference. Perhaps if the teacher had slowed down for you, you might have pbutted -- but I suspect you could have... FOAD Baby Boomers 2452 On 7-28-05 12:47 PM, in article Jack you know what? I wish I actually did have HIV like you are... FOAD Baby Boomers 2453 Racist (new age definition) n. 1) Anyone who supports color-blindness and equality rather than racial preferences and affirmative action in jobs, education, housing... FOAD Baby Boomers 2454 Perhaps cops have been conditioned by: Black-White Street Crime Ratios: liquidate-neg. msltr.: 5.39-1... FOAD Baby Boomers 2455 Says DOJ govt. data In the first place, blacks are not in the position to do white collar crime. Secondly, I would rather be defrauded... Drugs Were Available In My Youth Too Drugs were available, but not as easily, or as young. Read "Reviving Ophelia" -- she says that girls in junior high are being forced to make decisions about drugs and love that those... dairy in baby food Micah's been on solids for 2 1-2 months now (he's 8 1-12 mos), and I'm wondering about yoghurt and butter. I know he's not supposed to have milk until a... Daughter has UTI advice Don't do bubble baths. The soap in the bubble baths irritates the urethra. For wiping, you might want to teach her to wipe, look... Daughter has UTI advice Obscurity, linux Usenetlyn writes: Yup! One can get paranoid, and end up doing nonsensical things in the hope of avoiding it. I had prophylactic Nitrofurantoin too, at a... Teaching table manners 2460 It seems he has a number of problems and is not just trying it on with her. I think she should discuss it with the psychologist that he is seeing. For example, he may... Teaching table manners 2461 ah, i figured there was a bit more to it :) she will have to be very clear from the beginning if she starts a new routine of using proper manners or leaving... Teaching table manners 2462 Thomas Gordon's method does not require a person to be consistent over time ("Parent Effectiveness Training", "Discipline that Works!"). It does require a person to be honest about their own emotions: one's tone... Teaching table manners 2463 Raising young males to have good table manners is a serious struggle. It's just not in their nature - they fail to see why... Teaching table manners 2464 Yes. Probably 75% or more of his food is finger food and he is an excellent albeit messy... Teaching table manners 2465 dejablues I'm not sure I agree with this (but then again, I have DD's not DS's!) Also... Teaching table manners 2466 Kim E I have a similar kind of problem with my 7yo son. His table manners can... Teaching table manners 2467 Looking at this list I can see a couple of things here that I also do. The one... Teaching table manners 2468 Wait. She had better try a number of positive methods before trying punishment. Once she starts on punishment she'll have... Daughter Is Way Too Protective of Son 2469 What is the school environment like? I would talk to the teachers. It could be that in Evlin's school... Daughter Is Way Too Protective of Son 2470 shinypenny I try telling her that over-protection hinders rather than helps but she gets so emotional over this that it is diffuclt. Evlin is very much against love stereotypes. She... Daughter Is Way Too Protective of Son 2471 You could word it differently. I wouldn't say that "over-protection" is bad. I think it's good for Ivan to be protected from people who might attack him. What needs to change... Daughter Is Way Too Protective of Son 2472 Banty One of these teens is the boy who attacked Ivan in his pre-school. However, she intends to attack... Daughter Is Way Too Protective of Son 2473 Who are the others?? What happened the other times?? OK, so apparently a boy went hooky from a neighboring school, went to a pre-school, and attacked... Helmets for walking babies I'm not convinced. What makes you believe that? I believe that large bumps to the head cause large, noticeable amounts of brain damage... Mom's Permission Slip For love With Daughter Lands Her In Jail 2475 R. Steve Walz Except those don't exist except in the minds of fundies panicking about Satan. Funny, all the best artists seem to be bipolar. That's not boring at all. Including parents... Mom's Permission Slip For love With Daughter Lands Her In Jail 2476 Whether you fear you'll go to hell, ot just magically and for no rational reason fear that open and broad proloveuality will make you... Mom's Permission Slip For love With Daughter Lands Her In Jail 2477 R. Steve Walz Fairly illogical. I was arguing that fundies panicking about rumors of Satanic child abuse believed in repressed memories and no one else. Instead you launch a... Raising a bilingual child long We speak a language different from English at home. DD (2yo) goes to full time daycare. She's going... Raising a bilingual child long 2479 I agree with Toypup and Emily. Set strict boundaries on when and where you speak MT. From what I see, most parents insist on... Raising a bilingual child long 2480 I have fantasies of raising The Bug at least nominally bilingual so have done some websurfing on... Raising a bilingual child long 2481 Hi, I've been lurking here for a while, but wanted to respond to this post. I'm a linguist by profession, so feel... OT I invented a frozen yogurt recipe sort of On a whim, I made French Vanilla Frozen Yogurt - adapting from an ice cream recipe. The recipe called for: 1 c whole milk 1-2 c sugar dash salt... Starting Solids 2483 Can I be a dissenting voice here? IF he has pathological reflux (as opposed to the normal occasional spitting up stuff all babies do), starting solids may help him sleep better. Babies with... Starting Solids 2484 I liked the book "Nighttime Parenting" by William Sears and got some useful advice from it on how to help babies sleep. I vaguely remember reading that some authority wanted to recommend... window sunscreens for kids 2485 that is an obstruction & is not legal (putting something opaque on either the driver or pbuttenger side front windows). elderly drivers have slower reaction times as it is without adding visibility issues. i... window sunscreens for kids 2486 It is a bit insulting to think that you know better than someone else what she needs or doesn't need when you don't know the circumstances. I used... window sunscreens for kids 2487 True. If you go back and read Jenn's posts carefully, you can see that she didn't say either one of those things. She said that she... Teenage son has fat ugly gf what to do 2488 You cannot base a book by its cover. I notice you only described her by her looks. Get to know... Teenage son has fat ugly gf what to do 2489 dragonlady --------------------------------- Sure you are, you just don't quite understand HOW you do so. It's insulting to... Teenage son has fat ugly gf what to do 2490 Mogget ------------------------- Being faithful to a group that meets your needs is normal and feels like you're really defending a prized possession. Whereas being faithful to only one person... Home Shopping Made Easier. Find Online Stores for your Children's Items Hello Everyone. I downloaded a program the other day that is loaded with 100's of Products and stores listed within the... MAKE LOADS OF MONEY FOR FREE MAKE THOUSANDS!!! I found this on a bulletin board and decided to try it: I don't care about the useless pre-fabricated crap this message usually says. All I say... Bedtime battles and UTI update 2493 Donna I think it's weird that she's waking up at 3 or 4 am. To me, that indicates something... Bedtime battles and UTI update 2494 shinypenny Well, if she's been prone to ear infections, or had a recent upper respiratory infection, I'd agree. But it's VERY common for everyone to wake during the night when we're in the lighter... Bedtime battles and UTI update 2495 I've been thinking alot about what you and Jen have posted. I think the underlying issue... Bedtime battles and UTI update 2496 It sounds to me that you're trying to get her to be alone at bedtime, and that she's trying to not be alone. Have you tried getting her to go to sleep in someone's presence... rash on baby's face Hello, just wondering if anyone has had any similar experiences. My son is 5 months and 1 week old. He has always had... Five month old has stopped "cooing" and "blabbering" 2498 My son did something like this, tho he was older. He stopped babbling and was fairly quiet. He... Five month old has stopped "cooing" and "blabbering" 2499 Hi, I just wanted to talk to someone about a problem that I have. My son is 20 months old and does not... Five month old has stopped "cooing" and "blabbering" 2500 When my son was about 15 months old, we were likewise told that he could not hear because he did not respond to various stimuli in the ENT office. Like you, I knew this couldn't... Five month old has stopped "cooing" and "blabbering" 2501 Some children have temporary hearing problems due to ear infections. This can affect language development. Children vary in the age at which they learn to talk. It's... Five month old has stopped "cooing" and "blabbering" 2502 She seems to be progressing well otherwise. She's VERY strong and loves to try and sit up (she can do so for a short while if she's... Review: Sky High SKY HIGH A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * Silly and sweet, SKY HIGH is a delightfully over-the... Review: Stealth * 12 STEALTH A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 Preposterous... Allergic to yogurt I tried to give Alli (8 months) some of the YoBaby stonyfield farms yogurt today. She's trying to self-feed, so I'm doing the "feed the baby, wash... Allergic to yogurt 2506 cruise ship. I see fruit salad, and ask if it has strawberries in it. They say, "oh, no... Allergic to yogurt 2507 Yes a GOOD restaurant would do this. I'm talking about something like Bob Evans or Chili's or Ruby Tuesday or Cracker Barrel. I've eaten at each of these restaurants... Allergic to yogurt 2508 Phoebe & Allyson The best service of this sort that I've ever experienced was a mall cafe court - though it has nothing to do with allergies. There was... Allergic to yogurt 2509 I can't stand black pepper. Or white pepper for that matter. I'm not all that great with bell peppers either, though they're not related, IIRC. But... Allergic to yogurt 2510 Jenrose Well, sure, it would suck, but dying on the floor of a restaurant as my throat swelled up... Allergic to yogurt 2511 enigma I'm not a doctor (nor do I play one on TV)...but when I was 17 I had a reaction to ampicillan (hives and a secondary infection), and went to... Allergic to yogurt 2512 My aunt, on the other hand, nearly died from an anaphalactic reaction to her allergy shots (a very rare event) and it took 3 doses... Allergic to yogurt 2513 I got into a debate with another parent while attending lunch at a conference. Schools were just starting the... Allergic to yogurt 2514 Circe My experience supports this - My whole family has immune issues - but most of us aren't allergic to the same things. My mother has MS... I love my Maya Wrap but I'm getting a little tired of feeling like an animal in the zoo! Seriously, I don't think I've ever gone out with the baby in the sling without getting... I love my Maya Wrap but... 2516 JennP. Yes! I have gotten some of the same comments. The one that bugs me is... I love my Maya Wrap but... 2517 People seem to comment on everything. My thing when the girls were much smaller, was boy you have your hands full. And like you, after the 20th time I... I love my Maya Wrap but... 2518 When I was largely pg with #3, I helped a lady with a 3 yo, a 2 yo... FAO dragonlady was: I love my Maya Wrap but This statement really resonates with me, right now. I wonder if you'd be willing to give me your opinion on something. Here's the backstory: DS#1 is 2.5 yo. Like most parents seem to do... FAO dragonlady was: I love my Maya Wrap but... 2520 I had similar issues with my son -- and solved it much as you have, with letting him wear... FAO dragonlady was: I love my Maya Wrap but... 2521 This is exactly how I'm feeling right now. I think it would be easier if... I love my Maya Wrap but... 2522 JennP. enigma wrote Well, you can't buy a MayaWrap at Babies R Us or Target. ;-) And, I think people think you need to be ultra super crunchy... I love my Maya Wrap but... 2523 my first sling was an Over the Shoulder Baby Holder. they have side 'rails' (padded edges) & i think they may be easier to use with a newborn because the 'rails' give you a point of... I love my Maya Wrap but... 2524 I live in a small town - about 6000 people and I think I was the only person who used a sling during the couple of years that Angus was a baby-toddler and I... Review: Charlie and the Chocolate Factory CHARLIE AND THE CHOCOLATE FACTORY A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * Although I'm a big fan of WILLY WONKA AND THE CHOCOLATE... 18 month old not talking DO boys talk later than girls? I'm wondering, I've heard so many stories how boys are later than girls in a lot... 18 month old not talking 2527 An employee of mine actually has a contact with a speech therapist who's working with her son who's 4 now. She said her ds was the same way at 18 months, and... 18 month old not talking 2528 stasya If it makes you feel better, maybe you should make an appointment with the pediatrician... When will they equal in height 2529 Maybe never!! I have three kids. The oldest is very tall and robust (i.e. a really big hulk of a kid, usually the tallest in the clbutt all the way to 8th Grade which he... When will they equal in height 2530 My two oldest were 2 years and one month apart. When they were in 2nd and 4th grades, they were about the same height and... Can you help with Decorating Project I'm a parent who like you, devotes a lot of time to making my kids happy. Over the years this has meant decorating... Circ prevented six or seven out of a possible 10 infections The truth had to finally come out. The foreskin is a dog. ========================================= Circumcision appears to reduce... Review: Wedding Crashers * 12 WEDDING CRASHERS A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): * 1-2 WEDDING CRASHERS uses the full... Separation anxiety 2534 On Fri, 29 Jul 2005 20:40:20 +0100, Sarah Vaughan I can't say how long the stage will last because each child is different. But... Separation anxiety 2535 I thought the OP said that her child was 8 months. I think there is a significant difference between 8 months and a year, just as I think there... Separation anxiety 2536 I'm not convinced of this. I put it in the same category as statements like: animals... Separation anxiety 2537 Any parent CAN be confident. But first time parents are usually less so. I personally get upset if I think I'm... Separation anxiety 2538 I was responding to someone who said that when this happened I just roll with it & expect to have a little limpet attached to me all the time. If nothing... Help Pbutt The Child Safety Act of 2005 I have sent this letter to all my Representatives and senators, plus Governor Swarzenegger (different gov for your state perhaps) and... AtHome Preschool Note that I bet the preschool actually teaches a great deal through play besides social and emotional things. Just so you know, kids learn through their play much more... Review: Herbie Fully Loaded 12 HERBIE FULLY LOADED A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0... Mercury and Tuna: Advice Leaves Questions 2542 MrPepper11 Here's more anecdotal evidence: My cat eats almost this much tuna a day and is as nimble as... Mercury and Tuna: Advice Leaves Questions 2543 On Tue, 2 Aug 2005 07:45:01 +0300, Juhana Harju wrote in sci.environment,sci.med.nutrition,misc.kids,misc.health.alternative : As long as we can trust the USDA data, it... family goals, family rules I'd be interested in hearing from anyone who has actually gone through the excercise of verbalizing and establishing a set of family goals and rules. In order to get a handle... family goals, family rules We had a family meeting, picked some of the behaviors that were the most troubling and set up four basic rules. I had their input to what they thought the... This Is What Happens When Parents Brianwash Children Maybe they were taught that about 20% of serial persons are black, meaning that they are overrepresented in the population. Expert: Black serial persons not so uncommon Beverly Corbell June 22, 2003 LAFAYETTE... Back to school laptop recommendations My kids and I have all been happy with Macs. (Two i-books, one power... Woman arrested as nine babies are found dead in garden Guardian August 2, 2005 Woman arrested as nine babies are found dead in garden German police have unearthed the... Make $50,000 from $6.00 investment make $50,000 with only $6.00 Body: HOW TO TURN $6 INTO $6,000!!!!!! READING THIS COULD CHANGE YOUR LIFE! IT CHANGED MINE... I found... Review: The Dukes of Hazzard 12 THE DUKES OF HAZZARD A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): 1-2 HERBIE for... toddler dinnertime Advice and opinions, please! My 21 mo old son no longer wants to sit in his chair at the dining room table during mealtimes. This is the chair we have I've tried using the... toddler dinnertime Obscurity, linux My DS is 21 months old and has a Stokke Tripp Trapp. We recently took the front bar off, so now he can climb on and off; however, he still needs some help since the... toddler dinnertime 2553 DD (now 25 month) uses a Stokke Trip Trap, they're popular in Europe but I don't know if they're available in the US. A few months ago, when she was about 20 months, we... toddler dinnertime 2554 It would be far more effective if you simply removed his plate the first time he gets down, and do NOT allow him to come and go... toddler dinnertime 2555 I can certainly understand your feelings based on your experience, but I would be cautious with this logic. Would you accept the same logic to say that because you were... toddler dinnertime 2556 Ericka Kammerer I see your point, but I also see a big difference between food and money-"stuff." Oh, I'm sure my experience colors... toddler dinnertime 2557 Chookie To clarify, I personally don't hoard-hide food, but I do tend to want to eat til I'm stuffed rather... toddler dinnertime 2558 PCBH Post again and tell me what your dad says. I'll add my families story. My mother and her siblings were... toddler dinnertime 2559 My family life was interesting in this regard. I was adopted at around 8 months or so, and my mother describes me as being a 'little butterball'. My mother was very... toddler dinnertime 2560 Well, it seems like there is, but in another fundamental way, there isn't much difference. Money, stuff, and food are all things where you must have a certain amount to survive, it's nice to have... toddler dinnertime 2561 Ericka Kammerer I think you are over-analyzing and making this into a much bigger deal than it is. If I said that he wouldn't... toddler dinnertime 2562 Chookie I found the study and quickly searched the relevant chapter for "income" and for "socio... toddler dinnertime 2563 Yeah, but couldn't it be the other way around? The kids who liked reading would collect books. "What would Sally like for her... toddler dinnertime 2564 On Fri, 12 Aug 2005 16:13:32 +1000, Chookie That 1 book though can make a... toddler dinnertime 2565 PCBH ...which is obviously your prerogative. We just disagree possibly about what can consbreastute an overindulgence. My favorite... BrainDead Woman in Va. Gives Birth Brain-Dead Woman in Va. Gives Birth By KRISTEN GELINEAU buttociated Press Writer RICHMOND, Va. (AP) -- A cancer-ravaged woman robbed of consciousness by a stroke has given birth after being kept on... Calorie Dense Foods 2567 Avocado vegetable oils (salad dressing, etc.) nuts in any form ice cream ;-) I have 3 healthy children, all of whom dropped in percentiles between 6 and 18 months and then... Calorie Dense Foods 2568 Lesley Wow. That is skinny. My DD when she turned 12 was a nudge over 4'11" and 97 lbs. She's 12-3-4 now and a nudge over 5' and probably still... To nap, or not to nap Big question here: Should I cut out naptime or not? Here's the details: 3 year, 3month old son. Current schedule: Up at 7am, nap at... To nap, or not to nap 2570 This is a really difficult time: when the child is sort-of ready to give up... To nap, or not to nap 2571 Sue We're going through something really similar right now with our 2.5 yo. Up every morning at... Review: Junebug JUNEBUG A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): How slow can we... Other neighbor's kids 2573 Wow, I think it's pretty wild (and sad, I guess) that such a solution was needed to solve that problem. Did it change your relationship, positive or... Other neighbor's kids 2574 Whether or not the parent is there, I tell the child "That behavior (you can be specific) is not allowed at... Other neighbor's kids 2575 P. Tierney I'd speak to the parent at another time. Emphasize how much you and your kids enjoy Other Child's visits, and how you hope they'll continue... Other neighbor's kids 2576 I disagree. For example: barring the child from your home because of rule-breaking is an example of disciplining the child. It's quite possible to discipline other people's... Other neighbor's kids 2577 Well, you could try saying "When you take sand out of the sandbox after I ask you not to, I feel violated, and then the grbutt doesn't grow properly." (Again, finding the... Other neighbor's kids 2578 And I have stepped on some parental toes, at least once or twice. We own... Other neighbor's kids 2579 How about making the child clean up the mess? This can be done whether the... Other neighbor's kids 2580 Yes, "wrapping things up" is a good idea. However, you might be better off if the parent does nothing to try to... Other neighbor's kids 2581 That's quite fine. However, I prefer to give the child at least 2 seconds after being given a good reason why they should do something before I would bring... sitting posture 2582 The posture is called "Vajrasana" the 'thunderbolt' pose; a kneeling posture with buttocks resting upon the heels. Strengthens the spine, stretches thigh muscles and the abdomen. Helps digestion by stimulating the stomach. Helps... sitting posture 2583 Yes, that's it. If your body is the right shape to be able to do it easily, it's... sitting posture 2584 On Thu, 04 Aug 2005 21:36:35 GMT, dragonlady Interestingly, this website gives a reason for that... Reading and crossing the midline I think the reading and crossing the midline thing is a "usually" thing rather than an always thing. When my son... Willy Wonka & White Guilt Tim Burton's adaptation of Charlie and the Chocolate Factory is more faithful to the book in all but one... Willy Wonka & White Guilt. 2587 Cary Kittrell Look at all the cool things Israel has done for America Cary. Israel, We Bless Thee By Mark Glenn For extorting from me and my... Willy Wonka & White Guilt. 2588 Cary Kittrell A few months ago Princeton University Press issued a remarkable book by a Jewish scholar, Yuri Slezkine, that explains why the Twentieth Century is, or has been, the century of preeminent Jewish influence... Willy Wonka & Shorty Tommy C. Teaser Approved: Karl Rove On Thu, 4 Aug 2005 19:42, Tommy C. Teaser You're the expert on being manipulated, not quite a man. Pat "Bitburg... Willy Wonka & White Chocolate. Approved: Karl Rove On Thu, 4 Aug 2005 18:42, Tommy C. Teaser No, you don't, as a matter of fact. You're an especially unbalanced... OT: If you saw dead rats in your neighborhood, would you report it to someone The questions on the "Bahamas Immigration Inward Pbuttenger and Crew Manifest", Customs Inward Report, a Maritime Declaration of Health (for boats coming to the Bahamas) include 1) "Had there been... OT: If you saw dead rats in your neighborhood, would you report it to someone It was part of an exercise. They were buttuming people would be calling Yes, I understand it was... OT: If you saw dead rats in your neighborhood, would you report it to someone Hillary Israeli Honestly, they don't have the funds to go out on a regular basis and monitor rat populations. In a metro of 1.4 million people we have only 2... Noticing depression in children What would you do if you thought something was mentally wrong with your teenager (like depression) but the teen refused to speak to the doctors or therapists? We... Noticing depression in children 2595 says... Was it the former, or the latter? Did they (the parents) deny that there was... Update on my son was Noticing depression in children My son is getting counseling and taking medication. His wife has done all kinds of things to get him to give... Noticing depression in children 2597 What would you have had the parents do? You can't force a teenager to talk to a therapist. And, in case you've never tried, getting a teenager... Noticing depression in children 2598 I believe that in order to get better, the child needs to take responsibility for her life. The parents may be a factor in causing... cashew allergy Experiences, please Has anyone had a child who was allergic to cashew nuts? I followed all the usual allergen guidelines with introducing foods for... looking for a train lunchbox tracrt Don't mind a bit! We have a video from our local library about the Monon line... Its essentially an anatomic vaccine for life Dave {Reply Address in.sig} Perhaps you should look over the abstract again (see below). As the conclusions state: "Male circumcision is equivalent to a vaccine with... Review: Lila Says 12 LILA SAYS A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): 1-2 LILA SAYS (LILA DIT... Kids dragonlady I just read all 4 posts and got tears in my eyes. You do sound... Encouraging Crossing the Midline To encourage crossing the midline of the body, hand your baby desirable items in such a way that she has to reach across her body to retrieve them from you. Later... Review: The Great Raid THE GREAT RAID A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): ** In a year with a non-stop stream of sequels and remakes, the natural reaction to THE GREAT RAID... When kids apologize 2606 Saying formal-sounding things to children feels awkward at first, but one gets used to it. The child may appreciate the formality -- it gives... When kids apologize 2607 Perhaps that wasn't the exact wording. I don't remember specifically but the word apology and accept were in there :-) "That's okay" sounds... When kids apologize 2608 Yes, one can say that, and that's fine, and that also has that same disadvantage I mentioned: it can act as a positive... When kids apologize 2609 We're having a similar thing with DD (4 next week) who has started spitting at me and then looking scared and saying "sorry" quickly as... When kids apologize 2610 On Thu, 11 Aug 2005 11:29:46 +0000 (UTC), Kate I think this is fine though I would not use a 10... When kids apologize 2611 I think it might be counterproductive to try to make someone change their emotions. It might be better to accept that they have... When kids apologize 2612 I generally prefer "thank you". How would you respond to an adult apologizing for something they did -- not something small, but some major thing for which they NEED to... When kids apologize 2613 Depending on what it is, "that's ok," or, "Apology accepted." If I am walking down the street, and a kid bats a wiffle ball into my stomach or... Advice for letting little kids k2 'work it out' vs. parental involvement This is similar to the 'other neighbors kids' thread with the swimming pool behavior mentioned, and I'd just like to get others' feedback to determine where I am on that... Advice for letting little kids k2 'work it out' vs. parental involvement 2615 Banty (some background snip) See, I think I'm off base because I take the more punative belief (about the annoying person) that it eventually... Advice for letting little kids k2 'work it out' vs. parental involvement 2616 About the only thing I might have said was "wrong" was chasing the fish with sticks. Even though the liklihood of a fish getting hurt is extremely small -- non existant... Advice for letting little kids k2 'work it out' vs. parental involvement 2617 I did not intervene in situations like this even if my child appeared to be getting the worst of it unless there was bullying or it was dangerous... Advice for letting little kids k2 'work it out' vs. parental involvement 2618 This isn't how I see it. Okay, he wasn't explicitly calling names or being physical, but his pestering was... Jurors Now Admit That Michael Jackson Was Guilty LOS ANGELES - Two of the jurors who voted to acquit singer Michael Jackson of child molestation and other charges say they regret their decisions. Jurors Ray Hultman and... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo I'm itching to go abroad and for the first time post-bambino it can happen. In March we'd like to take our... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2621 Following up on my own post. HUGELY appreciate everyone's input. This has reinforced my thought that we'll do Andalucia if we can afford it or Costa Rica if we can't... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2622 I cannot comment on Italy or Spain but we went to Costa Rica pre-kid and had a great time. My parents... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2623 We went there but without kids as all of ours were married by that time. But I saw lots of tourists there with kids, and some of them were pretty... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2624 Following up to Akuvikate I cant comment on Costa Rica, but as you speak Spanish not Italian, Spain seems the obvious bet. Its... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2625 Well the person said that it isn't crowded 'even in July and August'. She's in... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2626 Following up to Rosalie B. Where I stay on Fuerte' the water is desalinated sea water, I buy bottles, don't know if... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2627 What is wrong with desalinated sea water, except that it has no taste? You aren't going to be drinking enough of it on your... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2628 In my opinion, absolutely. Our children are now 8, 6, and 3.5. In the past 3 years, we have done the following trips with them and had a wonderful time on every one: 1... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2629 Me too! But maybe we'll be able to catch you next time. Looks like my husband is going to be working on a project even closer to you (Popolton by to make getting together more... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2630 chilly Why be suprised? There has been a major effort to not send these antiquities out of the country. San Pedro Sula has turned into one of the larger cultural and... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2631 Banty Control their kids when they are on public conveyances - that's what I expect. Nothing more than common courtesey and respect for fellow travelers. If parents can't control their kids, they shouldn't plan extended... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2632 Two of my kids never took bottles, and one of those never used a pacifier or even sucked his thumb. And the one who cried... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2633 There was no pacifiers or thumb sucking in my family either, so it's not as if I wasn't aware of that. You'll notice I didn't sugget a pacifier. Well, that's interesting. Maybe... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2634 Cute. It got in the way of the drink cart, and of people going to and from the bathrooms. (To be fair, since I had two other... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2635 dragonlady I've seen that - ill prepared parents who brought insufficient feeding supplies or diapering materials with them on the plane. No... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2636 clint Actually clint old boy, I have a child. She knew how to behave on airlines, trains, boats, and buses. I never had a problem with... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2637 Banty I didn't have a problem with the ten year old with a walkman or gameboy....the post gave the impression that the gameboy was suggested for the OP 9whose child was... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2638 Sandi So based on what you've said, you don't object to people travelling with children... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2639 The Reids (snipped) (snipped) countries provided some of my best memories of childhood. My father was in U.S.A.F. I was born in Germany. I lived there for a total of... Costa Rica, Southern Spain, or Southern Italy with 2.5 yo 2640 In general, if you try to keep at least a reasonable toddler schedule, a child will travel just fine. That means relaxing and not trying to do... To Vaccinate or Not to Vaccinate That is My Question CliffordGMiller By that definition, a lot of physics is not science, either. I guess if done badly but that is true of a lot of things. Actually... Vision Therapy I was talking to a friend and she mentioned that her son is in "vision therapy". I'd never heard of it... Vision Therapy I haven't heard of that particular kind of vision therapy. I have an article on my web page about another kind of... OMG SOMEONE PLEASE HELP! 2644 My DD is 6 months old. I have read about 5 different sleep books that I... OMG SOMEONE PLEASE HELP! 2645 Personally, I think this is an issue which is tremendously difficult to advise with a specific solution. Each parent has their own ideas of what is acceptable... OMG SOMEONE PLEASE HELP! 2646 Stephanie Tired as you you certainly are, I would recommend going to haven't read it, but very few people here and IRL have said... OMG SOMEONE PLEASE HELP! 2647 newmama In general, I think it is very difficult to yank one tool (rocking as a... OMG SOMEONE PLEASE HELP! 2648 I don't know if I can help, but I can, at least, commiserate. My DD at... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions Hi all, Here's the tiny URL version: I have a special interest in this because I went to a college that used a Native American term as it's mascot: Knox College in... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2650 P. Tierney Depends on the context. I'm sure they'd be taken to task if it was... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2651 dragonlady I guess I'm not sure if I agree with this - I've NEVER heard the terms Braves or Chiefs used to insult anyone. Redskins, yes, but Brave? When I was a kid... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2652 It's just the Spanish word for cowboy, so I suppose it's buttumed they are Spanish? No -- why SHOULD they be offended? If the image used to portray them... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2653 Where did I say that? I'm here discussing it with lots of folks who aren't NA. I am only suggesting that, whenever a large percentage of... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2654 dragonlady I don't think Banty is arguing that. I think she's asking how we know that... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2655 dragonlady says... So, due to one person's complaint (or even some advocacy organizations), the book still gets blamed, and the solution is NOT to be something more direct and... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2656 This particular group was not objecting to it being used at all, but to it's... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2657 Interesting that you would bring this up now. In about an hour I'm leaving for a 3 day clbutt training me to teach an 8 week... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2658 dragonlady says... But you proposed: ..which isn't about reading it in another grade (unless you're proposing postponing presenting it in high school only to avoid the read-aloud). And I'm... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2659 I taught high school for nine years, up until 2002. I taught English (mostly 9th grade), math, and drama. I believe... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2660 dragonlady It refers to a particular group of people, in a particular part of the world. Ok, I honestly did not realise that every image of a native American used for sports teams was... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2661 No -- but the vast majority are. Most of the horridly offensive ones have been retired, but as far as I know Chief Wahoo is still around. But they don't -- and my... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2662 dragonlady I think another thing to consider is if there is an undercurrent of racism. Is there racism towards Irish people at Notre Dame? I have no idea... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2663 I think you're wrong about most folks not understanding what it means. I don't really think... OT Use of Native American imagesnames as mascots. Opinions 2664 dragonlady says... How about stepping up to what you really mean by saying "people not of European extraction" because that's what you... Allowance 2665 I believe in keeping allowances as children's discretionary money to be spent in whatever way... Allowance 2666 When I was in school, I walked to school. It was only about 3 blocks and while riding the street car would have been possible, it would... Allowance 2667 On Thu, 11 Aug 2005 00:06:51 GMT, Rosalie B. We never had the option of a school bus, so the kids either walked (elementary... Allowance 2668 Where it was available, I wanted my kids to eat the school lunch. At least in those... Allowance 2669 I don't see a problem with a parent making bought lunches part of the child's discretionary spending. Bought lunches generally (depending on subsidies, not always!) cost more than... Allowance 2670 The problem was that the student didn't actually get the money to pay the cafeteria... Allowance 2671 What has been interesting to me is to listen to the discussions in the family that requires charitable contributions. The kids and parents talk about the different organizations and what they... Help with potty training Hi, I'm kinda new here but my sister told me that everyone in this group is very helpful. I hope she's right because I could really use some... Help with potty training 2673 Sarah Go to your local bookstore and get a copy of "Mamma, I gott go POTTY!" (or whatever it's called). It's pretty good. Other than that, put... Help with potty training 2674 Sarah No problem! I found that potty training could be divided into a few parts: Part I: running around with no pants on, and getting used to using a... Electric shock pad HOWEDY mlbriggs, mlbriggs Yeah, mlbriggs is a cat. It's MEDICAL GRADE STATIC LIKE STIMULATION, remember, janet? Not for janet's kat who's been IN TREATMENT at the NEUROLOGIST for ATTACKING HER... Weekly Topical Bible MessageLearning how to love disabled & disadvantaged people 2676 I've looked in 5 dictionaries (including the cambridge dictionary) and no sign of the word 'rebutt'. Perhaps it is a colloquialism... Weekly Topical Bible MessageLearning how to love disabled & disadvantaged people 2677 No, you speak British perfectly. Rebutt is an Americanized spelling of rebut, dufus. American pronunciation would pronounce rebut to be like the croak of... Weekly Topical Bible MessageLearning how to love disabled & disadvantaged people 2678 No, they shouldn't HAVE OUR MILLIONS OF DOLLARS IN THE FIRST PLACE BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T EARN IT BY LABOR, WE DID!! The People as a Democratic Communism... Weekly Topical Bible MessageLearning how to love disabled & disadvantaged people 2679 It's spelled NASA, moron. Do you even know what the letters mean? And an engineer doesn't have to earn any more than anyone else... Weekly Topical Bible MessageLearning how to love disabled & disadvantaged people 2680 Roger I've slammed more CD's against my wall than you could count. Luther hated Semties. You need only read his words. He can do what he wants. I hardly ever read alt.rev anymore. What... Weekly Topical Bible MessageLearning how to love disabled & disadvantaged people 2681 Roger You're not worth impressing. Why not? They're a bunch of lamers who have been deceived by the Anti-Christ. When I find an interesting topic... Weekly Topical Bible MessageLearning how to love disabled & disadvantaged people 2682 Roger Yet you keep responding to my post. What group would you like to discuss it in? Yes I have, he's also a lamer who's been deceived. I see nothing wrong with... Review: The Skeleton Key THE SKELETON KEY A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): A "scary" movie that isn't scary, THE SKELETON... Review: 2046 2046 A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): 2046 is a handsome enigma that offers little to reward the viewer's patience. Its... Use Paypal to Make Thousands Read this and you will make tons of money guaranteed! NETWORK TOGETHER AND MAKE MONEY USING PAYPAL These are not scams. And no one... Healthy cake recipes for kids 2686 oatmeal Whole Grain-Buttermilk Pancakes 1 c whole wheat flour 1-3 c oatmeal (quick or old-fashioned) 1-3 c yellow cornmeal 2 tsp baking powder 1-4 tsp... Healthy cake recipes for kids 2687 My Dad's pancake-pikelet recipe is milk, eggs, salt and self-raising flour. Make it thicker for pikelets and thinner for pancakes. The main problem is what you put on them... Older... Healthy cake recipes for kids 2688 Rachel Try putting the fruit IN the baked goods. While we don't eat a lot of baked goods (maybe once a month), I do sometimes bake... fire alarm that disengages a lock 2689 Nikki Especially since it sounds as if it would be a specialized sort of product, I think what you are looking for would be kind of expensive. Unless your locks are already... fire alarm that disengages a lock 2690 Hi, I saw your reply posting: I would just like to say that most every state's fire code prevents the deadbolt locking of doors in a house. If you were to have small children... Found this might be helpful in terms of teaching kids to apologize The Art of Apology by Carolyn Warnemuende, M.S. May 5, 2003 My work takes me to many school campuses. Not a day goes by that I don‚t hear at least one teacher or administrator... Not the real father NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Perhaps one out of every 25 dads could unknowingly be raising another man's child, a finding... What are your playdates like OT, long, just thinking aloud We don't do many playdatesAnyway, I think of playdates as a way to get kids together so they could play. . . on their own. Instead, the mom directed most of their play. She'd get them... What are your playdates like OT, long, just thinking aloud 2694 toypup This is what we do for playdates. In fact, I love having kids over because it keeps ds occupied and usually I can get a... What are your playdates like OT, long, just thinking aloud 2695 DS is 4 yo. It wasn't a very deep cul-de-sac. It was just deep enough to make it... What are your playdates like OT, long, just thinking aloud 2696 I agree. A lot of cul de sacs are de facto playgrounds, and the people living there are used to that. You are within your rights to insist that your children not go in the... What are your playdates like OT, long, just thinking aloud 2697 Yes, you just had a bad playdate. First of all, "playdate" really only means scheduling a time for your... What are your playdates like OT, long, just thinking aloud 2698 This was always my idea of playdates too. I never directed the kids play at all. When... Babies and hot days 2699 Zen Cohen Sure. My 9.5 month old spent the day at the beach today and it... Babies and hot days 2700 I think it's fine to take them outside, if you are going somewhere and are as comfortable (as can be) yourself. If you have nothing planned during this hot weather, I see... Junk Food Nation Junk Food Nation: Who's to Blame for Childhood Obesity? By Gary Ruskin and Juliet Schor... Junk Food Nation They can try to sell whatever they want to..... NOBODY can force you or parents to buy anything and certainly none of these... Oldfashioned names to avoid naming your kids with 2703 Well I've had issues with my name too - I think most people do. My sister had a family name (Barbara) which happened to be popular because Barbara Stanwyk was popular then... Oldfashioned names to avoid naming your kids with 2704 And Rosalyn. And someone thought my sister was saying Grizzley Ann, and the phone operators... talking, or not 2705 Yes, she's talking!! Converse with her! For example, when she says "daga", hand her the dragon or start talking about... talking, or not 2706 Donna Metler You know, my experience with ds was this: I'd hear him make some babble sound like DaDa or Ball and I'd wonder, was it a real... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2707 Hello, I am the residential parent of a beautiful little girl who is 3 years old and quite social. She was born in December, so she will not be attending kindergarten for two years. Currently... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2708 I started sending my DS to daycare 2 days per week when he was about 3.5. I send him from 9-3, like you are planning to do. This has been really wonderful for him... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2709 At this age, since she doesn't have to be in daycare, why not a preschool that is half days instead? She will learn just as much or more in such a setting and... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2710 Stephanie I suppose I have a couple of reasons. As a little girl, I ALWAYS Wanted to be a mom. I have always... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2711 dragonlady I knew I knew I knew it :-) I tried so hard to be clear... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2712 Ms. Liz -- This newsgroup normally is quite accepting of different viewpoints. I was gone for a couple of days, and when I came back... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2713 Every choice a person makes means they can't make other choices. For you, the benefit of being home full time was greater than the benefit of having more money -- so... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2714 dragonlady says... ?? "Paying a price" refers rather directly to exchange - sacrificing some money or something for something else. Tradeoffs. I don't get this at all. When I decided to become a mother, esp. being single... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2715 dragonlady I disagree with that. I know many who feel that having both parents work is, on balance... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2716 toypup If the sitter is a constant and loves your child, I think of the attachment issue. I think it's... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2717 says... Well, to me how this thread broke down is really more because of how you reacted to Toypup's questions, when she was questioning the buttumptions you did have, saying how her... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2718 Banty I'm sorry for not speaking politically correctly and using the word daycare workers who seem to often leave. I'm not... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2719 MsLiz If you realize that this is an emotionally laden topic that frequently disintegrates into name-calling, then it is your responsibility to try to avoid terms that carry value... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2720 to FWIW, I have a 24 hour no fever policy, but would not hold it against a parent to send a child... Pros & Cons of Daycare Obscurity, linux 2721 Ruth Baltopoulos writes: Several people have said this. But how do you know? Has there been a published anonymous survey of parents asking how often if at... Pros & Cons of Daycare Obscurity, linux 2722 Sue writes: Oh, I've heard of it lots of times, that's the whole point! What I'm doubting is how often it actually happens, as opposed to a provider suspecting it's happened... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2723 Sidheag McCormack IME feeling OKish in the morning, then feeling worse Three times I went to pick Hunter up because they said he had a fever but he didn't have one when... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2724 Sidheag McCormack" similar go by is feeling middayish, is really hate because Well, a provider does not buttume every time that it is because of dishonesty on the part of the parent... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2725 We almost ran into a parental-pressure situation like this around chicken pox. I informed... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2726 I did it as a courtesy to the other families, one of which used the information to decide to vaccinate their daughter at that time, so that their... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2727 I have to say Sue, that it's rather amazing to me that you would put an immunocompromised child in daycare... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2728 I explained in my other post that I have never used daycare. However, my kids have gone to preschool and public school. I definitely could not see keeping said child... Pros & Cons of Daycare Obscurity, linux 2729 Sue writes: I can't believe that a child in that situation could possibly be in day care with other children anyway. Knowing that exposure has... Pros & Cons of Daycare Obscurity, linux 2730 FUMOP: I hadn't remembered, Sue, that your own daughter had a transplant. I'm sorry if anything I said was insensitive. Let me clarify a little more carefully what I... Pros & Cons of Daycare Obscurity, linux 2731 Ruth Baltopoulos writes: I wasn't attempting to be funny, exactly, but I did spell it out precisely because it seemed so implausible, yet it seemed that... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2732 Sidheag McCormack" is unless you precisely that really descriptions you in Let me say that I am a family... Pros & Cons of Daycare Obscurity, linux 2733 Ruth Baltopoulos writes: "this" being: child mentions having been dosed before coming to daycare; provider quizzes parent; parent admits it I'm shocked - no, horrified. (Incidentally the reason why I asked about 2005... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2734 Sidheag McCormack I was shocked when hearing about that being such a rampant problem too. I've never done it. I'm more then happy to stay home from work though :-) Even though I would never dream... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2735 Sidheag McCormack" with go to they've it's don't providers I know this because I have been a Provider for almost 20 years, and have had it happen countless times. I am also the facilitator of... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2736 But she said that her kid did NOT have a fever the night before. He just threw up. My dh has had a fairly severe problem with... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2737 Gotcha. I somehow missed that. Our school also has a 24 hour rule for vomiting. If a kid has reflux or something, they need a... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2738 I kind of object to having to go to the doctor and expose the kid to other sick kids and take up his time just to get a note... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2739 I think you're both right. It's like the vacation-school time thing. Or any of a myriad of other things involving rules. (I'll try to state it generally, hopefully it... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2740 toypup My son's in a full-time day care, not a preschool, so maybe this policy makes... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2741 MsLiz Well, I have no reason not to believe that you mean not to judge, but if you are genuinely curious, here are some of your statements that... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2742 says... What would you think you would get as a reaction if you presented your vegetarianism like this: "I'm a vegetarian, I don't expect... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2743 Banty And by your choice to categorize me as a person who is judging moms who work from a few short posts, it is quite clear to me that you are sure that you... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2744 I used to do that -- but I knew my kid didn't have a disease. I have one with severe gastroesophogeal reflux, and... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2745 I am the residential parent of a beautiful little girl who is 3 years old and quite social... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2746 Hi Guys, Thanks so much for the responses, they've been great! The reason for this query is that... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2747 Hello everyone, I have residential custody of the children but my Ex has joint decisions in medical and... Pros & Cons of Daycare 2748 This is a pay me now-pay me later scenario. Also, since she's a third child with older sibs in school, this is... eating habits 2749 I looked up the ingredients and got General Mills® Honey Nut Cheerios® Cereal(bowl) F25-2509202-5100 General Mills® 1 oz, individual bowl Sweetened Whole Grain Oat Cereal with... eating habits 2750 Barbara is correct. Pasteurization doesn't kill botulism spores. Honey has a high sugar content which does not support the growth of bacteria. One of the... Swimming with Dolphins When I heard this story I wanted to give Dolphin Quest more press than what it was getting, where better than usenet ! Paigee is an almost 7 yr old little girl... Review: Red Eye RED EYE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * RED EYE is an especially effective and efficient thriller by Wes Craven, the director of the SCREAM series. Although... Review: The 40 Year Old Virgin THE 40 YEAR OLD VIRGIN A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * Successful comedy is much less about the script than... Another article on thimerosal 2754 Jonathan Levy I had my daughter vaccinated, and she doesn't seem to be autistic. As it while rates of autism are rising, it doesn't seem to be common... Another article on thimerosal 2755 right up there with Rolling Stone, i'm sure. is it safe to buttume he's not the same Arthur Allen as the Zodiac person? ;) and i agree somewhat... Potty Terminology Of course, it would not be nice to scold someone for doing something they could not reasonably be expected to know was wrong. It seems rather simple. You can tell... Review: Valiant VALIANT A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): VALIANT, a harmless kids' movie from Disney, possesses an undeniable but limited charm... EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SAFE love The following message should help inform you on everything you need to know about safe love... Review: Grizzly Man 12 GRIZZLY MAN A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): 1-2 In Werner Herzog's documentary, GRIZZLY... How does and can one parent effectively these days 2760 m: back in my day in the late 50s-early 60s, parents weren't so paranoid about "stranger... How does and can one parent effectively these days 2761 Bible Bob And their rationale is? The Economist recently had an interesting feature article on video games, and found it interesting that violent crime in the US had been halved while... oppositional defiant disorder 2762 ODD" is a label applied to some children. All labels are subject to a possible fallacy of over-generalizing. There is also the danger that the child might hear about the label and suffer from... oppositional defiant disorder 2763 toypup A few random not-very-connected thoughts.... If you've been worried for a while and things... Kids who are no good at sports should not be force to play sports My life at school was one long nightmare and the overriding reason was because I was no good at sports or gym (apart from running) I would be constantly humiliated in Pt lessons and... Kids who are no good at sports should not be force to play sports. 2765 I wouldn't necessarily make that buttumption. In my High School, one of the requirements for PE... Kids who are no good at sports should not be force to play sports. 2766 Kids do need to have physical activity. I'm in favour of having them do anaerobic things like swimming and running whether they are good at them or liked doing them or... Kids who are no good at sports should not be force to play sports. 2767 You will be happy to hear that at my kids' school, the gym clbuttes are fitness-based and... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2768 Depending on the age of the child, I think it is just cluelessness rather than rudeness - something that hasn't come up before, and the child relying on whatever they do... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2769 I tend to do the same. I ask; but if the person is not close enough to ask, I will tend to answer the... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2770 Then perhaps it's something you ought to consider. Sure, what you do in the homes of your family members and even your friends... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2771 I think it's a matter of different customs for different people. You feel comfortable with strong territorial boundaries. Some people... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2772 So I'll give you some that have come up in real life, for me or for friends: 1... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2773 In this particular situation, I would be fine with being asked, and I would be rather surprised if an aquaintance was annoyed or offended at my asking. However, I understand Banty's system of etiquette, too... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2774 Any* adult or child in my home is welcome to offer to pick up the phone for me if it rings. And even though I would think it weird... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2775 I was trying to figure out why anyone would be in my house that I was not at least casually friends with... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2776 The air conditioner repairman or other workmen might be expecting his office or dispatcher to call. They usually will say - I'm expecting a call, or That may be for me... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2777 But wanting to call out and answering the phone are two different things! And, when I've been in that situation - a worker or contractor expecting to receive calls, if I'm there, they... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2778 Yes, but the last time I had a repairman in my house was sometime in the 90s. We did have caller ID at the... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2779 I can't remember the last time one of those guys came and didn't have his own cell phone. They do sometimes ask... do visiting children ever answer your phone 2780 That's because I asked if someone would consider an adult rude to answer the phone. My point being that if it was not rude for an adult to do so, it wasn't rude for a... New Topic : On being a mom Despite getting a bit pounded the first round, I'm going to try another topic and see if it might have... male genital hygiene behaviour It becomes clear why the presence of a foreskin is buttociated with unfortunate anti-social olfactory phenomena ... they are just not washed... male genital hygiene behaviour 2783 Dave {Reply Address in.sig} I appreciate that you seem to have some personal emotional issues relating to foreskins so I won't prolong your distress on this one. I... male genital hygiene behaviour 2784 Hey, I can tell you why women prefer circumsized men. It has to do with what they are... Review: Hustle & Flow HUSTLE & FLOW A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * HUSTLE & FLOW is a surprisingly moving, sad and... when should social services take kids away from parents The circumstances surrounding the removal of two children from the care of their parents, seemingly because the mother has a mild learning difficulty, are... Nosebleeds causes Hi all, My 3.5 year old daughter has been having nosebleeds in her sleep - 3 of them in the last week. My husband had TONS of nosebleeds, too... Nosebleeds causes Cathy Weeks DD6 is also prone to nosebleeds. She can go months without one but then may have 3 or 4 in... OT: Canning 2789 I helped with so much canning as a kid that I will probably never do it as an adult, but . . . My mother is extremely aware of health needs, and was very careful. We relied... OT: Canning 2790 Botulism spores are resistant to heat -- even from boiling water -- and thrive in a moist, oxygen-free environment. So botulism is only a problem in an environment free of oxygen like... Canning I don't know anything about the savory spreads, but I do know that you can... 2 year old Shih Tzu bit two people Any help HOWEDY spot, Spot That so? POT. KETTLE. BLACK. "...all the highest nervous activity, as it manifests itself in... lead training 2793 HOWEDY janet, Janet Puistonen It's called in lay parlance, "gettin ALL your DUCKS IN A RHOWE". And THEN when... lead training 2794 HOWEDY Soup! Long time no espeakey. HOWE'S TRICKS? michael. INDEEDY, Soup! Only PROBLEM is with this snake is, you can't just cut its HEART HOWET or chop its head off on accHOWENT... Diapers at 5 I agree with other posters about not putting him in diapers, but modifying the pants. You can buy a bigger size of uniform, leave the button done up... 3 12 yo and day camp Good day everyone, Today is DS' first day at a week long day camp and it has not gone so great so far. When... 3 12 yo and day camp 2797 Shelley Unless I was convinced that this was truly damaging to him and that he was unable to handle it, I think the... 3 12 yo and day camp 2798 Some people would just leave him until he gets used to it. That would work, but I like the gentler approach... 3 12 yo and day camp 2799 toypup That was my approach, too. When my kids were that age, I went with them for the first few sessions, and only left when they were... 3 12 yo and day camp 2800 This makes a lot of sense to me. A big issue is whether the child is familiar with the adult running the program, or with some of the... Review: The Talent Given Us THE TALENT GIVEN US A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): THE TALENT GIVEN US, which would be better breastled ARGUING ACROSS AMERICA, has reviews good and bad lauding... Daycare poll 2802 Now that I've caught up, I don't think I've read any responses that are "negative" to me, except one. The responses were straightforward. Maybe some of the day-home thing could have... Daycare poll 2803 P. Tierney I can see how it would be annoying, and you might feel you were swimming upstream... Daycare poll 2804 I agree, but each person, man and woman, chooses the right level of "annoyance" that they can deal with. If a woman were choosing from two jobs in a male dominated field, the offers were... Daycare poll 2805 Hmm...I wonder.... One of the requirements to teach kindermusik is that you have to be able to sing the... Daycare poll 2806 dragonlady Hmm... in my high school of around 2800, we had 3 full time music teachers! Band, choir... Daycare poll 2807 P. Tierney I don't think you should do anything you don't have a pbuttion to do, ideally, and if something like this would put you off, that would seem to indicate to me a lack... Daycare poll 2808 I fully agree. In reading the responses, I didn't take the "never new" part of the posts into account. I would imagine that many... Daycare poll 2809 On Tue, 23 Aug 2005 05:07:00 GMT, "P. Tierney" I would never answer an ad for a brand new caregiver in my area, so this question... Daycare poll 2810 I think professions may not, because they are subject to scrutiny, background checks, etc. I have no studies to back up my buttumptions. I... Daycare poll 2811 Schools require background checks of all employees nowadays, at least every public school I worked at did. Daycare centers that were licensed did also in Illinois at least. Background checks... Daycare poll 2812 Donna Metler That is the liscensing regs. In my state, the limit is 4 infants to one adult, and if there If it is all infants the ration is 4:1 I think. I've only known... Daycare poll 2813 I think those ratios are pretty bad. Here's the database for all states for those interested: Illinois's... Daycare poll 2814 Ruth Baltopoulos My point was that when you're starting out a business with no track record to point at, you generally need something to make potential customers feel good about choosing you (unless... Daycare poll 2815 Ericka to "real" Speaking from experience, this is not necessarily even the general case. As a matter of fact, many people that provider care for friends or family do so... Daycare poll 2816 Ruth Baltopoulos Um...my experience is that most cottage industries do start that way--with the first customers being those with some other relationship with the owner of the fledgling... Daycare poll 2817 Ericka Kammerer" friends almost colleagues in good like Hmmm, yeah, perhaps I used the wrong terminology. However, many licensed providers (including myself) with whom... Daycare poll 2818 Ruth Baltopoulos Actually, it doesn't surprise me at all, particularly in areas where there's more demand than supply. And if someone can keep getting the... Daycare poll 2819 Ericka Kammerer" at As it is illegal in the state where I reside to do continuous, paid care for children without benefit of licensure, it does surprise me that so many continue to do so... Daycare poll 2820 Banty" process require added the firm I disruptive The legislation, in a vacuum, sounds very good. I have no idea from whence... Daycare poll 2821 Banty" a religion, with public of segment. suggests it's all necessarily Well, it is about creating quality preschool... Daycare poll 2822 Ruth Baltopoulos If I had to guess, the thrust behind the whole thing is probably the notion that the early years are vital, so all children at that age should have access to care... Daycare poll 2823 This really sounds like the whole "Highly qualified" mess that NCLB is forcing onto public schools... Daycare poll 2824 Ericka Kammerer" that setting. being Because this transformed age Right, which is one of the points made in some of our correspondence to the Legislators. A family child care emulates a home... Daycare poll 2825 Banty I think that's probably at least partly true, but to be honest, I think most legislation for stuff like... Daycare poll 2826 Ericka Kammerer" between those teachers vs. early ages. discussion. This has many about every think mostly as in the they're going of that enough and the next... Daycare poll 2827 Or does it mean parents of Around here, the cost of a quality day care center-preschool is about double that of quality home based daycare. Not surprising since they have the added expenses... Daycare poll 2828 Ruth Baltopoulos I'm all confused. I didn't read the legislation (but just the web site), and especially with their focus on underserved areas, I'm not getting the sense that the... Daycare poll 2829 Really, though, since both my husband and I were born and raised here and most of... Daycare poll 2830 But coastal Southern California (where I live) isn't a "hot" climate! It's a very moderate climate--rarely either very hot or very cold. The average high temp in the hottest months of... Daycare poll 2831 P. Tierney It's a catch-22. It's expensive when you look at it from the... Daycare poll 2832 Around here there is, or was, a serious shortage in day care, particularly for infants. The centers, if that's what... Daycare poll 2833 bizby40" Again, different regions, different strategies. Parents hereabouts start trying to slot in their care (family or center based) when they find out they are... Daycare poll 2834 Well, as Sue said, that creates a Catch-22 for anyone trying to start out in the childcare business. You can't get experience and references without getting experience... Daycare poll 2835 My years, many would I don't think it's parents "these days". My oldest is almost 16, my youngest is 11, and I wouldn't consider home day care back then... Daycare poll 2836 Ruth Baltopoulos I note the OP was quite clear about not requiring reasons for people's decisions and I took him at his word. I used the word "unlikely" rather than "never" when talking about using... Daycare poll 2837 P. Tierney C. Would consider the place with plenty of reservations, but probably put it last on your list It would... Daycare poll 2838 I, on the other hand have had bad experiences with day care centers. My daughter's center had a girl wander off... Daycare poll 2839 Barbara planterger I've used both so I'm not against either. I just wanted to add that one has to pick... Daycare poll 2840 I have to agree with this. You really have to look at all the options in... Daycare poll 2841 Ruth Baltopoulos I chose a home daycare for afterschool care when my kids were older, and... Daycare poll 2842 Stephanie" am to no different kids, my same the so to than Yeah, you got it :) I shoot for a true 'home' setting, which is child driven and has... Daycare poll 2843 Thts great. But it is possible to do preschool learning in a non "school" type setting and most family... Daycare poll 2844 Barbara planterger Rupa: Ruth: It's true. If I had chosen a family daycare, that's what I would... Daycare poll 2845 have As it should be, and is with most of my clients :) Many home settings include... Daycare poll 2846 That's cool. Used to be, people had bigger families -- and they coped. I had a singleton 3 years older than my twins, and sometimes swapped care with another family with the same ages -- so... Daycare poll 2847 Ruth Baltopoulos I think you're inferring a few things here, which I didn't mean to imply in my desire for a center, e.g., that I would... Daycare poll 2848 Caledonia" when prefer do nature with they on comfortable Actually there were quite a few posters that stated that they would never consider home child care, several really... Daycare poll 2849 Actually, when I had backup care when my son was in early grade school, I found the... Daycare poll 2850 Banty I didn't mean to imply that it was a requirement for a DCP, and apologize for that. In my (limited) experience back in... Daycare poll 2851 Banty True -- my inclination, if I can afford it, has always been to find those people who are completely inhabiting jobs and are performing them with real, well, enthusiasm. Heck, I drive 15 miles to... Daycare poll 2852 Ruth Baltopoulos Let me tell you why I would never choose one. More "formal" day care situations have checks and balances that individual day cares do not. There are more eyes on each other to... Daycare poll 2853 I think any and all of those things can and do happen in "centers". Taking one poor example... Daycare poll 2854 I think this is naiive. The "more eyes" belong to people with jobs that depend on their going... Daycare poll Obscurity, linux 2855 Banty writes: For me, it's not so much a question of buttuming that there will be a whistle-blower if something bad is happening (though I see that from... Daycare poll Obscurity, linux 2856 Banty writes: Yes, I agree it's not foolproof. I still think the risk has to be lower with a group of staff than with one individual. (I'm not saying that's the case for all groups... Daycare poll 2857 Banty" as a I agree, and this is an argument that I hear all of the time... Daycare poll 2858 P. Tierney ...but to be fair, I confess to being very cautious about home daycare... Daycare poll 2859 Of course it would be a misconception that abuse only comes from men; I think that's a straw-man... Daycare poll 2860 Well, of course, it makes sense statistically that women would be responsible for more child abuse and neglect than men... Daycare poll Obscurity, linux 2861 richard mowatt writes: OK, here goes. I'd be very uncomfortable about my pre-verbal child being cared for by any single, unsupervised care provider that I didn't know well myself. That's why he's at... Daycare poll 2862 I never had to use daycare except for before and after school for my son in kindergarten. My kids did go to pre-school. Some of my grandchildren have... 23 month old won't fall asleep quickly at night Hello, My son is almost 23 months old. He currently sleeps about 10 hours total at night (waking once) and takes a 1.5-2 hour nap. This is a fairly recent reduction in... 23 month old won't fall asleep quickly at night 2864 Nutrients that promote sleep: calcium. Maybe essential fatty acids. Maybe he's afraid to go to sleep, either because of bad dreams or because he feels insecure about whether... 23 month old won't fall asleep quickly at night 2865 Lora R Honestly, I think that your method is encouraging him to behave in this way. He's at that age where it's natural for him to fight sleep. He has found several very... 23 month old won't fall asleep quickly at night 2866 We switched slowly and it worked for us. I do think children have to learn to let themselves sleep. It's almost a skill to... 23 month old won't fall asleep quickly at night 2867 Lora R Realizing when your child is moving to another developmental stage and adapting to it is one of the most challenging aspects of parenting, in... 23 month old won't fall asleep quickly at night Obscurity, linux I don't have much in the way of ideas, but since I have a nearly-22mo who goes to sleep pretty easily... 23 month old won't fall asleep quickly at night 2869 Sidheag McCormack This is a good idea! We usually do our park-going and stuff like... 23 month old won't fall asleep quickly at night 2870 Sue Thanks Sue. We tried the white noise, with a humidifier, for about 6 months. It didn't seem... 23 month old won't fall asleep quickly at night 2871 Hi -- My immediate thought would be to suggest you try shortening his naptime. My 2nd son went pretty rapidly from 2 long naps... Ping Ruth: home daycare questions 2872 to your This is an example of my schedule, and does not include everything we do, of course, but gives a decent sampling of a... Ping Ruth: home daycare questions 2873 Just a quick question and a few comments - Ruth - I think you've mentioned before that your program is more geared to 2-4 year-olds, rather than infants... Earn 12% daily of your investment I'm going to tell you about a TOP RATED AUTOSURF program that takes 5 mins of your day and then instantly credits your account 12% of what... Review: Deuce Bigalow: European Gigolo 0 DEUCE BIGALOW: EUROPEAN GIGOLO A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0... Review: My Date with Drew 12 MY DATE WITH DREW A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 I don't know about you, but I am getting sooooo tired of bad home movies... Review: The Memory of a person THE MEMORY OF A person A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0... Medical Cartel Hoaxes 2878 Thanks, more like organised extortion. you can see what they do via their loan racket to the third world on top of their vaccine genocide: "After... Medical Cartel Hoaxes 2879 TWO lies. it was claimed that by not having something to say about him I was condoning his behaviour... Medical Cartel Hoaxes 2880 It appears so. The above statement is completely asinine. You are the one now admitting that despite your You have lost it. You just read them. It's... Medical Cartel Hoaxes 2881 Sorry, yes you did, you are lying. They are below, which proves once again, you are a PROVEN LIAR. That insult does NOT... Medical Cartel Hoaxes 2882 So that's the best, you can do?? Peter makes LYING claims and he can NOT prove them. It simply means, he can NOT because he* knows he lied... Medical Cartel Hoaxes 2883 PROOF!!! He Who Pays the Piper - Creation of the Modern Medical (Drug) Establishment by G. Edward Griffin drug-oriented "medicine" gets... Review: Supercross: The Movie SUPERCROSS: THE MOVIE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): Late night television is filled with infomercials, which we've all become used to. And... InfantToddler Convertible carseat in my experience the Graco seats are hard as a rock, lumpy & uncomfortable. i added extra padding to my son's Graco (he outgrew his Britax & i'm kicking myself for not... schools are failing most vulnerable children I was completly failed by me school. My special need, dyspraxia, dyslexia etc just were not taken into account. I was judged by how bad... Thinking about a second1st is 8 months oldany regrets 2887 Mine are 17.5 months apart, which is about what yours would be if you got pregnant right away, and I have to say... Thinking about a second1st is 8 months oldany regrets 2888 Our friend's sister is about to have her first at 45. You may not need to be in a big rush. To be simple about it: the better has been more love... Thinking about a second1st is 8 months oldany regrets 2889 P. Tierney Yeah, we're fortunate that DH has some flexibility in his schedule, so he can usually... Thinking about a second1st is 8 months oldany regrets 2890 P. Tierney There's about a 10% decline from 35-39 and then another 10% from 39-43, and then it drops rapidly. But I have seen stats that state that ferttility at 35 is about... Thinking about a second1st is 8 months oldany regrets 2891 amy Yes I did, without any trouble at 15mos. Many people do. Some woman nurse through out their pregnancy and then nurse both babies afterwards. I was planning... Thinking about a second1st is 8 months oldany regrets 2892 amy As others have said -- you just do it. My first two weren't as close as yours will be... Thinking about a second1st is 8 months oldany regrets 2893 amy Yes, I got pregnant with my second right around that time (yes I was still nursing). I love having two, and couldn't imagine life without DD#2! I will say... Thinking about a second1st is 8 months oldany regrets 2894 Hi -- Our kids are 23 months apart. I don't think I could have managed having them closer together, they are such a handful! But I know other people... Thinking about a second1st is 8 months oldany regrets 2895 My first two are 2 years and 1 month apart - a little farther apart than yours will be, but closer than Erikas, and then the third... To Rosolie B how about showing some understanding You say I have an unusal condidtion.How about showing some unerstanding about what I went through. Dyspraxia is more commone thant you may think but varies in its effects. About... To Rosolie B how about showing some understanding 2897 I haven't heard anybody suggest that there is anything to justify the way you experienced physical education in your schooling. I HAVE heard people suggest that your solution is too much -- why throw out the... To Rosolie B how about showing some understanding 2898 I agree that your case was not handled well. But you DID say that kids that didn't want to do sports shouldn't have to. There are lots of things that kids have... To Rosolie B how about showing some understanding 2899 There are indeed a few people that can't float. I used to coach one of them - his best stroke was backstroke. But most of the people that say they can't float really could... Rosalie B an 'unusual condiction' 2900 Why should the people in this newsgroup particularly be doing something about your problems or the problems... Rosalie B an 'unusual condiction' 2901 I will answer your points. First of all my comment F... .... was uncalled for and I apologise for that. I have, and do spent... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2902 in a catholic hi school I attended (not in US), one priest had notorious urges to hit students. he... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2903 R. Steve Walz I'm sorry you felt the need to resort to name calling. I didn't behave this way in my response. If what you said is based on the... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2904 Double response by me, Kane, to both Lavonne and R. Steve..... Carlson LaVonne If you are claiming the... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2905 Carlson LaVonne I think about 27 or so so far? I'll check and see if I'm close. Hmmm..I've never found Steve to be "underhanded." Overwrought at times... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2906 R. Steve Walz No, I'm not buttigning any more than the term would suggest. I posted, I believe... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2907 Don't be disingenuous. I don't lie. You don't have to believe it till you find it, but I have to because I did, so grant me the right to... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2908 R. Steve Walz By my standards you probably don't. Mine are that a lie is a deliberate attempt to decieve, by commission or omission. Not be in error... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2909 She said I lied, I know better, thus, she is a liar. ------------------- Disingenuity is saying things that you do not believe yourself and are praying that the other fellow is stupid enough to... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2910 R. Steve Walz That does not mean you lie. It means if I used that method I'd be fooling myself. I even... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2911 None of which is important. I see no difference. Evil is evil, and the evil usually... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2912 R. Steve Walz On the contrary, the subject is yours, Steve, and you pursued it along with me. Why have... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2913 Because your stratagem seems to be to drag them out. ----------------- That's NOT anything YOU'RE doing. ------------------------------ You're seemingly learning delayed. --------------- Unless one is a bad shot, and... Could children be hit by teachers in the 70's 2914 I am new here and was shocked to read such an uncouth response! I live in Texas and in many school districts, children are spankedsimply because the... Bullies: A schoolyard scourge and how to counter it Bullies: A schoolyard scourge and how to counter it By Melissa Dahl -- Bee Staff Writer Published 2:15 am PDT Saturday, August 27, 2005 Story appeared in Scene section, Page K1 It's easy to... 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DS can't seem to 2922 I think that's a 4yo thing -- they aren't really very good with 'why' questoins and are still unable to see things from another person's persective... DS can't seem to 2923 understand relationship. realizes Well, let's leave your mother out of this for the time being. yet That all sounds pretty typical of 4-yr-olds, but... Maybe... DS can't seem to 2924 Well, if hitting is unacceptable, then you need to do whatever is most effective to stop it. If time-outs and other punishments cause more hitting, for... DS can't seem to 2925 Things that I did or things that my mom did that I found unacceptable or irritating made me more sensitive than needed when I perceived those behaviors in my children and... DS can't seem to 2926 I am sure that at that age, she is not normally the instigator. It took way longer for my sister to figure it out - she would have been at least 5 and was probably 7... DS can't seem to 2927 I wonder whether you've tried this: express what you need her not to do in simple, objective terms with just the right amount of generality. Then use the... DS can't seem to 2928 What do you mean, he didn't know what you were asking? I think he knew what you were asking; he just... DS can't seem to 2929 That's unfortunate. Sigh. Learning the self-control not to hit is hard for kids, so it's only fair that parents have to do hard things too in the process. Whether it would... DS can't seem to 2930 toypup I think you're reading waaaay too much into this. Before the age of six or seven, children are often unable to separate fact from fiction, particularly in areas where they desperately... DS can't seem to 2931 toypup My rephrasing had more to do with making it simpler, and putting the "Hitting is not okay... DS can't seem to 2932 toypup If he is jealous he basically wants your attention taken from his sister and given to him. He's accomplishing that by... DS can't seem to 2933 Well, I'm trying to describe the Thomas Gordon system. I'm not an expert on it. I mean, he might not agree with my choice of words, either. And I... DS can't seem to Obscurity, linux 2934 Catherine Woodgold writes: Yeah, I do actually agree about that. I find it much easier to do in sticky work... DS can't seem to 2935 Catherine Woodgold Under extreme circumstances, I asked for (and got) a professionally mediated meeting between me, DH and two people who I thought had behaved VERY badly. (Turned out they thought we'd behaved badly, too... DS can't seem to 2936 Catherine Woodgold I'll try. "I'm really sorry. This sounds like (or is) a bad situation. (Stop) I need to be clear on (whatever happened). I'm really... DS can't seem to 2937 I guess that sounds OK. Thanks for the example. (Though what if I don't want to apologize? I won't say I'm sorry unless it's true, generally. At... DS can't seem to 2938 Catherine Woodgold Frankly, much of this runs the risk of the listener seeming nearly deliberately obtuse. "Active Listening" can be helpful when someone is unclear (like a hysterical child), but... DS can't seem to 2939 I've used it in situations where someone has been upset with me, and it has worked. But, it has to be done right. It's extremely difficult... DS can't seem to 2940 Catherine Woodgold I'm sorry; I didn't understand before, but I will do better in the future (with specifics, if appropriate--e.g., "I promise... DS can't seem to 2941 At the risk of somewhat Active Listening, you appear to believe so strongly in Active... DS can't seem to 2942 What's wrong with that? :-) I admit it. It's a weakness of mine -- a loyalty, perhaps. Anyone willing to hold up the other end of the... DS can't seem to Obscurity, linux 2943 Catherine Woodgold writes: I'm not toypup, but I'll answer anyway: the context this (someone doing annoying naming of... DS can't seem to 2944 etc. OK, let's separate the issue of Active Listening into three different types of situations: (1) The situation you bring up above... DS can't seem to 2945 I think, Catherine, that what you suggest to people to say sounds forced and fake a lot of times. It may not at all come across that way in real life... DS can't seem to 2946 OK, that's quite valid. I'm often trying to demonstrate a number of principles. There's also... DS can't seem to 2947 I think there's a real need to separate how you react if someone (child or adult) is angry at YOU about something, and how you react when their emotional outburst is about something... DS can't seem to 2948 No need to be sorry; I'm not asking anyone to talk with my style. I see lots of other talking styles that don't suit my personality, so I don't imitate them. When I make suggestions... DS can't seem to 2949 Well, maybe it needs to be done more skilfully. There's something wrong with "I see you are upset ..." but I can't quite pin it down: too many words, perhaps. Also, "upset" is too... DS can't seem to 2950 has he been evaluated for learning disabilities? Boo also has-had the same problem with... DS can't seem to 2951 The phrase may not make sense, but when someone says that, they usually mean that it is an illness without an organic basis -- that is... DS can't seem to 2952 some do. children can be diagnosed with depression, OCD, bipolar, etc. sometimes ASD looks like bipolar. i have a friend whose younger son was diagnosed... DS can't seem to 2953 toypup I think some of it is age typical. They just want what they want and so... DS can't seem to 2954 I don't think it's vague. I just refered to a specific action. 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DD can't see outside herself 3007 I don't know. It's a small city and a large and somewhat prestigious school. You can't go anywhere in town... DD can't see outside herself 3008 bizby40 She didn't insult their choice. She insulted the school. Yes. I would have. Why get so bent out of shape of her opinion of... DD can't see outside herself 3009 Perhaps, but she is insulting the school in front of people who she knows support it. And they know she knows. I'm certain that it would anger or upset at... DD can't see outside herself 3010 bizby40 That wouldbn't bother me personally. I see it more as an issue of free speech. It's good you are both on the same page. But you said her posture... DD can't see outside herself 3011 bizby40 I'm clearly in the minority on this, but I'd be OK with 'College X stinks!' on a binder. Not because she's... DD can't see outside herself 3012 bizby40 I don't think so. I think it's perfectly appropriate to insist that insults are not acceptable. I don't... 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Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Here's a list of the sort of items we keep on hand throughout the year for packing lunches. The girls mostly pack their own these days. I tell them they must select one protein... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Why not chips? Read on.... Acrylamide is in the news today! Dr. Greene has been concerned about acrylamide since 2002... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch L. I"m not sure how old your children are...but I can tell you that having a girl in 6th grade, I wish that the dress code... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch MsLiz That's a parent's issue, nit the school's. Yes. Not anymore. I work for myself. And man is my boss a unpleasant woman. ;) When I did work it was not anything beyond safety... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch dragonlady If you eat a side salad and nothing else, perhaps. A marketing strategy directed at children. Shame on McDonalds! You are... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch MsLiz Given that, I think it's safe to buttume that you don't eat out much at all or that, if you do, you have a very limited set of restaurants... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Circe I'm not sure what you consider "eating out much" to be. My husband has lunch out daily (even on... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch With soil like that, you use a no-dig system. Is it clay soil? If you dig a hole into clay to plant a tree, it will water when the rain comes, which I... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch if it's 'hard as rock' when it's dry, it's clay. soils are sand-based, humus-based, or clay-based. too much sand or too much clay can be a problem. both are... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch We grew most of our vegetables when I was growing up, including potatoes. We ate... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch enigma No kidding! And a garden that would feed one's family is nearly a full time job. Tending the garden, canning or taking care of all the produce... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Yes, pretty much all of the fast food places now have dinner salads, and checking the nutrition... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch dragonlady Right. And there are people upset enough with the anti-McDonald's claims of movies like SuperSize Me to have gone out and did just what that filmmaker did -- eat... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Have you BEEN to McDonalds or other fast food places recently?? They've been serving dinner... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Banty Go look at the nutritional and content label of those salads on the McD's website. Then say that... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch YOU do that, for McD's, a local diner, and a typical family meal, then YOU say that with a straight face. Well, baa baa. I think sheepie's follow chicken-little calls from various non-mainstream... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch L. But you know what? You're confusing statistics with people. You know that obesity and fast food eating are not evenly distributed through the population. Just because there is an obesity problem overall... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Ericka Kammerer Or even that if some people's children are struggling with weight issues, it's because they're eating fast food x number of times per week. Fast... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Oh, i have no problem with vegetarian lasagna with tofu, or tofu-egg salad, or even squash with marinara sauce... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Banty I think what MsLiz was saying is that you can't tell the difference if you... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch shinypenny No, no, no. I've become a low carb enthusiast since the end of January. And thank goodness; I lost 22 pounds of very unwanted weight... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Banty I can't, and neither can the people I have served it to. Have you had... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch L. You know, I really don't get this comment. I know no one who claims that everything they do is the absolute safest thing to do. I know of no one who makes all the... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids Banty Anything for you, my dear--but I won't be held responsible for the consequences! ;-) White Chocolate Bread Pudding with White Chocolate Sauce 8 ounces French... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch MsLiz No, you said that it sickened you that young children ate fast food, and that... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch dragonlady This is how I view it, too. For me, eating is about much more than nutrition, and feeding the body. To put this into the right context, I need to explain that I... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch shinypenny Why do you consider that obnoxious? I have friends that proudly proclaim; Tofu! No way! I tried it too... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch MsLiz Because I'd go into infinite, boring detail about the nutrition of various items. Looking back, I realize it was my... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch dragonlady I'm glad it works for you. By "silly" I meant that it tends to ban foods or make certain foods... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch I'll accept that. I agree that folks who hear Atkins and think "refined carbs = bad food" are not reading or understanding what this way of eating is all about. As words go... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch dragonlady Yep, it was probably on both sides, but I'm being kind to my folks and taking full responsibility. Especially now that I have kids of my own, and only god knows what... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch L. It's a parent-child and school issue. We follow the dress code, others do not and the school does nothing about... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch MsLiz LOL, I had that feeling the day I brought home my first baby (who was delightful in most respects, but never seemed to sleep and was very high needs... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch MsLiz I don't think that having more rules will solve this. In fact, I suspect it'd do just the opposite, and make things worse! Here's how I... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch dragonlady There are decent choices, even at McD's, if you know what to order. We go to McD's maybe 10... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch There's also a problem with defining what's "junk food" in the first place. Is pizza "junk food", for example? The answer is, it depends on... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch It sounds like an interesting article. I don't think I change my stance though, for two reasons. First, I still doubt that forcing parents to comply with... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch bizby40 That's precisely the issue in my mind--I am unaware of any studies which support the notion that even sugar is demonstrably problematic enough that it could possibly... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Barbara planterger I also find that with my kids it is a lack of a reasonable meal that causes poor behavior, not the excess sugar. If... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Right, but this very process ends up changing the issue. If I wasn't clear in the beginning, in my head I was considering... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch P. Tierney I don't understand why it would be extremely difficult. It would certainly be inconvenient... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch dragonlady I'd pick a nit with that. We can never say with complete authority that science has proven anything. We can only say that our best attempts have failed to disprove... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Ericka Kammerer I get the sugar shakes when I eat something really sugary on an empty stomach. Like a big slice... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch dragonlady I knew the minute I sent the post, that you'd reply something like this! Hee hee... that is the reason I gave Atkins a shot. And... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Nan There are a couple of reasons casual observations aren't to be trusted. One is because we're (people, that is) pretty bad at doing things like calculating base rates and accumulating disconfirming data... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Nan Some of the studies were done with rather large quanbreasties of sugar. I think the problem herre is that you cannot serve as the control for your own experiment. You... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch The problem is that, while 10% of women do have PROM before contractions start, none of the studies done so far have quantified that any particular proportion of children experience increased physical... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch You know, everyone says that obesity is rampant. My girls have two schools right now that they attend. DD1 is in middle school... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch metabolized and what is used in energy expenditure. being the school, it has the right to decide that) and that there is some relation between a habit of reaching for... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Generally speaking it isn't a good idea to make something a 'forbidden fruit'. That just makes it more... 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When Older Children Wear Diapers 3076 There is a possibility that your mother considered this so unremarkable that, in all the intervening years, she has forgotten. Joel, see, we don't... Whom should I talk to regarding publicprivate schooling 3077 I guess it would totally depend on what your local schools are like, and exactly what you are hoping to get out of a specific private... Whom should I talk to regarding publicprivate schooling 3078 There is no magic right decision for everyone. You need to know about your children's specific needs and the specific options avaialble in your area. Your children are too young yet for you to know... Whom should I talk to regarding publicprivate schooling 3079 Jeanne Yep, and just because disadvantaged kids don't manage to pull out top test scores doesn't mean that a kid without those disadvantages wouldn't do extremely... Whom should I talk to regarding publicprivate schooling 3080 Mili However, this does not give you the complete picture by a LONG shot. If I tell you... Whom should I talk to regarding publicprivate schooling 3081 If you mean high percentage of success for c-section, I would vote that hospital A is better. No I would still go to A if I have the freedom to... Whom should I talk to regarding publicprivate schooling 3082 Mili You're missing my point. I'm saying that test scores alone is NOT an adequate way to determine where YOUR child will... Whom should I talk to regarding publicprivate schooling 3083 toypup Different school districts have different policies, and there are a few where you get into "gifted" programs simply by having good grades or some such thing, but especially today, testing is... Piercing ears ChitaShines Both my kids and both my brother's kids and whole lot of friends' kids have had their... ettiquette again 3085 I never set out to do that. She was just interested in words and letters... ettiquette again 3086 Stephanie Yes, and please don't write cutesy notes as if she was writing them herself (a practice I find even more annoying when the purported author is a baby, or worse... Review: The Cave THE CAVE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * THE CAVE, one of... Educators are starting to hear the ticking of sleepy teens' body clocks Educators are starting to hear the ticking of sleepy teens' body clocks By Christopher Caskey -- Bee Staff Writer Published 2:15 am PDT Friday, September 9, 2005 Story appeared in Scene section, Page J1 Jennifer... Should school times change to match teen body clocks Should school times change to match teen body clocks? Published 2:15 am PDT Friday, September 9... neighbor kids 3090 I think that its important for our children to understand how they would like to be treated. I have a five year-old boy and I find... neighbor kids 3091 L. L., I 'm not sure if this will help you but... With the exception of being a... OT EXPLOSIVE RESIDUE FOUND ON FAILED LEVEE DEBRIS EXPLOSIVE RESIDUE FOUND ON FAILED LEVEE DEBRIS! Ruptured New Orleans Levee had help failing By: Hal Turner September 9, 2005 3:36 PM EDTNOTE: This... OT EXPLOSIVE RESIDUE FOUND ON FAILED LEVEE DEBRIS Would that be 'Intelligent Falling' :-) Evangelical Scientists Refute Gravity With New 'Intelligent Falling' Theory The Onion August 17, 2005 KANSAS CITY, KS - As the debate over the... teaching preschoolers piano, or other musical instrument Obscurity, linux Anne Rogers writes: Our DS at 22 months is also very interested in anything musical. I agree with what others have said... teaching preschoolers piano, or other musical instrument 3095 Welches I'm a fairly quick study with that sort of thing, and musical enough to have a performance... teaching preschoolers piano, or other musical instrument 3096 one of she's produce It's a trade off, though. I agree that learning a chording instrument is better for theory... teaching preschoolers piano, or other musical instrument 3097 Donna Metler Absolutely (and it does drive me insane when people play out of tune ;-) We're pretty blessed. Obviously... teaching preschoolers piano, or other musical instrument 3098 In addition, recorder is NOT a good instrument for a preschooler. Simply put, the little hands aren't usually big enough... This newsgroup I don't know what it is about this group...but for some reason, I feel incapable of posting here. I have been a regular... This newsgroup 3100 L. Just because I'm feeling pedantic today, that's pseudo-Latin, not real Latin. And it really should be... This newsgroup 3101 MsLiz You are describing the environment in both groups, Liz. The difference is that misc.kids has... This newsgroup 3102 Not reading the other responses and just going off the cuff.... It depends on your own experience. I've seen more attacking elsewhere, so it clearly depends... This newsgroup 3103 Though I am a committed omnivore (and since I follow a Very Low Carb diet... This newsgroup 3104 Fatless sponge (as I remember it) 3 eggs 3 oz caster sugar 3 oz plain flour (sifted) 1-2 teaspoon baking powder Separate eggs... This newsgroup 3105 Nan No, never had it. It was when I lived in Amish country that I went vegetarian (it didn't last - I'm not vegetarian today, for various reasons, though I do eat healthy for... This newsgroup 3106 Nan Mmmm.. ya know, sugary treats are much tastier with a little fat :-) I still have a hard time with a few things that... This newsgroup 3107 MsLiz It seems to me that anyone who advocates more regulations at school IS* telling other people what to do! Having such... This newsgroup 3108 Ericka Kammerer Which is your intretation. To me, sharing what I'd like to see happen in the... This newsgroup 3109 MsLiz I don't particularly see an issue there. Kids aren't that literal, in my experience. They "get... This newsgroup 3110 But if you want rules in school, the rules would also apply to ME and MY family, so you DO want to control everyone -- or at least... This newsgroup 3111 dragonlady Okay, here is my short reponse to a very long post. It does not bother me that the majority of... This newsgroup 3112 MsLiz I may be missing something here, but how does one have a debate, or even a discussion, if no one ever comments on other... This newsgroup 3113 Of course you're telling me that my idea is a bad idea -- you are telling me that you think restrictions are a good... This newsgroup Obscurity, linux MsLiz writes: You're being disingenuous here. You must surely remember that you didn't merely state that McDonalds nauseates you... This newsgroup 3115 Oh, I think that's a broad generalization. Granted, this group is quicker to debate than others, but... This newsgroup 3116 I think that just because people voice their differences in opinion on a group is something that one needs to... This newsgroup 3117 Sue While people need to develop thicker skins (in this particular group), perhaps the converse is... This newsgroup 3118 MsLiz Hmm...perhaps you don't mean it, but I sense a certain amount of anger in your postings as well. Again, I'm not sure you mean it that way, but it comes across that way... This newsgroup 3119 Ericka Kammerer I was reluctant to start this thread and I cringed when I hit send this... This newsgroup 3120 MsLiz Oh good heavens, don't worry about it so much! Virtually all of us have gotten into it on... This newsgroup 3121 Brian That is a very good way of putting it! It has a hairline trigger in attacking So far so good. It's an unnatural tension... This newsgroup 3122 MsLiz I think you've got a misinterpretation going on. Just because some people construed something you said as rude doesn't mean that no one else in the group is ever... This newsgroup 3123 says... ?? I don't perceive a lot of anger in here. Although other forums do strive for a lighter tone. They do that either by explicitly being not for discussion, or by really only supporting... This newsgroup 3124 MsLiz A less buttertive poster likely wouldn't post such strong opinions in the early going, for the most part, so the combination you're experiencing might not be that common... Toddler crying the whole day at daycare even after a month I have a 22 month old who started going to daycare almost 5 weeks back. I decided to put... Toddler crying the whole day at daycare even after a month 3126 Thanks everyone for your supportive answers and suggestions. It is very encouraging to see that few other kids have gone through this stage. My daugther goes to daycare 5 days a week. Before she... Toddler crying the whole day at daycare even after a month 3127 I have often seen toddlers in my sons daycare crying all day for the first few weeks. The crying generally reduces to dropping time, nap time and pick up... Toddler crying the whole day at daycare even after a month 3128 SJ Does she go five days a week and full day each day? Or do you alternate with any other daycare? If you're alternating, you better stop that and put her... Toddler crying the whole day at daycare even after a month SJ The first thing I'd do is take her to the doctor to make sure there wasn't something medically wrong causing her to be so miserable and that it was just coincidence that it happened... Toddler crying the whole day at daycare even after a month Obscurity, linux Oh, poor thing, and poor you - that must be so hard to cope with. I can't... Airline funnies long A firend sent this to me, thought you all would like it. ON A SOUTHWEST FLIGHT (SW HAS NO buttIGNED SEATING, YOU JUST... night terrors, or something else Help, please! My 2.5yo son has been having some trouble sleeping the past two nights. He falls asleep quite easily, and then stirs and begins crying and raging about 20 minutes... night terrors, or something else Does he remember them when waking up? My kids started night terrors about that age, and they do get worse if something unusual is happeneing in their life. My... Age to let child out of sight Hi, We have recently moved to a street with lots of kids aged about 9-10... Age to let child out of sight 3135 Man, it's SO hard to know where to draw the line on being protective -- and especially if you have a child who has special needs! I think... Age to let child out of sight 3136 If his developmental age is closer to 5 and you just moved there, no, I don't think you are being overprotective. It... FerberLite Jamie only goes to sleep with a long nursing or bottle-feeding session, and this is causing increasing practical problems. Since he's only nine months old, I don't expect this to be something he grows... FerberLite Sarah Vaughan I might be able to answer. I did a fairly traditional Ferber approach with Luke at 6mos. It was just for the... Mother of 2may be partial help needed 3139 I would ask them to give you specific examples. You may find that you just disagree on the way to... Mother of 2may be partial help needed 3140 tataboz This may be your key here - why is your son so small? Did you... Napping 8 month old on a Schedule amy Personally, I wouldn't wait for him to seem sleepy. Lots of kids have very subtle sleepy cues, and if you wait for the obvious signs, you may have pbutted the window... Review: Just Like Heaven JUST LIKE HEAVEN A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * Wanting to be the next GHOST -- and succeeding handsomely -- JUST LIKE HEAVEN is sweetly funny and delightfully... Review: Lord of War LORD OF WAR A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): A long and didactic history lesson, the repebreastive LORD OF WAR is like a Michael Moore... Calendar Ideas for Newbie Hello, I've been lurking in various newsgroups, including this one and m.k.p for a while now and I've recently started taking the plunge and actually... Calendar Ideas for Newbie 3145 I mostly lurk too, but I thought I would contribute what I do with a calendar. It is a bit different than what you are trying to do, but it might... Calendar Ideas for Newbie 3146 Gorgon Park I like your idea of doing it on an ongoing basis but part of my original reason for doing it in a single hit... Calendar Ideas for Newbie 3147 emailed and posted Welcome aboard I have done something similar for the past 10 years. I started with a kit that was... Calendar Ideas for Newbie 3148 Rosalie B. I think the online photo place will print out the whole thing together, pictures and dates, and I think they'll let me put in markers for specific dates... Calendar Ideas for Newbie 3149 Yes I know they do that, but it is cheaper for me to do it at home and give them the printout. IIRC, they charge for each... Potty training for poop 3150 This was an issue for our daughter as well. I posted on it back then, but few experienced the same... Potty training for poop 3151 I don't have direct experience of this myself, as DD is only 8.5 months old but... OT: Jury Duty in California long I've always wanted to serve on a jury just to see what it's like. They must know... OT: Jury Duty in California long 3153 toypup Actually, my understanding is that they prefer jurors who want to serve, who those that don't. important to the operation... OT: Jury Duty in California long 3154 For many years, neither of us was called. For the first 20 years it was probably because my... Stage Fright 3155 Chookie I can tell you what worked for me, when I was a kid and... Stage Fright 3156 I hated performing and my piano teacher insisted that we couldn't really be competent unless we performed some pieces for an audience. I always resisted... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies WARNING: Industry is Blogging These NewsGroups to Maintain Their Monopolies To : All participants and readers of misc.health.alternative + other health-related newsgroups Please be... Age of consent 3158 Carey Gregory --------------------- This is your "Are you now or have you ever been a person?" question. People like you in... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3159 1. Pharma Bloggers on usenet use intimidation, mockery, and insults to silence those who express belief or interest in natural medicine. 2. Pharma Bloggers on usenet attack those who question... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3160 Now for the truth Mark Probert pretended to be his wife, and out of the blue, e-mailed me three times. This was AFTER he had REPEATEDLY been told NOT to e-mail me privately... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3161 I am glad you mentioned industry. Is not the natural medicine group an industry? Don't... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3162 stated: Like this? Gabe Mirkin, M.D. Many recent studies show that most gastroenterologists may be wrong when they do not prescribe antibiotics to treat Crohn's disease... I need advice on discipline Hello I'm mom of 2, a boy 9 and a girl 12, both good kids. My girl is very sweet, honest, responsible...but sometimes acts without thinking. Last Wednesday, after... I need advice on discipline 3164 Kids need to know good and bad decissions, your daughter made a really bad one... I need advice on discipline 3165 you could be right......my eldest is 12 and a good kid too. They sound similiar. But... SO sad I dont post much anymore but I think some of you remember me. Im just utterly heartbroken. My... SO sad Hi Kari, I'm really sorry for you. I still get upset thinking about my cat that died years ago. I don't know if you've left yet, and I don't have kids yet... CCFC to Scholastic: Stop Peddling TV In Preschools The Campaign for a Commercial-Free Childhood (CCFC) is urging Scholastic, Inc. to stop promoting Tickle U, the Cartoon Network's new block of programming for toddlers, in preschools. Scholastic recently... CCFC to Scholastic: Stop Peddling TV In Preschools 3169 while i agree that this is not particularly a good thing, i fail to see how it's different than 90% of the Scholastic Book Club books being TV... CCFC to Scholastic: Stop Peddling TV In Preschools 3170 enigma Actually, some parents have been complaining about the all the Scholastic TV tie-ins. And... Review: Thumbsucker 12 THUMBSUCKER A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): 1-2 THUMBSUCKER is an unusual and off-beat coming-of-age... I thought I would share with this group Hi, I am the owner of the Stay Dry Bedwetting Group, and I thought I would share... Love On The Bridges Of Holland Version 2.2 on 12 Sept 2005 Love On The Bridges Of Holland ** 18 September 2002 (Version 2.2 on 12 Sept 2005) ' Wild ducks, and gentle wind, play on and ripple soothingly the surface of the water. ' Red bricks form walls... Lunch ideas for 3 yr old 3174 Why would cold food make you sick if it was OK to eat it hot? That makes no sense to me. It's the same food isn't it? Sounds like a perceptual... Lunch ideas for 3 yr old 3175 As I was going to sleep last night, it occurred to me that there is a solution to the "no microwave for heating up the meal" that I used to... Lunch ideas for 3 yr old 3176 I'm glad that you agree. I always wondered if I was over-reacting. I didn't say anything... Lunch ideas for 3 yr old 3177 Is the macaroni & cheese cold then, when she comes to eat it? Personally, I'm not a huge fan of cold pasta and maybe she feels the same... Lunch ideas for 3 yr old 3178 Celery sticks with cheese spread in them. Small amounts of whatever you give -- e.g. two small celery sticks, along with other stuff. Carrot sticks: use baby carrots... Inconsiderate drivers and kids who walk to school 3179 Regardless of what you think of as flaws in the design of school busses, the fact is... Inconsiderate drivers and kids who walk to school 3180 Circe The stuff we have to buy I realized was closer to $40 than $70 (there's the extra... Inconsiderate drivers and kids who walk to school 3181 Our lists used to be like this, too. For me, at least, it's not the amount of money, it's the principle of the thing. One of the reasons legislators in this country... Review: Cry_Wolf * 12 CRYWOLF A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 CRYWOLF is a formula slasher film that... Question for parents of grownups 3183 I'm not nuts about him, but she is -- and he seems to be decent to her. But I really don't want him actually LIVING here. With the kids' weird... Question for parents of grownups 3184 dragonlady says... But "other families" shouldn't be your guide. If it's a problem for you, it's a problem. And - are they feeding themselves? You might not up and make them a... Question for parents of grownups 3185 No -- but a reality check against what is "normal" at this age. Sort of like finding out that it's normal for toddlers to have... Question for parents of grownups 3186 No -- in the long run the kids move out, and dinner most every night is just DH and I. The thing is, with work schedules being what they... Question for parents of grownups 3187 Nan ---------------------- No. If you offered a recently criplled relative lodging you would not ever imagine that you... Question for parents of grownups 3188 Okay, I dont think its that far a stretch and I dont think it was twisted around but........onward and forward. as a stay at home spouse not raising children I... Question for parents of grownups 3189 On Tue, 20 Sep 2005 22:41:41 +0200, Barbara planterger Well sure, if you look at it narrowly, then so do I. But the discussion wasn't about stay at home moms... Question for parents of grownups 3190 But mom is NOT unhappy with daughter having love in her bedroom. And if she was, then that should have been laid out prior to the agreement. And here is where we... Question for parents of grownups 3191 I agree. I know Barbara can come up with a counter- example, like the disabled spouse who can no longer work or keep the... Question for parents of grownups 3192 bizby40 ------------------ Parents who do NOT offer that, AND do not insist on their housmate's sharing the burden, will... Question for parents of grownups 3193 Figured I'd answer your questions . . . Not often -- but once in a while. And if daughter... Question for parents of grownups 3194 I don't honestly see that it makes a difference. But then it also doesn't really make a... Question for parents of grownups 3195 Excellent point. I've been trying to figure out how to say this. My children and I are NOT equal in power right... Question for parents of grownups 3196 dragonlady Absolutely. Having power doesn't mean lording it over anyone, and realizing that you aren't in power doesn't mean that you're a second clbutt citizen or should... Question for parents of grownups 3197 Flash back . . . I was about 19; I'd worked at least part time since I was old enough (14) and was living in my parents' home while paying my way through college. (They were unable... Question for parents of grownups 3198 Barbara planterger I don't see it as that sort of argument. I see it more... Question for parents of grownups 3199 dragonlady That's why I keep saying that it's a balance between responsibility and authority-privilege. I think that's what defines the line. Right now you provide for your children... Question for parents of grownups 3200 Ericka Kammerer ----------------------- We treated both our kids like equals, and we got along famously. Of course that means abandoning hope of controlling your... Question for parents of grownups 3201 How is this a conflict? Thhe asnwer to the first question is yes, that is my argument... Question for parents of grownups 3202 says... It depends on what you mean by that. In my household, it's just me and my son, and partly due to philosophy and partly that... Question for parents of grownups 3203 Barbara planterger I think those are very different situations, and I have significant experience living in extended family situations that have worked very well. When you are living off of the... Question for parents of grownups 3204 Ericka Kammerer ------------------------ How about a white mansion owner offering lodging but who has a rule that unmarried african americans can't sleep together? That is just as offensive to me as... Question for parents of grownups 3205 I disagree. We're back to the kindless of someone else. Rarely, when it comes to mometary situations are everyone in the house equal. I... Question for parents of grownups 3206 Nikki When my grandparents lived with us (more than 20 years, so not just a short term caretaking sort of thing), we had more of a situation where... Question for parents of grownups 3207 Ericka Kammerer Oh yes. My grandmother would stay with us for a year - then travel around to some of her other kids, then stay with us another year... Question for parents of grownups 3208 My MIL and FIL had his mother living with them until she died which was shortly after we were married. After my FIL left her, my MIL 'sold' (for about 1-5th of the... Question for parents of grownups 3209 I went home and lived with my mom and dad (and later with just my mom) at various times in the last 46 years since I was married. And I mean moved in and... Question for parents of grownups 3210 Nan -------------------------- Nope. Doesn't. If you're a cripple, however unable to support yourself, you still have the right to your privacy and dignity, and that means your loveuality. So it has... Question for parents of grownups 3211 Maybe it depends upon what sort of relationship you want with your adult child. Yes, she's still financially dependent on me, and there ARE rules I will make about... Question for parents of grownups 3212 dragonlady says... Control of what, though. Although it's inappopriate to expect control over a grown child, I don't think one automatically give up control... Question for parents of grownups 3213 dragonlady It is a tricky business making that transition. I grew up in an extended family situation (living with... Question for parents of grownups 3214 I'm not sure I understand your point here. I don't object to her being loveually active, or even to her having love in the house. I'm trying to figure out... Question for parents of grownups 3215 dragonlady says... It means, that the response that you should expect from her when you ask her to keep it down, should have nothing... Question for parents of grownups 3216 I think it bothers him more than it does her. However, he seems to be getting over it . . . I think the heart of the problem is that... Question for parents of grownups 3217 In this entire thread, I think I've been most astonished by the idea that folks... Dealing with Bullies: New ways I've been looking for advice on dealing with bullies for a web page I'm building, but all the advice I find seems lame... Dealing with Bullies: New ways 3219 I taught my daughter who had real problems with bullies in yr one and 2 to... Dealing with Bullies: New ways 3220 Do you really want the teachers in your local elementary-middleschool to tell the 5th grader to go file a lawsuit when a bully decides that only him and... Dealing with Bullies: New ways 3221 Dave ------------------- The teachers should call the police immediately and have them make arrests. Or the students should be directed to hold the bandit for the police. -------------------- No, because, all... Dealing with Bullies: New ways 3222 Maybe the difference is the age groups and the severity, possibly even the behaviour pattern. I only commented on how I think elementary and middleschool should be dealt with. I have... Dealing with Bullies: New ways 3223 Dave ------------------------------- I think it should start in first grade, right after the "If you do this, you will be arrested, jailed, and punished!-Terror Speech. --------------- No... Dealing with Bullies: New ways 3224 They only have status because you give them status. If I ignore you, you can go ahead and think you won, but what status do... Dealing with Bullies: New ways 3225 Dave ---------------------------- You can pretend all you like, but status is a group delusion, and you can't avoid it. It makes you pay tribute to the rich monthly (rent-mortgage... Dealing with Bullies: New ways 3226 My son, a kindergartner, started his first month learning about IALAC dolls. For anyone not familiar with this, it's an acronym which means I Am Lovable... Survey, please: Tshirts I used to buy LOTS of t-shirts for various crafts. When I had kids decorate t-shirts for parties (not an uncommon thing) I'd figure to buy at... New poster, Urgnet question LaBlueGirl This happened to the son of a friend of mine at about this age. I'd get him to the doctor. In the unlikely event something is very wrong you'll want to... Review: Flightplan 12 FLIGHTPLAN A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): 1-2 Even if it is an energetic mix of RUN... Review: Everything is Illuminated EVERYTHING IS ILLUMINATED A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): In his writing and directing debut, actor Liev Schreiber (the candidate in THE MANCHURIAN... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3231 Conventional medicine does a lot of harm by doing nothing. I have a parasite throughout my body that is causing me a lot of problems. My conventional doctors... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3232 Robert My alternative doctors (after studying my situation) realized that ONLY parasites could be causing my specific set of symptoms. He gave me medicine that end only those parasites that could... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3233 What type of parasite was it? He gave me a low dosage at first. When I told him that it... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3234 It matters not, the medicine end it. Is the poster on trial here? Oh, you would, would you? He could have just as easily said he knew what was... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3235 I am referring to the story above. Again where did he get the diagnosis of parasites? Please read the story above again. "I have a parasite throughout my body that is causing... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3236 The story, YOU just MADE UP!!!!!! Again where did he get the diagnosis of I read YOUR story. I asked YOU questions! You... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3237 You did not originate this post or topic. You had nothing to do with it. You have no say in it nor do I... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3238 I beg you pardon, this is a public newsgroups. Exactly, and you just contradicted yourself, everyone has a say. You do not speak for all... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3239 What IS in the DSM IV The enbreasty somatization disorder* is psychobabble and is obtained... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3240 Although I mostly believe the comments you have made I would value references to the 'Science proves otherwise' statements. I think I have... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine Keywords: buzz 3241 On Mon, 19 Sep 2005 00:38:37 GMT, "LadyLollipop" There is no gang. Jan Drew is quite paranoid. There are a number of individuals who are skeptical of various alternative... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3242 It's interesting that those are all diseases that have psychosomatic components. Is this "doctor" sharing his case histories with... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3243 That's a whopper of a lie, which I just proved in another post. Medical Lies and Why one abands organized medicine New Research Debunks Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Myth You need to... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3244 LadyLollipop COMMENT: Actually Harris was only making fun of people who have real suffering conditions AND are... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3245 When I was in hospital with a panic attack which imitated the symptoms of a heart attack (it was somatisation and all... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3246 What a hoot!!! eczema If a food allergy is suspected, testing for allergic reactions to eggs, milk, peanuts... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3247 begun Jan? Any chronic illness especially when it is so ill defined and hard to diagnose has... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3248 R yes, it has a psychological component. Often this comes well after the disease has taken... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3249 restored: **You hurt all over*, and you frequently feel exhausted. Even after numerous tests, your doctor can't seem to find anything specifically wrong with you. If this sounds familiar, you... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3250 And what would YOU suggest, Robert? And What, would YOU suggest, Robert? And WHAT, would YOU suggest, Robert... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3251 An objective test that positively identifies these patients. Non exists yet. that I would suggest as a teaching hospital experience... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3252 Jeff COMMENT: It's the same thing. You can't fool most of the people all of the time for long. If they don't think they've been helped, they will soon quit giving you their money, and... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3253 COMMENT: I can make the opposite observation that if you prevent corporations from participating in politics, you merely allow them... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3254 Sbharrisatsignix.netcom.com This observation has been made many times in different forms, but I don't see people lining up to vote for larger and larger welfare schemes! I don't think that's because the corporations are protecting... MY RESPONSE TO MANY CONCERNS PARENTS HAVE SHARED My name is Bob, and I'm a 55 year old WPM, father of 3 grown... Review: Capote CAPOTE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): ** Sometimes there is a performance so astonishing that you are... juice If you think juice is nothing but calories, no nutrition, don't-give-it-to-your kids, evil stuff, don't answer this question. I already know it... juice 3258 toypup I wonder if it makes a difference what kind of juice it is? We used to... juice 3259 Ericka Kammerer I would tend to agree - I've seen something similar happen with my niece, where her Dad thought it would be a nice treat to give her chocolate milk for a change, except... juice 3260 Ericka Kammerer Yeah, you're probably right... I have to admit, I was slightly taken aback when they proudly told me... juice 3261 At nine months, she should still be getting most of her nutrition from breastmilk or formula. Most solids she'd be eating are less nutritionally dense than breastmilk or... juice 3262 Hmmm, these don't list the source of the honey, but... (Netherlands) (Says honey samples from across the US have had botulism spores) (Doesn't say where the case happened, but the article is in Danish... juice 3263 I agree that it's interesting. I just think the author was somewhat irresponsible. There was a clear tenor pooh-poohing... juice 3264 Ericka Kammerer Yes, you're probably right and in this case, the benefits of feeding honey don't outweigh the risks (which may not have been the case in days gone... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder Both bad for teens, research suggests By Mark Ballard Published... MathAbacus.com Hi there! I'm the writer for the book enbreastled Learning Mathematics with the Abacus. I would... If you listen to music with mature content, then.... 3267 i reckon it depends on the child, and the kind of adult content you mean. my older son (9) is not lyrically (or indeed musically) inclined, much. i'd be happy for him to overhear most... 400,000 children are given 'good behaviour' drug 400,000 children are given 'good behaviour' drug Zac Goldsmith, one of David Cameron's key policy advisers, yesterday backed the Hold on to Childhood coverage in The Daily Telegraph and said he was worried at... Help Wanted! for Unruly 3yo & more 3269 In response to all of the above: Well, it is now 10 pm and though I am exhausted and look like abrunette carrot top (ooo, not so happy with the haircut!) tonight was abetter night... Penile cancer They found that "significant risk factors for invasive penile cancer: lack of circumcision during childhood, phimosis... OT: prepping dinner for family how much pasta Nope. Store the plain cooked pasta (rinsed and cooled) in a ziploc plastic baggie, and when you want to re-heat it, add a couple of tablespoons of water (in the bag) and nuke it... MY RESPONSE TO MANY CONCERNS PARENTS HAVE SHARED I disagree. You're right that urine is produced 24 hours a day; however, the rate of production of urine varies based on several factors, one of the important... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3273 I think the answer lies in your statement. You are dealing with what the alternatives call as "hidden" from conventional medicine in which... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3274 are Maybe you can define it for me. Does it mean the person is not allergic to a food but he really is and therefor the patient is... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3275 I told you to read Brad's posts and where to find them. This is his area and not mine. If you had done that, I believe, you will find the answers... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3276 problems. gave me Hey Brad, that was written for Lady. She owes me an apology by calling me a liar several times and other names. I don't believe I... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine Keywords: buzz 3277 Ok. And you are doing an excellent job of it. I was just concerned that you, like many others before you, would become increasingly frustrated with her answers. Also be careful about revealing... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3278 BradChad How did he determine what sort of parasite you had. Medications are not broad spectrum, and the parasite has to be specifically treated. You also mention what... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3279 I have been sick for about two years. I found an alternative doctor that said that I had candida AND parasites. I do not know the timetable of when the... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3280 Mark Probert My doctor graduated from a medical program that is more concerned with results than stroking their ego. I think... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine Keywords: buzz 3281 On Mon, 26 Sep 2005 09:24:26 -0400, Mark Probert Read his posts Mark. I think... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3282 This is why his posts piqued my all natural curiosity. One of the times that I did have a parasite I was treated... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3283 Actually what Mark didn't want reposted: This is 22222 funny. Coming from one note Johnny arm chair psychaitrist, Richard H Jacobson, who has the same diagnosis for one and all down through the... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3284 discussion. As I mentioned before, all parasites are regional so it is not unusual for doctors and alternatives in remote areas to have experience with common parasites. Better sanitation and changes in daily living... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3285 Yes, the first paragraph of that article, about pinworms, is largely correct. But then come the... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3286 Mark Probert Mirosoft is terrible on protestcing against worms, virii and those kinds of attacks. The spam... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3287 LadyLollipop Conventional doctors look for parasites when there is a reasonable beleif that the patient may... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3288 beleif As one who is doing the looking I can verify that they are very rare indeed in... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3289 So you are saying you are a doctor? very rare indeed in those in which the symptoms are one's that such cases need to rule out. Such as? What animals? How do... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3290 Since you are not a doctor, it seems these symptoms would not be reported to you. Kids don't wash their hands after touching pets. It is NOT rare to have it transmitted to owners. NOT... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3291 throughout to Major complaints and or symtoms are a part of hospital systems placed on top of the computer record easily visible... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3292 a.. Fact: An estimated 85 percent of all adults in North America have at least one form of parasite living in their bodies. b.. Fact: Parasites can remain in the... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3293 I guess Robert does not understand that Richard H Jacobson is a cyberstalker with a pattern. He is obseessed with me because he has... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine Keywords: buzz 3294 And then right on cue just a half hour later: On Sun, 25 Sep 2005 20:00:30 GMT, "LadyLollipop" Poor Jan. Is Richard H. Jacobson the subject of this thread? I guess... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine Keywords: buzz 3295 On Sat, 24 Sep 2005 06:11:43 GMT, "LadyLollipop" It is not surprising that LadyLollipop aka Jan Drew does not think it is important what type of parasite, just that the medicine end it... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3296 identified? Loa Loa is often called the eye worm that can transverse the visual eye field. The baby microfilarial form is seen in the... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3297 parasite. a This and it. labs Any inflammatory reactions will raise ESR. Usually with any invasive intimate infiltration of tissue parasites you will see a whopping eosinophilia. Most intestinal... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3298 No it didn't and he still has to take the meds that are expensive. That is what he is complaining about get it? He posted his experience here... 8 Medical Lies and Why I Abandoned Medicine 3299 I see a question mark there, so evidently, you aren't sure? You didn't answer mine, and you also... bad behavior effecting my own kids If these playdates are at your house, you can clearly state the rules for how people treat one another under your roof. I have a one child with... Jodie Foster Loses Cool In Cinema Bust Up 3301 Well, calm down here a moment. One should strive not to inconvenience people. Sure, some... Jodie Foster Loses Cool In Cinema Bust Up 3302 This raises some interesting questions about equal access, radical inclusivity, conflict of needs, etc. I am a fan of radical inclusivity, especially in church... Utter nonsense of vaccination Keywords: buzz On Tue, 27 Sep 2005 11:50:00 GMT, "LadyLollipop" Poor Jan. Unable to deal with facts so she just hurls out FALSE accusations of lying. Jan Drew... Moving around in cot Hello We have just moved DS from is Moses basket to his cot. When we put him down at night he... Music Lesson Fees 3305 MelisaK We couldn't afford a piano so we bought a good keyboard, full sized that we're very happy with. And it's fun to play around on. At 8, my daughter took a year of recorder... Music Lesson Fees 3306 MelisaK My DD's both started four years ago, at $18 for 30 minutes each child once a week, private lessons with a retired music teacher. DD11 eventually chose to give it up... Music Lesson Fees 3307 MelisaK If I can steal your thread for a minute, I am interested in getting advice from the musical folks on the group. Specifically... Music Lesson Fees 3308 shinypenny Well, you're probably asking the wrong person, as my 10yo is doing piano and percussion and my 8yo plays piano and is already... Music Lesson Fees 3309 Ericka Kammerer Yeah, it's just that she's got so many other myriad interests, not just music. There's... Music Lesson Fees 3310 shinypenny At some point, they have to start taking responsibility for that sort of thing. All you can do as a parent is explain the likely consequences... Music Lesson Fees 3311 Ericka Kammerer Oh, I agree! Actually, it is more like her dad who I think may be encouraging her onward because he wished he'd continued when he was her age. DD... Music Lesson Fees 3312 MsLiz Wow, that's cheap. Lessons vary a lot in price, depending on the area and on the... Music Lesson Fees 3313 Sue I think private lessons do move them along faster, and it makes life easier for the band director, but not all kids really need private lessons in the first... Music Lesson Fees 3314 MelisaK If he's just starting out, then maybe 30 minutes wouldn't be too bad. I'd expect to get up to 45 minutes quickly, though... Schools started suggest me what is good for snack for kids, what type of Lunch Chookie In my mind, the required proportion is dependent upon the severity of the consequences and the age of the children. With young... Lunch ideas for 3 yr old 3316 That's because you use eggs and oil, and have to mix it so it doesn't curdle or something. There used to be directions in the cookbooks for what to do to fix it... juice 3317 toypup I'd worry more about the sugar bath to her teeth than the empty calories but given that she eats well, her weight is fine and buttuming her teeth are... juice 3318 toypup You know what? I totally agree! But I think that's partly because I never... juice 3319 I used to drink soda a lot, and my ds would ask for a taste, and I would... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder 3320 R. Steve Walz Its not me and my generation the demean girls about their loveuality. That would be you... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder 3321 Tommy --------------------- Sure it is, you're a loveist and antiloveual beyond belief, you fundy bigot. --------------------- Most of my generation were idiiots, the bright ones... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder 3322 R. Steve Walz No I'm not! Not true.. I've watched the woodstock video. Care to deny that you people practiced free love during the... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder 3323 Mistakenly. There is no reasoned cause for regarding end as the killing of a human being, since we are... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder 3324 Tommy -------------------- If you're not a Fundy you're REALLY f**ing CONFUSED! You consistently promote sick far right-wing agenda items and Fundy religious bigot positions. You MATCH EXACTLY the positions of right-wing fundies! ---------------------------- Then... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder 3325 R. Steve Walz ============= The report included reports of loveual activity by boys--even babies--and said that 37% of adult males had had at... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder 3326 Tommy ----------------- This was interview research into loveual experiences, not promotion. ------------------------- You believe the poo you do because you have no brains. ----------------------------- Then why do you seem to... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder 3327 Roger I'm not going to do your homework.. Google is your friend. Did you not go to the url I provided? Oh, I see. When a Jew slams Gentiles he's... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder 3328 Roger So the experts who reviewed those books are liars? Much could be said about your reading comprehension. So... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder 3329 Roger I'm not anti-loveual. You seem to think you're qualified to speak on an 'entire' generation of Germans during the 1930-40-s So you're saying that: "Make Love, Not War" is based on... love And Drugs Hit Girls Harder 3330 Roger There is no consequence if you use a condom.. Yeah, you base you're belief on a... Age of consent 3331 Carey Gregory --------------------- That's a circularity. You're saying it's bad because it's illegal, ignoring that the law is an butt, and so are you. ------------------------- Nonsense, that's like... Age of consent 3332 None are ready as toddlers.... Well, I would certainly agree, but there are many who don't agree with that. They argue that even infants can give consent. So... Age of consent 3333 No, you didn't intimate it. You said explicitly, more than once, "any age." Perhaps more precision in language would help if that's not what you meant. And if you look back... Age of consent 3334 13, 12, 8, 3... whatever. You just made my point. It takes every little to seduce the young. What's the risk... Age of consent 3335 Or the old. And it depends on what you're seducing with. Most people engage in loveual activity in their early to mid teens. Education would... Age of consent 3336 Carey Gregory ------------------ And THAT'S nothing more than a bumper-sticker catch-phrase you were brainwashed with. Kids consent all the time with each other, with parents requesting things of them, etc. They consent to... Age of consent 3337 intimacy. Whose definition of "child" do you want? Webster's? My state's? How about yours? There are loads of good studies that show negative outcomes related to childhood loveual abuse... Age of consent 3338 conditions. the So you think there are 13yo's mature enough to have love with adults without adverse consequences? So what... Age of consent 3339 On Thu, 29 Sep 2005 15:46:44 GMT, dragonlady Don't hold your respondent too much to blame. All other things being equal, the basis for voicing what appears to be a reflex and unsubstantiatable... Making friends dd#1 started school this September. She's gone in with a lot of people she knows from pre-school, in fact nearly all the girls in her clbutt were in her group at... Making friends 3341 Okay, I think I've taken it as I'm making too much of this. I'll stop trying to do too much! One thing is in the UK you don't... Making friends 3342 Her thought was that they had no regard for other children outside themselves. Personally I felt that they drew confidence from each other and would have liked them to be in the same form... Making friends 3343 Welches I totally would not spend one minute talking to her or worrying about this friendship :-) I don't think it is the cause of... Making friends 3344 In message Shifting the clbuttes each year also tends to break up cliques and give children who need it a fresh start, or as close as you can get to it... Making friends 3345 dragonlady Just another data point -- my elementary school in Tennesse did not, for the most part. We'd occasionally get some... Making friends 3346 Actually, you did -- or someone else did. They asked what the philosophy was for changing every year, and, frankly... Making friends 3347 Welches Thinking way back to that stage... Children develop social skills at different rates. While it may seem to... Making friends 3348 I think Other Mother needs to relax, too :) Well, it's no wonder! Multiply you and Other Mother, by the numbers of other... Making friends 3349 Welches A part of me thinks you're borrowing trouble. It doesn't sound like she's having any social problems or even friendship problems. It's hard to really know what will... Homework poll 3350 Nan In K, DD1's homework was writing (and penmanship)-oriented, so she would do it in the evenings (7:30) while I kept her company at the table writing letters to people... Homework poll 3351 This is such a YMMV topic. It has everything to do with your child, both in terms of school apbreastude (which is a different thing than intelligence, I think), learning... Homework poll 3352 Nan My DD's are in 6th and 7th grade now. In our school district, they buttign homework as early as K. In K, parents get... Homework poll 3353 I don't remember having a particular issue with homework except for dd#1 in first grade where they... Tiger scouts was Homework poll Circe We've only had the one big Pack meeting and our first Tiger Scout meeting is this Sunday so I don't know what to think yet. There are 7 boys in Hunter's den and he... Tiger scouts was Homework poll 3355 Tiger Scouts can be great, or it can totally suck. (Please excuse my language!) :-) When I was little, I was in... Tiger scouts was Homework poll 3356 What I like most about scouts is the way it encourages the boys to try a variety of different things and... Tiger scouts was Homework poll 3357 That's why any den that co-op's leadership needs to sit down early in the year with a calendar and have all the parents determine in advance which meeting(s) they're doing... Tiger scouts was Homework poll 3358 I was in an extremely active girl scouting group up to and including Cadette scouts and I enjoyed it very much. I was in Europe and we went hosteling, camping... Tiger scouts was Homework poll 3359 Certainly can't say I agree with the BSA in its every* policy. The issue of girls not being in Boy Scouts doesn't bother me any more than boys not being in girl... Tiger scouts was Homework poll 3360 Hey! I'm awards chair for our pack too!!! But I disagree with you on almost everything. :-P First of all, let me say that I have been spoiled... Tiger scouts was Homework poll 3361 Nice to meetcha, fellow Awards Chair! I didn't mean to imply that the meetings were-are unstructured--as one of the... Tiger scouts was Homework poll 3362 Having handed out the summer awards last meeting, it should be pretty smooth sailing until the Blue and Gold, eh? I'll have to take your word for it... Tiger scouts was Homework poll 3363 Hmmm - I thought they (BSA) was moving to a more structured format for Tiger Cubs, but, some years ago when my son... Homework poll 3364 I don't have my kids do their homework until I start cooking dinner, which means as early... Homework poll 3365 I felt the same way and we tended to eat considerably later than most families--that it, until I... Homework poll 3366 I was a SAHM until my children were all older. But a year after we moved here (dd#1 was... Homework poll 3367 I tried several approaches, none of which worked well. In our house, for multiple reasons, homework became such a constant struggle that there were times it consumed our free time. Eventually, I gave up... Kids and Nutrition keira I wonder if kids become finicky because of lack of opportunities to get hungry. In our scheduled societies, it's difficult to let... Comparing spanking and alternatives A study by Dr. Larzelere 3369 I would suggest that you read the actual study before making such comment. For what you said is not correct. On page 27, the study said... Comparing spanking and alternatives A study by Dr. Larzelere 3370 Hierophant The use of the word, "disciplinary" in this case usually denotes "punishment." My own experience working with children diagnosed as... Review: The Greatest Game Ever Played * 12 THE GREATEST GAME EVER PLAYED A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): * 1-2 THE GREATEST GAME EVER PLAYED is an old-fashioned, heartfelt film, exquisitely constructed by director Bill... teaching foreign language to K2 I volunteered to the PTA (what was I thinking?) to buttist with a foreign language club they're running after school for six weeks at my son's elementary. The K-2 groups will... teaching foreign language to K2 Ideas: -- speak only in Italian the whole time, unless you really need to break into English to handle a discipline problem. -- use lots of sign language and pictures to supplement the Italian. -- don't try to... toilet training phase 2 3374 With ds, the threshold for underwear outside the house was I wouldn't do it until after he had actually successfully used a toilet... toilet training phase 2 3375 DD (2.5 yo) is regularly wearing big girl underwear and staying dry. She's still scared of pooping in the potty but as... Review: Serenity 12 SERENITY A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ***): 1-2 Suffering through, I mean watching SERENITY is like starting at the 84th episode of a... If you listen to music with mature content, then.... 3377 Reading it all over, I guess I'm of the wait-and-see mind. I hadn't given it much thought until listening to a CD... If you listen to music with mature content, then.... 3378 P. Tierney more songs with lyrics in a language DD1 didn't understand. It was right about the time we realized that she was walking around singing the lyrics to 'Plastic... If you listen to music with mature content, then.... 3379 Sounds like you and I have similar taste in music! (Now I'm not going to be able to get "He don't slip and he don't slide . . ." out of... If you listen to music with mature content, then.... 3380 P. Tierney As a general rule we don't censor music at all. The only exception has been... If you listen to music with mature content, then.... 3381 P. Tierney This is an interesting question. I never really curbed my listening habits around the kids when they were younger, but then again, there are few songs these days that I listen to that... If you listen to music with mature content, then.... 3382 Ditto. I think it depends on the culture in which you live as to what is or is not too explicit. Have you ever read the cartoon Boondocks? If the... If you listen to music with mature content, then.... 3383 On Sat, 24 Sep 2005 21:45:37 GMT, "P. Tierney" Its pretty obvious that I err... Schoolgirl forced to stay home by police mast Schoolgirl forced to stay home by police mast Daily Mail Sept 28, 2005 A 12-YEAR-OLD epileptic girl has been forced to have home tuition... advice needed on pacifier weaning Hi - can anyone advise re weaning my 17 month daughter off her pacifier? She only has it in bed at night and during nap times but I would like... advice needed on pacifier weaning 3386 The more I hear people say this about seemingly everything, the more I question it as a reason to take action. Or maybe it's the idea that just because it might be "easy" means... advice needed on pacifier weaning 3387 P. Tierney I think it's both. There are times when it is developmentally easier to... advice needed on pacifier weaning 3388 DD was about 2 when we started weaning her from her binkys. I hadn't wanted her to suck either binkys or her thumb but she had... advice needed on pacifier weaning 3389 My 1st child refused a pacifier and sucked her thumb. My second child was extremely attached to the pacifier and didn't talk... advice needed on pacifier weaning 3390 I don't know. I had dedicated plug suckers and I didn't choose to do anything... Bilingual babies XPOSTED 3391 One consistently recurring theme in a lot of bilingual households, or even monolingual households where... Bilingual babies XPOSTED 3392 Hi -- It's easy enough to teach babies two or more languages. It's harder, however, to get them to retain the extra (non-majority) language(s) once the kids start school... Bilingual babies XPOSTED 3393 My dad got into a LOT of trouble in college in a similar way. His... Bilingual babies XPOSTED 3394 is the website for the bilingual families mailing list. You could join the list and ask there, or the website has quite a... Bilingual babies XPOSTED 3395 I live in Finland and the situation you described is not uncommon in Finnish families. Finland has a minority of... TLC looking for TriState NYC Families for New Parent Show Hey everyone! (please feel free to forward this!) I am helping cast a new show called PARENT COACH it's on TLC and I would... Review: The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio THE PRIZE WINNER OF DEFIANCE, OHIO A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0... Children's School Books: Explicit Incest, Masturbation, Homoloveuality & end CHILDREN'S SCHOOL BOOKS: EXPLICIT INCEST, MASTURBATION, HOMOloveUALITY, end. Commentary by Dave Cooper This article is about children?s school books. Most... Children's School Books: Explicit Incest, Masturbation, Homoloveuality & end. 3399 I wish she'd listed more of the "offensive" books. I don't have The Teenage Guy's Survival Guide, so I can't comment on it. However, It's Perfectly Normal and It's So Amazing are... Children's School Books: Explicit Incest, Masturbation, Homoloveuality & end. 3400 Cary Kittrell ------------------------- Well, unless they hate their mothers they DO want to f* them, just not kill their fathers, unless of course they deserve it. You see, in the time of Freud... Children's School Books: Explicit Incest, Masturbation, Homoloveuality & end. 3401 WHAT? What is WRONG with you people? Anyhow? Don't you know that if you don't bring up love, kids will never think about it on their own? Excellent! Good for you... Children's School Books: Explicit Incest, Masturbation, Homoloveuality & end. 3402 On Fri, 30 Sep 2005 01:26:27 GMT, dragonlady Talk about the understatement of the year. Ah yes. Those are... All that is bad about the JWs" to Mr King 3403 your newsgroups has been victim of Carol's MCP and ECP that is off topic; You can report her. Her account is dpc6682112001.direcpc.com and you may report her... All that is bad about the JWs" to Mr King 3404 RichardM your newsgroups has been victim of Carol's MCP and ECP that is off topic; You can report her. Her account is dpc6682112001.direcpc.com and you may... The Story About the Toddler, Volume 27 The Story About the Toddler, Volume 27. by Jeff Vogel Our daughter Cordelia is three years and four months old. Raising a three-year old is very educational. It is a chance... new Halloween and "potty" bibliographies For heaven's sake, why? That is, why do parents feel the need to buy potty books in the first place? Any self-respecting kid will be mortified to have it in... baby halloween costumes to make really I'm The cutest costumes I came up with for my kids was last year. I just bought cheap hooded sweatshirts from Wal-Mart and used felt to add details... Review: A History of Violence * 12 A HISTORY OF VIOLENCE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * 1-2 Blending Alfred Hitchchicken's tale of questionable idenbreasty from SHADOW OF A DOUBT with a dash of... Chlamydia the risks to women They found: "Compared with women with uncircumcised partners, those with circumcised partners had a 5.6-fold reduced risk of testing seropositive for C. trachomatis" ========================================== Chlamydia... Review: Green Street Hooligans GREEN STREET HOOLIGANS A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * GREEN STREET HOOLIGANS, an energetic mix of FIGHT... Resorttype travel with 13 month old We're looking for options on a winter trip this year. In the past, when it was just DH and... Resorttype travel with 13 month old 3412 I see no one has answered this. I have really never done this (I have never stayed... Resorttype travel with 13 month old 3413 We did this for DD (then 14 mo) and it was awesome. RC was very baby friendly. My friend went on Disney cruise and she said there... Resorttype travel with 13 month old 3414 Just to point out there might be a middle ground between an all-inclusive resort and the type... Resorttype travel with 13 month old 3415 We went to Punta Cana a couple of years ago, and the resort we stayed at (nice but not fancy) had plenty of families with children. While... Tweens Okay, here's the scenario. Friday, DD10 (fifth grade) comes home in tears describing in detail how mean her new friend is being is being toward her. We discussed it in depth, I listened and asked... Tweens 3417 Hi, MsLiz. I think the the way you handled this situation was just fine. Here are some ideas you might want to try, that might help. I don't mean that you ought to do... Tweens 3418 I have been through this with my older daughter. She is 13 and it was the last two years she had a problem... Tweens 3419 MsLiz The trouble here is that, as you say, your own DD may not be... Tweens 3420 shinypenny I do my best to try and get out of her what role she played. I will continue doing so... Tweens 3421 I think there's only one really good way to teach a kid not to whine, and that is... Tweens 3422 MsLiz So this friend is a popular kid? And you're worried your DD has become mush? Yeah, that's how I handled it when... Tweens 3423 Banty Yeah, that's what I'm figuring. It's always good to leave the door open, because you never know. People can change, and preteens... Tweens 3424 Banty Heh, well, when DD's friend dropped her off tonight, she got invited for another marathon... Tweens 3425 MsLiz The one thing that bothers me somewhat is that I think if I were your daughter, I'd feel between a rock and a hard place. You said this girl wasn't... Tweens 3426 MsLiz Yeah, but apparently the result of that communication was that your daughter believes the other girl is now in the mode of treating her well. With your adult... Age and Parenting Question 3427 MsLiz Well, IN GENERAL, I think that age is between 25 and 35. Plenty of time to have grown up and lived your life and done your thing... Age and Parenting Question 3428 No. Some people are ready for parenthood young, others not so much. I think it's possible to be too old -- but I don't think everyone... Age and Parenting Question 3429 Nikki We have the whole slew of activities! Before school: Open House, where you can find where things are and meet your teacher. There's also a short presentation for... Age and Parenting Question 3430 We have this for the earliest grade in the schools (such as, incoming sixth graders to middle school). Something that's kinda neat - they have student... Age and Parenting Question 3431 Let me try to put this another way: while those of us who had children in our 30's (or 40's) may have interrupted a career... Age and Parenting Question 3432 I'll jump in and address the last question. I had a child when I was was basically thirty, and a child at basically... Age and Parenting Question 3433 Perhaps, but it would vary from person to person, and is a balance of reasons to have a child earlier... Age and Parenting Question 3434 MsLiz Not necessarily an age, but a 'state of being', that is, a committed relationship that can withstand the emotional and physical challenges involved in child-rearing, financial... Age and Parenting Question 3435 1. Do you think that there is an ideal age to become pregnant or to adopt a child? Not an ideal age, but an... Age and Parenting Question 3436 MsLiz There are better and worse times medically to become pregnant, but that's only a small... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3437 A bit of revisionist history there, dear boy. Who cares whether she was or not? She's no concern of mine. But I was handing you a number of... Another Childish Post By Mark Probert Keywords: buzz 3438 Jan is stuck between a rock and a hard place because of her lying. Jan Drew lied when she accused you of lying by saying she was a devout Christian since it is... Another Childish Post By Mark Probert You have claimed to be a Christian. Orac's buttumption that you consider yourself to be devoted to that religion is, in a way, an act of kindness, ignoring... Another Childish Post By Mark Probert Keywords: buzz 3440 On Sun, 23 Oct 2005 10:16:06 GMT, Peter Bowditch Actually if she thought she was a devout Christian she would NOT admit it at this point... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3441 PeterB So, you admit it is another term you created. However, like 'pharmablogger' it does not exist in the real world. In fact, what you say does not exist in the real world... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3442 Perhaps YOU don't know how well they work. The rest of us have a pretty good idea... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3443 The word "breaster" is related to "breastration" and refers to a method of determining and reporting the amount of something in something else, most commonly used to... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3444 PeterB What an utterly moroinc thing to say. It is correct, however. See if Rich Profits are one thing...but is it a viable return on their investment... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3445 PeterB Big snip to prevent carpal tunnel syndrome. Many manufacturers have dropped out of the vaccine business for exactly that reason. Merck probably stays in it for reasons other than profit. Their financials look... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3446 Mark Probert Compebreastion for static market share explains why there are fewer vaccine makers. As for continuing with vaccine manufacture for reasons "other than profit," don't make me... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3447 PeterB I was not holding my breath expecting you to see beyond the profit. Howevever, I stil lmaintain that profit is not the sole incentive. In the... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3448 Mark Probert There is no evidence to support that. In fact, just the reverse. Other players dropped... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3449 PeterB Not the point. The costs I refer to are the costs to the patient. You see, insurance companies have, in the... WARNING: Industry is Blogging These Groups to Maintain Their Monopolies 3450 The word "breaster" is related to "breastration" and refers to a method of determining and reporting the amount of something in something else, most commonly used to report the amount of a specific antibody... Neighbor Kids 3451 Actually I have thought about this. I am not idealistic. :) I was thinking of my brothers and I and my parents, and how we were all raised. It would NEVER... statistics These stats are about children who have been abducted AND liquidateed. There are about 100 cases per year where this happens. That is still one every... Lead in Vinyl Lunch Boxes By Center for Environmental Health Published 09-16-2005 Environmental Health Center for Environmental Health The Center for Environmental Health protects the public from environmental and consumer health hazards. We are committed to environmental justice, reducing the... When to start teachingscolding a baby Obscurity, linux hemulen writes: What we add to that (in fact, I think I usually go straight from "no!" to this, missing out the negative "don't hurt" bit, though I... When to start teachingscolding a baby 3455 Catherine Woodgold I actually do this with her already - I push my nose and make a funny noise and then do it to her nose, which makes... When to start teachingscolding a baby 3456 About two months before you want her to start saying "no!" to you all the time. :-) Those... Keeping family together in the teen years My DD will be 13 in a few weeks. As I noted in another thread, things seem to have changed overnight... Keeping family together in the teen years 3458 It's an odd, fine and ever shifting line. Forcing a child to join social occbuttions when they'd rather be somewhere... Keeping family together in the teen years 3459 I don't want to live with boarders -- I want to live with housemates. The idea of living in the same house with people who are... Keeping family together in the teen years 3460 I lived for 3 years as a young adult in a house with 4 other young adults. We... Keeping family together in the teen years 3461 As I said, I think this is a difficult line. I think there IS some obligation to live as a familiy, rather than as strangers sharing space. There were four of... Keeping family together in the teen years 3462 dragonlady While I think that it's valid to discuss how you prefer to live, and whether you have a right to insist that your children conform to your preferences in... Keeping family together in the teen years 3463 Yeahbutt... (you saw it coming..) there's the other side. Grandma and Granpa have divorced, both remarried, and have relocated themsevles to two different, distant... Keeping family together in the teen years 3464 Banty And wow -- this dovetails with why I haven't responded to the "Age and Parenting" question. My parents had several... Keeping family together in the teen years 3465 I'm on the other end of your sort of family: I was 16 and 18 when my youngest brother and sister were born. And I moved... Keeping family together in the teen years 3466 dragonlady I kind of understand it, as those who had kids in school years ago didn't have... Keeping family together in the teen years 3467 I almost understand how they think it's possible to pull elementary school kids out of... Keeping family together in the teen years 3468 Since I'm the oldest, and the first one to "move away", I used to catch SOME grief over it... Keeping family together in the teen years 3469 I gotta agree with that! I have a great relationship with wonderful parents, and we... Keeping family together in the teen years 3470 Ericka Kammerer I couldn't agree more. I find it sad these days when people seem to think it's OK just... Keeping family together in the teen years 3471 It helps that we start with a family of five -- adding one more person just means a bigger salad, or more vegetables, or cutting the meat a little thinner most... Keeping family together in the teen years 3472 It was more or less the same with us (family of 6). My rule of thumb was that when I added a person, I fixed an additional vegetable. So for 4 of us it would... Keeping family together in the teen years 3473 We never did much of the tucking in at night after they got to school age. My kids were involved with activities which we did as... Keeping family together in the teen years 3474 Banty Yep, DD11, who's always been a social butterfly, has not quite hit this stage yet. She does see her friends a fair amount, but it's different. She's not... Keeping family together in the teen years 3475 The only thing I insisted on was that everyone who was in the house when dinner was served had to sit down to dinner together. That included my kids' friends... Keeping family together in the teen years 3476 shinypenny My kids are not quite at that stage yet (my oldest is 10.5), but when I was a... Keeping family together in the teen years 3477 I agree with this completely - when I first started dating my husband (we were 19 and 20 then) his family used to practically kick me out at... Potty training problem 3478 My daughter is two years & nine months. Getting her out of nappies & into big girl's knickers has been a breeze.... except for... throwing up at nights, any suggestions One of my children did this at the same age and up until he was around 2... Review: In Her Shoes IN HER SHOES A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * IN HER SHOES, directed by Curtis Hanson (8 MILE, L.A. CONFIDENTIAL... Numerous Problems Here are some suggestions for things that you can do if you want to, that might help. You can accept that sleeping with you is normal for her now. Moving... Where to from here DS1 is 4.5. I am intrigued by the way he deals with correction and wanted to know what you all think. Today DS1 spat on another child's... A pile of poo in his pants at all times 3483 Nan We'd love him to eat properly. We have nocontrol over what he eats at school. We have a lot of difficulty... A pile of poo in his pants at all times 3484 I'm going to be a little harsh here. I am reading between the lines here, so I... A pile of poo in his pants at all times 3485 Stephanie Spot on. He has every toy imaginable. Every relative seems to give him several toys every time they see him. I try not to yell but sometimes when... A pile of poo in his pants at all times 3486 Stephanie It seemed to start sometime in December-January this year. If we keep making him go then he doesn't poo his pants. The problem is we forget to tell him to go... Ferberizing during a cold Obscurity, linux Stephanie writes: I can't think of a very tactful way to ask this, but I've often wondered, so I'll ask it anyway, I... Ferberizing during a cold 3488 Sidheag McCormack I suspect it varies from child to child. I think that after the first week or two of the sleep training, it was pretty rare for my son to do much... Ferberizing during a cold 3489 Sidheag McCormack" wrote in message Helping a child learn to go to sleep is just another one of those things you... Ferberizing during a cold 3490 When a child is ill, it isn't a good time to try to do anything new, especially involving sleeping if they can't breathe very... Review: Two for the Money TWO FOR THE MONEY A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): * In TWO FOR THE MONEY, a cross between BOILER... Review: Corpse Bride CORPSE BRIDE A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO **): CORPSE BRIDE would be a **** short. But, as a full length motion picture, it just can't sustain the interest. Although... Potty Problem I agree that it's not unreasonable for him to still need help, and if the preschool-daycare is expecting him to be fully independent at this age, they... Morning Wood! ~ Trapped Pets Need !Help A Morning Wood Public Privet Ledge * ~ ! ~ * ~ ~ * A Morning Wood Moral Reminder * ~ PETS !NEED!YOU! & me & Folly, too ~ * ~ ~ ~ Trapped New Orleans Pets Still Being... We Become What We Eat Re Preventing Cancer: Does Diet Matter Diet does matter. It is a myth to believe that what we put in our mouths does not affect us. Every cell in the... HOW TV IS quite literally KILLING US HOW TV IS (quite literally) KILLING US by Dr Aric Sigman Daily Mail Oct 1, 2005... HOW TV IS quite literally KILLING US Viewing TV doesn't cause those things. I totally agree that kids and adults watch way too much TV. However, even if there is a... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3498 Congratulations on the baby! I can't figure out why you need to drive in and out of town so often, especially if you... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3499 As someone without a car, I think before planning on going without a car you need to consider the following: What do you do that you can't get to without a car? For example we... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3500 You have many factors to consider, but I want to put in a word in favour of a car-free lifestyle. We don't own or drive a... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3501 No one can decide this for you. I can tell you that we as a family made achoice years ago to only live in a place... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3502 Where are you now, and where downtown? (I live in SW Boulder, so I'm just curious... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3503 amy I found moving to town a blessing. Getting milk, going to the pool, any activity at all was a major undertaking of... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3504 A three bedroom house will do just fine for a two-child family down the road, a four bedroom place has more room for office-guest room. You like owning half... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3505 Just thinking here -- I live in a community property state, plus when DH and I got married we didn't have much of anything, so what we've got has... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3506 dragonlady says... The thing is that, although it's certainly possible that a couple be completely and truly committed without marriage (nothing to stop someone from that), in real life events down the road changes things... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3507 dragonlady says... Another good example. Strikes me as an empty gesture. Their cause isn't even moved forwad by it. Hopefully things go smoothly... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3508 I tend to agree. Grandma lived with E for the last 12 years of his... Pregnant with secondshould we move into town where no car is needed 3509 I think with two you will have to become more efficient. I would rarely go out even once a day even with one child... what do they do in toddler speech therapy My 17 1-2 month old is still not talking. At his 15 mo WBV, the ped said if he wasn't talking by the 18 mo WBV we could get a speech therapist to... what do they do in toddler speech therapy 3511 My son, now 4, was in speech therapy when he was 18 months old. He was not talking at all, although he was making all kids of noises. Now he will not... what do they do in toddler speech therapy 3512 dkhedmo First of all, may I say good for you for being this proactive about it!! The fact is, a... what do they do in toddler speech therapy 3513 Very informative, just the info I was seeking, thank you for taking the time to respond so throroughly. It was good to see that they evaluate then maybe don't want to see you again for... what do they do in toddler speech therapy 3514 snip.. Wow!!! That is young! We had to wait until our son was over 2 years old before he even got evaluated, so you are definitely getting some early intervention (and we had... what do they do in toddler speech therapy Obscurity, linux Not directly an answer to the question, I'm afraid, though I will say that I don't remember anyone whose child has... A Morning Wood Annunciation A Morning Wood ~ Public Service Annunciation * Dogging Arts * Fogging Minds * It's a Star * * ~ * ~ Today, Friday, October 6, 2005 Art Education... Help with baby Hello, My little guy is almost 8 mo old now, and I feel like he whines ALL of the time. He is almost never happy, fusses and whines constantly and is never content in any... Help with baby 3518 Maybe lack of sleep is making him whiny. Things that help with sleep: avoid stress such as loud, angry voices at any time of day... Help with baby 3519 You could take him to a chiropractor. I get whiny and cranky when I feel like I need a chiropractic adjustment. I've read anecdotes of children benefitting wonderfully from chiropractic treatment. If it's... Help with baby 3520 High need babies are a lot of work. I remember looking at people who had children this age who could just put them on a blanket on the floor for half an hour or more... Help with baby 3521 Hi, Thanks for the reply. Acually, I was thinking the same thing with the whole allergin thing. I used to breastfeed until he was 3 mo... Help with baby 3522 Hi. Your ped. said, "I mentioned a possible protein allergy to the ped. and he said he doesnt really have the signs of it ( throwing up, diarreha, rash, weight gain problems) so he... Mixed messages wearing thin Magazines tell teenagers not to worry so much about their weight Mixed messages wearing thin Magazines tell teenagers not to worry so much about their weight, but the pictures they publish say something else. By SHARON GINN, Times Staff Writer Published August 15... Fastshrinking teen queens influence young girls The pressure to be thin in Hollywood has been pbutted down to the new generation of young celebs ˜ and their fans. A Teen People... Related to Age and Parenting Any decent clbutt in human loveuality ought to include a section on menopause, and on fertility rates. I don't know if our school curricula does; I do... I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs By Daniel Foggo (Filed: 02-10-2005) A former government adviser who has controversially linked infant vaccines to autism... I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs 3527 lynndb Not to me it does. It's a newsitem, not a scientific research paper. You... I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs 3528 lynndb Yet it looks like a media report to me. How can you say that an article about a disgruntled psychologist who says "As an example of the increase in health problems, she tells... I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs 3529 I think NOT. MANY parents have reported the same thing! Poor, Peter Thimerosal,New study... I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs 3530 PeterB For the unaware: please note that PeterB is person with a psychiatric disorder of which paranoia and delusions... I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs 3531 Here's something I wrote a while back: Alternative medicine "research" (30-4-2005 Every so often someone points me... I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs 3532 Actually that's NOT true, you can see which group calls names. Thimerosal,New study reopens debate on vaccinations... I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs 3533 Thimerosal,New study reopens debate on vaccinations Published: Sep ,8,2004 16:21 PM By ### Special to The Wall Street Journal & Medicalnewstoday By Tara Parker-Pope The Wall Street... I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs 3534 lynndb No-one thinks vaccine damage doesn't happen. The chances of it happening are vanishingly small, however, compared to the damage that would occur to many should we lose the... I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs 3535 This LIE is repeated. Thimerosal,New study reopens debate on vaccinations Published: Sep ,8,2004 16:21 PM By ### Special to The Wall Street Journal & Medicalnewstoday By Tara Parker-Pope... I'm being driven out says second expert to link autism and jabs 3536 There is a group here who are organized medicine members, their ONLY aim is to protect organized medicine, they also do NOT think people should have the right to... Could Thimerosal Be Worse Than We Thought It would have to be, for this loon Yazbak to be correct. Inasmuch as there has been no significant thimerosal being injected into American infants... Review: Wallace & Gromit: The Curse of the WereRabbit 12 WALLACE & GROMIT: THE CURSE OF THE WERE-RABBIT A film review by Steve Rhodes Copyright 2005 Steve Rhodes RATING (0 TO ): 1-2 WALLACE & GROMIT: THE CURSE OF THE WERE-RABBIT is from the people who... They Want Your Kids Time Magazine, school event expose mbuttive cultural campaign to promote homoloveuality to kids By Robert Knight and Benjamin Frichtl Coming out age has dropped to 10 for... They Want Your Kids. 3540 Tommy -------------------- Why in the world would anyone actually WANT to do that, even if it WERE do-able... They Want Your Kids. 3541 I love lesbians, I fall for the lesbian of the group every time, I like girls that act... They Want Your Kids. 3542 Tommy -------------------------- Let's look at each one of the points and address them, shall we? Hmmmmmmm? Or are you AFRAID???: Here is what... They Want Your Kids. 3543 R. Steve Walz Me afraid? rotfl They're going into schools where straight kids reside, pushing an agenda that is unnatural. What part of this do you not... They Want Your Kids. 3544 Tommy ------------------------------ It's obviously natural, it is found in every mammalian species in approximately the same proportions as humans, and their NON-gay... playdates for 4yo 3545 toypup By pre-K (about age 4-1-2), we were doing drop-off playdates. Of course, I'm pretty sure that the parents... playdates for 4yo 3546 DS a to don't I was thinking about this last night trying to remember what we did... playdates for 4yo 3547 Banty But how is it vetting for social clbutt? I really prefer the questions to my experience of having a blase parent show up, hand off the Epi-Pen while dashing out... playdates for 4yo 3548 Banty Yep, it was the last-minute update regarding allergies (I'm fine with self-dosing Immutrex, or whatever it was I used to... playdates for 4yo 3549 Wait though. How kosher do you keep? Do you have separate... I forget now is it meat and dairy that has... playdates for 4yo 3550 Banty I don't think it's as slippery a slope as you portray. I know lots of parents who would ask about... playdates for 4yo 3551 says... Well, I am exaggerating a bit. I think it's something that folks need to be sensitive to. I have seen folks say their child will never be... playdates for 4yo 3552 Banty Sure, people can go overboard. I know at least one person who does. If you... playdates for 4yo 3553 Stephanie People can always find something to be offended by if they care to look... playdates for 4yo 3554 enigma I crate my dogs when small children visit because I love my dogs. (Okay, they're running in the yard if the weather is nice... playdates for 4yo Obscurity, linux Hillary Israeli writes: Here's my worst recent experience that I've been waiting for a chance to... playdates for 4yo 3556 Hi -- I'm one of those parents who DID insist that dogs be kept out of the way when my kids were playing at a friend's house. My kids, for reasons I still don't understand... playdates for 4yo 3557 I got lucky in helping my daughter get over her phobic reaction. A neighbor got a really, really small puppy (the grown dog was about the size of most cats) and, while my daughter... playdates for 4yo 3558 Nan IME, a really good way to do that (help a child overcome his-her fear of dogs) is to... playdates for 4yo 3559 I don't think this can be done that way. If I had a child who was terrified of dogs (which I have not had), I would not look with favor on some other person... playdates for 4yo 3560 toypup Yes and no. They do have less control over that, so they're unlikely to give a dry bite. However, the other issue is that the protein balance in... playdates for 4yo 3561 Unless it was a farming community most people wouldn't even think about whether there were firearms in the house - not many people would have them here in Australia... playdates for 4yo 3562 i am in a formerly rural, rapidly heading for suburbia, area. i do farm. that's why* we have guns. i like my chooks much more than the fox... a lot of dog owners... playdates for 4yo 3563 My dd#3 was on the phone today and she always crates her dog (a boxer) if she... playdates for 4yo 3564 She got this dog (he was about 2 years old at the time) from someone who had to... playdates for 4yo 3565 However, behaviour modification for aggressive dogs is a separate issue. I True - and not to be... playdates for 4yo 3566 Responsible owners don't generally leave their dogs in the garden because there is too much risk that the dog will... playdates for 4yo 3567 That is not the worst that can happen. The worst that can happen is that the dad comes over and gives toypup unwanted attention. Maybe the risk is small... playdates for 4yo 3568 Banty Actually, for me and, I'd have thought for most people, it's a recognition that men and women frequently do have... playdates for 4yo 3569 To me this goes back again, to the fact that you seem to not trust yourself, or the judgement of other people. Lots of people are attracted to other people. Some men and... playdates for 4yo 3570 Barbara planterger Well, no. I don't know how many times I've had to repeat this but... playdates for 4yo 3571 And this is where the major disconnect it. Most of us are married also. We are not talking about being interested in another man. We are talking about having a friendship with... playdates for 4yo 3572 Tai I think you've been fine when you've said that you prefer not to do this because you feel it is worth it to exclude any possibility that another man could... playdates for 4yo 3573 Catherine Woodgold But even the notion that the two are related presupposes a relationship I don't agree with. It is not necessary for a society to value keeping married people out... playdates for 4yo 3574 First of all, let's suppose that you saw a man going into your neighbor's house, and you suspected infidelity. What... playdates for 4yo 3575 Catherine Woodgold Yeah, and...? You're not reading carefully. I did not say that infidelity doesn't happen. I did not say that no one who ever socialized with members of the other... playdates for 4yo 3576 Catherine Woodgold Then I think you'll have to explain what you're disagreeing with. To recap: Tai said: I said that I think equating married... playdates for 4yo 3577 Tai Really? I'm guessing if you took my entire life, added up all the times I was alone with buttorted men, and figured the number of times it ended up in love per person, it... playdates for 4yo 3578 Tai I think this certainly informs much of your position on the matter. See, I think that's irrelevant. I don't think it's your business to even think about that... playdates for 4yo 3579 Banty No, I don't believe so. How could that be possible, after all? Not especially, at that point I was thinking of her marriage in... playdates for 4yo 3580 I don't see how you are differing. Marital fidelity is important -- I think we agree about that. The point was NOT to let or encourage infidelity... playdates for 4yo 3581 I found unwanted attention very frequent and always unpleasant. I developed very early and was very WELL developed IYKWIM. And I would just die when truck drivers would whistle and cat call... playdates for 4yo 3582 I think you're jumping to conclusions. I go out and walk along dark streets alone when other people I... playdates for 4yo 3583 buttigning the slimmest of possibilities the same weight as the most probably scenario is displaying an unrational fear. No, wearing a seatbelt is a reasonable precaution against a... playdates for 4yo 3584 Clisby Nor mine. This next bit isn't directed specifically at you, Clisby, but seemed a good enough place to peg this. People seem to be drawing long (and imaginative) bows from... playdates for 4yo 3585 Barbara planterger No it doesn't. You're doing what Ericka did - thinking what it would mean if you said... playdates for 4yo 3586 Or...in my husbands words.. We often take our children in different places on the weekend. So, what if dad and JOey decide to go (buy tools, to game practice, bike riding, you name it... playdates for 4yo 3587 I don't think anyone is talking about the scenario you describe above. People are talking about having Jerry and his kids over repeatedly and getting along really great with Jerry and becoming attracted to... playdates for 4yo 3588 Catherine Woodgold I have no difficulty recognizing the difference between the two. However, the rubber doesn't meet the road until you ACT based... playdates for 4yo 3589 Y'all must live in a different world than I do. I have three kids, and its RARE for a parent to come with the kids and STAY here, unless I happen to invite... playdates for 4yo 3590 Then there are those of us who have had to move as our kids were entering their tweens... playdates for 4yo 3591 bizby40 I disagree. If you listen to the parents of children who were abused by people known to the family, it's not uncommon for the... playdates for 4yo 3592 Well it isn't perfect, and there are indeed cases of abuse like that. Con artists of all sorts can evade just about anyone's senses. But again, we're talking about... playdates for 4yo 3593 I'm not trying to convince anyone not to meet the parents of their kids' friends. I was rather surprised when I invited my kids' kindergarten friends over and I asked... playdates for 4yo 3594 I suppose so. Again, there is a very small chance of this. I can see that you and... playdates for 4yo 3595 Nikki My feeling is that a big part of my job is to know my kids' friend and... playdates for 4yo 3596 Ericka Kammerer I'd rather take some time and invest it Oh I definitely agree that it is a good thing, it is just something that I haven't done yet. I'm not rooted in my... playdates for 4yo 3597 Nikki I find that there is usually one spouse designated as the child social director :). It can be either the father or mother - depending on I guess who... playdates for 4yo 3598 Nikki Yeah, that is tough. One of the easiest ways to accomplish some of this might be... playdates for 4yo 3599 Ericka Kammerer That is a really great idea! Thank you Ericka. It would be easier for me personally to be with... playdates for 4yo 3600 Nikki If you get started down that path, let me know. I'd be happy to share our co-op's... playdates for 4yo 3601 One of the reasons why I might not have done this is that we never became rooted in any community on any real basis because we moved so... playdates for 4yo 3602 That's an interesting observation, and I wonder if I ended up having a problem BECAUSE my folks didn't move around. I graduated... playdates for 4yo 3603 I grew up living in the same community for many years, and even when we moved (which we did twice between the time I was 4 and when I got married at 21) we were... playdates for 4yo 3604 dragonlady I do believe that moving a lot taught me some very useful skills. I certainly wasn't a social butterfly as a child, but moving around meant there were... playdates for 4yo 3605 What about the kids that are in care before and after school and would have to ride another bus? Surely there is some way to deal with that. I just don't believe that they... playdates for 4yo 3606 What about the kids that are in care before and after school and would have to ride... playdates for 4yo 3607 Rosalie B. Here, there's no 'spur of the moment' bus changing allowed for the elementary (k-5) busses, but changes -- or 'inconsistent... playdates for 4yo 3608 Perhaps. I know in some districts, their position is that they provide transportation to and from home* -- and that's all there is to it. Parents are responsible for everything... playdates for 4yo 3609 Sue DD isn't 13 yet so this is totally hypothetical. DD has been going to sleepovers since she was 3 years old (and many parents thought... playdates for 4yo 3610 I trust her judgement in friends. So far, I have liked everyone she has liked... playdates for 4yo 3611 Having been there, I DO know what I'd do, and that's call the parents to confirm... playdates for 4yo 3612 Tai I think there's a difference. When you accept a "package deal" like a religion, it's much less personal. If an Orthodox Jew wouldn't be alone in a room with someone of the... playdates for 4yo 3613 Tai I never suggested that you were personally rude to SAHDs, or that it was impossible to get on in society with your position. I only suggest that such a policy over all... playdates for 4yo 3614 I never notice any difference when someone of a different religion or different race enters the room of which they are the only one of that... playdates for 4yo 3615 I think that there is some truth to that, but I do think that much of... playdates for 4yo 3616 That's probably the most important thing to remember. Yes, if you look at a bell curve, where it hits it's peak -- that is, the average -- may well be slightly... playdates for 4yo 3617 Well, they did do that experiment. There was a boy who was surgically altered to be a girl because of an accident during crcumcision. His parents were told to... playdates for 4yo 3618 That's interesting, but sort of different than the hypothetical that I had in mind. To a degree, I might agree with that statement. My problem, however, is... playdates for 4yo 3619 What is really interesting is that there are 3 aspects to our loveuality: biological love, gender idenbreasty, and loveual orientation. It turns out that... playdates for 4yo 3620 Catherine Woodgold Well said. Surgery is both expensive and the results unpredictable. A better way is to gradually increase the size of the privates with... playdates for 4yo 3621 I've thought about this rather a lot, and I can't figure out HOW you would raise a child in today's culture* without buttigning a... playdates for 4yo 3622 No that wasn't the case. And would you have done that at pre-school age? Even in those days, I don't think so. We moved frequently, and sometimes there were people and sometimes not. Particularly... playdates for 4yo 3623 That's true -- she was five then. Hmm.... Let me think on this some. First, my friend Wendy was a year younger than me, and was an only child, and she did go running around... playdates for 4yo 3624 P. Tierney Yep, I think you must have. But it's not important, let's move on. Bingo! Yes, that's exactly it. But it's not so much male... playdates for 4yo 3625 That hasn't been the tone of the discussion, I've read all of the posts on the thread, save the dog-related ones. But the fact is, when... playdates for 4yo 3626 Tai For myself, personally, I would do all of the above, except that if we were getting... playdates for 4yo 3627 Banty No, actually I don't think about it all (this discussion is largely an intellectual exercise for me and I'm taking a 'strong' position for interest's sake) and would... playdates for 4yo 3628 I dunno -- I think you'd have to talk to a few SAH dads to find out if it's an issue. But my posts (which have been largely ignored) are more to do with the... playdates for 4yo 3629 bizby40 Well, it's worse than that. During work hours (which, in my experience, is most of the time that I'm in need of adult company while taking care of... playdates for 4yo 3630 bizby40 Possibly but I haven't observed SAHDs being ignored or left out, it's generally been the opposite. Of course some who are generally reserved or... playdates for 4yo 3631 As you have been the only one consistently posting in defense of not inviting the dads over, you've ended up by default carrying the banner for your whole side. It may well be... playdates for 4yo 3632 bizby40 That's probably true. Although I do welcome dads into my home when there are others present, of course. But I don't think other women should feel they... playdates for 4yo 3633 P. Tierney Read what I wrote again, my point is in the second part of the sentence not in the preamble. In general... playdates for 4yo 3634 P. Tierney You're having trouble parsing my posts today, aren't you? I didn't say are just... playdates for 4yo 3635 I buttumed that you were making a more certain statement given the context, as keeping it loose doesn't really give the statement any meaning. Pretty much... playdates for 4yo 3636 But look -you're clearly in the position of defending your specific choice. The "can be" here refers to your... playdates for 4yo 3637 toypup Maybe if the invitee specializes in farfetched plots for romance novels or movies, he or she would playdates as the ideal cover... playdates for 4yo 3638 Tai I don't know that I would call it cowardly, precisely. For me, it would just be one of those things I'd... playdates for 4yo 3639 Ericka Kammerer I've heard about colleagues having lunch "too often" and in out-of-the-way places often enough, too. But I've also heard some pretty dire stuff about a married... playdates for 4yo 3640 Of course its personal. Its personal because he's a guy. Insert any one of other descriptions of this person, and it's blantant discrimination but because he "poor masculine him" its just peachy weachy... playdates for 4yo 3641 In my mother's immortal words "People are weird." When I was little we were close friends with another family whose daughters were Rainbow Girls. While we were visiting the girls in the other family were... playdates for 4yo 3642 Tai Well, I'd be happy for you to clarify, if you wish. I was working with your statement that: I infer from that... playdates for 4yo 3643 This is the part about this whole thing that gets to me. I agree that everyone has a right to keep to their own rules. I'm not suggesting that a... playdates for 4yo 3644 Donna Metler I would think after the first few playdates the parents, regardless of love, would cease tagging along unless they themselves were interested in becoming friends... playdates for 4yo 3645 Nikki But we're getting into semantics a bit, I think. I think most people would agree it's at least odd... playdates for 4yo 3646 toypup Okay...why is is improper? I can explain most of the rules I live by to my children. For instance, I can explain to my children that if someone makes you feel unsafe, you... playdates for 4yo 3647 toypup I'm not saying they don't. I'm asking how I explain to MY kid whose been invited over that they can't go because I'm not... playdates for 4yo 3648 Ericka Kammerer For the record I would not be concerned about a dad coming to my house... playdates for 4yo 3649 Nikki I understand your argument, but I think there is a pretty substantial difference between the two... playdates for 4yo 3650 OK lets start from a slightly different point because no one has really addressed this... playdates for 4yo 3651 I accept that there are some women who, because of traumatic past incidents, are uncomfortable around men. Ignore... playdates for 4yo 3652 Rosalie B. I never said that one should welcome every opposite love stranger into one's... playdates for 4yo 3653 dragonlady I think the distinction here is between a man you already know and have become friends with over a natural... playdates for 4yo 3654 Ah, thanks. Personally, I wouldn't leave DS with anyone I didn't know, either. I just... playdates for 4yo 3655 We've lived here for about 10 years, so yes, I'd say it has been a while. In my experience (and that of other parents in my community), people don't just invite one another's kids... playdates for 4yo 3656 Yes, she is in 4th. I don't really have a set in stone rule, but I think that I would have to at least have spoken to the parents on a few... playdates for 4yo 3657 toypup My son turned 4 in January and pre-school started in February so we have had... playdates for 4yo 3658 I'm not sure there IS a "common age", as in one that is generally agreed upon. I have known parents of children in 3rd or 4th... OT: Gas oven subsbreastute P. Tierney I have a new toaster oven which I really like and use quite a bit. I used to have the cheaper small-standard size Black... Gas oven subsbreastute P. Tierney